No, I don't believe I will shut up.

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Mixes:
> Higher Peaks [Progressive House]
> Dance:Love:Hub Afterparty (The Return) 23.11.24
> Surface Tension [Progressive Trance]
> Back To Deep [Deep Trippy House]
> Terra Nova [Modern Progressive Trance]

If you enjoy any of these sets and want to hear me live, I'll be playing a 2 hour progressive trance set at Basing House in Shoreditch, London on 11th October.
I'm also a resident at our bi-monthly party Kibosh in Manchester: https://www.instagram.com/kibosh.mcr/

Well while I appreciate your feedback it doesn't bother me either way

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Originally posted by Singularity55 Is there a reason this can't be posted in public lol?

In short, you need to be kind of mean to her for a while. I know it sounds crazy, but trust me, it'll pay off. Read on.

I'm not talking about funny little banter when she actually does something wrong; I mean barraging her with crippling insults regarding her appearance and intellect (and what ever you can think of), but otherwise acting like everything's mostly fine. The effect lies in otherwise acting all normal, making her feel as if no one seemingly as normal as you would ever castigate her like you do unless there really was a valid reason for doing so. We all feel like there's something wrong with us, and so does she. You're telling her exactly what's wrong with her, and before long, she will think you're right, that you're actually good for her, and that you are what she really needs. She is somehow associated with you, so there probably really is something wrong with her, which means you should have plenty of ammo for this.

Now, when it comes to the insults themselves, you can of course start gradually, like asking her if she brushed her teeth when you meet her or something (the key is making her feel insecure), just to warm yourself up, but the actual power of this method is in the violent intensity of your insolence and it ending abruptly every time. Don't make her think it's going to take forever. More catharsis than purgatory. Show your frustration at her faults, but that you're still willing to stick around regardless. The sudden calm after your frequently occuring blowups results in a flood of endorphins in her, so when you stop, stop for a good 3-4 hours. You don't want to ruin that time for her. Shouting will make the outbursts more effective and intense, but if you're not used to raising your voice, I advise against it, since your voice breaking during a key moment is death when using this method, especially in public. Yes, you will have to do this in public, too. In fact, being able to really disparage her in public is perceived as immense strength by her and bystanders alike, so do it with confidence.

If you at any point start feeling like things are going too well, you're falling for her a bit too quick etc., it's time for a good volley again. If you feel like she's done something nice to you (and trust me, if you heed my advice, she will), fight off your urge to react too positively. Instead, find something small to critique in what she did, let it be for a few hours, then remind her about it again. It's a game of balance, but overeagerness is much worse than treating her like crap.

The key thing in this method is the contrast between your kinder side and your worse, bewilderingly offensive side. Women love that stuff, man.

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Originally posted by Singularity55 Well while I appreciate your feedback it doesn't me either way

Maybe she doesn't love you because you can't use verbs.

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Mixes:
> Higher Peaks [Progressive House]
> Dance:Love:Hub Afterparty (The Return) 23.11.24
> Surface Tension [Progressive Trance]
> Back To Deep [Deep Trippy House]
> Terra Nova [Modern Progressive Trance]

If you enjoy any of these sets and want to hear me live, I'll be playing a 2 hour progressive trance set at Basing House in Shoreditch, London on 11th October.
I'm also a resident at our bi-monthly party Kibosh in Manchester: https://www.instagram.com/kibosh.mcr/

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Originally posted by SYSTEM-J Maybe she doesn't love you because you can't use verbs.

