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You ever get that feeling....
Not sure how busy people make themselves or how much people decide to take on but you ever get that feeling that there is so much to do and there is just not enough feasible time to get it done?
maybe it's the new york mentality, the on the go or the multitasking we all are too familiar with. I mean come on, people walking from one place to another while reading a book, magazine, etc. it's the new york way isn't it?
sometimes i feel like it's too much...i think that sometimes, like life in the city compared to when i lived in queens. it's become so much more hectic, there is always deadlines and priorities and responsibilities, when will there ever be time for joy...
anyways...i want to see if people relate? maybe i make my life difficult and others choose to be less involved and are happy that way. for me it seems like i always have to be productive doing stuff having an agenda....it keeps me organized, focused, determined, and down right makes me feel good, but some times, it's too much.
now i'm not trying to boast about my life or anything, just that since it's the beginning of 2006, i've made some choices about what i wish to accomplish. maybe these goals are too aggressive, maybe im trying to get to some place that isn't for me right now...i need someone to talk sense to me, i need opinions and suggestions....criticism ok! but try not to be too harsh, i'm on the verge of a mental breakdown or shall we say...im gonna snap and blow up on someone who doesn't deserve it..
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| Originally posted by ride^snowboards Not sure how busy people make themselves or how much people decide to take on but you ever get that feeling that there is so much to do and there is just not enough feasible time to get it done? maybe it's the new york mentality, the on the go or the multitasking we all are too familiar with. I mean come on, people walking from one place to another while reading a book, magazine, etc. it's the new york way isn't it? sometimes i feel like it's too much...i think that sometimes, like life in the city compared to when i lived in queens. it's become so much more hectic, there is always deadlines and priorities and responsibilities, when will there ever be time for joy... anyways...i want to see if people relate? maybe i make my life difficult and others choose to be less involved and are happy that way. for me it seems like i always have to be productive doing stuff having an agenda....it keeps me organized, focused, determined, and down right makes me feel good, but some times, it's too much. now i'm not trying to boast about my life or anything, just that since it's the beginning of 2006, i've made some choices about what i wish to accomplish. maybe these goals are too aggressive, maybe im trying to get to some place that isn't for me right now...i need someone to talk sense to me, i need opinions and suggestions....criticism ok! but try not to be too harsh, i'm on the verge of a mental breakdown or shall we say...im gonna snap and blow up on someone who doesn't deserve it.. |
Well I'm fairly calm about the situation, just trying to compare myself to a different standard outside of what i believe to be true. maybe im taking life too fast? thats what my consideration is, that maybe i should be quitting my job, living with my parents, and still live the adolescence. maybe i shouldnt? yes those are extreme cases, but you get what i mean when i want to compare myself. it lets me think outside of what i have written down on my to-do list. like i look at my to-do list and i look at your to-do list and wonder why do you do the things you do and why do i do the things i do.
of course we are different people with different standards and objectives in life, but without comparison, how does one ground themselves? maybe im at a point in my life where i need to realize that i can only take on xxx amount of things because i begin to think i fall off on certain areas once i try to take on "over xxx amount of things". a good quote would be quality over quantity.
maybe it's a business mentality, where everything is an angle. everyone i talk to i see as green, or ideas that constantly run through my head. maybe i just want to be rich and have less priorities and less things to do because i can afford to not do them. i think i'll go play the lotto now...
I think the need to stay busy is something uniquely American that stems from our materialistic lifestyle and the fact that we are constantly comparing ourselves to others.
By constantly comparing ourselves to others - mostly subconciously -we see the supposed joy that material goods can bring and strive to achieve higher social and economic status which, we hope, will ultimately allow us to fulfill our materialistic desires. We believe the clearest path to higher status is hard work and long working hours so we try and keep ourselves as busy as possible in order to meet our lofty goals. If, however, we don't find ourselves busy, we begin to actively compare ourselves to others and push ourselves to become ever more busy. It's a vicious cycle.
So, many Americans push themselves hard, work long hours, and try to stay as busy as possible but ultimately do not like what they are doing since they sometimes do realize how ridiculous this entire rat race is.
What we really need to do is take a page from the Europeans and calm the fuck down. I'll take 35 hour work weeks and 6 weeks of vacation any day...
Those are my two cents. 
