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Posted by stk on Apr-18-2002 01:44:

Unhappy its been already 2 months, and my heart is still broken...

Me and my girlfriend has been dating for a year, and we loved each other so much..or so i thought... She broken up with me 2 months ago saying "i lost interest in u" straight out to me..i had gave up everything and gave my all to her..my love...my tears.....my commitment...myself... Its been 2 months, but everyday i goto bed with tears in my eyes and wake up with very dry eyes thinking of my ex...i love her so much..i try so hard to let her go..but its impossible...she was the most precious thing that ever came into my life....i've been depressed for 2months, every time i listen to trance, i cry..i duno why ..it reminds me of her...i even made new friends, started to work out, get a job, go out with friends, but the memories me and my girlfriend shared is permanently scarred in my broken heart...

Ugh..sorry for sounding "gay" but i just have to let out my feelings...every time i see my ex, i get tears, i want to hug her so much, but see just doesnt see me that way...


Posted by davinox on Apr-18-2002 01:48:

wow...that's really horrible.

she must have not REALLY loved you... imagine if you married her... she'd divorce you whenever she got tired of you.

all i can say is you have the whole rest of your life to go, and i'll be damned if you don't find another girl.

by the way, it's not gay to talk about your girlfriend. that would be an oxymoron.


Posted by Sarcoman on Apr-18-2002 01:51:

Ive been through shit like that too. I was crazy about this girl that I was dating. We were only going out for three months, and then she told me she loved me. Everything seemed to be going well, when all of a sudden, she didnt call me one night (we spoke just about every night). Then She didnt call for a week. Its been a few years now..

Dont get me wrong.. I got over it.. and im sure you will to. I wish you the best.


Posted by Stilez on Apr-18-2002 01:56:

try this on for size.

I went out with my ex for 4 yrs...(ring & all)... she ended it. WE got back together for 3 months after the initial break up.. then she broke up with me again... through EMAIL. It's been 1 yr since the initial break up.. and I still can't get over her. She's gone through a few guys already...and I still haven't dated 1 girl yet. But I've learned to accept it... things happen in life for a reason m8.. keep your head up... and know that it could be worse. BELIEVE me ..it could. Don't go rush out to look for someone to replace her... just to fill that empty void...u'll only end up hurting that person...and yourself even more. Take it from me.

The memories will always be there...and it's okay to cry and feel hurt. U're allowed to feel that way, not only girls. I'm not ashamed to admit that I balled my eyes out for mths...and I mean mths over my ex. I still think of her alot, but just knowing that if it's meant to be it will be. Maybe not now...but one day. U just have to continue.. and know that everything will be alright.

"It is better to have loved, than not to have loved at all." Although it hurts when the love leaves or is gone... cherish the experience.


Posted by AnotherWay83 on Apr-18-2002 02:18:

im not expert in this stuff but if u're really having SUCH a hard time then maybe u're depressed (in the clinical sense), u should get sum help i think, other than that all i can say is good luck!


Posted by TeKnoHe@d2025 on Apr-18-2002 02:36:

Yeah, I know how it is...my gf broke up with me about a month ago claiming "she's too busy for a boyfriend right now". I don't exactly know what that means (any girls care to explain?) but we still talk and everything.


Posted by ali92 on Apr-18-2002 02:55:

Doesn't that SUCK?: BIG TIME! I know how u feel because something similar happened 2 me about a year ago and the worst thing was that afterwards, I still saw her EVERY DAY for the next 3 months (school) and at this point, I don't know when I'll have a girl again (EVERY American that I know HATES Trance/Techno because they say "IT'S BORING" and they can't stand it (they like Rap/R+B/Hip Hop/Rock/Pop and all of the other "MTV USA" stuff). It's not like they say "it's allright" or "if you like it, that's all that counts" but, these people say to me: "I CAN'T SEE HOW YOU CAN LISTEN TO THAT SHIT FOR DAYS ON END NONSTOP!"

I get VERY mad when people comment like this. What if they got the same comment about their music? I bet they wouldn't like it that much either...


