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Posted by Endlesswave on Jun-08-2003 03:45:

quote:
Originally posted by politcs_of_danc
I dont even know why guys even bother

I don't anymore.

quote:
Originally posted by Trancewave
Thinking back, that was the worst month of my life. Whoever said your first is always your best, well....he/she lied!

That's probably one of the reasons for me not to even try because of shit like that. Meh. (I'm just in a really cynical mood now...mebbe later I'll feel better)

Posted by DR86 on Jun-08-2003 04:13:

I was in the same dilemma once. I knew this girl really well, and I eventually asked her out. She said no, but then the next day she sends me an e-mail telling me how she felt about me. It lasted a while, had some here and there, so it wasn't too bad!

Posted by matt_a on Jun-08-2003 05:28:

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Originally posted by Trancewave
You kinda remind me of me and my very first girlfriend. Both of us were shy as hell back then and neither one of us would 'dare' to make the first move even though we kinda had a feeling that we both liked each other.

This was what we did. We were friends at school and gotten a bit closer and stuff but I knew she was really really shy. I know that she liked me as a good friend and could trust me but beyond that I wasn't too sure.

Yes, i have this same problem, I have this eally good friend, and ive loved her now for like 2 years, and i dunno sometimes its like she wants me as well and sometimes not. And im just too worried to do anything incase it screws up our friendship, but i really want it to be more!
Maybe I should go for your tactic?

Posted by Trancewave on Jun-08-2003 11:18:

Yeah, do what I did and let us know how it turned out. 2 years is a long time to like someone and not tell them. Thing is, if she ever came up to you one day and tells you she has a new bf, you;ll feel the world just cave in on you. and you'll hate yourself for not telling her and finding out. By that time it would be too late.

Posted by bassaholix on Jun-08-2003 11:44:

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Originally posted by Trancewave
Yeah, do what I did and let us know how it turned out. 2 years is a long time to like someone and not tell them. Thing is, if she ever came up to you one day and tells you she has a new bf, you;ll feel the world just cave in on you. and you'll hate yourself for not telling her and finding out. By that time it would be too late.

This is oh so true... dammit man.. don't take that chance, nice guys get left behind.. trust me.. no matter what you do or say.. nice guys ALWAYS LOOOOOSSSSEEEE!!!

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Originally posted by SAGE2635
Personally I think that telling a girl that you WANNA GO OUT WITH HER/LIKE HER is one of the worst things you can do. If you want a girl to know that you like her, you should just LET HER FIGURE IT OUT by the fact that you two are getting PHYSICALLY INVOLVED. TELLING HER that you like her is bad cuz it takes the Magic, the Ssuspense, the Mystery and the Sexual Tension out of the situation. it pops the balloon/kills the chemistry. know what i mean

This is more like it.. something more with deep meanings, thats what nice about dating, getting to know people, by the way they interact with you, others, their friends, your friends... Reading people like that is way more interesting then asking them... "How was your day?"

GODD

Dood about what happened.. its all about been WHO YOU are, don't try to be mr Suave, just be natural, be you, cause if she likes that... then its what matters, cause my god, if you act all diff one day.. and she don't like that... you're soon just another piece of history...

Posted by Spyder on Jun-08-2003 13:10:

well i guess i'm a bit late.. but always be honest.. dont ever hide things away .. some ppl thing girls can actualy see wot your saying behind words.. but it's not always the case.. wotever you doo dont give kind of "so ya.. u want too?" cuz she wont know.. wot u want tooo dooo

girls are smarter and will understand wot your saying but sometimes it does happen that girls wont know wot your saying only beacuse you are a guy..

but ya.. good luck..

oh and cuz it happend a while ago
how did it goo?:? heheh

Posted by mos man on Jun-08-2003 17:03:

Re: Asking a girl you know out

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Originally posted by hangover
I Need some advice from all you "Dr. Love"s out there. There's a girl i've known for a while. I like her a lot and I'm pretty sure that she wants me too, but we're both shy. So I'm going to call her in an hour or so. The question is what to say. I like original stuff Thanks

its not very original if you are using someone elses questions

Posted by hangover on Jun-08-2003 17:19:

Re: Re: Asking a girl you know out

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Originally posted by mos man
its not very original if you are using someone elses questions

Yeah I know, but the truth is I just needed some reassurance (and I got it too).

Anyway, it is done. I've just called her (asked her if she would like to get together sometime), and she said yes (I could hardly hear it, but it was definately a yes). And it's hard to believe, but i was less lame than i'd imagined.

