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This has been weighing on my mind…..

How often do you people vacuum?

Once a week. My apartment has a wall full of holes (cobogó), so dust and dirt gets inside all the time. The breeze is quite good though, so I guess that's the price to pay.

I increased frequency of vacuuming but the satisfaction has not went up with it. Seeing debris on the rug is annoying though

My flat has wooden floors all the way through which is much less forgiving of dirt being brought in on your shoes than carpets are. My bedroom also generates bales of grey-blue fluff on an industrial scale, presumably from my disintegrating clothes. As a result, I feel like I need to vacuum in this place far more often than anywhere I've lived previously. Perhaps that's because until now there's always been a woman doing it before I noticed, though.

We have a relatively big house, two cats, and we've both got long hair, but we still only vacuum once a week. It sometimes shows, but we don't get a lot of guests, so it's ok. We have a central vacuum cleaner, which is nice for not having to lug a vacuum after you in the house, but taking a 10 meter hose out just to clean away some cat hair is a big hassle. I've been thinking of getting one of those battery-powered Dysons you can attach on a wall. It's so easy to just grab it and do a bit of vacuuming every day. In my childhood home we used to clean (vacuum, mop, and take out the carpets) two times a week, but I have no interest in doing that. Life's just too short.

Every other week....

we have a cleaning service so its part of their list

Every other week we have a cleaning service clean our entire house. We vacuum more as needed since we have cats, but generally we leave it for the cleaners.

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Originally posted by SYSTEM-J I feel like I need to vacuum in this place far more often than anywhere I've lived previously. Perhaps that's because until now there's always been a woman doing it before I noticed, though.

Lol, I have a WhatsApp chat of ladies that would love to hear this. It's informally titled "Why Are Men?"

I’m at twice a week but it makes me angry anytime there is dust, I think going down to omce a week sounds like the right call

The bigger question. How often do you wash your bed sheets? We're once every 2 weeks.

I'm going to have two different answers to this, given 6 months apart. Here is answer 1 while I live in a single family household:

Once a week, generally. The most difficult part is that I have to pick up everything first, and anyone who has small children knows that they leave all their crap everywhere constantly. Literally the first thing my kids do when they see a clean floor is grab a bucket full of magnetic letters, or cars, or Legos, or dolls, and dump them all out on the floor. Surprisingly enough they can get to anywhere from 3-6 buckets in under 2 minutes, so I don't get to enjoy my clean house for long. I try, honestly, to make them clean up their stuff before bedtime, but having a son on the spectrum is challenging enough. His behavioral issues are so awful that it's usually just easier for me to help him clean or to do most of it. Go figure I'd be the awful parent who vacuumed up his favorite tiny foam shape. Stbx wife doesn't do a fucking lick of cleaning.

Oooof yeah that does sound challenging! I think the lord or who/whatever knew I wouldn't be equipped to parent a neurodivergent child or whatever fuckin buzz word it is nowadays lol.

Our kid picks up and puts away all her own shit. First rule is that she doesn't have a ton of shit to begin with (we loosely follow Montessori principles about toys/games/stuff). Second rule is, when she doesn't take care of her stuff, it shows us it's not that important to her, and we will just get rid of it, or it's time to donate/give away some stuff.

More generally though, this entire house follows the "place for everything and everything in it's place" rule.

I hate cluttered spaces and disorganization. I'm super physically in tune with my living space and I notice any and everything encroaching upon it.

That said, our kid also has her own playroom, in the basement, so we don't even have to see her stuff....because I also can't stand when kids' shit is everywhere. We're fortunate to have the space for it.

In the basement?? All the shit this place gave Nou about playing in the basement.

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Originally posted by Silky Johnson Lol, I have a WhatsApp chat of ladies that would love to hear this. It's informally titled "Why Are Men?"

Most grown up adult men care about cleaning, but as a rule we just don't care quite as quickly as women do. If it takes us 7 days of dust accumulation to bust out the vacuum, it'll take a woman 4. We learn this young and we're perfectly happy to exploit it.

