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He's just ... NOT.THAT.INTO.YOU.
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| Estella |
eh hem, ladies and gentlemen of the Cor. Please, forgive me for bringing up the redundant topic of... how the f&*^ do guys think, do they think? WHAT THE F&^% ARE THEY THINKING. But yes, it must be done! Because, you know, we never get the answers. I'm sorry if reading this someone spurns images of  Forgive me.
+I'd like to know what goes through a gents head when a girl is intoxicated+
If he doesn't know her at all: Does she seem uninhibited, wild? Refreshing? Fun. Confident. or... annoying, trashy, easy, filthy, Courtney Love ish. I'm not talking loose drunk, but a dancing offbeat, screaming, spilling drinks drunk.
Moving on: If a guy isn't INTO a girl while they are both sober for the night, she transforms into Courtney Love and you transform into one of the Baldwin brothers or Conic Jr. and the world is intoxicatingly yours!!! is it a bonding moment? Do you respect her? Is it the beginning of a valued friendship? Possible relationship? Or deep down is there a feeling of unconscious disgust ... well deep down there of course is blood rushing to a certain member... but how about the next day? After a night of stumbling wild fun and brawls, DO YOU RESPECT HER?
JUST TELL IT LIKE IT IS. My friend and I have 2 completely different assumptions and ... JUST TELL IT!
I want crude, truthful responses such as Bars N STars & All Nite Freak! none of that "it's all relative" ish.
p.s. Where is Sly? |
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| Moral Hazard |
When I see a drunk girl I usually think..... that she's drunk. If she's really drunk I usually think that someone should take care of her.
If I care nothing for a woman and she and I both get ed up together and end up having a good time that won't change my opinion of her.... I still won't be into her once I come down. |
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| Floorfiller |
| quote: | Originally posted by Estella
eh hem, ladies and gentlemen of the Cor. Please, forgive me for bringing up the redundant topic of... how the f&*^ do guys think, do they think? WHAT THE F&^% ARE THEY THINKING. But yes, it must be done! Because, you know, we never get the answers. I'm sorry if reading this someone spurns images of Forgive me.
+I'd like to know what goes through a gents head when a girl is intoxicated+
If he doesn't know her at all: Does she seem uninhibited, wild? Refreshing? Fun. Confident. or... annoying, trashy, easy, filthy, Courtney Love ish. I'm not talking loose drunk, but a dancing offbeat, screaming, spilling drinks drunk. |
if i met a girl that was acting like that and i didn't have any kind of previous knowledge to go off...i'd probably assume she was a whore and that'd be that. just a little drunk and flirtatious...that's cool, but falling over drunk i wouldn't seriously consider anything, but sex (if even that, i'd probably be worried she'd been around) hehe
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Moving on: If a guy isn't INTO a girl while they are both sober for the night, she transforms into Courtney Love and you transform into one of the Baldwin brothers or Conic Jr. and the world is intoxicatingly yours!!! is it a bonding moment? Do you respect her? Is it the beginning of a valued friendship? Possible relationship? Or deep down is there a feeling of unconscious disgust ... well deep down there of course is blood rushing to a certain member... but how about the next day? After a night of stumbling wild fun and brawls, DO YOU RESPECT HER? |
i think it depends on the prior information.
if i was just out sober at a bar with some friends or something because i'm driving...well i'm probably not really looking for anything and if someone that's ugly just sorta started talking to me, i'd probably just get out of the situation not giving them much of a chance...
if it was someone i had previously hooked up with, but then when sober realized i had no attraction to them at all... well it could be the start of a friendship...it depends of the person and their involvement in my life at that point. is this someone in my circle of friends already, but maybe not a close one? yeah maybe we'd get closer... is it just some chick i know as an aquantience? well i think that depends on the connection. if it is just one of those "omg this person is awesome and so fun...too bad she looks like a yeti" connection...well yeah i'd probably be interested in being friends, but if it was just a "yeah it was cool hanging out" kinda connection...probably not THAT concerned with the future...i mean if i see that person out again yeah it'd be cool to talk and stuff, but i dunno if i'd go out of my way to hang out all the time. |
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| lücid |
interesting topic, Stella! :)
i have very little faith in relationships that start while both particpants are intoxicated... yeah, it can work, but it's not a great idea. alcohol really skews your judgement and everyone knows that people are more attractive (physically AND emotionally) when you're wasted. you might think you just met the coolest and greatest person, but after a few months when you're both sober you realize how wrong you were... reality starts sinking in after the fun and excitement of being drunk goes away.
and personally, i find it hard to respect anyone who turns into a sloppy slutty drunk - whether its a boy or a girl. if you're looking for a fling or a one-night-stand then i guess that's all good... but if you're looking for something meaningful, whether its a friendship or relationship, have some respect for yourself and the people around you.
i guess what it comes down to is how serious you are about finding something real... and if you've got your beer goggles on, well... good luck!
