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DJ RANN
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Registered: May 2001
Location: Hollywood....
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Re: Question & sometime to think about to old school partiers...
quote: | Originally posted by Nerologic
So I have been noticing a trend with a lot of friends and acquaintances that are around my age (36) younger or older that partied hard in their life time.
They are battling hard with depression, anxiety and just general emotional and mental issues. Now, I can't really relate because I didn't party that hard. Other than smoking weed, mushrooms (maybe 10 times) & drinking (not too often) I didn't party as hard as some of my close friends that would go on coke & molly/ecstasy binges constantly in their lifetime.
Over the past few years I started noticing this trend of extreme up and downs friends and people I know go through, and 99% of the time they partied hard in their lifetime. I have the normal "ups and downs" like most people do, but my downs are no where even near what some of my friends go through. And all I can really account it to is their past (sometimes present) party life style they lead.
A lot of the times I notice it with out them saying anything or do anything, but I still notice red flags and try to do the best I can to help. But recently, good friends have actually mentioned it to me which caught me off guard because it was territory they never would mention to me. Kinda like a big elephant in the room, I know it's there but we never speak about it. But it's gotten pretty bad with a few friends of mine that they mentioned it to me. These are people I have been friends with for 20+ years. Now for girls this is a regular topic, but for guys not so much.
Anyways, just wanted to throw this out there. I did some research and it's not just me, it's been clinically proven and studies have been done. Something to think about and something I mention to friends when they are going through rough patches in their life. |
Wait are you suggesting that heavily bashing drugs for several years that are known alter your serontin and dopamine levels might have an effect on depression later on?
Well I never!
In all seriousness, many people struggle with depression at some point in their lives and caning it for a long period isn't going to do any favors, especially when life slows down, responsibilities kick in, you suffer loss or grief, go through hard times - When you're younger you have way less cares, not to mention you're having the time of your life partying and not really worry about bills or kids or marriage etc.
As you said, the partying often can mask the signs and when the partying stops, people can blame it on the loss of the fun, when in fact it was always there, you just found ways to spakle over it.
As you get older your circle of friends also contracts - this really affects some people (I saw it as a weeding out of people who weren't actually real freidns and welcomed it tbh) and they start to feel lonely which exacerbates the problem.
There's also what I'd call time and place nostalgia; Most of us had a heydays when we were having "our time" and things like certain music, DJ, venues or places become intertwined in that felling. As things move on, music changes, DJs retire or disappear, venues close or change ownership and we stop being in or going to those places, you can get a feeling of being withdrawn from those rose tinted golden days.
For me, I got two bites of the cherries; I started clubbing really young (like 13) in London raves and clubs (that i could get in to. It was the golden age of dance music and the 90's was everything and more that people reminisce about. By the mid 00's it was dying, most of the Uk super clubs (and normal clubs) were closing record stores disappeared as everything went digital and the sound changed.
I moved the the states in the mid-late 00"s and it was like the summer of fucking love all over again. Americans were finally discovering dance music and all the old British DJ's were being celebrated here in the USA. LA alone had 3 super sized clubs running 2 or 3 nights of the week and there there was a host of great smaller nights, with the same sort of energy and enthusiasm that I'd only witnessed in the UK and Ibiza over a decade before but had since died.
In some ways, the same thing happened and by early 10's, the scene started to get played out, big companies like alcohol brands wanted a slice, and promoters like insomniacs and over commercial DJ's like Armin cashed in, thus ruining the scene that was vibrant and about the music, in to something that was about overpriced heartless massive events with bottle service and VIP tickets.
Do I miss the old days. yes and no. I had a good innings and by luck and happenstance saw and got to be part of some great times that really I couldn't take all in or truly appreciate how fucking good they were at the time. I feel a little sorry for young people now that the clubs are a monetized shadow of what they once were and you can't get away with anything nefarious due to cameraphones everywhere.
I don;t want another go around now, I'm happy to go out occasionally with friends and not be with the sweaty masses but I can appreciate for some the Merry go round stopped and they had to get off when real life kicked in, never to go back.
I can see how that might really depress someone but my only advice is to move on and find other shit that you love. have kids oir rescue animals - there's nothing that gives you purpose like that. Go see the world with money you never once had and travel in style. Find friends that actually matter and you can "grow up" with in this chapter.
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Jan-17-2019 00:34
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