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| Originally posted by Choobak I think the need to stay busy is something uniquely American that stems from our materialistic lifestyle and the fact that we are constantly comparing ourselves to others. By constantly comparing ourselves to others - mostly subconciously -we see the supposed joy that material goods can bring and strive to achieve higher social and economic status which, we hope, will ultimately allow us to fulfill our materialistic desires. We believe the clearest path to higher status is hard work and long working hours so we try and keep ourselves as busy as possible in order to meet our lofty goals. If, however, we don't find ourselves busy, we begin to actively compare ourselves to others and push ourselves to become ever more busy. It's a vicious cycle. So, many Americans push themselves hard, work long hours, and try to stay as busy as possible but ultimately do not like what they are doing since they sometimes do realize how ridiculous this entire rat race is. What we really need to do is take a page from the Europeans and calm the fuck down. I'll take 35 hour work weeks and 6 weeks of vacation any day... Those are my two cents. |
I feel that way all the time. I handled it in my own way by eliminating the things that I do (whether I find them enjoyable or not) that are not essential to my everday life.
I stopped going out pretty much altogether unless absolutely necesarry but its at the cost of loosing touch with my friends but at the gain of being able to save more money to do important things.
I am focusing on keeping my finaces and spending more time with my family and in the end they are the ones that matter most anyway. I have more time to relax, I am not rushing in and out of the door anymore worrying about whether I will make it on time to my next meeting.
I am no longer the initiator. I let people call me, I call pretty much no one. When they call I invite them over and if they want to they can come see me if not im not gonna sweat it.
The result...I cant complain. Im not bored but im not overtired either, and I have more money in my pocket.
BTW why the name change?
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| Originally posted by ZzZ The Goddess I feel that way all the time. I handled it in my own way by eliminating the things that I do (whether I find them enjoyable or not) that are not essential to my everday life. I stopped going out pretty much altogether unless absolutely necesarry but its at the cost of loosing touch with my friends but at the gain of being able to save more money to do important things. I am focusing on keeping my finaces and spending more time with my family and in the end they are the ones that matter most anyway. I have more time to relax, I am not rushing in and out of the door anymore worrying about whether I will make it on time to my next meeting. I am no longer the initiator. I let people call me, I call pretty much no one. When they call I invite them over and if they want to they can come see me if not im not gonna sweat it. The result...I cant complain. Im not bored but im not overtired either, and I have more money in my pocket. |
as for maintaining friendships, as of December ive been looking long and hard at who I actually consider friends, and making effort to keep in contact with those i care MOST about. :] not so hard, i mean, we keep in touch Z don't we? 
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| Originally posted by ZzZ The Goddess BTW why the name change? |
LOL
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| Originally posted by Trance Addix Its all about feeling happy inside(I know its a cliche)--wheather its settling down with a loved one or working your ass off. If it makes you happy do it....thats my motto, and it works. |
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| Originally posted by Choobak That's a good way to live - but how do you know you wouldn't ultimately be happier doing something else? Hmmmm, I guess in the end, ignorance can be bliss... |
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| Originally posted by phoenixBEBE lol thats simple. he LOVES snowboarding, can't u tell? LOL |
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| Originally posted by Choobak I think the need to stay busy is something uniquely American that stems from our materialistic lifestyle and the fact that we are constantly comparing ourselves to others. By constantly comparing ourselves to others - mostly subconciously -we see the supposed joy that material goods can bring and strive to achieve higher social and economic status which, we hope, will ultimately allow us to fulfill our materialistic desires. We believe the clearest path to higher status is hard work and long working hours so we try and keep ourselves as busy as possible in order to meet our lofty goals. If, however, we don't find ourselves busy, we begin to actively compare ourselves to others and push ourselves to become ever more busy. It's a vicious cycle. So, many Americans push themselves hard, work long hours, and try to stay as busy as possible but ultimately do not like what they are doing since they sometimes do realize how ridiculous this entire rat race is. What we really need to do is take a page from the Europeans and calm the fuck down. I'll take 35 hour work weeks and 6 weeks of vacation any day... Those are my two cents. |
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| Originally posted by Taub i have to agree with you 101.09% When you travel you see how bad the american way of life is, but i am not saying the quality of life here is bad at all compared to others. But its that the stress level here is soo much higher than other places. I noticed this when i was in india, people are dirt poor but they are happy with what they have. They dont need the biggest house on the block, the fastest and most luxurious cars. They dont even have homes or own a car yet they are so much more happier than us and they are always smiling. I havent see any strangers on the street smile they all look pissed off. Another thing is that when the electricity goes out for a couple of hours people here would bitch whine and complain about it, but when it happens in india all the time and they just light up a candle and go on with their business and they might not even get it back for couple of days. When the internet connection or the tv or their cell phone doesnt work people freak out as if it was the end of their life. We depend up on too many things to make our life easier and i think thats very bad. The more we rely on technology the more stupid we become. Who here even memorizes telephone #s? i doubt many We have freedom in some ways but we really dont...we are like machines. We go to school for 18+ years and then we work for another 30+ years and look forward to retirment. I mean who wants to live like that??...most of us dont even take some time each day to just sit and relax to do nothing and then we wonder where all the time has gone or why they years are just pasing by. I meet many europeans in Goa who work for 6 months then go to india and have a vaction for another 6 months. Who wouldnt want to do that? I woudlnt mind doing it I understand we all have to work to make a living etc. But i rather make some money retire, go buy some land in brasil and live on the beach while working at a resturant. So simple Capitalism sucks! |
There's always something to do and business to take care of. It seems there will always be work, school, soccer practice, meetings to attend, piano lessons, doctors appointments, kids to pick up after school, bills to pay on time, papers to write, food to prepare et cetera. It seems we're always running from place to place to take care of things and trying to get things done as fast as possible so that perhaps if we're lucky, we can have 5 minutes to grab some coffee or a bite to eat.