Posted by speedracer_mec on Apr-18-2002 02:59:

Sad ugh

girls...girls ...girls....tooo much for me to handle...they are complex and make me cry


Posted by extulas on Apr-18-2002 03:00:

Re: its been already 2 months, and my heart is still broken...

quote:
Originally posted by stk
Me and my girlfriend has been dating for a year, and we loved each other so much..or so i thought... She broken up with me 2 months ago saying "i lost interest in u" straight out to me..i had gave up everything and gave my all to her..my love...my tears.....my commitment...myself... Its been 2 months, but everyday i goto bed with tears in my eyes and wake up with very dry eyes thinking of my ex...i love her so much..i try so hard to let her go..but its impossible...she was the most precious thing that ever came into my life....i've been depressed for 2months, every time i listen to trance, i cry..i duno why ..it reminds me of her...i even made new friends, started to work out, get a job, go out with friends, but the memories me and my girlfriend shared is permanently scarred in my broken heart...

Ugh..sorry for sounding "gay" but i just have to let out my feelings...every time i see my ex, i get tears, i want to hug her so much, but see just doesnt see me that way...


Join the club. Hey, Lets get together and find some girls!


Posted by extulas on Apr-18-2002 03:02:

quote:
Originally posted by TeKnoHe@d2025
Yeah, I know how it is...my gf broke up with me about a month ago claiming "she's too busy for a boyfriend right now". I don't exactly know what that means (any girls care to explain?) but we still talk and everything.


Basically, We can be friends, But expect me to be showing off another guy soon.


Posted by Damo on Apr-18-2002 03:03:

sometimes you just gotta slap yourself in the face, pretend to be macho and move on with things. crying about her's not going to bring her back. feeling the way you're feeling is natural, but so is being homocidal. i recommend lots of porno, cigarettes, beer, and a few one night stands, and you should forget about this broad in no time.


Posted by drizzt81 on Apr-18-2002 03:54:

quote:
Originally posted by Damo
sometimes you just gotta slap yourself in the face, pretend to be macho and move on with things. crying about her's not going to bring her back. feeling the way you're feeling is natural, but so is being homocidal. i recommend lots of porno, cigarettes, beer, and a few one night stands, and you should forget about this broad in no time.


good idea..
yet i understand STK pretty well too. sometimeseven porn and beer won't really help..


Posted by Werewolf on Apr-18-2002 04:03:

hey, it will be long msg, but I think it may help u a little...

I had my worst experience with a girl 2 years ago:

We started dating at the beginning of 2001. But b4 that, I was thinking of her day&night for 5 months. Anyways, I finally started dating her, (no need to mention how much I loved her) and we were together for 6 months. I had so many serious plans for the future...I cared for her more than anything. Even though I dated b4 that with many other girls, she was the first one I loved. I spent best part of my life during this period. After 5-6 months, she said that I was pushing her too much, calling her too often etc. and broke up.

m8, it took me 1 year to forget about her, I ruined my first year at college, had so many debates with my family and best friends. I couldnt sleep for days, cried whenever she came to my mind. At the end, I realized that she didnt care at all, while I was suffering. And I made up my mind, not to talk her again. I know it sounds stupid, but I just dont wanna see or talk to her anymore.

Everyone is gonna tell u now: Dont bother, forget about her, stuff like that. So am I.
But that doesn't help, I know...the only thing that helps is time...


Posted by Kevin Rx on Apr-18-2002 04:15:

I read your post, and all i gotta say is, its all for the best. the same thing happeened to me and i was crushed, however it was a blessing is disguise. i started working out, lost like 20 pounds, met this beautiful chick( my current GF), and had more time to realize what I wanted out of life. So I know it feels bad now, but dont give up hope. the best is yet to come.


Peace


Posted by infinity HiGH on Apr-18-2002 04:57:

Oh man, I know how you feel. I felt the same way about this one girl...only in my situation...we never got to be together I was giving her time, we got closer and closer, we were practically a couple...I loved her so much...gave her everything...my love, my heart, trust, emotions...and then...I don't know what happend...but, she said, it won't work...I was devastated...I couldn't accept that...she turned into a complete bitch towards me...I hated her for that...but, I understand now, why she did that. I miss her so much...but, I try not to think about it at all. Its a great memory, that I try not to think about, because then I'll get depressed...I never cried about a person in my life, not when my grandma died...or when my parents got divorced officially, or when I found out how much my dad lied to my mom...and shattered all my hopes of them getting back together...but, I cried about her...she was the only thing I cared for in my damn life...maybe, she'll change her mind someday. We would've been amazing together...I know it.

Now, my love in life is something that we all share...and that is trance...*sigh*.... Cheer up man, things will get better, sooner or later. I know it's hard...but, try to avoid her...that might help...try not thinking about her. All the best for you

quote:
Originally posted by stk
Ugh..sorry for sounding "gay" but i just have to let out my feelings...every time i see my ex, i get tears, i want to hug her so much, but see just doesnt see me that way...


