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Asshole of the Year.

Holy cow I am so uber sick of these Idiots that I surround myself with! Close to a year of my time I devote to someone! Buying him dinner when hes hungry, cleaning his damn apartment, missing classes so I can stay up till five o'clock in the morning taking care of his sick self. Dumps me for no apparant reason, then asks me to take care of his cats while he visits the girl he wanted to marry at one point in time, two weeks after he dumps me.

So of course, my dumbass self takes care of the cats, does the laundry because I thought it was nice to do, and cleaned up the apartment. I get to the airport to pick him up and all he does is talk about how he had the greatest time in his life and how he wants to move there ASAP, and how he hates it here and everyone and everything about this place, and yada yada yada.

Now, suprise suprise, guess what? He's SHOCKED that him rubbing it in my face that he had the time of his life on his little vacation with this girl, could actually bother me!

Not only that! Two weeks before he even went on his little trip, I had invited him to go to an event for the weekend he got back (five days after he got back) and he said maybe, but yeah he'd like to go. So I don't go with all my friends that went earlier, b/c I wanted to be nice and wait for him. He gets a last minute phone call to go to a cousins house that he had never met before in his life, that he didn't even know he had, and he wants to go to that instead. UGH!

I'm already an emotional wreck because someone I grew up with died, and he is holding all of my overreacting against me. I'm SORRY if someone rubbing it in my face how this is the last place they want to be, and these are the last people he wants to be around might irritate me a bit! The "people" you're talking about is me bub! Remember? I'm the one fucking doing anything you ask me to?! ******!

you are whipped by him and he will continue to use you as long as you let him.

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Originally posted by butterfly you are whipped by him and he will continue to use you as long as you let him.

Yes, I know this. And I'm completly sick and tired of it, and it will not happen again. I've been used enough.

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Originally posted by anuneventrade Yes, I know this. And I'm completly sick and tired of it, and it will not happen again. I've been used enough.

you should cut him completely out of your life for a while.

Nothing wrong with being a little whipped. It's usually how most marriages go.

But there's an inherent give and take involved, and if there's no givin' and all takin', it's not a worthy relationship at all. What's more, as Butterfly pointed out, you're only feeding it more by allowing him to use you more.

Take a step back, take a deep breath, and give yourself a little giggle for your senseless giving to a dweeb. There's plenty of fish out in the sea who'd love to take advantage of your selfless heart.

Seriously, put that one behind you.

Wow, I can't believe you did all that for him... so used to seeing it the other way around.

But yeah, whoa, be glad that one's over with. Don't even talk to him, don't answer calls or anything, he'll probably come up with some shit like "remember all the fun we had?" and try to get you to do more stuff.

Cold turkey's the way to go! Sorry to hear about your one-sided relationship.

this is good advice i think. just have a friend that you have fiendish manogomus sex with. just hang 0ut and enjoy.. no pressures

I know a girl who went thru all what you just said. This girl is super sweet and nice. The guy was a complete bastard.

You should completely forget about him and go on with your life. You'll find a guy that deserves a girl like you!

be brave!

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Originally posted by anuneventrade Holy cow I am so uber sick of these Idiots that I surround myself with! Close to a year of my time I devote to someone! Buying him dinner when hes hungry, cleaning his damn apartment, missing classes so I can stay up till five o'clock in the morning taking care of his sick self. Dumps me for no apparant reason, then asks me to take care of his cats while he visits the girl he wanted to marry at one point in time, two weeks after he dumps me. So of course, my dumbass self takes care of the cats, does the laundry because I thought it was nice to do, and cleaned up the apartment. I get to the airport to pick him up and all he does is talk about how he had the greatest time in his life and how he wants to move there ASAP, and how he hates it here and everyone and everything about this place, and yada yada yada. Now, suprise suprise, guess what? He's SHOCKED that him rubbing it in my face that he had the time of his life on his little vacation with this girl, could actually bother me! Not only that! Two weeks before he even went on his little trip, I had invited him to go to an event for the weekend he got back (five days after he got back) and he said maybe, but yeah he'd like to go. So I don't go with all my friends that went earlier, b/c I wanted to be nice and wait for him. He gets a last minute phone call to go to a cousins house that he had never met before in his life, that he didn't even know he had, and he wants to go to that instead. UGH! I'm already an emotional wreck because someone I grew up with died, and he is holding all of my overreacting against me. I'm SORRY if someone rubbing it in my face how this is the last place they want to be, and these are the last people he wants to be around might irritate me a bit! The "people" you're talking about is me bub! Remember? I'm the one fucking doing anything you ask me to?! ******!

