Originally posted by occrider
And done. Basically my bosses made a big mistake in allowing this guy to come on board (he's trying to transfer from another division). I could have worded it more "nicely", but fuck it, ambiguity would have only drawn out the inevitable end result (him getting transferred elsewhere) in a multitude of senseless meetings.
I think you worded it good, it was clear what you wanted and you made your point. Much better than all nice crap too many ppl uses which only leads to missunderstandings.
May-16-2005 15:25
squirrelly
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Registered: Oct 2003
Location: In the Shower
quote:
Originally posted by occrider
Heyyy!!!!! You're HOT!!!!! Show us your boobs!!! Wanna come hang out with me in my mom's basement and cyber???? *kisses*
Excellent letter (oh evil one), if I may say so myself! Did you send one to your boss as well? Hopefully this guy gets the hint and removes himself from your group.
And George, I caught that comment when I was quite grouchy, so I didn't appreciate the joke. Had I read it today I would have corrected you to tell you that you had the age wrong, it's 19, not 22.
Originally posted by George Smiley
Altho checking your profile you appear to be 21 and your boyfriend would be 29/30...
Weird I was with a 29 year old this weekend my first properly older women. I got weirded out when she said she was speaking to her "wee (little) cousin" "ohh right how old is she?" "ehhh 27".
By the way I honestly got in there via talking about politics. About Gurkas pensions and stuff. Picked her up via sharing a taxi from a taxi rank and speaking about that stuff. And she asked if I just wanted to stay in the taxi ....
Politics Power!
EDIT:
Occrider I think you were right to formalise it. Otherwise you are just leaving yourself open. And all thouse shitty BS filled meetings would too. Good job IMHO.
Last edited by Dervish on May-16-2005 at 17:23
May-16-2005 17:12
squirrelly
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Registered: Oct 2003
Location: In the Shower
quote:
Originally posted by Dervish
Weird I was with a 29 year old this weekend my first properly older women. I got weirded out when she said she was speaking to her "wee (little) cousin" "ohh right how old is she?" "ehhh 27".
Yeah, his little brother is older than me, and my older brother, is younger than him (by about a half year). Amd all of our friends are somewhere inbetween my age and his age. We aren't dating though. It's not the smartest thing to date someone when you are more than likely moving away in one month.
True distance relationships tend not to work. Especially ones where you didn't know each other "in that way" for long before you were separated.
You have to be pragmatic about it really.
May-16-2005 17:43
occrider
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Registered: Oct 2000
Location: New York
quote:
Originally posted by squirrelly
Excellent letter (oh evil one), if I may say so myself! Did you send one to your boss as well? Hopefully this guy gets the hint and removes himself from your group.
Shahab is my director. Ann is the senior director right below our VP .
Meeting with my boss at 2 ... let's see how this goes .
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May-16-2005 17:45
squirrelly
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Registered: Oct 2003
Location: In the Shower
quote:
Originally posted by Dervish
True distance relationships tend not to work. Especially ones where you didn't know each other "in that way" for long before you were separated.
You have to be pragmatic about it really.
Eh, we know each other really well. We're just both refusing to take it to that next level. Which sometimes I feel is a smart move, and other times I find it utterly stupid.
Registered: Jan 2004
Location: 9 Bywater Street, Chelsea, London
quote:
Originally posted by squirrelly
Eh, we know each other really well. We're just both refusing to take it to that next level. Which sometimes I feel is a smart move, and other times I find it utterly stupid.
Actually that reminds me I need to ask someone who is American to explain the baseball thing. I've had a few debates about this with me mates and we keeo getting stuck cos I think there are four bases (1st,2nd,3rd,home run?) and home run must be a shag, first base must be a kiss, but that leaves two bases unnacounted for and all I can think of is fingering/wanking but that leaves a spare base!
May-16-2005 17:51
Dervish
Your opinion matters.
Registered: Dec 2003
Location: Wick, Scotland
Titty touching is my guess.
May-16-2005 17:53
squirrelly
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Registered: Oct 2003
Location: In the Shower
quote:
Originally posted by George Smiley
Actually that reminds me I need to ask someone who is American to explain the baseball thing. I've had a few debates about this with me mates and we keeo getting stuck cos I think there are four bases (1st,2nd,3rd,home run?) and home run must be a shag, first base must be a kiss, but that leaves two bases unnacounted for and all I can think of is fingering/wanking but that leaves a spare base!
I *think although I'm not sure:
1st : Kiss
2nd : On top of the clothes
3rd : Under the clothes
Home Run : Sex
Registered: Jan 2002
Location: Ketchup fields, Texas
Honestly, I don't think Occrider's e-mail was blunt enough.
If the guy wasn't working on the team, you should make it clear to him. Tell him what needs to change. If not, make it formal in a letter (because you work in a bureaucraccy). Third I'd spell-check and grammer check my e-mail to bring it on par to writing levels on PDD. ... Especially when you CC it to your high-ups.
Lastly, if all fails, don't skirt the issue say this is why he's bad: a, b,c. This is why he's not a bad person... and just that he doesn't fit the dynamics and would be of better value to the organization somewhere else...
BTW, go read Jack Welch's new book.
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my first properly older women. I got weirded out when she said she was speaking to her "wee (little) cousin" "ohh right how old is she?" "ehhh 27".
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