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my sister just called me to tell me that my dad is disappointed in me because i only called his wife "yesterday" (actually, i called saturday morning) to see how she's doing since her younger brother died last week.

i also got her a sympathy card on sunday and just filled it out earlier today (ironically enough) and planned on dropping it in the mail tomorrow.

i've never fucking liked this woman, she has nerver really been there for me. all she does is spend my dad's money and sit on her fat ass, and not only that, but my dad has done nothing but "disappoint" me for the past 5 years. she has caused stupid fights between my dad and my sister and i over the past few years and my dad just let's her.

i've been civil to her out of respect for my dad, but i don't like her at all, and all of a sudden i'm supposed to be her best friend because her brother died?

am i a piece of shit here? i don't get it.

should i have called the very next day, or put more effort into this? to be honest, i didn't want to call her right away because she was a wreck probably and i don't know how i'd act if she started crying on the phone.

i can't fucking stand this woman.

Did you tell him that?

Edit: He should understand that you don't like the one he's interested in. She isn't blood relations so why should he be mad if you don't like her. He should be trying to fix things between the two of you instead. (going by what you said about him being there for you)

no matter how obnoxious she is, when people die, that doesn't really matter. .02

I'm sure she's getting enough sympathy already, and if she needs more, tell her to look in the dictionary between shit and syphilis.



Seriously though, it's not your responsibility to pet this woman on the head and make everything "groovy" again. If you don't like her, you don't like her.



Edit: OK, I'm not really this cold - but I still think the fact that you called at all should mean more than when and where you did. I still think you really didn't even [b]have[/b[ to call at all..

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Originally posted by inconspicuous no matter how obnoxious she is, when people die, that doesn't really matter. .02

+1

But I do understand how you feel. Its kind of one of those things where you wonder if she would even want to hear from you anyways.

it's pretty much understood, but when i visit them, you would never think there's anything wrong. we're both very pleasant to each other but it's just kinda phony and i go through episodes of hating her and then i'll see them and i'm like, "ehh, she's not that bad" but she does play stupid games and she is a gold digger phony.

i'm just saying, she never picks up the phone to call me and i never call her. we're just not friends like that or cool like that. i waited a few days so she could calm down and be with her family (she flew to florida to be with her family right away) and i figured, "ok i'll let her calm down a bit before i call her" and i did. i left a voicemail and didn't hear back from her, so that's when i decided to get her a sympathy card. and i'm not just saying this either, but i swear iw as going to call either her again or my dad tomorrow cuz i was wondering how everyone was.

but now that my sister told me that my dad said that i'm really upset.

You're not in the wrong here, imo. You STILL called, you sent( are sending) a card. What does she want? For you to get n bended knee to grieve? I mean YES, it's respectful to give sympathy to whom ever, but what else are you to do? You live a busy life, and you don't always have time to the unimportant ones lol

She sounds like a bitch.

Maybe you need to call your dad and explain. It might make you feel better.

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Originally posted by Slylee but now that my sister told me that my dad said that i'm really upset.

It's really fucking weak that they said anything at all. Like I said, it's not your responsibility to comfot this woman - the fact that you did anything at all should mean something to your dad.

There's really no reason for anyone to be making you feel shit about this.

well he mentioned that i just called "yesterday" and didn't leave a voicemail, and i totally did and i called 2 days ago. and my sister is a fucking family gossip, so it's really hard to trust anything she says.

i should just call him now right?

that gets my vote.

what? to call him now?

yeah

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Originally posted by Slylee what? to call him now?

Yep.

You know what you want to say, you know how you feel about it.

do iiiiiiiiit.


don't forget to let us know how it went.

You're not in the wrong, Jamie. But give your dad a call anyway and talk things out. People simply become over-emotional when they lose a loved one.

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Originally posted by Zoso You're not in the wrong, Jamie. But give your dad a call anyway and talk things out. People simply become over-emotional when they lose a loved one.

Ya but it's not even HER who is all hoopllaa about it, it's her dad. If she has a problem, she should say something to Jamie, not talk through the dad.

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Originally posted by Zoso You're not in the wrong, Jamie. But give your dad a call anyway and talk things out. People simply become over-emotional when they lose a loved one.

yup

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Originally posted by Frenchie Ya but it's not even HER who is all hoopllaa about it, it's her dad. If she has a problem, she should say something to Jamie, not talk through the dad.

I was basing that on "dad is disappointed". But I get what you mean. I HATE middle-manning shit.

I say fuck it, let them think whatever

but I'm not big in to family

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Originally posted by Frenchie Ya but it's not even HER who is all hoopllaa about it, it's her dad. If she has a problem, she should say something to Jamie, not talk through the dad.

exactly. she's done that since day 1 which is why i have zero respect for her. i've gotten a few emails in the past (not recently but when they first got married) that were COMPLETELY out of character for my dad. i know my dad better than anyone and those emails were HER beef, not his. it was so annoying.

we've only had 2 major confronations and it was like 4-5 years ago. she made my sister's husband feel stupid for buying her a wedding ring that wasn't a tiffany's ring. honestly, ever since i put my foot down and told her that was unacceptable and that she owed my family an apology, there's been tension.

but whatever, that's besides the point.

i just called my dad and i got really upset talking to him but i apologized. he started lecturing me about how i've never been good about dealing with these things and brought up a time when his pilot friend died in a crash when we were living in japan. i dont even remember that!! i guess i didn't go to the funeral then because i was scared.

what the fuck did that have to do with anything? it was like he was trying to justify my actions, when really, it's just because i don't like her and can't find it in me to be phony and call her up and give her a shoulder to cry on. i've been to funerals and it sucks, but i'm not one of those people who can't deal with death or can't comfort someone who is grieving. i'm actually really good at that, just not with phony bitches i don't like or respect.

but whatever, i didn't say any of that, i just apologized to him and then called her AGAIN and left ANOTHER voicemail.

I wouldn't have even left a message.

but I'm just cold like that.

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Originally posted by Frenchie I wouldn't have even left a message. but I'm just cold like that.

yea well i'm only doing it because of my dad. whatever i'm probably just more emotional about this because i'm PMSing. i'll be over it in the morning.

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Originally posted by Frenchie I wouldn't have even left a message. but I'm just cold like that.

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Originally posted by Frenchie The more you try and make yourself seem big, the smaller you really are. Talk on buddy, talk on.

You fuckin' knob, I'm not trying. I'm just a bitch.

frogs usually say ribb-it.

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