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Originally posted by OrangestO Yea, I use partner for the same reason. If it wasn't for corona, she'd be wifey already. What's your holdup?

We bought a house six months after I proposed and it has been devouring our finances ever since.

To be honest, I'm not really keen on having a wedding day at all. I hate everything about them, and also my mother is extremely ill and probably wouldn't be able to attend, which takes off whatever gloss remained with the concept. My vote was for us to just get married privately with a couple of witnesses and then go travelling somewhere, which has obviously been deep sixed by all this bullshit.

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Originally posted by SYSTEM-J Technically she's my "fiancée" but I feel like a complete wanker writing that, especially as it's been the case for almost two years now. "Girlfriend" obviously doesn't cut the mustard either. I walked into the city centre this afternoon for the first time since lockdown began. Ghost town. Walking past all the shut pubs and bars hit me right in the gut. Fuck, I want to go for a pint with my mates. I got to thinking the government should start deliberately infecting low risk people in batches to build up herd immunity. You lot: take two weeks off work. Make sure you've got everything you need - we'll deliver if necessary. Report in if things get bad. Anyone got any better suggestions?

You seem like the bougie type that could get away with "my beau" while only looking like a bit of a plonker.

PS. No wedding is the best. Unless it's the broad dropping all the loot for her girlhood fantasy, that money is going towards a house. Nigga fuck your dreams. Mazeltov.

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I love weddings when done properly. They're the ultimate party with everyone you want and nobody you don't. The problem is many people host shitty parties. Sort of like when people think they have awesome taste in decorating/design, but paint their rooms shit colours like orange-brown and forest green.



You don't have to drop a ton on a wedding, you just have to spend that money on/put effort into the right things, like excellent food, free booze/open bar, and top class music.

Last edited by Silky Johnson on May-03-2020 at 18:12

Money better spent elsewhere imo.

You're a broad, Pie. Of course you need that. I don't care what you say, I bet your hubby told you he was excited and loved it, but deep inside disdain wells inside at money squandered. I hope you bought him a diamond engagement ring too. Get your outdated, patriarchal traditions out of here, bro.

I got out of the traditional Chinese wedding by saying that wearing trad Chinese costumes would be cultural appropriation and a microaggression against the people of the Middle Kingdom.

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Last edited by Dykes_on_Jay on May-03-2020 at 18:29

Three times a week I’m being pressured to propose. Agreed to like 40-50 person wedding max. I think she’s trying to get me to get her pregnant

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Originally posted by SYSTEM-J We bought a house six months after I proposed and it has been devouring our finances ever since. To be honest, I'm not really keen on having a wedding day at all. I hate everything about them, and also my mother is extremely ill and probably wouldn't be able to attend, which takes off whatever gloss remained with the concept. My vote was for us to just get married privately with a couple of witnesses and then go travelling somewhere, which has obviously been deep sixed by all this bullshit.

That's what our plan was - just us and our dads. Now it'll include our boy, which is the sweet silver lining of the postponement.

Edit: I just reread my reply and realized how insensitive it sounds. Wasn't my intention.

Last edited by OrangestO on May-03-2020 at 19:13

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Originally posted by Dykes_on_Jay Money better spent elsewhere imo. You're a broad, Pie. Of course you need that. I don't care what you say, I bet your hubby told you he was excited and loved it, but deep inside disdain wells inside at money squandered. I hope you bought him a diamond engagement ring too. Get your outdated, patriarchal traditions out of here, bro. I got out of the traditional Chinese wedding by saying that wearing trad Chinese costumes would be cultural appropriation and a microaggression against the people of the Middle Kingdom.

Actually no. He comes from a large family and thoroughly enjoys weddings.

What it means to squander money is entirely subjective. I agree people should not spend money on what they cannot afford.

The cost of a wedding should not be some financially damaging event. If it is, you're doing a few things wrong.

Last edited by Silky Johnson on May-03-2020 at 19:08

I want to hear it from his mouth LOL

ps: money better spent elsewhere =/= financially damaging

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Last edited by Dykes_on_Jay on May-03-2020 at 19:21

You may find it hard to believe, but for many people the cost of a wedding is non issue. Maybe you can only afford to do A or B, but lots of people can afford A AND B, still save for C, and also have extra money to burn.

Again, prob doing a few things wrong if a wedding is seen merely as a way to squander money. For people who love a fun party with their closest friends and family, it is a non issue.

Stop using butthurt weasel words and just spit the cost. Don't be slylee, now.

How much?

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None of your business. The cost is irrelevant, that's the point.