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Jealousy....

So... I have never been the jealous type. I always figure, "meh, he's coming home with me later. Some floosie trying to hit on my boy wont change that".

I still think this, but for some reason, with my new boy, I find myself getting these minor, but still existing, bouts of jealousy. I never act on it, or say/do anything, but I still feel this irritation.

Saturday night my boy and I went to the bar to meet up with some friends. Some girl came up to my boy, hugged him, and proceeded to chat to him. I was out of earshot.

I could tell this girl was into him, and I didn't know who she was, so I decided to come over and introduce myself. Anyway, I could tell she didn't like me *the girlfriend snub*, and I could tell she was all about my guy. It REALLY pissed me off. I wanted to tell the little bitch to fuck off.

The weird part is, like I said, I have never been the jealous type, and my boy wasn't responding well to her or anything. In fact, he was very reassuring *put his hand on me when talking to her*.

He told me later that they used to work together, and she was always trying to get with him. I could sense that.

Anyway... I am wondering if you other ladies are like this? I have NEVER experienced this protective/jealous feeling before, so I don't know whether I should let it bother me, or if it's a normal thing to get aggravated.

Occasionally, but never seriously. My husband won't walk out on me with someone else without telling me first, and if that's what he wants, so be it.

i never really get jealous
idk what it is
its definitely normal and to be expected (from both sides) early in a relationship though, i wouldn't worry about it
it just means you really like him

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Originally posted by mezzir i never really get jealous idk what it is its definitely normal and to be expected (from both sides) early in a relationship though, i wouldn't worry about it it just means you really like him

It's a foreign response for me... like I said, I am not one to let that really bother me, but for some reason, I was seathing on Saturday. Her dismissing me probably added fuel to the fire. Stupid bitch.

LOL!

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Originally posted by Theresa It's a foreign response for me... like I said, I am not one to let that really bother me, but for some reason, I was seathing on Saturday. Her dismissing me probably added fuel to the fire. Stupid bitch. LOL!

hah you're adorable when you're angry

seriously though, if anything, i'd read that as a sign of endearment
as long as the jealousy isn't harboring any negative affects, it shouldn't really be a problem

out of curiosity, if he explained who she was and checked if you'd mind if they got lunch sometime just the two of them to catch up, what would you say?

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Originally posted by Theresa It's a foreign response for me... like I said, I am not one to let that really bother me, but for some reason, I was seathing on Saturday. Her dismissing me probably added fuel to the fire. Stupid bitch. LOL!

I know exactly how you feel, T. I've only felt this way once before...and it wasn't my bf I felt it towards...it was the stupid whore who clearly got off on knowing it was bothering me. I can't stand disrespectful scandalous whores like that. Cunt.

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Originally posted by mezzir hah you're adorable when you're angry seriously though, if anything, i'd read that as a sign of endearment as long as the jealousy isn't harboring any negative affects, it shouldn't really be a problem out of curiosity, if he explained who she was and checked if you'd mind if they got lunch sometime just the two of them to catch up, what would you say?

Ermm... I would say "why would you want to go to lunch with a girl who clearly wants in your pants to catch up, when you don't even like her that much to begin with?"

Then depending on his response.. I might say that I cared, or didn't care.

But seriously... why would he want to go to lunch with her? I would hope that he wouldn't be a dumbass in the first place about something like that.

Jen... it IS the little bitches. They are so evil! They just love to see the girlfriend all pissed off, and "innocently" flirt with your boy.

Oh!! She said to him "why don't you visit me at work anymore?"

I was so tempted to be like... "because most of the time he is busy with me you little ho bag."

Gah!

Yeah well, some bitches need to hit on other chicks' bf's...cause they're either too lazy or not good enough to catch one of their own, so really, I feel sorry for them. Poor skanks.

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Originally posted by Theresa Ermm... I would say "why would you want to go to lunch with a girl who clearly wants in your pants to catch up, when you don't even like her that much to begin with?" Then depending on his response.. I might say that I cared, or didn't care. But seriously... why would he want to go to lunch with her? I would hope that he wouldn't be a dumbass in the first place about something like that.

nononono
here's the trick part...this is only if he asks you. if he goes ahead without asking your opinion or anything, then yeah say that. but if he asks you if you'd mind, then its obvious he acknowledges it might hurt your feelings, and then just be honest and say what you think

still, i wouldn't sulk over it or anything

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Originally posted by mezzir nononono here's the trick part...this is only if he asks you. if he goes ahead without asking your opinion or anything, then yeah say that. but if he asks you if you'd mind, then its obvious he acknowledges it might hurt your feelings, and then just be honest and say what you think still, i wouldn't sulk over it or anything

I seriously doubt he would... but if he did want to, I would tell him straight up that I didn't like the chick, and that it would bug me, but I am not his owner or anything, so if he wants to, he is more than welcome.