......ok..now, one question? who is the idiot that put up with all these things?????????????????

















YOU....stop complaining!!! gEESuz I don't have sympathy to people like you coz apparently, the friend of yours have noticed from the very beginning you kneeled in front of him and did his every command....that you can be his lil puppet...yes you noticed it, but you NEVER put a stop to it...sorry to be harsh...but you asked for it..

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Originally posted by politicsofdancin ......ok..now, one question? who is the idiot that put up with all these things????????????????? YOU....stop complaining!!! gEESuz I don't have sympathy to people like you coz apparently, the friend of yours have noticed from the very beginning you kneeled in front of him and did his every command....that you can be his lil puppet...yes you noticed it, but you NEVER put a stop to it...sorry to be harsh...but you asked for it..

I was addicted to the sex, what can I say.

I put up with it, because he was an amazing boyfriend up until these past few weeks. He was Mr. Perfect. I put up with it, because in the back of my mind I had some false hope that he would return the guy I fell madly in love with.

I hate him now for how he treats me, and I wish he never came back, but then again I don't.

I know I put myself in a shitty situation, I'm not denying it was my fault. What I am bitching about is how he took advantage of the fact that I'm gullible and so damn giving. I give my whole heart out and thats the problem.

I honestly don't blame you, you seem like a real nice person and you just wanted to help him. Problem is that people don't deserve for you to be nice to them when they don't give anything in return. Find someone who's as willing as you are and you'll be set.

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Originally posted by anuneventrade I was addicted to the sex, what can I say. I put up with it, because he was an amazing boyfriend up until these past few weeks. He was Mr. Perfect. I put up with it, because in the back of my mind I had some false hope that he would return the guy I fell madly in love with. I hate him now for how he treats me, and I wish he never came back, but then again I don't. I know I put myself in a shitty situation, I'm not denying it was my fault. What I am bitching about is how he took advantage of the fact that I'm gullible and so damn giving. I give my whole heart out and thats the problem.

well...i hope you will learn your lesson from this experience....yes it's not fair for you to be treated that way....let me ask you a question? the percentage of battered woman in this country is at it's high point, as much as there husbands/boyfriends beat them up, they still stay...now why do you think that is so??????? is it coz they have low self esteem? IMO, i think it boils down to that....they have this idealistic hope that their husbands or boyfriends would turn into Mr. Right..like you mentioned above, or a glimpse of hope that the relationship can be salvaged...BUT HUN, WAKE UP CALL!!!!! they are not going to change...if he wanted to change, he would've done so a LONG time ago....REM: you can't change someone, they have to change out of there will.....

decides to jump into the fray

see idiots like that, do it often like that, use ppl...that's why you destroy them before dating them. Then no fucking problems!

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Originally posted by politicsofdancin ......ok..now, one question? who is the idiot that put up with all these things????????????????? YOU....stop complaining!!! gEESuz I don't have sympathy to people like you coz apparently, the friend of yours have noticed from the very beginning you kneeled in front of him and did his every command....that you can be his lil puppet...yes you noticed it, but you NEVER put a stop to it...sorry to be harsh...but you asked for it..

yeah right, so you bitch at her for being a nice person. They were in a serious relationship and both have to be nice and helpful to each other. He's the one who took advantage of that situation and of her moreover he has no manners.

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Originally posted by anuneventrade I was addicted to the sex, what can I say. I put up with it, because he was an amazing boyfriend up until these past few weeks. He was Mr. Perfect. I put up with it, because in the back of my mind I had some false hope that he would return the guy I fell madly in love with. I hate him now for how he treats me, and I wish he never came back, but then again I don't. I know I put myself in a shitty situation, I'm not denying it was my fault. What I am bitching about is how he took advantage of the fact that I'm gullible and so damn giving. I give my whole heart out and thats the problem.

i wonder if the big change in his behavior was cause he cheated on you or something.

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Originally posted by ahlamalek yeah right, so you bitch at her for being a nice person. They were in a serious relationship and both have to be nice and helpful to each other. He's the one who took advantage of that situation and of her moreover he has no manners.

Ya, even though I'm all anti-feminist and usually blame the girl, I'm going to agree with Malek here. How the hell can you condemn the girl in this case? I mean, okay, maybe she could have ended it a week or two earlier, but when someone suddenly starts treating you like dirt who's treated you like royalty for the past... well whatever, she didn't say how long... what do you do? How do you know if they're just stressed out or if they really suddenly turned into a complete asshole?

