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Posted by Silky Johnson on Oct-06-2018 13:16:

Lol, I do think about that but ultimately I'm not concerned. I WANT my kid to know about my mistakes, shameful and/or embarassing behaviour, etc. Getting to know your parents as real people and not the idealized, childish version of who you think they are is a huge part of growing up. I would hope that my kid already has fairly good idea of that by the time she may stumble upon TA.


Posted by Boomer187 on Oct-07-2018 21:30:

I've already blocked this site. She can check out my Myspace page.


Posted by Silky Johnson on Oct-08-2018 00:03:


Posted by 72hrpartyanimal on Oct-08-2018 17:28:

To you new parents out there. What is your opinion on spanking. I've done it a few times and I hate it. BUT it works. I just feel like shit after it though. My good buddy (who doesn't spank) has told me that he doesn't spank because he learned that "it was his parents own frustrations in communicating with me" that led to the spanking.


Posted by Silky Johnson on Oct-08-2018 17:39:

Oh yeah? How often do you spank it?


Posted by 72hrpartyanimal on Oct-08-2018 17:54:

quote:
Originally posted by Silky Johnson
Oh yeah? How often do you spank it?


Hahaha! Not often enough.


Posted by Silky Johnson on Oct-08-2018 18:02:

See, there's your problem. You're taking it out on your kid when you need to be taking it out on that meat.


Posted by 72hrpartyanimal on Oct-08-2018 18:28:

quote:
Originally posted by Silky Johnson
See, there's your problem. You're taking it out on your kid when you need to be taking it out on that meat.


hahahahahaha! lesson learned!!


Posted by JEO on Oct-08-2018 19:20:

quote:
Originally posted by 72hrpartyanimal
To you new parents out there. What is your opinion on spanking. I've done it a few times and I hate it. BUT it works. I just feel like shit after it though. My good buddy (who doesn't spank) has told me that he doesn't spank because he learned that "it was his parents own frustrations in communicating with me" that led to the spanking.


I'm not a parent, but I've been around kids more than IGK, and spanking is definitely not ok nor will it make anything better in any way. Very much the opposite, with studies hinting that spanked and otherwise physically dispiclined kids develop weaker empathy and a totally different (worse) mindset regarding right and wrong compared to kids who aren't spanked. It's ok to hate spanking. Even more reason to not do it. Definitely nothing wrong with not liking it.


Posted by 72hrpartyanimal on Oct-08-2018 20:02:

quote:
Originally posted by JEO
I'm not a parent, but I've been around kids more than IGK, and spanking is definitely not ok nor will it make anything better in any way. Very much the opposite, with studies hinting that spanked and otherwise physically dispiclined kids develop weaker empathy and a totally different (worse) mindset regarding right and wrong compared to kids who aren't spanked. It's ok to hate spanking. Even more reason to not do it. Definitely nothing wrong with not liking it.


Thanks my bro! I try doing timeouts when she's not listening. I have to remind myself that just because I was spanked as a form of discipline does't mean that I need to do it.


Posted by Cloudburst on Oct-09-2018 12:31:

My baby is cuter than everyone else's!!!


Posted by Silky Johnson on Oct-09-2018 12:58:

What is everyone's thoughts/feelings on sharing your kids' personal info, pics, etc online?

I just deleted every picture I ever posted (which wasn't very many to begin with) of our baby, and asked that our friends and family refrain from posting media of her online as well. I want the decision to be hers, when she's old enough, whether or not she wants her life profiled online.


Posted by Trance-M on Oct-09-2018 19:31:

I haven't shared too many yet, some on FB. My daughter is 12 years old now, but I do have some great pictures of her in her first two years which are so funny or cute that I'm thinking of sharing some
I showed my son these pictures and he didn't know who was on the pictures


Posted by Silky Johnson on Oct-09-2018 22:56:

Lol, yes I totally agree. Mostly about the privacy and autonomy thing. I'm also not into contributing to/further perpetuating the normalization of validation/selfie/etc., culture.

But yeah, I can't imagine getting older and coming to realization (or worse, not at all because it's just so "normal") that your whole life has been put on display without your permission.