Well since there will always be business to take care of, we make fun time no? If we never make fun time and we're always running around busy what happens? You wake up one day and you're like "holy shit i'm 30! ... HOLY SHIT I'M 50! ... ope, dead." The more busy you keep yourself, it seems, the faster life goes by. If you're feeling overwhelmed I'd probably suggest doing something to lighten your load so you can stop and smell the roses so to speak. Time doesn't change. Space evolves. The more rapidly you evolve the space around you, the less of a chance you'll get to really enjoy the things in that space and next thing you know ... old 
. Try to imagine lying in bed awake for a year straight. The year would seem to pass incredibly slowly because you're not really doing much with the space around you. On the same note if you're constantly busy without any kind of pauses or breaks, years will speed by. I'm actually dealing with the problem of finding some kind of middleground myself, but I'm sure it can be done. If not then ===> 
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| Originally posted by Trance Addix Capitalism has given us many options and oppurtunities--it has its benefits; but it is a double-edged sword. With capitalism comes competion, which ultimately makes everyone enemeis and raises the stress level dramatically. And I also noticed that there are a lot of corporate robots...America is great country statistically....living in it is a whole other story. With that said, I wouldn't want to go to anywhere else, I feel this country has done wonders for my family and I am thankful. |
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| Originally posted by Taub i have to agree with you 101.09% When you travel you see how bad the american way of life is, but i am not saying the quality of life here is bad at all compared to others. But its that the stress level here is soo much higher than other places. I noticed this when i was in india, people are dirt poor but they are happy with what they have. They dont need the biggest house on the block, the fastest and most luxurious cars. They dont even have homes or own a car yet they are so much more happier than us and they are always smiling. I havent see any strangers on the street smile they all look pissed off. Another thing is that when the electricity goes out for a couple of hours people here would bitch whine and complain about it, but when it happens in india all the time and they just light up a candle and go on with their business and they might not even get it back for couple of days. When the internet connection or the tv or their cell phone doesnt work people freak out as if it was the end of their life. We depend up on too many things to make our life easier and i think thats very bad. The more we rely on technology the more stupid we become. Who here even memorizes telephone #s? i doubt many We have freedom in some ways but we really dont...we are like machines. We go to school for 18+ years and then we work for another 30+ years and look forward to retirment. I mean who wants to live like that??...most of us dont even take some time each day to just sit and relax to do nothing and then we wonder where all the time has gone or why they years are just pasing by. I meet many europeans in Goa who work for 6 months then go to india and have a vaction for another 6 months. Who wouldnt want to do that? I woudlnt mind doing it I understand we all have to work to make a living etc. But i rather make some money retire, go buy some land in brasil and live on the beach while working at a resturant. So simple Capitalism sucks! |
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| Originally posted by matt167698 I read this story a few years back and i figured i would share... An American businessman stood at the pier of a small coastal village in Mexico, when a small boat carrying a lone Mexican fisherman docked. Inside the small boat were several large yellowfin tuna. The American complimented the Mexican on the quality of his fish and asked how long it took to catch them. The fisherman replied, �Only a little while.� The American then asked, �If it took only a little while to catch these fine fish, why didn't you stay out longer and catch more fish?� The fisherman explained that this catch was enough to support his family's immediate needs. The American then asked, �But what do you do with the rest of your time?� The fisherman replied, �I sleep late, fish a little, play with my children, take a siesta with my wife, and stroll into the village each evening, where I sip wine and play guitar with my amigos. I have a full and busy life, se�or.� The American scoffed, �I am a Harvard MBA and could help you. You should spend more time fishing and with the proceeds buy a bigger boat. With the proceeds from the bigger boat you could buy several boats. Eventually, you would have a fleet of fishing boats. Instead of selling your catch to a middleman you would sell directly to the processor, eventually opening your own cannery. You would control the product, processing, and distribution. You would need to leave this small coastal fishing village and move to Mexico City, then L.A., and eventually New York City, where you would run your expanding enterprise.� The fisherman asked, �But se�or, how long will this all take?� The American replied, �Fifteen to twenty years.� �But what then, se�or?� inquired the Mexican. The American laughed and said, �That's the best part. When the time is right, you would announce an IPO and sell your company stock to the public and become very rich. You would make millions.� �Millions, se�or? Then what?� asked the Mexican. The American said, �Why, then you would retire, of course�move to a small coastal fishing village where you could sleep late, fish a little, play with your kids, take a siesta with your wife, and stroll into the village in the evenings, where you could sip wine and play your guitar with your amigos.� .............................................................. I was actually re-reading this now and its funny because here we dont consider time alone or with friends as time-well spent. The only time we feel productive is when we're at work, which is good for our financial goals. but what about out emotional, spiritual, physical?? those all take a back seat to how much we have in the bank account or how flat our tv's are. |
Nice story, though I wouldn't be so quick to bash capitalism. Sounds like this Mexican guy is, in a sense, living paycheck to paycheck... which is of course, no way to live. I definately do agree though that it's important to enjoy life and to not become completely consumed by any one thing.
