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Posted by diffusion on Nov-23-2003 20:09:

I just broke up with my girlfriend

Damn this sucks so hard. She was so insanely in love for me.
I was addicted to her as well... then why did I?

She, my latino princess, lives in Ecuador. Mixing her culture and mine resulted in a major clash. You see in order for her to be accepted as having a boyfriend, without being stamped out as "USED TRASH", we needed to get married.

She really wanted this, however I didn't. Can you imagine getting married when you're 20 years old? No matter how good the girl is, I'd give it serious doubts.

Now, why am I writing this at all? I guess if someone cared to answer to this, I'd be grateful:
Would you have dumped her? It doesn't matter, I just did, but anyways, here I go...

Posted by Chris Crossland on Nov-23-2003 20:11:

See what girls do they cause problems

Posted by diffusion on Nov-23-2003 20:33:

yeah, and still, we need them so much

damn, I feel like I am such an asshole right now...

Posted by DjDeComp on Nov-23-2003 20:36:

Yes, my chance to go on a date with her j/k

you shouldnt of broken up IMO
Sounds like you guys were deeply in love

Posted by nekholm on Nov-23-2003 20:42:

I feel sorry for you. I'm having some problems with my girlfriend right now too. She has some problems, and she doesn't know if she wants to be in a relationship right now.. Oh how I wish it were all good..

Posted by elena on Nov-23-2003 20:46:

im srroy to hear that you had to make such a drastic decision.
but im not sure that its the ecuadorian culture that you should blame, sounds more like some high strung family-set rules/tradition.

getting married at such an early age doesnt neccessarily mean that youll end up screwed over for the rest of your life but i think that its such an important decision that it couldve waited until both of you were done were done with school and financially stable.

Posted by Echo of Silence on Nov-23-2003 21:01:

Re: I just broke up with my girlfriend

It really sounds as though you are doing what is best for yourself even though it is a painful thing to do.

Sometimes, its really hard to set aside your feelings and your emotions and make a tough decision. I respect you for being man enough to do that.

Maybe the two of you can stay in touch and be friends so in the future, when you're ready for something more...

However it goes, *hugs to help you feel better!

Posted by diffusion on Nov-23-2003 21:08:

Thanks for your thoughts on this guys/gals(?)... I really apprechiated it... Seems like you don't think it was a major error to do that... Anyways, I thought a lot about it, and I'm clean of it now.

I don't have to worry about ALL the challenges that would rise if we were to marry.

And really, alcohol helps, clubbing also works as a temporary remedy for the pain.

Posted by Orbax on Nov-23-2003 21:28:

Women are nuts. Im suprised that world population is still growing.

Posted by Fundamental on Nov-23-2003 23:42:

Damn man, sounds really harsh... I think you did the right thing though. Hope everything goes well for you.

Posted by DigiNut on Nov-23-2003 23:48:

My sister got engaged when she was 20... the marriage date was later though, I think she was 22... it's not THAT big a deal if you're ready to make the commitment.

It all depends on your personal situation. My brother-in-law was in med school, so his future was pretty secure. It's not really the age that matters, it's just whether or not you're ready to settle down.

So, I can't really say what I'd have done in your position, and I don't think anyone else can either. It depends on what stage you're in with your life right now. Possibly, you're just afraid of serious commitment. Or, possibly (I'd say likely, since most people haven't planned their futures at age 20), you did what you had to do.

Posted by Vivid Boy on Nov-23-2003 23:54:

get over her...tell her ull marry her but u have to fuck her in THE ASS and the break up with her move to the next piece of trahs

Posted by NomadaNare on Nov-24-2003 00:04:

yeah i feel ya on the girls suck angle. My girlie broke up wit me last week talkin about she rushed into a relationship with me. And my stupid ass fell in love with her.

Posted by diego on Nov-24-2003 00:15:

i think you were right, marraige scares me, i can't see how you can live with one person for the rest of your life, what if something goes wrong, or you just stop liking each other??

Posted by UglyDave on Nov-24-2003 00:18:

u'll b fine in a month r so!

just dont think about her, go hang with friends, chill, be happy, if u feel urself gettin depressed go do something

Posted by S-a-M-u-E-l on Nov-24-2003 00:22:

diffusion is that your girlfriend in your sig, because i need either two things if it is

#1 - her phone number, and a pack of condoms

#2 - A full pic, a bucket of lube, and some muscle relaxer

Thanks.

Posted by whiskers on Nov-24-2003 00:30:

i find it funny how no one bashed Eucador's culture for being stupid and stamping a girl as "USED TRASH" for having a boyfriend... you guys seem to be missing a point and jumping to conclusions that "girls suck", even if it's sarcastic...

sorry to hear that happen, man, but i guess everything happens for the best.

Posted by squirrelly on Nov-24-2003 00:53:

That sucks. I agree with DigiNut though. It doesn't really depend on the age issue, it's the commitment level. If you are prepared to handle it, then get "engaged". Doesn't mean you have to get married right then.

If you two are in love, it's ridiculous to end the relationship. That's just stupidity. If you honestly love her, tell her you made a mistake and you will try and work it out. And read above statement again.

Whiskers!!!!! Love the sig!!!!

Posted by INDY on Nov-24-2003 00:55:

erm, how did you meet her when she's from ecuador?

Posted by Greedy on Nov-24-2003 00:56:

im diggin this latin girl too at the moment. Well. . . shes mixed puerto rican and irish. Gotta love that latin flava.

Posted by Orbax on Nov-24-2003 00:59:

im not being sarcastic. Im a misogynist.

Posted by Echo of Silence on Nov-24-2003 01:03:

Re: I just broke up with my girlfriend

quote:
Originally posted by diffusion
She really wanted this, however I didn't.

Maybe some of you missed this statement.

Posted by whiskers on Nov-24-2003 01:04:

quote:
Originally posted by Orbax
im not being sarcastic. Im a misogynist.

that i noticed, i was talking mostly about gwrmarines' comment and i was also trying to preven people from flaming me and saying "wtf, you idiot, don't take everything so seriously, that was a joke"

Posted by squirrelly on Nov-24-2003 01:07:

Re: Re: I just broke up with my girlfriend

quote:
Originally posted by Echo of Silence
Maybe some of you missed this statement.

I think he meant she really wanted the marraige and he didn't. But it sounds like he still loves her....

Posted by whiskers on Nov-24-2003 01:25:

quote:
Originally posted by anuneventrade

Whiskers!!!!! Love the sig!!!!

hehe, thanks

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