|Originally posted by Silky Johnson |
Regardless of either side's opinion on the matter, both parties are acting like selfish babies. "But MY feelings are hurt! Wah wah!" "But MY religion! Wah wah!"
Is the day not supposed to be about the deceased person?? Both parties need to get the fuck over themselves. It's ONE fucking day of the year - they can't set aside ANY of their own bullshit to honour someone else's life/death/whatever?
Actually, that's a good point, but there's the cultural bit involved.
I mean, it's not like anyone yanked them out of the bedroom and told them to man up (which would've been just as disproportionate). As for the deceased person, surprisingly that isn't the point: If I understood correctly, and I may have misunderstood something, it's about bringing the family together - and the granduncle is just seen as the reason there's a family at all. That would explain my wife's reaction... she misses her cousin because she now spends most of her time in church, leaving the rest of the family behind.
Personally, I'm inclined to think the way you do: if they wanted to lock themselves up, it's their choice and I don't care. Probably it's part of growing up (this cousin is in her early 20's) and finding one's identity. But then, IGK has a point, and interpretative dancing would've been an awesome way of telling her all this
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