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Posted by Slylee on Jan-08-2007 20:15:

Question for the guys...or girls too.

Do you think it�ll ruin my single life game if I have a guy roommate? My best friend called me up today and said that he and his gf are splitting (he lives with her in her house) and he wants to live in a condo on the beach like asap. He even offered to put up the move in money for us and I can pay him back whenever. I�ve known him since 4th grade and he�s the most laid back guy I know. No drama�minds his own business, funny as hell�doesn�t bitch about stuff.

Guys, if you are dating a chick and you really like her, and then you find out she lives with a guy, are you turned off or put off by it?

I'm torn between having my own place or having a roommate. Obviously I can have a much sicker place if I move in with him...like a place on the water.

Posted by stace on Jan-08-2007 20:16:

I'd say it wouldn't if you don't let it.

Posted by Halcyon+On+On on Jan-08-2007 20:17:

Any guy who has a major problem with it will probably turn out to be really jealous of something else later on down the road anyways...

Posted by medinaM5 on Jan-08-2007 20:18:

fuck buddy whenever u want!

Posted by Silky Johnson on Jan-08-2007 20:18:

If anything it'll be good for your "game". What kind of retard makes an issue of who you live with? A fucking psycho, that's who.

Posted by Moral Hazard on Jan-08-2007 20:18:

I don't think you'll ruin your game. Personally, I wouldn't give a rats ass initially. Now if the girl and the dude appear to have a somewhat more complicated relationship then simply that of roommates it will breed suspicion, however, I don't think that's a reason not to do it. Any guy who wouldn't trust you having a male roommate probably isn't the guy you want to be with anyway.

Posted by fmodena369 on Jan-08-2007 20:18:

new crib...sicker place on the water...more girls wit the new crib..go for it

Posted by Frenchie on Jan-08-2007 20:19:

If he doesn't trust you, he'll have a problem. It shouldn't hurt your game.

Posted by Xenocreator_PG_ on Jan-08-2007 20:21:

do it. He probably broke up with his girlfriend because he is gay.

Posted by Rinster on Jan-08-2007 20:22:

i would have no problem with it.. as long as i know the guy..

Posted by Slylee on Jan-08-2007 20:22:

yea that's true. it's just that a lot of people assume shit and i would hope that if i was dating a guy, he wouldn't assume we hook up.

Posted by medinaM5 on Jan-08-2007 20:23:

tbh it might sound legit as of now, but a guy and a girl living together can go downhill quickly

Posted by Slylee on Jan-08-2007 20:24:

oh and i guess i should mention that we DID at one point hook up...we were 19, so we're talking like 6 years ago. it was awkward and we didn't speak for months after it happened (we were hammered) and then we started talking again and never brought it up. we never talk about it and i don't look at him in a sexual way at all...i kinda get grossed out when i think of it actually. he's like a brother figure.

does that make it complicated?

Posted by david.michael on Jan-08-2007 20:25:

Was this the guy I recall you talking about considering being fuck buddies with?

edit- nm, just saw above post

Posted by Slylee on Jan-08-2007 20:26:

no way. but i think you were talking about the guy who was my prom date in high school right? yea, i got back in touch with him recently via myspace...that's a different guy and we never hooked up.

this guy is someone i've pretty much been in constant contact with since we were 9, with the exception of the few years i spent in japan. we're super close.

Posted by Ygrene on Jan-08-2007 20:26:

Just so long as he's not the kind of guy that eats the last of the Cap'n Crunch, you are good to go.

Posted by Xenocreator_PG_ on Jan-08-2007 20:27:

there will be plenty more oppotunities to get drunk together and both regret your actions the next day.

Posted by Zoso on Jan-08-2007 20:28:

Can't you ever make a simple topic, damnit? Go for it. Unless you date some psycho obsessive type later on, it shouldn't really be an issue.

Posted by Slylee on Jan-08-2007 20:29:

lol

Posted by bas on Jan-08-2007 20:31:

I say do it, if he's your best friend and there's not going to be any weird emotional issues then what's the harm? You probably have me on ignore or something right now so maybe this post doesn't matter

Posted by Slylee on Jan-08-2007 20:31:

quote:
Originally posted by dj_bas
I say do it, if he's your best friend and there's not going to be any weird emotional issues then what's the harm? You probably have me on ignore or something right now so maybe this post doesn't matter

no i don't. i just took you off my myspace friendslist

Posted by Halcyon+On+On on Jan-08-2007 20:32:

quote:
Originally posted by Slylee
oh and i guess i should mention that we DID at one point hook up...we were 19, so we're talking like 6 years ago. it was awkward and we didn't speak for months after it happened (we were hammered) and then we started talking again and never brought it up. we never talk about it and i don't look at him in a sexual way at all...i kinda get grossed out when i think of it actually. he's like a brother figure.

does that make it complicated?

Yeah, um, that sounds complicated. If I were your boyfriend, I definitely wouldn't want to hear stuff like that. I know you are thinking now that anyone you bring home or date really doesn't have to know about it, but these little complications have a way of coming full circle. In fact, pretty much everything has its own way of coming full circle, take that as you will.

Posted by jdat on Jan-08-2007 20:33:

Jamie if you score a relationship ( or whatever ) with a guy who turns out to be a jealous freak because of your roommate situation you need to dump him asap.

Considering the economics involved with renting a place it's only normal that most people have to live with a roommate at some stage in their life.

I say go for it. It doesn't ruin your game one single bit. It may not play in your favor but in 99% of cases it should have no negative effect in being in a relationship.

Posted by grooviebeats on Jan-08-2007 20:35:

with your history with him.. if it was me and i moved in with you no doubt id try to hit it again. that is about all you have to watch out for.

Posted by Slylee on Jan-08-2007 20:37:

quote:
Originally posted by Halcyon+On+On
Yeah, um, that sounds complicated. If I were your boyfriend, I definitely wouldn't want to hear stuff like that. I know you are thinking now that anyone you bring home or date really doesn't have to know about it, but these little complications have a way of coming full circle. In fact, pretty much everything has its own way of coming full circle, take that as you will.

but that's not anything i would ever tell any guy i'm with. i learned my lesson with an ex. he had a major problem with me talking to this guy and there is no way i'm going to let that happen again. i would seriously die for this kid. our families are super close, we just go way back and what happened between us was so silly and meaningless, i would rather just forget about it myself. why bring it up? "oh honey, this is my best friend...we hooked up 6 years ago, but it was nothing"

i would rather not know if a guy i was dating had a similar situation.

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