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bah, real life is for suckers. The whole point of the world is that everyone else is stupid and you should take advantage of them (and take their money while youre at it). Its all about sales!

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Originally posted by sothis all of you must be used to dating other teenagers with part time jobs at burger king or something

OMG yeah because we point out his irresponsibility by buying a car he can't afford and has to work 15 hours a day to pay for it, that automatically qualifies us as teenagers who don't know what the real world is like.

you clearly didnt read my entire post.

i said i understand thinking hes irresponsible for buying the car and for having to work that much to pay it off. however, there have been sentiments in the thread about how if someone works too much, that is something you should get away from.. which i dont think is true. coupled with being irresponsible, id agree. i was speaking to those people who were talking about the former, not the latter.

grab him by the nutsack and poke him in the eye

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Originally posted by sothis the real world generally takes much more time and energy, and the fact of the matter is, sometimes you cant spend as much time with your partner. dont like it? neither do any of us. but thats life.

so true, sothis. my husband works 7am to 4pm (and overtime when he can) and i recently got a job, working 8am to 3pm. we just bought a house (3 bdr, 2bth, capecod style), so money is not super abundant, we need to watch the budget. we are lucky that we have our evenings together, so we can have dinner, watch a movie or just cuddle before bedtime.

oh, and sexypersian, never, and i mean NEVER, try to come between a man and his ride!! i know, i learned that a long time ago!

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Originally posted by sothis you clearly didnt read my entire post. i said i understand thinking hes irresponsible for buying the car and for having to work that much to pay it off. however, there have been sentiments in the thread about how if someone works too much, that is something you should get away from.. which i dont think is true. coupled with being irresponsible, id agree. i was speaking to those people who were talking about the former, not the latter.

My bad, as I do agree with you on your other point.

*been reading too much biochem today*

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Originally posted by cammie oh, and sexypersian, never, and i mean NEVER, try to come between a man and his ride!! i know, i learned that a long time ago!

his ride should be you

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Originally posted by sothis i understand the part about not wanting to be with someone who would be frivalous with their money. however. the fact that hes gone all the time? thats called real life, with a real job yea, its not 9 to 5, but hell.. programming jobs usually require 10 hours a day. you make shitloads of money, but you have to work your ass off for it. my sig other understands this, since he is in the same field of work. all of you must be used to dating other teenagers with part time jobs at burger king or something the real world generally takes much more time and energy, and the fact of the matter is, sometimes you cant spend as much time with your partner. dont like it? neither do any of us. but thats life.

Well, if that's the choice both of you are content with, than it's fine. But not all people are like that. I'd rather be lousy at work and have a crappy 650$ car I have now and be able to spend day and night with a girlfriend than to have loads of money, but work my ass off all day and see my girl once a week. The fact of the matter is, that guy didn't have to buy a car he can barely pay for. If he's working all the time to pay for this car, and he doesn't have a moment to spend with his girl, than it is obvious what his priorities are. If I was in his situation, I'd ditch the damn car right away (if I was to make such a stupid error of buying something that's way over my budget in the first place).

That is, of course, if the guy's interested in you. If he's not, than his actions are understandable. If he is, then he's a moron. My advice to you is just let him drive alone in his super car and find someone who's more willing to spend time with you.

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Originally posted by Orbax his ride should be you

yuo are teh uber-1337 genius

If you really like him, keep him around.

BUT!

Since hes not around so much, get yourself a side dish, or a back up to keep you occupied till hes available.

(Back-ups are always a good thing to have around in the first few months of a new relationship)

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Originally posted by Orbax how about dont waste time on someone so irresponsible with cash they have to work 7 days a week to pay off stupid shit, and disregard the important things in life like relationships

WERD

btw, that car must be really important

Everyone... thank u soooooo much for your advice. I'm just going to go with the flow and see what happens. and if things don't shape up within the next couple weeks, i might go my seperate ways.