Imagine a world where all men lose their sanity if the garden lawn gets longer than 20mm but where women just don't care as much. The men are so frustrated because they always end up mowing it and their wives never seem to understand the importance. It's completely unfair, cry the men, that this task is never divided fairly. Meanwhile the women find it slightly comical that their husbands get so wound up about such a trivial matter.

That's basically how men see 90% of household cleaning.

Hahaha, well it's certainly not an issue in our house.

I think it's hilarious that there's any difference in living standard between or because of the sexes. Like, what the hell has one's gender got to do with wanting/not wanting to live like a fuckin' slob (aside from the weaponized incomptence womem themselves enable in men by mothering them and being critical of them)?

And also, its very uncool to nit pick/be critical of one's partner's efforts at chores. That said, I do think it's pretty paramount that a couple agrees upon similar living standards before they even move in together...to avoid the previous point altogether if nothing more.

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Originally posted by JEO In the basement?? All the shit this place gave Nou about playing in the basement.

Maybe I should start shaving her face now, so she won't grow a neck beard?

I think I’m gay then. I do cooking + cleaning, gardening, mowing, shovelling, bed sheets. My SO would do it but she’s slow and doing labour does not suit her (clumsy/ would chop her feet off). She cooked for her parents the other day and now she’s covered in blisters

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Originally posted by Silky Johnson And also, its very uncool to nit pick/be critical of one's partner's efforts at chores. That said, I do think it's pretty paramount that a couple agrees upon similar living standards before they even move in together...to avoid the previous point altogether if nothing more.

I'd say that I didn't have as much of a problem with the chore doing before the divorce proceedings. Now the filter is off and I don't give a fuck. She sits on the couch and texts her boyfriend all fucking evening while I'm picking up everything.

I should mention one of my son's favorite things in the world is numbers. He has a bucket of numbers that he's always playing with and rearranging to stimulate his little neurodivergent mind. He likes the number blocks and basically anything that comes in pieces. We seem to be given gifts all the time that come with 150 stickers or attachments. What a mess.

I hate your ex wife.

Yeah she ignores the kids too while they're bored as shit so she can text. Damn I might hijack every single thread here if I'm not careful. This is all more or less to say I clean constantly and never make any progress. Maybe when I have my own place it will be different. I'll report back to this thread in April.

It's very simple, Nick. The next time she's sat there on her phone while you're cleaning up, you walk over, swipe it from her hand and say to her "While ever you continue to live in this house with me, when there's a job to be done you put down this fucking phone and you help me look after these kids we brought into the world together, otherwise this phone is going to have an unfortunate accident very quickly."

So who plays me in this movie, a young Clint Eastwood, or maybe someone modern like Timothee Chalamet?

Trust me, if my ex was being a passive-aggressive bitch, I would absolutely take the phone, turn off the device, give her absolutely no peace in any room she went into until she actually looked me in the eye and resolved whatever situation we'd fallen out over.

You can be very forceful to someone without doing anything physically threatening to them.

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Originally posted by planetaryplayer I think I’m gay then. I do cooking + cleaning, gardening, mowing, shovelling, bed sheets. My SO would do it but she’s slow and doing labour does not suit her (clumsy/ would chop her feet off). She cooked for her parents the other day and now she’s covered in blisters

Same.

I do all the food shopping and cooking, most of the cleaning. Wife gets up first in the morning with the kiddo, does the laundry. Both of us fill in the gaps of responsibility when needed. We have a good balance, no fuss. I'd say it's 60/40 me, but a lot of her effort is with the kiddo and admin stuff. She manages the front of house, while I get shit done in the back. It works.

That said, I vacuum once a week and sweep the main areas every day in between my sets (of working out).

Once a week. I have a robot vac/mop (Ecovacs Deebot N8 Pro) and it is truly awesome! It takes care of 90% of the work and you only really have to do the areas behind the doors/under tv stand/behind speakers. Saves a ton of time and supports maps for multiple floors and you can set what areas to mop/vac or not map/vac and block off sections, etc.

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