typo fixed thanks

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Originally posted by JEO In short, you need to be kind of mean to her for a while. I know it sounds crazy, but trust me, it'll pay off. Read on. I'm not talking about funny little banter when she actually does something wrong; I mean barraging her with crippling insults regarding her appearance and intellect (and what ever you can think of), but otherwise acting like everything's mostly fine. The effect lies in otherwise acting all normal, making her feel as if no one seemingly as normal as you would ever castigate her like you do unless there really was a valid reason for doing so. We all feel like there's something wrong with us, and so does she. You're telling her exactly what's wrong with her, and before long, she will think you're right, that you're actually good for her, and that you are what she really needs. She is somehow associated with you, so there probably really is something wrong with her, which means you should have plenty of ammo for this. Now, when it comes to the insults themselves, you can of course start gradually, like asking her if she brushed her teeth when you meet her or something (the key is making her feel insecure), just to warm yourself up, but the actual power of this method is in the violent intensity of your insolence and it ending abruptly every time. Don't make her think it's going to take forever. More catharsis than purgatory. Show your frustration at her faults, but that you're still willing to stick around regardless. The sudden calm after your frequently occuring blowups results in a flood of endorphins in her, so when you stop, stop for a good 3-4 hours. You don't want to ruin that time for her. Shouting will make the outbursts more effective and intense, but if you're not used to raising your voice, I advise against it, since your voice breaking during a key moment is death when using this method, especially in public. Yes, you will have to do this in public, too. In fact, being able to really disparage her in public is perceived as immense strength by her and bystanders alike, so do it with confidence. If you at any point start feeling like things are going too well, you're falling for her a bit too quick etc., it's time for a good volley again. If you feel like she's done something nice to you (and trust me, if you heed my advice, she will), fight off your urge to react too positively. Instead, find something small to critique in what she did, let it be for a few hours, then remind her about it again. It's a game of balance, but overeagerness is much worse than treating her like crap. The key thing in this method is the contrast between your kinder side and your worse, bewilderingly offensive side. Women love that stuff, man.

Well that's certainly an interesting approach but I'll skip it for various reasons for now thanks

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Originally posted by SYSTEM-J Maybe she doesn't love you because you can't use verbs.

Also fwiw not I'm not bothered. I'm just happy to be friends

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Yes, that's coming across very clearly.

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Mixes:
> Higher Peaks [Progressive House]
> Dance:Love:Hub Afterparty (The Return) 23.11.24
> Surface Tension [Progressive Trance]
> Back To Deep [Deep Trippy House]
> Terra Nova [Modern Progressive Trance]

If you enjoy any of these sets and want to hear me live, I'll be playing a 2 hour progressive trance set at Basing House in Shoreditch, London on 11th October.
I'm also a resident at our bi-monthly party Kibosh in Manchester: https://www.instagram.com/kibosh.mcr/

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Originally posted by SYSTEM-J Yes, that's coming across very clearly.

Well for me any level of closeness is better than a lesser degree but it is what it is

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On a marginally less troll-tastic note, I feel like the facts you're reporting don't really line up with your sentiment. What you've told us is that you're casually fucking this girl and she faked a relationship to test you in some obscure way. That in itself just seems like a lot of provocative nonsense from this moronic chick, but in itself shouldn't change your situation.

The way you're acting is as though you want to turn this into a serious relationship and something about this event means you've screwed something up massively. 2 + 2 ain't equating to 4 here. There's more to this story than what you've told us.

Also, bi-polar or not, "She's in love with me but is in denial because we're too similar" doesn't exist. Humans don't behave that way. Not even really moronic ones.

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Mixes:
> Higher Peaks [Progressive House]
> Dance:Love:Hub Afterparty (The Return) 23.11.24
> Surface Tension [Progressive Trance]
> Back To Deep [Deep Trippy House]
> Terra Nova [Modern Progressive Trance]

If you enjoy any of these sets and want to hear me live, I'll be playing a 2 hour progressive trance set at Basing House in Shoreditch, London on 11th October.
I'm also a resident at our bi-monthly party Kibosh in Manchester: https://www.instagram.com/kibosh.mcr/

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Originally posted by SYSTEM-J On a marginally less troll-tastic note, I feel like the facts you're reporting don't really line up with your sentiment. What you've told us is that you're casually fucking this girl and she faked a relationship to test you in some obscure way. That in itself just seems like a lot of provocative nonsense from this moronic chick, but in itself shouldn't change your situation. The way you're acting is as though you want to turn this into a serious relationship and something about this event means you've screwed something up massively. 2 + 2 ain't equating to 4 here. There's more to this story than what you've told us. Also, bi-polar or not, "She's in love with me but is in denial because we're too similar" doesn't exist. Humans don't behave that way. Not even really moronic ones.

She did test me in an odd way. I mean if she wants to see if I truely care about her and she can trust me emotionally it does make sense.

And no if someone has feelings for me but I don't tick her preferred bf list then she's probably not happy about it and so prefers not to view it that way.

Oh I did screw up massively. Uhhh yeh my response was "I'm sick of your bs lies and go screw up someone elses life" and blocked her for about 16 hours... which was terrible. I failed the test pretty bad. But intense emotions being what they are... they're... hard to control

She hasn't talked to me for like 4 months. Which apparently is mostly that but it's also that we're similar and she finds my problems too close to home. It may be entirely different which she knows I'm not an alcoholic anymore and am employed once I am though.

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Last edited by Singularity55 on Jan-17-2024 at 21:36