I find it kind of hard to keep up with all the fricking music being constantly released...but is worth it
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| Originally posted by Blake Nice story, though I wouldn't be so quick to bash capitalism. Sounds like this Mexican guy is, in a sense, living paycheck to paycheck... which is of course, no way to live. I definately do agree though that it's important to enjoy life and to not become completely consumed by any one thing. |
dude make time in your life to do absolutely nothing
I would say life is pretty confusing right now, just like yours, Brian. 
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| Originally posted by matt167698 I read this story a few years back and i figured i would share... An American businessman stood at the pier of a small coastal village in Mexico, when a small boat carrying a lone Mexican fisherman docked. Inside the small boat were several large yellowfin tuna. The American complimented the Mexican on the quality of his fish and asked how long it took to catch them. The fisherman replied, �Only a little while.� The American then asked, �If it took only a little while to catch these fine fish, why didn't you stay out longer and catch more fish?� The fisherman explained that this catch was enough to support his family's immediate needs. The American then asked, �But what do you do with the rest of your time?� The fisherman replied, �I sleep late, fish a little, play with my children, take a siesta with my wife, and stroll into the village each evening, where I sip wine and play guitar with my amigos. I have a full and busy life, se�or.� The American scoffed, �I am a Harvard MBA and could help you. You should spend more time fishing and with the proceeds buy a bigger boat. With the proceeds from the bigger boat you could buy several boats. Eventually, you would have a fleet of fishing boats. Instead of selling your catch to a middleman you would sell directly to the processor, eventually opening your own cannery. You would control the product, processing, and distribution. You would need to leave this small coastal fishing village and move to Mexico City, then L.A., and eventually New York City, where you would run your expanding enterprise.� The fisherman asked, �But se�or, how long will this all take?� The American replied, �Fifteen to twenty years.� �But what then, se�or?� inquired the Mexican. The American laughed and said, �That's the best part. When the time is right, you would announce an IPO and sell your company stock to the public and become very rich. You would make millions.� �Millions, se�or? Then what?� asked the Mexican. The American said, �Why, then you would retire, of course�move to a small coastal fishing village where you could sleep late, fish a little, play with your kids, take a siesta with your wife, and stroll into the village in the evenings, where you could sip wine and play your guitar with your amigos.� .............................................................. I was actually re-reading this now and its funny because here we dont consider time alone or with friends as time-well spent. The only time we feel productive is when we're at work, which is good for our financial goals. but what about out emotional, spiritual, physical?? those all take a back seat to how much we have in the bank account or how flat our tv's are. |
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| Originally posted by Trance Addix I really like that story, makes me think. |
Has anyone ever watched The Gods Must Be Crazy?
Those people were pretty damn happy until that freakin' Coke bottle landed in their village!
Some people are happy simply with what they have and don't need a lot of extraneous bullsh*t.
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| Originally posted by ride^snowboards Well I'm fairly calm about the situation, just trying to compare myself to a different standard outside of what i believe to be true. maybe im taking life too fast? thats what my consideration is, that maybe i should be quitting my job, living with my parents, and still live the adolescence. maybe i shouldnt? yes those are extreme cases, but you get what i mean when i want to compare myself. it lets me think outside of what i have written down on my to-do list. like i look at my to-do list and i look at your to-do list and wonder why do you do the things you do and why do i do the things i do. of course we are different people with different standards and objectives in life, but without comparison, how does one ground themselves? maybe im at a point in my life where i need to realize that i can only take on xxx amount of things because i begin to think i fall off on certain areas once i try to take on "over xxx amount of things". a good quote would be quality over quantity. maybe it's a business mentality, where everything is an angle. everyone i talk to i see as green, or ideas that constantly run through my head. maybe i just want to be rich and have less priorities and less things to do because i can afford to not do them. i think i'll go play the lotto now... |
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