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Posted by Slylee on Sep-23-2008 22:49:

Politics of cooking for people/eating food people have cooked for you

dude, i cooked this nice meal (from scratch) last night for my man and as i'm serving it (before he even tastes it) he looks at it and asks if he can put some tomato sauce on it. i made stuffed green peppers with garlic red potatoes & peas. he wanted to put the sauce on the stuffed peppers but i was really proud of them already as is w/ all the seasoning i put in, etc...

we didn't fight about it, but i definitely let him know it was insulting and he laughed it off and didn't put the sauce on it, but i could tell he thought i was being bitchy.

my coworker said i should have just let him put sauce on it if that's what he wanted, but i think it's rude. to me, it's just common sense/manners not to completely alter the flavor of a nice meal someone has just made for you. salt & pepper is one thing but u want to douse it in some fucking VODKA SAUCE (that's what he had in mind cuz it's all he had in his fridge for sauces).

it's rude right? or is it really about who is eating it and they should just put whatever they want on it to make them happy?

Posted by Frenchie on Sep-23-2008 23:05:

You can't be upset or insulted at someone for wanting to jazz up their food. That's nonsense and stupid.

If you want someone to enjoy their meal, you need to let them eat it how they want with what they want on it, on the side, or in it.

The only way to be really insulted by someone after you've cooked is if they spit it out, turn their nose up at the meal before they take a chance on it, or say " i don't like potatoes so, no" even before they've tasted what you made. I've been cooking for years for friends, roomies + parents (and my moms a chef so if I'd be insulted by what she did..I'd quit lol) and if I were to stop someone from putting something to their preference on the food, I'd feel bad.

Posted by pkcRAISTLIN on Sep-23-2008 23:05:

Re: Politics of cooking for people/eating food people have cooked for you

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Originally posted by Slylee
or is it really about who is eating it and they should just put whatever they want on it to make them happy?

yes.

Posted by kadomony on Sep-23-2008 23:11:

i try not to base my emotional state on what other people think of me or my "accomplishments"

Posted by Krypton on Sep-23-2008 23:12:

Re: Politics of cooking for people/eating food people have cooked for you

quote:
Originally posted by Slylee
dude, i cooked this nice meal (from scratch) last night for my man and as i'm serving it (before he even tastes it) he looks at it and asks if he can put some tomato sauce on it. i made stuffed green peppers with garlic red potatoes & peas. he wanted to put the sauce on the stuffed peppers but i was really proud of them already as is w/ all the seasoning i put in, etc...

we didn't fight about it, but i definitely let him know it was insulting and he laughed it off and didn't put the sauce on it, but i could tell he thought i was being bitchy.

my coworker said i should have just let him put sauce on it if that's what he wanted, but i think it's rude. to me, it's just common sense/manners not to completely alter the flavor of a nice meal someone has just made for you. salt & pepper is one thing but u want to douse it in some fucking VODKA SAUCE (that's what he had in mind cuz it's all he had in his fridge for sauces).

it's rude right? or is it really about who is eating it and they should just put whatever they want on it to make them happy?

What's wrong with personal tastes... jeez. Honestly, guys hate that sh1t. You're lucky your man knows how to deal with it. Some would have no problem getting into a huge argument over it. If he eats it, then he likes it, so what's rude about that?

Posted by noikeee on Sep-23-2008 23:21:

Your threads give me headaches.

Posted by pkcRAISTLIN on Sep-23-2008 23:21:

why do men die before their wives? because they want to.

Posted by nchs09 on Sep-23-2008 23:23:

Maybe its rude but the person is not doing it to be rude.... so dont take it like that. I kinda feel what you are saying though as i take pride in my cooking. I would of just been like "sure"

Posted by Slylee on Sep-23-2008 23:24:

u know in japan it's considered rude to even put salt or pepper on the chef's dish and he could throw you out if he wants?

all i'm saying is at least fucking try it first before you say something like that.

the only person who agrees with me on this is my dad and he's really into cooking too.

and i bet all those people on top chef would agree too

Posted by pkcRAISTLIN on Sep-23-2008 23:30:

quote:
Originally posted by Slylee
u know in japan it's considered rude to even put salt or pepper on the chef's dish and he could throw you out if he wants?

and in pakistan i could skullfuck you for challenging my masculine right to add sauce to my meal. what's your point?

