Christ, this is idiotic even by your standards. Where do I even begin?
1. If a mother pulls something sharp out of their child's hands, they haven't been violent towards a child. When a kid plucks something out of another kid's hands to prank them and throws it to a friend, their parents don't get hauled into school over their violent behaviour. It's just not a violent act, and you've just invented an arbitrary difference here in your imagination.
2. "Verbal violence"? What does that even mean? Who hasn't committed "verbal violence" during an argument? That's what an argument is. And believe me, they're very much a level playing field between the sexes. Do you think a woman is physically incapable of pulling an object out of a man's hands? Do you think a frustrated wife has never done that to get her husband to listen?
3. Why the almighty fuck would my partner be carrying pepper spray or a knife on them at home with me? And are you suggesting that a woman can get a knife from the drawer and stab a partner for taking a phone out of her hand and the law will side with her? You're playing the "I'm a respectful feminist" card, but it actually sounds like you're blurting out that "Society is totally skewed in favour of women" red pill shit I've seen you dribble all over this forum in the past.
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Feb-11-2024 09:26
SYSTEM-J
IDKFA.
Registered: Sep 2003
Location: Manchester
I suspect the point you're fumbling towards trying to express is that conventionally when someone removes themselves from an argument by placing some kind of physical boundary between themselves and the other - by going into another room or demonstratively picking up a device - it's seen as "controlling" or domineering if the other person disrespects that boundary and forces the argument to continue.
What this blindsides us to is that refusing to have a discussion that needs resolving and instead sulking or shutting down the conversation is actually more toxic in a relationship and just as "controlling". And people who try to manipulate situations in their favour with such passive aggressive tactics are often shocked when you violate these boundaries they usually exploit.
In the case of Nick, his soon to be ex-wife has committed an enormous betrayal and wreaked incredible emotional trauma on him. For her to then continue to flaunt this in front of him with nakedly disrespectful lazy behaviour is a micro aggression bordering on macro. And yet as a society we seem to say that plucking a phone out of someone's hands and saying "I'm not going to allow this behaviour to go unchallenged" is a shocking, transgressive act, somehow more unacceptable than everything she has done. It isn't, actually. It won't harm her physically or emotionally in the slightest. And that's the difference between people being controlled by others and the people who don't allow it to happen to them.
If you enjoy any of these sets and want to hear me live, I'll be playing a 2 hour progressive trance set at Basing House in Shoreditch, London on 11th October.
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Feb-11-2024 09:52
pkcRAISTLIN
arbiter's chief minion
Registered: Jul 2002
Location:
quote:
Originally posted by SYSTEM-J
2. "Verbal violence"? What does that even mean?
not that i care about the current argument, but certain governments (inc mine) have defined and criminalised 'verbal abuse' as 'family violence'.
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Feb-11-2024 12:56
SYSTEM-J
IDKFA.
Registered: Sep 2003
Location: Manchester
quote:
Originally posted by Zak McKracken
If that hurts your ego because of some macho bullshit then that’s on you.
You've accused me of being violent towards women, for fuck's sake. I'm not arguing with you because I want to appear macho, quite the opposite.
If you enjoy any of these sets and want to hear me live, I'll be playing a 2 hour progressive trance set at Basing House in Shoreditch, London on 11th October.
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Feb-11-2024 13:02
Silky Johnson
International Playa Hater
Registered: Nov 2003
Location:
Dude, you sound like a bitch.
Feb-11-2024 17:30
SYSTEM-J
IDKFA.
Registered: Sep 2003
Location: Manchester
I like how now he's deleted all his posts, I'm inadvertently catching strays from Jenny.
If you enjoy any of these sets and want to hear me live, I'll be playing a 2 hour progressive trance set at Basing House in Shoreditch, London on 11th October.
I'm also a resident at our bi-monthly party Kibosh in Manchester: https://www.instagram.com/kibosh.mcr/
Feb-13-2024 20:48
ziptnf
Programming your future
Registered: Jun 2008
Location: Louisville, KY
It should now be public policy that we always quote this guy to preserve his posts. He deleted all his pseudoanalysis from the Divorce thread.
