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Posted by Nostalgic on Aug-11-2008 18:37:

Making new friends/meeting new people outside your social circle

So I graduated from university last year, moved and work back home where I've lived for 15 years, hang out with the same junior high schoo/high school people who are pretty cliquey and aren't interested in really meeting anybody else. Right now I'm kinda bored with same people over and over, but I'm just finding it hard making new friends...I dunno. Work isn't really an option, all my coworkers are married have kids etc, tried taking random classes, just hasn't worked out. Anybody else have this same problem?

Posted by sweds00 on Aug-11-2008 18:42:

Roadside rest areas are a good place to start

Posted by chrisday on Aug-11-2008 19:00:

Join a team?... Easiest way to meet people. Go to the gym you will meet people there.

Posted by Kinezi on Aug-11-2008 19:05:

You should join foreign language learning classes.. they are good way to make new freinds as it involves group involvment.

Posted by Dr. DAS on Aug-11-2008 19:23:

quote:
Originally posted by Kinezi
You should join foreign language learning classes.. they are good way to make new freinds as it involves group involvment.

Plus, there's bound to be at least one hot, young, naive foreign girl there who's just screaming to be exploited.

Posted by EXTREMUM on Aug-11-2008 19:34:

quote:
Originally posted by Dr. DAS
Plus, there's bound to be at least one hot, young, naive foreign girl there who's just screaming to be exploited.

Either French, or Brazilian.

Posted by SuspicionVandit on Aug-11-2008 19:35:

craigslist

Posted by kadomony on Aug-11-2008 19:56:

talk to people everywhere. it may be tough at first but talk EVERYWHERE.

some of the girls i'm seeing now i met on my way to dunkin donuts across the street. DUNKIN DONUTS for chrissake!

Posted by chimera66 on Aug-11-2008 19:59:

seriously join groups of things you like...join an adult kickball league like one of my friends did or do happy hour with people at work. there might be people in other departments who are young and fun.

Posted by Scoops on Aug-11-2008 20:00:

hang out the DMV

got to random Funerals

Posted by chimera66 on Aug-11-2008 20:00:

quote:
Originally posted by kadomony
talk to people everywhere. it may be tough at first but talk EVERYWHERE.

some of the girls i'm seeing now i met on my way to dunkin donuts across the street. DUNKIN DONUTS for chrissake!

you must be a pimp sam

Posted by kadomony on Aug-11-2008 21:23:

quote:
Originally posted by chimera66
you must be a pimp sam

i wish they paid me

Posted by l�cid on Aug-11-2008 21:30:

adultfriendfinder.com worked for me.

Posted by Krypton on Aug-11-2008 21:37:

Re: Making new friends/meeting new people outside your social circle

quote:
Originally posted by Nostalgic
So I graduated from university last year, moved and work back home where I've lived for 15 years, hang out with the same junior high schoo/high school people who are pretty cliquey and aren't interested in really meeting anybody else. Right now I'm kinda bored with same people over and over, but I'm just finding it hard making new friends...I dunno. Work isn't really an option, all my coworkers are married have kids etc, tried taking random classes, just hasn't worked out. Anybody else have this same problem?

Humans are a tribal species, and in an age where everyone lives in close proximity to everyone else, this tribal tendency manifests itself in "cliques." You're friends are uncomfortable with associating with members of other "tribes". Your tribe seems to not be meeting your social needs. Play a sport or something.

Posted by Krypton on Aug-11-2008 21:37:

quote:
Originally posted by l�cid
adultfriendfinder.com worked for me.

Did you really meet people through there? Please share..

Posted by kadomony on Aug-11-2008 21:42:

Re: Re: Making new friends/meeting new people outside your social circle

quote:
Originally posted by Krypton
Humans are a tribal species, and in an age where everyone lives in close proximity to everyone else, this tribal tendency manifests itself in "cliques." You're friends are uncomfortable with associating with members of other "tribes". Your tribe seems to not be meeting your social needs. Play a sport or something.

actually, egoic behavior is what causes cliques and opposing groups.

Posted by whiskers on Aug-11-2008 22:30:

I hate cliques. They alienate you from a number of interesting and potentially amazing individuals.

Try meetups.com and find people who share your interests. Join a pick-up soccer or frisbee game... make a friend on a team, then make friends with their friends. You just gotta be really open about it. If it works, it works, if it doesn't, it doesn't, move on.

Posted by Sushipunk on Aug-11-2008 22:35:

quote:
Originally posted by SuspicionVandit
craigslist

Posted by tubularbills on Aug-11-2008 23:49:

craigslist

edit,

OHSNAP!

also,

quote:
Originally posted by l�cid
adultfriendfinder.com worked for me.

lulz

Posted by pkcRAISTLIN on Aug-11-2008 23:57:

Making friends is easy. Its finding people you actually want to be friends with thats the hard part. Or maybe that�s just me coz im a cvnt.

Posted by Lira on Aug-12-2008 01:12:

Posted by chimera66 on Aug-12-2008 01:41:

Posted by Mebot on Aug-12-2008 02:22:

quote:
Originally posted by chrisday
Join a team?... Easiest way to meet people. Go to the gym you will meet people there.

Yes.

quote:
Originally posted by chimera66
seriously join groups of things you like...join an adult kickball league like one of my friends did or do happy hour with people at work. there might be people in other departments who are young and fun.

Correct.

quote:
Originally posted by whiskers
Try meetups.com and find people who share your interests. Join a pick-up soccer or frisbee game... make a friend on a team, then make friends with their friends. You just gotta be really open about it. If it works, it works, if it doesn't, it doesn't, move on.

*nods*

yeah what all three of these posters said. Some sort of extracurricular recreational sport is the ticket. Join an indoor soccer league or dodgeball, kickball, basketball, handball, volleyball, rock climbing, etc...

Not only will you meet cool new people, you'll have fun and stay in shape (somewhat).

Posted by on Aug-12-2008 02:36:

quote:
Originally posted by sweds00
Roadside rest areas are a good place to start

have you given Greco-Roman wrestling a try?

Posted by Domesticated on Aug-12-2008 06:12:

quote:
Originally posted by pkcRAISTLIN
Making friends is easy. Its finding people you actually want to be friends with thats the hard part. Or maybe that�s just me coz im a cvnt.

I agree wholeheartedly with that.

It's amazing; I don't look for much in a friend; I'm very much a proponent of the "give and take" system, i.e you do anything for your friends, knowing they would do the same for you.

The sheer amount of flaky people who can't even fulfil this simple criteria is simply staggering.

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