Posted by Slylee on Sep-23-2008 23:32:

quote:
Originally posted by pkcRAISTLIN
and in pakistan i could skullfuck you for challenging my masculine right to add sauce to my meal. what's your point?

hahaha

Posted by whiskers on Sep-23-2008 23:40:

Re: Politics of cooking for people/eating food people have cooked for you

quote:
Originally posted by Slylee
u know in japan it's considered rude to even put salt or pepper on the chef's dish and he could throw you out if he wants?

all i'm saying is at least fucking try it first before you say something like that.

well, you're not in japan, are you? if i want some fucking tomato sauce on my food, i'll put some tomato sauce on my food no matter who cooked it and whether it's good or not. i just want some tomato sauce!! LET ME HAVE MY TOMATO SAUCE

quote:
Originally posted by Slylee
he thought i was being bitchy.

this. quit being insecure about your cooking skills.

Posted by whiskers on Sep-23-2008 23:41:

quote:
Originally posted by noikeee
Your threads give me headaches.

also, this. are you going to complain that he didn't say that your meal was orgasmic?

Posted by nchs09 on Sep-23-2008 23:41:

Maybe you are not a good cook?

Posted by Slylee on Sep-23-2008 23:42:

lol

bitch please, u dont even know about my cooking skills.

Posted by Moongoose on Sep-23-2008 23:42:

Its a bit rude yes, but i only say so because you write that he asked about the sauce even before he tasted the food. I do agree that one should season his food to his taste, however he should have at least tried a bite or two before asking for the sauce. I am quite proud of my cooking skills, and while i dont mind people putting various sauces on the food that i prepare, but try a bite and sample how delicious the food is, before you put a sauce on.

Of course if I am preparing a really nice meal, i do all of the sauces from scratch anyway so even if they cover the food with the sauce, i find comfort that they enjoy the sauce that i carefully prepared so no ego bruising there

Posted by noikeee on Sep-23-2008 23:46:

btw i think you should break up, this is a clear sign he does not love you

Posted by Slylee on Sep-23-2008 23:47:

quote:
Originally posted by Moongoose
Its a bit rude yes, but i only say so because you write that he asked about the sauce even before he tasted the food. I do agree that one should season his food to his taste, however he should have at least tried a bite or two before asking for the sauce. I am quite proud of my cooking skills, and while i dont mind people putting various sauces on the food that i prepare, but try a bite and sample how delicious the food is, before you put a sauce on.

Of course if I am preparing a really nice meal, i do all of the sauces from scratch anyway so even if they cover the food with the sauce, i find comfort that they enjoy the sauce that i carefully prepared so no ego bruising there

that's all i'm sayin. but it turned out better when you said it lol.

Posted by StanVoid on Sep-23-2008 23:48:

if a woman tries to come between me and my BBQ sauce, i dont give a fuck if she spent a week making that meal - i'm not eating it.

Posted by Slylee on Sep-23-2008 23:49:

quote:
Originally posted by noikeee
btw i think you should break up, this is a clear sign he does not love you

believe it or not, i pondered it. not that he doesn't love me, but whether or not the difference in food taste is a deal breaker.

he doesn't have a very sophisticated palet and i love trying new stuff and cooking exotic dishes. it's a huge part of my life (food lol) so the fact that he's just a meat and potatoes and beer type is kinda disappointing.

Posted by Domesticated on Sep-23-2008 23:50:

That's what you get for dating:

quote:
Originally posted by DJ Mikey Mike
A meathead who buys things for you. The two things I would have probably listed had I been asked to describe two possible traits of Jamie's ideal fella.

Posted by Slylee on Sep-23-2008 23:50:

quote:
Originally posted by StanVoid
if a woman tries to come between me and my BBQ sauce, i dont give a fuck if she spent a week making that meal - i'm not eating it.

lol <3

Posted by Slylee on Sep-23-2008 23:51:

quote:
Originally posted by Domesticated
That's what you get for dating:

lol why do you have that as your signature? are u stalking me?

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Posted by Domesticated on Sep-23-2008 23:54:

quote:
Originally posted by Slylee
lol why do you have that as your signature? are u stalking me?

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It's not my signature.

Posted by noikeee on Sep-23-2008 23:54:

quote:
Originally posted by Slylee
believe it or not, i pondered it. not that he doesn't love me, but whether or not the difference in food taste is a deal breaker.

fuck.

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