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give me sympathy plezzz
i had a really shitty night. I made an effort to go to my boyfriends staff party and and left utterly humiliated. I stayed with my boyfriend for an hour and we decided we were leaving they started making these wise ass comments about how i am a controling bitch. It was just stupid and when i went to the car feeling like crap my boyfriend told me to "let it go". He didn't stick up for me or even let me be upset for a few minutes he just grilled me about being silly for feeling upset which lead to a huge argument. Now im sad, feed me with sympathy even though i know it doesn't matter and you could care less...
Re: give me sympathy plezzz
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| Originally posted by wienerschnitzel i had a really shitty night. I made an effort to go to my boyfriends staff party and and left utterly humiliated. I stayed with my boyfriend for an hour and we decided we were leaving they started making these wise ass comments about how i am a controling bitch. It was just stupid and when i went to the car feeling like crap my boyfriend told me to "let it go". He didn't stick up for me or even let me be upset for a few minutes he just grilled me about being silly for feeling upset which lead to a huge argument. Now im sad, feed me with sympathy even though i know it doesn't matter and you could care less... |
Ouch.
I say let things cool off for a bit, and let him call you.
JaY
Sorry to hear that. One old saying: "Time heals all wounds."
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Or if you just don't have the time or are impatient (like me), just get a couple of bottles to drown your sorrows in.
There, there... it will be ok.
Seriously, sounds like there are some communication issues that you need to resolve with your bf. He must be venting about you at work, but that sucks to hear his complaints via a 3rd party. This might be hard to swallow but maybe you're controlling. If the relationship is important to you, do yourself a favor and setup an appointment with a therapist to work through your issues, instead of just brushing this under the rug and hoping it will go away, because it won't.
He sounds like a dick - Dump him, Dump him...
Meh 
edit: Oh wait i actually read the whole story now. Looks like the folks there like your bf and don't want him to leave early thus having a cheaky dig at you. The reason your bf told u to shake it off is because he knew they were kidding around and he's now wondering why you over-reacted. You now have one confused boyfriend well done.
this sounds like a hard one to reply to b/c sounds like you had to be there to really know what happened, like who's in the right/who's in the wrong.
but if you're in a serious relationship that doesnt matter who's to blame, you have to take a few for the team. but if this is a consistant thing and he always brushes off how you feel then you should definately have a serious talk, wait till you've calmed down and talk to him about it calmly without getting emotional or being on the offense/defense.
either that or just let it go, it could have just been an ackward situation for the both of you, and neither of you really knew how to take it, so he brushed it off and you took it personally. just 2 different reactions from 2 different people, but if it does bother you then you two need to have a simple, honest, calm talk to let each other know what they feel about the situation.
communication is the most important key, share your feelings with each other if somethings bothering you. remember i said share your feelings WITH each other and not AT each other.
well since you are demanding sympathy from us, i guess you really are a bit controlling
on a more serious note, just ask him if he really thinks that. if he does, don't get mad, just take it as constructive criticism and try to work through it. being controlling always drives a man away and that's a fact. you gotta lighten up a bit. and this is only if you are controlling...they (his co-workers) might have just been kidding and you got defensive.
i may be failing to see the major point (or just choosing to ignore it), but who really cares what his coworkers think (unless he's the one giving him the ideas). i'd just let it go and not waste my life being sad over what some retarded people said.
i'm not good at giving tips, but i feel sorry for you 
have sent your christmas card now if that would cheer you up 
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| Originally posted by Slylee on a more serious note, just ask him if he really thinks that. if he does, don't get mad, just take it as constructive criticism and try to work through it. being controlling always drives a man away and that's a fact. you gotta lighten up a bit. and this is only if you are controlling...they (his co-workers) might have just been kidding and you got defensive. |
Times are tough up there in Canada, eh? You should have told the folks at the party the reason you were leaving was because it SUCKS! As for your boyfriend, what a chump. He obviously doesn't give a whit about your feelings. Dump him and find someone who will stand up for you.
{{{smoke}}}
Maybe your fella would've felt a bit uneasy trying to stick up for you in front of all of his mates. They might be the kind of people who kind of "gang up" on people (for want of a better term) and he would've felt like they'll take the piss out of him too if he said anything to them.
Of course, if I'd been there I would have thought of something infinitely witty and sarcastic to throw back at them, but hey, what can you do
Try not to let it bother you so much, I'm sure they didn't mean to upset you like that.