Posted by Boomer187 on Oct-09-2018 23:49:

We post on FB to friends and family. We don't really do embarrassing 'ya shit everywhere' pics. But we keep our friends updated on her growing up. We suck at holiday cards and keeping up with people anyways so its our way of doing that. It also helps us gather pics for birthday type things and scrape-booking crap. Its definitely not close to exploiting them or risking an IGK encounter...I hope.

We do have a niece (in-laws of my in-laws) and her parents just use iphotos collection to share with family. I am just too lazy to setup. Plus my parents barely understand FB...so anything else would be a disaster. So its easiest on FB.

And what do you mean by personal information?


Posted by Silky Johnson on Oct-10-2018 00:09:

Name, birthday. Whatever other stuff comes up as they get older, like where they go to school, etc. I'm shocked at how many parents I know freely post all this stuff about their kids.


Posted by Boomer187 on Oct-10-2018 00:58:

but how else can you get sweet 20% off coupons at H&M!!!

Publicly I can see that as being weird to advertise out. I doubt we'd share school name out even with FB people, just whatever grade they are in. Definitely not here

I guess if I overstep they can change their name to Boomer188.


Posted by Silky Johnson on Oct-10-2018 01:56:


Posted by planetaryplayer on Oct-10-2018 02:35:

im so off the grid that when i have kids they will be off the grid as well. my girlfriend doesn't even post on Facebook, only messages a few friends. i take photos i like, get them developed then remove them off my phone. if IGK hacked my phone and looked at my cute nieces and nephews i'd be devastated


Posted by SynthNinja on Oct-10-2018 03:42:

I seriously dont get all that baby photo posting drama stuff on facebook, it too annoying and a total let down that I didn't get to hit it before that baby crawled out. Sheesh.

well now I never fucked a milf but I can say the tighter the better or am I completely wrong?


Posted by Trance-M on Oct-10-2018 10:12:

quote:
Originally posted by Zak McKracken
imagine being 16 and your whole life is out there for everyone to see all the stupid things you did as a kid shitting yourself, vomiting and crapping all over while your idiotic parents believes its cute.


lol, most stupid things happen after they turn 16, and you can't even control it. I never saw someone post any picture which fits your description. Most pictures come from proud parents and many people enjoy them especially friends and family who don't live nearby.


Posted by Silky Johnson on Oct-10-2018 11:02:

But you can just as easily share pics and updates via email, no? Or mass pm via FB messenger? Why do photos and updates need to be public/plastered on one's Timeline or Instagram for all to see? Seems many people use their kids' accomplishments as another means of validating their own selves. (Not implying you guys do this, but it's clear that many people do).

Unless of course, these things are only made viewable to close friends and family, then yeah I suppose that makes sense. But imo, email is a better way to keep things private.

I dunno, the more I think about it the less I understand why nobody gives a second thought to putting their kids' lives on display. Like as if we are obligated to or something. The people who matter no where/how to get updates.


Posted by Trance-M on Oct-10-2018 20:52:

You can, I mostly use Whatsapp to send pictures of my kids to my parents and sister, but those are more and different pictures than what I share on FB. I never post pictures on my kids birthday's, something which others do annually. It's more like sometimes a picture when my son is siting on a lawnmower or tractor, or a holiday picture. Nothing I would regret later or to be ashamed of.

I also don't have a huge amount of FB friends, 230 or something and most are family or people from work. Some TA's or music related, like Wiener who also shares pictures of her son and daughter now and then. If she didn't I wouldn't have known her kids are of similar age as mine. Some uncles and aunts like to see pictures of my kids as they don't see them often, but they also won't ask to send pictures of them, so FB is fine for that with a couple of pictures per year. I don't even have Twitter or Instagram, no need to have it all.
The last picture I put on FB with my kids on it was on holiday in April.


Posted by Silky Johnson on Oct-10-2018 21:10:

Just want to clarify I don't think the issue is about embarrassing pics and whatnot. It's about the child's privacy and autonomy.


Posted by planetaryplayer on Oct-10-2018 22:00:

not to take this issue away from children, but i don't understand why people feel the need to post their private life and pictures to people in the first place


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