(wow, i just realized that this post is the complete opposite of what i would have said a year ago... funny how things change, for the better!) |
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| DJ RJT |
| quote: | Originally posted by lücid
i have very little faith in relationships that start while both particpants are intoxicated... |
O, RLY?
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| Floorfiller |
oh and i also wanted to say...
i think in general...men aren't going to want to start relationships with girls unless they are physically attracted to them. as harsh as that is...i think it's pretty true. there are circumstances which might cause guys to form relationships with girls they aren't attracted to, but i think we are really that shallow. |
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| lücid |
| quote: | Originally posted by DJ RJT
O, RLY?
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well technically our relationship started on TA, and we were friends for quite some time before we ever got ed up together. :p
plus, MDMA > booze. |
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| Estella |
| quote: | Originally posted by Moral Hazard
When I see a drunk girl I usually think..... that she's drunk. If she's really drunk I usually think that someone should take care of her.
If I care nothing for a woman and she and I both get ed up together and end up having a good time that won't change my opinion of her.... I still won't be into her once I come down. |
Take care of her as in... give her a bath and wash off the crusted spew or take care of in the sense that she needs something of substance in her life? |
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| washout |
the only thing good that can come from meeting girls drunk is one or two one night stands.
i have never enganged in any meaningful relationships, friendships or more, with a girl i met while drinking. |
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| DJ RJT |
| quote: | Originally posted by lücid
well technically our relationship started on TA, and we were friends for quite some time before we ever got ed up together. :p
plus, MDMA > booze. |
lol.... just givin' you a hard time babe... Our relationship certainly didn't start when we were ed up either, just a day or two afterwards ;) |
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| Mr. Pink |
| quote: | Originally posted by Estella
+I'd like to know what goes through a gents head when a girl is intoxicated+
1) If he doesn't know her at all: Does she seem uninhibited, wild? Refreshing? Fun. Confident. or... annoying, trashy, easy, filthy, Courtney Love ish. I'm not talking loose drunk, but a dancing offbeat, screaming, spilling drinks drunk.
2)Moving on: If a guy isn't INTO a girl while they are both sober for the night, she transforms into Courtney Love and you transform into one of the Baldwin brothers or Conic Jr. and the world is intoxicatingly yours!!! is it a bonding moment? Do you respect her? Is it the beginning of a valued friendship? Possible relationship? Or deep down is there a feeling of unconscious disgust ...
3) how about the next day? After a night of stumbling wild fun and brawls, DO YOU RESPECT HER? |
1) If I didnt know the girl at all.....and she was acting drunk as fuk I would feel one of two things. Depending on what she was doing, though. If she's kissing girls, yelling, acting like a complete idiot, then I would think she's a crazy whore. I would also think she has problems. It wouldn't matter if she were hot or not, I wouldnt much get near the damn thing. :wtf:
On the other hand, if the girl was stumbling around, kind of acting like this isn't normal, and kind of passed out. I wouldn't necessarily take care of the girl, but I would keep an eye out for her. I've been to way too many frat parties where I take the girl home, or kinda make sure on guys take advantage of her. I'm the kind of person who likes his women to KNOW what they're doing when they are doing it. Any guy who s a passed out chick is sick. So I try to make sure that doesn't happen, even if the girl turns out to be a raging slut the next day.
2) If I'm not into a girl while sober, HUGE chances are that I won't be into her no matter how drunk I am. For the most part, I don't get beer goggles unless I am extremely horny to begin with. Usually that isn't the case when I go out, I'm not a horny-must women every night- kind of guy. So you wouldn't catch me attempting to bang the chick I just said looked like a wookie. :wtf:
Do I respect the women after a drunk shag? I've had a few one nighters and to be honest, no I don't. I want them to get defuk out of there. Even if they are hot. I want nothing to do with them. In my mind, meeting a girl in a party, drunk off our asses, fukin like rabbits, and then the next day we are NORMAL........yeah, that doesn't make much sense for me to be asking for her hand in marriage. |
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| Moral Hazard |
| quote: | Originally posted by Estella
Take care of her as in... give her a bath and wash off the crusted spew or take care of in the sense that she needs something of substance in her life? |
Take care of her as in.... make sure she doesn't walk out into traffic, get hit by a bus, bounce off said bus landing in a frat house and getting gang raped by a bunch of drunken college students that have to pay several hundred dollars a year in order to have friends and hang out in a house with greek letters over the door that they couldn't identify prior to preforming oral sex on a goat or other small farm animal thus earning their admittance to the pseudo-family now raping the poor unfortunate drunk off her ass hit and run victim. |
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