I think you shouldn't let those small stupid things excite you so much.
drop the zero and go with the hero
*points at self*
wow! you guys are great at this! i wasn't really expecting sympathy and when i woke up this morning i completely forgot about this thread. Now that my pout is over, i can better explain the situation. My boyfriend works at a chain restaurant and he was signed up for this 'secret santa' gift exchange. He didn't want to go because:
1) it ment he had to buy a gift for someone
2) he's not even friends with these people and finds them irritating
3) we weren't drinking and everyone else was, infact, all they were doing was drinking and watching tv.
4) he was really tired because he started working at 7 am and didn't finish until 5pm, and had to open the kitchen again the next day.
So he went the party so he could avoid getting a hard time about it the next day. I volunteered to go with him since he needed a ride and also so he wouldn't be alone durring the party. (i was trying to be a trooper). So the reason these people started making the "controling bitch" statements is because jeremy doesn't go to their "parties" because he doesn't really like them and has better things to do with his time. The people at work automatically assume that i am telling him that he has to stay at home or something really stupid like that. I don't know what it is but these people can't figure out jeremy is nice to them because he is a nice guy, but doesn't want to hang out with them. and this has happened on several occasions where jeremy left early and i took the heat. So i am sick of it! Jeremy has explained to them once that he was a big boy and makes his own decisions but they don't see it that way, i guess? So now that i've slept on it i don't care anymore, but i won't go to anymore of these functions, thats for damn sure. Jeremy was a total **** last night when i took him home, getting angry at me for being upset, (im assuming because he didn't know how to deal with it) so i don't know when i will hear from him again, probably when he apoligizes. Slylee and diginut, i can be controlling sometimes because i like the security of the outcome, which isn't really a good thing, but i have learned through experience not to control in the relationship.
i must get ready for another day at the office...
thanks again..
No prob.
But make sure you keep it real, aiight?
wow, that sounds like a quality boyfriend. sign me up.
no...actually...dump that asshole.
hi wienerschnitzel
please forgime my bluntness but sound like to me like your BF should gather the balls to head them fools up.
thats kind of a poopy situation for both of you. A cool guy has to work with a bunch of boring tards and if he pisses them off his time working with them will suck.
but it sounds like those turds he works with were just being average drunk a-holes, I remember myself and my buddies doing that to people, although they were people we all knew, not a co-workers girlfriend.
and work parties suck, no matter what.
**edit** oops, nevermind that last statement, I just remembered when I accompanied my buddy to his....he was a dishwasher at Hooters 8-).
Re: give me sympathy plezzz
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| Originally posted by wienerschnitzel Now im sad, feed me with sympathy even though i know it doesn't matter and you could care less... |
maybe you really are just a controlling bitch (?)
ahhhh, yes! thats the phrase im looking for!
he isn't an asshole, sometimes he needs to pull his head out of his ass. He came to apoligize to me today. I told him that i needed a man that would stick up for his girlfriend and he said he understood and next time the situation comes up he will take action. We will see. Placebo... im keeping it real.
"NO SYMPAHTY FOR YOU!!!!!!"
Sincerely,
The Sympathy Nazi
what a lamer
Hell, he is like my father sadly. My father rarely stands up for my mother (so that job kinda falls to me..then again I do a much better job than he does). I would have torn them a new asshole or just walked out. My first response would have been...why do you think that? or so what she is a controling bitch....she is MY CONTROLING BITCH and I like that or the most famous blunt line of them all....MIND YOUR OWN DAMN BUSINESS!!!!!. Nothing like idiots who think they are the be all and end all of life and can say what they want without repercussions. Those people usually end up hated and normally with few friends (the friends they have are the same types of ppl). Take this as a reality call in human nature and tell that jackass b.f of yours to learn to pull his socks up and defend what matters to him. I'd even teach to f00 how to defend you...I know certainly without a doubt if you were dating me...they would have been told off in some form....more likely the mind your own damn business cuz it was a work party but if I had seen the ppl outside of work....totally different story....hahaha...then again the behavior is not surprising cuz that's my dad...the type of person he is. My dad is so lame that he let my uncle tear my mother's self esteem apart and sat right next to her and then smartly my brother saw it and found me..I went and destroyed my uncle then my father went ape at me for it...and i said..you can't defend your own wife...your useless...which is probably a comment he took to heart. My uncle did get punked off badly..hehehehe...then his wife went postal at me...which I pointed out...he dished it out..my lame father let it happen....and I refuted it and if she did not like it, she could tell her worthless husband to stfu. I left and went home...
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