Assholistic behaviour in relationships is not cool. All I ever say is to be a challenge, not a jerk!

I'll say it... some girls turn into bitches and that's why their boyfriends turn into assholes... but somehow that doesn't sound like what happened here, if she was cleaning his apartment after he dumped her! Give the girl a break, she was trying her best to save a long-term relationship and the guy decided to two-time her!

I don't know where the change came from, all I know is it came. We were living together, so its worse. And right now, He is saying such hurtful things. He just got back a few days ago. As I stated previously, I had a death from someone close to me, so I wasn't in the chipperist of moods.

Now, he is saying that I am too negative, and that I give him a headache, and how its rude of me to be upset and try to talk to him about having a bad week.

Thats not fair, at all. I was always there for him. He needed someone, I was there. He needed someone to take care of him, I'd drive there at midnight and stay up until five am, with the wet washcloths, medicne, soup and his fav popsicles to make him feel better, and miss class the next day. I'd comfort him and reassure him when he is having a bad day. If I have a problem, its kinda like "deal with it yourself". And if the careful mask that I put on that keeps smiling falters, and I actually show that I am upset, I get treated unfairly, as though I am some burden.

I never asked for much. I even forgave him when he went on a trip with three girls w/o telling me. One he had slept with before we got together. He called me on his way back, and was surprised that I might be upset.

It makes me lose faith in guys, honestly. He was considerable older than me. You'd think he'd be wiser too.

see men like that, NEED TO BE DESTROYED. I have no time or respect for fuckwit men who take advantage of women and use them. Tho if you are a woman and have a man like that and wish to get back at him, lemme know, I'm more than happy to tell you how.

I hate men like that because it gives the proper men who honestly give a fucking damn about women, a bad rep.

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Originally posted by torontotrance see men like that, NEED TO BE DESTROYED. I have no time or respect for fuckwit men who take advantage of women and use them. Tho if you are a woman and have a man like that and wish to get back at him, lemme know, I'm more than happy to tell you how. I hate men like that because it gives the proper men who honestly give a fucking damn about women, a bad rep.

It also gives the women a reason to be bitter and treat their next guys like crap. All it takes is one bad egg to spoil the whole batter.

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Originally posted by anuneventrade I don't know where the change came from, all I know is it came. We were living together, so its worse. And right now, He is saying such hurtful things. He just got back a few days ago. As I stated previously, I had a death from someone close to me, so I wasn't in the chipperist of moods. Now, he is saying that I am too negative, and that I give him a headache, and how its rude of me to be upset and try to talk to him about having a bad week. Thats not fair, at all. I was always there for him. He needed someone, I was there. He needed someone to take care of him, I'd drive there at midnight and stay up until five am, with the wet washcloths, medicne, soup and his fav popsicles to make him feel better, and miss class the next day. I'd comfort him and reassure him when he is having a bad day. If I have a problem, its kinda like "deal with it yourself". And if the careful mask that I put on that keeps smiling falters, and I actually show that I am upset, I get treated unfairly, as though I am some burden. I never asked for much. I even forgave him when he went on a trip with three girls w/o telling me. One he had slept with before we got together. He called me on his way back, and was surprised that I might be upset. It makes me lose faith in guys, honestly. He was considerable older than me. You'd think he'd be wiser too.

i definitely think he cheated on you.

and also, if they havent grown up by the time they are 30, they never will.

and you wonder how i got this way eh.

something tells me he cheated... same thing with the girl i know, her bf cheated and everyting fucked up after.

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Originally posted by ahlamalek yeah right, so you bitch at her for being a nice person. They were in a serious relationship and both have to be nice and helpful to each other. He's the one who took advantage of that situation and of her moreover he has no manners.

well...the reason for my tone of voice is clearly stated in my post...why don't you read it over again...then make this comment..gEEsuz...i feel bad for the girl, but the question is why once she noticed the abrupt change in her bf, why she didn't leave OR put him in his place??? that is what i'am trying to state...

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Originally posted by politicsofdancin well...the reason for my tone of voice is clearly stated in my post...why don't you read it over again...then make this comment..gEEsuz...i feel bad for the girl, but the question is why once she noticed the abrupt change in her bf, why she didn't leave OR put him in his place??? that is what i'am trying to state...

you make it sound so easy... leaving a person isn't that easy and matter of fact we don't know the whole story, maybe they got into arguments.

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Originally posted by ahlamalek you make it sound so easy... leaving a person isn't that easy and matter of fact we don't know the whole story, maybe they got into arguments.

agreed. and leaving after a year and having been living together is worse.

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