There's nothing gay about that


Posted by Damo on Apr-18-2002 05:00:

....nice guys do finish last.


Posted by Jah on Apr-18-2002 05:01:

wtf this is exactly what happened to me (except differant reasons) and its about 2 months too for me! dude i know how you feel...
chuck us a pm if you ever wanna chat sometimes its good to talk to someone who understands..... if you know what i mean i thought we were so in love and then one day some goon who she dated a long time ago but cheated on her comes back on the scene and thats it were over... she didnt want to admit it but she finally did a few weeks after... it cut me in 2 i go through these times where i think everythings ok and it wiill work out and other times i just feel shit all i want is to hold her again... sometiems i get really angry at her but at the end of the day i just miss her so much you feel so cheated because i honestly felt she felt the same way... maybe she did for a while... argh its so fucking bullshit i guess thats why it helps to talk to someone who understands because theres so much you wanna say and so much you just cant get across because you have to be there.....

im so shocked out of the like sheer similarity this is like EXACTLY how i feel and how things have been... weird...


Posted by Jah on Apr-18-2002 05:02:

quote:
Originally Posted by Damo : ....nice guys do finish last.

no shit, i fucking hate that.


Posted by elena on Apr-18-2002 05:07:

sadly nice guys do finish last...
i definitely know waht it is like to have your heart broken..into tiny pieces but i didnt let him know that he did that to me...he waltzes around as if everything were okay and of course i play a long...but its hard..time will heal theres nothing you can do about it but suffer...


Posted by Jah on Apr-18-2002 05:07:

quote:
i even made new friends, started to work out

omg dude this just get so weird you are like describing my life exactly im really getting freaked out!!!
(although ive been really slack goin lately!)
on a brighter note im getting decks soon tho thats kinda kept my mind of it... but it will come back...
im somewhere in between really hurt and just fucking fed up with all relationships/women (im not gay.)

i think the hardest part is just thinking how much i love her and miss her but she obviously didnt because this guy turns up on the scene once and suddenly im completly cut off... i never dreamed stuff would end up like this i guess i make her sound like a real bitch and waht she did was so not cool but she was also a really loving caring and precious girl and i miss her to bits...... thats what hurts


Posted by AnotherWay83 on Apr-18-2002 05:09:

quote:
Originally posted by Damo
....nice guys do finish last.


exactly the moral of this thread


Posted by Jah on Apr-18-2002 05:12:

quote:
exactly the moral of this thread

you know i used to hear this ALL the time and i was like yeah but i never REALLY believed it but slowly unfortounatly i think its being hammered into my brain... im really looking to lach onto something that proves otherwise... but i dunno... just doesnt seem like thats gonna happen.... and that really annoys me why the fuck is life like that! argh!

sorry


Posted by drizzt81 on Apr-18-2002 05:38:

quote:
Originally posted by Kevin Rx
I read your post, and all i gotta say is, its all for the best. the same thing happeened to me and i was crushed, however it was a blessing is disguise. i started working out, lost like 20 pounds, met this beautiful chick( my current GF), and had more time to realize what I wanted out of life. So I know it feels bad now, but dont give up hope. the best is yet to come.


Peace


hey that is funny.. same thing happened to me

(i lost 30 lbs, but that is a minor difference.. i am soo much happier now)

then again, it was I who broke up with her, who was too pushy..


Posted by Waxen on Apr-18-2002 05:49:

Thumbs down

Aww... honey... IT SUCKS I KNOW!!!!!...
I think most of us here have been through some sort of break up where it has effected them.. and for a long time! In your case.. two months isn't that bad.. time is everything. I want to ask you a question though.. you said that "everytime I see her, it hurts".. why are you seeing her?... You honestly just have to think about it.. like, if she just broke up with you because she lost interest then that is her problem.. NOT YOU!!!! and I think that is where the problem lies for you.. thinking that it was your fault because she lost interest. It HAS to go both ways.. or it will never work.. in your case.. it would have never worked out, because she obviously needed too much from you, and you gave her everything you said. Believe me, things will get better.. they always do.. just remember that ever
EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON! And usually when something like this happens.. bigger and better things come along.. especially to those who deserve them (you). I wish you the best of luck..

~S~


Posted by stk on Apr-18-2002 05:59:

thx everyone for your replies, you guys really made me feel betteR!! i thought i was the only one that went thru this ...


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