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Silky Johnson
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Nov-06-2010 01:05
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Lira
Ancient BassAddict
Registered: Nov 2001
Location: Brasília, Brazil
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quote: | Originally posted by Miss Pie
Yeah, 100% total copout. You might buy into that bullshit, but I don't. Looks ARE a reflection of how a person feels about themselves. When I see a person who looks at slovenly and unkempt, or just not as well kept as they used to be - to me that says they don't care as much about themselves, not that they're "comfortable and happy". |
It's not a matter of "buying into that bullshit": it's the simple fact that I've experienced it in another way.
For example, earlier this year I was caught up with my research and I couldn't possibly be arsed to iron my clothes. Sometimes, I'd pull all-nighters and wouldn't shave in the morning/afternoon. I looked well shabby, but did my looks reflect the way I thought about myself? In a way, I didn't care about how I looked to other people, so you could still make a case if you want to defend this idea, but you'd be hard-pressed to explain why someone who usually spends an hour at the gym every single day would feel great while he also looked rather scruffy.
Likewise, the way my fiancée looks at me usually matters a lot more than any criticism I may receive from another person. So, let's suppose I gain some more weight (I did fatten up a bit in the beginning our relationship) and my fiancée doesn't change her attitude towards me. Why would I have to care if looking good to other people is not among my top priorities?
quote: | Originally posted by Miss Pie
And fat people are a pox on society. |
Yeah, right. Fat people are way more obnoxious and undesirable than thieves, rapists, murderers and lawyers!
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Nov-06-2010 01:10
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Silky Johnson
International Playa Hater
Registered: Nov 2003
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quote: | Originally posted by Lira
It's not a matter of "buying into that bullshit": it's the simple fact that I've experienced it in another way.
For example, earlier this year I was caught up with my research and I couldn't possibly be arsed to iron my clothes. Sometimes, I'd pull all-nighters and wouldn't shave in the morning/afternoon. I looked well shabby, but did my looks reflect the way I thought about myself? In a way, I didn't care about how I looked to other people, so you could still make a case if you want to defend this idea, but you'd be hard-pressed to explain why someone who usually spends an hour at the gym every single day would feel great while he also looked rather scruffy.
Likewise, the way my fiancée looks at me usually matters a lot more than any criticism I may receive from another person. So, let's suppose I gain some more weight (I did fatten up a bit in the beginning our relationship) and my fiancée doesn't change her attitude towards me. Why would I have to care if looking good to other people is not among my top priorities?
Yeah, right. Fat people are way more obnoxious and undesirable than thieves, rapists, murderers and lawyers! |
Yeah but I already know you don't care about how you look to other people. Sneakers with a suit, etc.
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Nov-06-2010 01:14
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EgosXII
Aphorism
Registered: Apr 2007
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quote: | Originally posted by Halcyon+On+On
I disagree - these very same people likely have low self-esteem in the first place, and so resort to comfort-eating to make up for even their latent relationship stress. Insecurity rears its head worst when people are supposedly in "secure" relationships. Bitches be crazy, but at least the fat ones have a leg to fall back on, even if it's a hollow one, at that. |
quote: | Originally posted by Miss Pie
Yeah, 100% total copout. You might buy into that bullshit, but I don't. Looks ARE a reflection of how a person feels about themselves. When I see a person who looks all slovenly and unkempt, or just not as well kept as they used to be - to me that says they don't care as much about themselves, not that they're "comfortable and happy". Lol give me a break.
And fat people are a pox on society. |
quote: | Originally posted by Miss Pie
Sooo, comfortable = being fat/unfit and lazy? Because that sure as hell doesn't make me feel comfortable.
I think that's a really horrible copout. No wonder so many people have shitty relationships, because just like so many other areas in life people don't want to put continual effort into anything.
I bet all people who say the spark is gone from their relationship are fat and/or gross slobs. |
jenny you sound like you have serious weight issues... i personally entirely disagree, not because I, or my gf are overweight (i'm actually extremely underweight and trying to fatten up ), but because superficiality is more of a 'pox on society' than your morbid fixation on people's physical appearances!
why is it so important what people look like, and further, how much they weigh!?!?!
as lira and i have been saying, most people are able to get over this disturbingly shallow fixation when they find someone who will accept them as they are. Once they have that they realise that appearances aren't everything.
Surely you already know this, so you must be trying to say something else...?
surely you can't be boiling the entire scope of human interaction into weight, and physical appearance...
as lira said maybe you are that much of a capitalist, but jesus...
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Nov-06-2010 01:19
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