It's sad but it comes down to money alot of times. I think part of the reason me & my ex seperated is because we never spent time together & slowly faded apart. I was 17 when I moved out with her & we both worked alot to pay the bills. I should've known better and not have gotten myself into the mess when I wasn't ready, just like him & that car. I also know how girls need attention constantly so you probably wouldn't be so happy with him. This is why girls go for the older more mature guys many times. They're secure & have all the time in the world. Makes me jealous, but oh well. Good luck & don't beat around the bush when you break his heart. Just be honest, I wish my ex was with me.

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Originally posted by sExY pErSiAn 2003, fully loaded Subarban. He didn't put a down payment, so thats why he pays so much each month... and including insurance... it comes out to $900/month.

dump him NOW

what kind of idiot guy buys a surburban...
*SIGH*

you can sacrifice a lot to make it work but you have to decide if that is really worth it. if your relationship develops with you always conceeding around his schedule he will be able to walk all over you. everyone needs to be able to support themselves but you have to take his lifestyle and committments to work into consideration when deciding whether the relationship is worth it. sadly, it's not just about emotions, compatiblity, and interest.

the drama...THE DRAMA...NEVER ENDS!!!!!!!!!!

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Originally posted by cammie oh, and sexypersian, never, and i mean NEVER, try to come between a man and his ride!! i know, i learned that a long time ago!

Come between a man and his ride? That is the most stupid thing I've heard in my entire life. Perhaps a man that puts material items BEFORE HIS VERY OWN LOVE. Geez, what bullshit. I'd sell my car and ride a friggin "Dumb & Dumber" moped before I ever lost the love of my life.

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Originally posted by sExY pErSiAn Everyone... thank u soooooo much for your advice. I'm just going to go with the flow and see what happens. and if things don't shape up within the next couple weeks, i might go my seperate ways.

Alright, here's my 2 cents, I've been in lots of relationships. The single most killer of all relationships is lack of communication.

Say he has a suprise, that they're hiring someone new, and suddenly he has more time for you, and he wanted to suprise you...so he takes you out to dinner, or something else, and you decide he's been not paying much attention, and that you're going to break up with him that night.

See what I mean? You can't assume shit. What you really need to do, is forget about everything else, tell him you need to talk to him, and tell him how you feel, straight up! If you still like him, that you want to make things work out.

Communication, Communication, Communication, Communication, Communication, Communication, Communication, Communication, Communication, Communication, Communication, Communication, Communication, Communication, Communication, Communication, Communication, Communication, Communication, Communication.

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Originally posted by eXo Come between a man and his ride? That is the most stupid thing I've heard in my entire life. Perhaps a man that puts material items BEFORE HIS VERY OWN LOVE. Geez, what bullshit. I'd sell my car and ride a friggin "Dumb & Dumber" moped before I ever lost the love of my life.

Well ... they've only been dating a month hehe. I don't think they're in love yet.

i think that its admirable for him to be working so hard to pay off whatever expenses he has, but at the same time, maybe its not wise to start a relationship with him at this stage in his life. he seemed 100% focused on his work, with little time for even leisure for himself, no less you. if you are the type of person who can handle not seeing him everyday, then i say go for it. some people just need that attention/affection every day. i can relate tho- my bf doesnt work a lot, but he lives about 11 hours away from me (he's in the army)....its def hard but i have my space and he has his and i always have something to look forward to- the next time i see him...

so good luck! i hope you two figure something out. he does seem to really care, but you just cant take his overworking personally.

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Originally posted by occrider Well ... they've only been dating a month hehe. I don't think they're in love yet.

A month is longer than a week though, just cus you've only been with a person for a month does not mean you aren't in love with them.

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Originally posted by eXo A month is longer than a week though, just cus you've only been with a person for a month does not mean you aren't in love with them.

Well, considering she's been seeing him a month, for only 1 to 2 times a week for a few hours ... say 5 hours a week total. Then that would mean they fell in love in a record breaking 25 hours of seeing each other

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Originally posted by occrider Well, considering she's been seeing him a month, for only 1 to 2 times a week for a few hours ... say 5 hours a week total. Then that would mean they fell in love in a record breaking 25 hours of seeing each other

Arrrgghhhh, quit making good points! You would be fun to have a debate with.

yes, yes he would/is hehe

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Originally posted by eXo A month is longer than a week

Oh for real?

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