One thing I will never be is controlling. I will be honest about how I feel, but I will never demand someone to do what I want them to do if they want to otherwise (with the exception of the bedroom ).

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Originally posted by Theresa I seriously doubt he would... but if he did want to, I would tell him straight up that I didn't like the chick, and that it would bug me, but I am not his owner or anything, so if he wants to, he is more than welcome. One thing I will never be is controlling. I will be honest about how I feel, but I will never demand someone to do what I want them to do if they want to otherwise (with the exception of the bedroom ).

you passed teh mezzir relationship quiz!

girls are fucked up like that

it happend to me once when i was at the bar with my gf. This girl came up to me and grabbed my balls right in front of her.

i said to my gf. "did you see that? she grabbed my balls!, you should do something about it!"

id like to also note that girls never approach me in the bar when im single.

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Originally posted by Theresa I have NEVER experienced this protective/jealous feeling before, so I don't know whether I should let it bother me, or if it's a normal thing to get aggravated.

Yeah it's normal, behaving civilised, seething hostility, making a scene with lots of loud shrieking or kicking a chunk out of her ass is up to you (I can't fight worth a damn so I usually settle for seething hostility and dividing the conversation by being assertive)
Course the other half has to know what you're comfortable with as well.

I'm jealous of Theresa red hair.

I say jealousy is part of life, you just have to learn how to go about discussing it with your partner, granted honesty is on your side.

I dont care how open you are...there is always going to be someone that comes along and makes that feeling come out of you...

i get jealous when im out with my girlfriend in the clubs and pubs when i see dudes talking to her, makes me wanna go over there and smash bottles over their heads and get violent

but im a happy person really.

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Originally posted by KilldaDJ i get jealous when im out with my girlfriend in the clubs and pubs when i see dudes talking to her, makes me wanna go over there and smash bottles over their heads and get violent but im a happy person really.

+1
i once really got into a fight, nothing too serious couple of punches here and there, gf told me that im stupid :[
well, afterwards she told me she was proud of me, but that im still stupid :[

kind of wierd cuz before i used to be a very jealous person

now im with my new boyfriend it's different im not worry ,and he knows worry either about my feelings toward him



it's the first time for both of us we are involved in something that serious and we both feel confident about our relationship

and if in the worst case something happens....it's not by being jealous that i'll manage to prevent anything

theres different extremes of jealousy
i think i fall into the catagory of.... he can never speak to his ex gf again

otherwise he can do what he likes, within reason

I'm not really jealous, although my girlfriend felt really uncomfortable at times, because she wanted me to be jealous, and I just wouldn't do it... then I started to "look jealous" for her, but only because that's a way of showing her I care "in her language"

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Originally posted by CranberryJuice kind of wierd cuz before i used to be a very jealous person now im with my new boyfriend it's different im not worry

i remember when you got jealous of jason and i

it was kinda silly but i remember i got jealous of my last gf when i saw old pics of her with in a short leather mini with a bunch of guys at a club before she met me.

i have never had a problem with my bf with this situation. and if some pretty girl was to talk to him, i would just sit back and observe. if she was being RUDE about it, blatantly being disrespectful then i would call her out on it and i wouldn't get jealous. it's actually funny when someone tries to pull moves like that because he/she is looking like an idiot. your gf/bf is wth YOU. call me crazy, that's just how i am.

one time this chick was trying to make some moves on him when i was right there and he was nice but he never flirted back, he just kind of ignored her. i was laughing on the inside. as long as your bf/gf doesn't act disrespectful to you about it, then i see no problems.

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Originally posted by AndreaCKY772 i have never had a problem with my bf with this situation. and if some pretty girl was to talk to him, i would just sit back and observe. if she was being RUDE about it, blatantly being disrespectful then i would call her out on it and i wouldn't get jealous. it's actually funny when someone tries to pull moves like that because he/she is looking like an idiot. your gf/bf is wth YOU. call me crazy, that's just how i am. one time this chick was trying to make some moves on him when i was right there and he was nice but he never flirted back, he just kind of ignored her. i was laughing on the inside. as long as your bf/gf doesn't act disrespectful to you about it, then i see no problems.

well put, although this is much easier to say when you're in a secure relationship and have been for a while

This always happens at a clubs... a guy will go up to your girl and ask 'who are you here with?' as one of the first couple of questions - then take off once they see they're taken - or - put on a fake smile and pretend to want to meet you (lollers).

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