So thanks again everyone (if all goes well we'll name our first son tta )

Posted by mos man on Jun-08-2003 17:33:

[color=orange][i] good stuff

Posted by surferfb on Jun-08-2003 18:05:

Not to be a link whore but a friend of mine runs a website about these very problems, yall should check it out

Rooshlog

Posted by kr00t0n on Jun-08-2003 19:28:

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Originally posted by surferfb
Not to be a link whore but a friend of mine runs a website about these very problems, yall should check it out

Rooshlog

hheheheh, that site reminds me of those penis enlarging spams I always get, hahahahah

Posted by matt_a on Jun-09-2003 02:49:

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Originally posted by bassaholix
This is oh so true... dammit man.. don't take that chance, nice guys get left behind.. trust me.. no matter what you do or say.. nice guys ALWAYS LOOOOOSSSSEEEE!!!

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YES NICE GUYS ALWAYS LOOOOOSE!

I dont wanna sound stuck up or anything, but i know people always say how nce and stuff i am then after i talk to some chicks after they get in a bad situation with a guy etc, they always tell me there should be more guys like me in the world cause it would be awsome. But then they go out with more fuckwits, that you can easily see are gonna screw them over, and your like "wtf!!"

Posted by Creamfields23 on Jun-09-2003 02:52:

Question can i add a song in the background???? Armin and Ferry - from the heart. Nice thread all

Posted by Audio Beverage on Jun-09-2003 11:09:

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Originally posted by matt_a
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YES NICE GUYS ALWAYS LOOOOOSE!

I dont wanna sound stuck up or anything, but i know people always say how nce and stuff i am then after i talk to some chicks after they get in a bad situation with a guy etc, they always tell me there should be more guys like me in the world cause it would be awsome. But then they go out with more fuckwits, that you can easily see are gonna screw them over, and your like "wtf!!"

ahaha, Nice Guys = Guys that arnt Interested , thats why they think you're such a nice guy

Posted by Rostros on Jun-09-2003 14:00:

I would not ask her out, if you do then she might think you wanna bone her .. and she wil be like, errr no thanks , but if you play it cool , hang out make her laugh etc , and maybe talk to her like, about
relationship stuff, coz she might not want a relationship yet. if you ask her and she says no then your
gonna look like a cock, and she will always presume your hitting on her,. just play it cool,

Posted by Philby on Jun-09-2003 15:23:

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Originally posted by GelatinPufF
ahaha, Nice Guys = Guys that arnt Interested , thats why they think you're such a nice guy

haha that sounds about right to me.

like other people have said i reckon just take it slowly, maybe go out a couple of times with friends, chat on the phone, go out a couple of times on your own and then see how you feel, if you want to take it further tell her how you feel. at the worst it will be akward for like a week maybe and then you will be best friends again.

Posted by *HaRRy* on Jun-09-2003 15:31:

i got together with my boyfriend in the most romantic way.

one day on MSN he said- 'maybe you should go out with me as we have been shagging for a couple of months now and I can't be arsed explaining to people that you're not my girlfriend'.

Posted by Spyder on Jun-09-2003 15:57:

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Originally posted by *HaRRy*
i got together with my boyfriend in the most romantic way.

one day on MSN he said- 'maybe you should go out with me as we have been shagging for a couple of months now and I can't be arsed explaining to people that you're not my girlfriend'.

is THAT TRUE!?!?!
well then u can tell ste is shy and sorta lazy..

oh well as long as you two are happy hehehe

Posted by *HaRRy* on Jun-09-2003 17:08:

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Originally posted by Spyder
is THAT TRUE!?!?!

yes.

Posted by hangover on Jun-09-2003 18:41:

Posted by KaPs on Jun-09-2003 21:47:

I think nice guys only finish last if they are not that attractive =p

Posted by eye_03 on Jun-10-2003 00:13:

i am paying attention to this thread.. for hopefully it will come in use, as i have my eye on a girl named KATE

but not the KATE that hangs on these boards

Posted by eye_03 on Jun-10-2003 00:14:

also, what if when you go for coffe and stuff, she doesnt conisder it dates, and starts to go out w/someone else?

Posted by LiquidX on Jun-10-2003 00:28:

Ok, the best advice I can give you is... Become friends with her FIRST before becoming engaged in anything.. thats so you know her better and she knows you better. She'll be more open, and you'll be more open. After a time, when both of you have spend some nice friendly times, you may do the move.. but first go out to the movies as friends and such, but dont forget something, show interest, be a gentleman, cause then she might think, if she really likes you and is shy, that you are only interested on her as a friend, so just show lots of interest, care about her, call her, talk alot on the phone, I know that when two peeps like each other, theres always something to talk about, I always talk for hours with the the girls Ive gone out with.... if theres a beach, go to the beach, the movies, a coffee is perfect for the night, on a place wher both of you can walk and talk, you might find that special moment, sometimes things just happen, and arent as hard as you think. One thing though, make sure you dont waste your time, so you better start acting quikly, you might be in love, but in the long term, if you dont do anything, you'll regret not DOING anything..

Posted by LiquidX on Jun-10-2003 00:30:

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Originally posted by eye_03
also, what if when you go for coffe and stuff, she doesnt conisder it dates, and starts to go out w/someone else?

If she liked you, she wouldn't go out with anyone else..

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