|Originally posted by Halcyon+On+On |
I do see just what you're saying though, and I quite agree with it. It makes far more sense for the family unit to live as one, in dependence of another- it's not only more tribal in nature, but closeness to one's family is a very healthy thing for people's minds, and their stomachs.
I think it would be a far healthier thing for the population in general to be, socially, "allowed" to live from home while you go to school/university - not only does it save the family far more money in the end, but it's a typically less volatile environment for studying, the only problem tends to be with centralization. I rather like how things are in England - you graduate high school at 15/16, you aren't allowed to drive until you're 18, so a couple of years are spent figuring out how to be an adult before you're totally forced to be one. It's not perfect, but it makes for more sense than things did for me, where I graduated high school at 17 and was immediately out on my own.
The stigma obviously comes from an obvious exception in the case of people's inability to cope on their own, and I also hold that the ability to be independent is not one without merit - but as with most things, Americans have found a way to deride people into acting "accordingly" out of either sheer guilt or the incentive to avoid being the target of ridicule. Some people however, react to this adversely and so go into even deeper hiding within their family's cellar, only to emerge for the regular nourishment of hot pockets and World of Warcraft game time cards. It's obviously not a healthy thing, but who cares about their feelings at that point? They're equally deserving of our contempt, damned moochers!
Haha, yeah. I don't know what it is like to go through the American experience, but I can only imagine how weird it must be to go from high school to complete independence at 17. And we've got outcasts here too... they fail to adapt in any society, regardless of its rules