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Originally posted by Magadansky I just decided to check how is the forum going after so many years and I am very sad to see this thread. This sounds terrible, Nick, and I know there is hardly any quick remedy. We've never met but I know you are a great guy who deserves much better than what this woman has made you go through. I second the advice not to go into the dark path of alcohol/ self-depression and similar as it will never be a solution. If there weren't any kids, what I would've also recommend, based on what you have shared, to communicate only via your lawyer and cut off any contact with her, but that would be nearly impossible. I think you should try though to make the case that she is not stable and therefore not reliable as a mother. Consult with your lawyer if there is any chance to win full custody? Anyway, stay strong and a new light will come soon enough, I am sure!

Great to see you again man, hope all is well. Cheers.

So sorry, my Northern Neighbor. Hope you are well, mentally and physically, and that things are improving daily.

Yesterday the divorce was finalized. She restored her maiden name and we split bank accounts. I am completely moved into my apartment and she is renting a small house a few miles away. We swap the kids on Sundays at 3pm. We sold the house in 48 hours, and the buyer paid straight cash.

I am still quite sad, and the breakup remains a tough pill to swallow. I have dated around a little already but I truly don't feel ready to emotionally commit to another person. I often think back to good memories and good times with my ex-wife and wonder how it's even possible to love again. It's going to take a lot of time to heal. The kids are mostly okay, although my neurodivergent son is having some behavioral troubles at school lately.

However, on a different note, I'm heading to Florida tomorrow for my first race of the season. I'm feeling prepared and planning on having a great trip with my father. Hopefully this is the last update I make in this bummer of a thread. I am in charge of my destiny, and the outcome of my next chapter is entirely up to me. I have a few big goals rattling around in my head, hopefully I can bring them to fruition. I appreciate all the TA's who responded here, reached out, PM'd me elsewhere, or sent any sympathetic thoughts my way. It's not an accident that I've been browsing this forum for 16 years. Thank you all.

That's great news, congrats!


You're doing great.


Now here is a relevant song by my favorite band EVER.

divorce sucks, I know. I went through it myself


Focus on yourself. Do the things that make you happy. Do the things that make you better.

Easier said than done, I know

I wish you all the best

well fuck, after 14 years im separating now as well. maybe i should create my own divorce 2 thread

gonna have to reread through this thread with a different set of eyes now.

Damn, I'm really sorry to hear that. Was this a surprise for you? Ultimately I can't say mine was as it had been simmering since 2021. Do you have children together? Property?

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Originally posted by ziptnf Damn, I'm really sorry to hear that. Was this a surprise for you? Ultimately I can't say mine was as it had been simmering since 2021. Do you have children together? Property?

thanks man, i actually appreciate that. coincidentally im nick as well. semi surprise, to be honest i think we were both kinda coasting/drifting and just too chickenshit to bring up the tough conversation

no children, 2 properties, car, cats. 14 years worth of shit.

its a little strange now rereading what you went through cause i understand it more now and it hits a little different like "damn, yep, feel that"

its a weird feeling that the person that's been there for basically more than a quarter than ive been alive wont be there to comfort/see me through stuff, i think you touched on that eariler a bit.

mine isn't as messy as yours sounds, shes very level headed and practical, but we haven't even started the division of assets/stuff yet, still very fresh. she wants to get separation papers started though.

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