depression?? how to get over it? help please

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Posted by stk on Nov-20-2003 20:59:

thanks to everyone who has posted tips and what not. I greatly appreciate it, and ill try my best to abide by your tips

Posted by whiskers on Nov-20-2003 21:27:

quote:
Originally posted by Arbiter
No drugs. No shrinks. No crap.

Your natural personal tendencies are nothing that can't be overcome with a little self-discipline.

Best Wishes,

Arbiter

fucking word, no drugs, no shrinks, no crap. no, no, and no.

it's gonna be fucking hard, i've been feeling pretty happy the past few days and i decided that no matter what i'll try to be cheerful... but seems like today is not my day and i'm entering my cycle again, constant daydreaming, lack of focus, apocalyptic views of the world, etc...

the thing is, you gotta take your mind off these things. it's going to be hard, but you have to do it. hang out with people, do things that you enjoy the most, listen to music - positive music, preferably, even if sad music makes you feel kinda good, it's not good in the long run. just try to think about and do other things.

man, i wish i was strong enough to follow my own advice...

Posted by SKELETOR on Nov-21-2003 04:57:

i suggest listening to dune, theyre all about possitivity and love... very nostalgic to me as well.

NO emo or country music lol..

Posted by whiskers on Nov-21-2003 05:03:

quote:
Originally posted by Echo of Silence
if it'll help we can postwhore like maniacs...you know where

echo... you weren't supposed to read this!! you weren't even supposed to come to chillout at all!

Posted by Orbax on Nov-21-2003 05:04:

The simplest advice you can get is :

*drum roll*

Get over it.

You wallow in self-pity like a pig in its own shit. I used to. I used to fondle the idea of leaving the world behind like a monkey feeling its balls ( i know, my analogies rock, its ok). Then I got over it. Nothing special, nothing really that hard. You just have to say, "its time to be happy." and then fix all the shit you know is wrong. If you wont do that, you dont want to be happy, youre looking for a quick fix, or you actaully enjoy taht "woe is me" attitude.

Its fucked up these days that people think there is a 1 stop answer to all questions. There aint, so dont try them. Its a holistic thing. get your life together, happiness follows. 'Nuff said.

There is a very SMALL minorty that suffers chemical depression. I have 3 family members who fit in this category, and they maybe need pills 2 months out of a year to get themselves out of depression long enough to fix their lives, and they THEY ARE OFF.

either way, you havent molded your life into what you want, or what you want needs some re-evaluation.

Get to it.

Posted by whiskers on Nov-21-2003 05:04:

quote:
Originally posted by SKELETOR
i suggest listening to dune, theyre all about possitivity and love... very nostalgic to me as well.

NO emo or country music lol..

lol, dude, dune is BAD... songs about love are bad!

the other day i wanted to post some happy lyrics and i couldn't find any!!! all the lyrics i knew of were either about something serious or breakup or depression or love or breakup or something of that sort... very sad.

Posted by SKELETOR on Nov-21-2003 05:44:

nah i dont see em that way at all..

listen to million miles away from home.. are you ready to fly.. its all about stfu and be happy!

Posted by Clyde77 on Nov-21-2003 05:46:

the cure is very simple:

think think think and think that you're not depressed

Posted by NY1004 on Nov-21-2003 06:34:

Well first off let me just say that its unhealthy to be going out with someone when you are depressed in the first place, because you tend to associate them with your happiness and you lean on them to provide you with that and most times you're left worst off when they are no longer in your life. But try not to focus on her anymore, but on yourself. Try to faze her out of your mind by fazing her out of your life. You say she blows you off, so why would you want to keep in contact with her? What's worked for me in the past is keeping busy, doing something positive for yourself whether it be school-related, getting a job, or just hanging out. Try to surround yourself with people that make you happy like family or friends. I would recommend you hold off on starting a new relationship because being in a relationship will force you to focus on that person rather than on yourself.

And lastly, I think you should seriously consider talking with a psychiatrist before you seek medication. Pills might give you temporary relief but they won't be able to help with the underlying thoughts and emotions. Good luck with everything.

Posted by whiskers on Nov-21-2003 06:38:

quote:
Originally posted by Orbax
You wallow in self-pity like a pig in its own shit. I used to. I used to fondle the idea of leaving the world behind like a monkey feeling its balls ( i know, my analogies rock, its ok).

actually, i find your analogies kinda offensive and insulting, i hate pity and especially self-pity, and maybe sometimes i wallow in depressing thoughts, but i don't feel like a pig rolling in shit and i don't feel like a monkey fondling my balls.

in fact, i feel much better because i see people study / work their lives away so that they could get a nice cubicle shit-job and get some mortgages... fun fun fun! and then i think how much i despise everything and i feel better that at least i REALIZE how shitty that is, even if i can't do anything about it (although maybe i can, but i don't really want to)

Posted by DrUg_Tit0 on Nov-21-2003 17:52:

quote:
Originally posted by SKELETOR
nah i dont see em that way at all..

listen to million miles away from home.. are you ready to fly.. its all about stfu and be happy!

Even better would be Hand in Hand, Can't Stop Raving and Rainbow to the Stars.
like a rainbow to the stars
keep the faith right in your heart
if you let your dreams come true
then happiness will follow you...
Dune rocks, wheee!!

Btw, I agree that Orbax's analogies are great.

Posted by smokeape on Nov-22-2003 05:03:

Homey, turn off your computer, get in your car and drive to a club or a bar. You'll find company...

Posted by Orbax on Nov-22-2003 05:25:

quote:
Originally posted by whiskers
actually, i find your analogies kinda offensive and insulting, i hate pity and especially self-pity, and maybe sometimes i wallow in depressing thoughts, but i don't feel like a pig rolling in shit and i don't feel like a monkey fondling my balls.

in fact, i feel much better because i see people study / work their lives away so that they could get a nice cubicle shit-job and get some mortgages... fun fun fun! and then i think how much i despise everything and i feel better that at least i REALIZE how shitty that is, even if i can't do anything about it (although maybe i can, but i don't really want to)

I hope thats a joke.

Posted by whiskers on Nov-22-2003 05:28:

quote:
Originally posted by Orbax
I hope thats a joke.

Hope, it is the quintessential human delusion, simultaneously the source of your greatest strength, and your greatest weakness

Posted by Orbax on Nov-22-2003 05:34:

Hmph.

Posted by whiskers on Nov-22-2003 05:35:

word

Posted by MSchwa9 on Nov-23-2003 17:17:

When I broke up with my girlfriend I just starting doing other things to keep my mind off of her. I started taking guitar lessons which was like its own therapy. Every time I was playing everything on my mind would go away. Now I am not syaing to start playing guitar if you dont already. What I am trying to say is to do something to keep you mind occupied. Another thing a friend of told me "Don't cry because it's over, smile because it happened." You can learn from this reltionship and carry over everything you learned to your next relationship. I hope this helps.

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