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Originally posted by anuneventrade I think he meant she really wanted the marraige and he didn't. But it sounds like he still loves her....

Maybe, at least I'm learning, sometimes love isn't enough. If you love someone but you're not able to be what they need you to be or give what they need you to give or act the way they need you to act...what should you do?

Diffusion doesn't want to get married. He's quite clear. He's not ready. "Can you imagine getting married when you're 20 years old?" He's incredulous at the thought.

I dunno, I respect him for doing what he thinks is best. That's all. I think if he loves her and he felt capable of making such a big commitment, he wouldn't have broken up with her.

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Originally posted by Echo of Silence Diffusion doesn't want to get married. He's quite clear. He's not ready. "Can you imagine getting married when you're 20 years old?" He's incredulous at the thought.

i agree.

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Originally posted by Echo of Silence Maybe, at least I'm learning, sometimes love isn't enough. If you love someone but you're not able to be what they need you to be or give what they need you to give or act the way they need you to act...what should you do?

well, as i see it, there are different levels of being someone someone else wants you to be or giving or acting. what i want to say is - should you really change yourself? or shouldn't that someone else try at least a little bit to accept you for who you are. it's all subjective on how much you really need to and want to change.

chicks suck.... the end

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Originally posted by diffusion damn, I feel like I am such an asshole right now...

You should read Speedy's Big announcement... thread. If that doesn't cheer you up and convince you made the right decision, I don't know what will.

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Originally posted by igottaknow You should read Speedy's Big announcement... thread. If that doesn't cheer you up and convince you made the right decision, I don't know what will.

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Originally posted by Echo of Silence Maybe, at least I'm learning, sometimes love isn't enough. If you love someone but you're not able to be what they need you to be or give what they need you to give or act the way they need you to act...what should you do?

Of course love isn't enough in these times anymore. We don't live in the movies. But if he's stating that he feels like an "asshole" and asks for advice and mentioning that he is addicted to her as well as he just doesn't know what to do, I'm saying that he should figure out if he loves her enough to make a committment. And once he evaluates his true feelings, to make a final decision from there, because obviously if he is starting a thread and saying how madly in love she was and questions whether others would have done the same, he has doubts about his decision.

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Diffusion doesn't want to get married. He's quite clear. He's not ready. "Can you imagine getting married when you're 20 years old?" He's incredulous at the thought.

I mentioned that if he wanted to stay with her he could get engaged and not get married until much later. The point is, if he loves her, and truly wants to work things out with her, he should stay with her, through the hardships. That does not entail marraige. It seems he made a rash decision. In order not avoid being labeled as "USED TRASH", the solution is dumping your girlfriend? Seems kind of harsh. Though there may be more to the story that we're not getting.

A true relationship is about the good and the bad. Being there for one another at all times and in all situations. It's truth, honesty, understanding, companionship, trust, committment. Without one of these, it fails. When you're in love, it doesn't matter what anyone else says, it matters what is in your heart, and that is the advice he should follow. What his heart says, not what others say.

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I dunno, I respect him for doing what he thinks is best. That's all. I think if he loves her and he felt capable of making such a big commitment, he wouldn't have broken up with her.

Once you honestly make a decision that something is for the best, you would have no need of starting a thread that asks for opinions and advice.

Diffusion needs to figure out how he really felt about this girl, and if continuing on a relationship would make him happy or miserable. What her family or what other people label you as should not matter if you truly care about each other.

oh come off all this seriousness
everyone sing it with me!

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what is love? baby don't hurt me don't hurt me no more

The Conclusion

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Originally posted by elena but im not sure that its the ecuadorian culture that you should blame, sounds more like some high strung family-set rules/tradition.

Actually it's like that. That's why many clueless 18 yearolds in Ecuador get married and divorce by they're 21.
Making themselves and their familys disrespected.
That's also why 30% of the work labour is outside of Ecuador, because there's a lot of factors
in this country making it unbearable... But that's another story..

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Originally posted by elena getting married at such an early age doesnt neccessarily mean that youll end up screwed over for the rest of your life but i think that its such an important decision that it couldve waited until both of you were done were done with school and financially stable.

Nope, it doesn't neccessarily mean that, though the possibility becomes notably bigger!
Yes, finacially stable, finished with studies. That's what I said too...

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Originally posted by Vivid Boy get over her...tell her ull marry her but u have to fuck her in THE ASS and the break up with her move to the next piece of trahs

That's kinda hardcore, won't you say?

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Originally posted by S-a-M-u-E-l diffusion is that your girlfriend in your sig, because i need either two things if it is #1 - her phone number, and a pack of condoms #2 - A full pic, a bucket of lube, and some muscle relaxer Thanks.

I know the one to the right. These two are just nasty hehe, but she was not my girlfriend.
If you want to see more of them, goto www.subloop.com -> Bilder -> Eroticum 2002

Here she is, image is kind of bad quality, but you get the idea:

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Originally posted by whiskers i find it funny how no one bashed Eucador's culture for being stupid and stamping a girl as "USED TRASH" for having a boyfriend... you guys seem to be missing a point and jumping to conclusions that "girls suck", even if it's sarcastic... sorry to hear that happen, man, but i guess everything happens for the best.

Yeah, you have no idea how bad this culture is. I mean they are extremly conservative (hence religios), everyone over there.
It's like it was 100 years back in time in comparison to Norway. It didn't seem like it in the clubs and stuff, but
really, the woman was supposed to obey the man of the house. Rather cook than work.
I visited her for 1 month in Ecuador and found out what it was like.

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Originally posted by politicsofdancin erm, how did you meet her when she's from ecuador?

It's a small world
No seriously I hanged out with some latino people in my town when I met her.
She was an exchange student here... And stupid me fell in love for her.

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Originally posted by anuneventrade I think he meant she really wanted the marraige and he didn't. But it sounds like he still loves her....

Yes she really wants it. I guess I would too, if we'd only been together for more than 7 months, maybe after two or three years...
Yeah I still do, that's the worst thing about it.


Echo of silence: thanks man
Every man for himself huh...


I didn't want to to it, but I had to...
She's 6700 miles away, that's just too much.

again thank you all for taking the time to reply to this thread

i think you made the right choice.

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Originally posted by Orbax Women are nuts. Im suprised that world population is still growing.

That's cause in the more primitive parts of the world they're taught to listen. Here in the west they can do whatever they want, and that's why indigenous population is decreasing.

hey diffuision dont worry mate, things happen in life for certain reasons , time will heal all wounds and someday you will meet the perfect one, i do belive in true love and i also belive in emotions, people share emotions and happiness but sometimes they have to come to an end for certain reasons you cannot explain. Its like taking a bullet to the heart and you cant remove it, the heart ache and anger will result in you finding another lady. remember emotions are more powerfull then actions.

word out bro . rZr

just get another grilfriend, it not that hard

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Originally posted by diffusion Damn this sucks so hard. She was so insanely in love for me. I was addicted to her as well... then why did I? She, my latino princess, lives in Ecuador. Mixing her culture and mine resulted in a major clash. You see in order for her to be accepted as having a boyfriend, without being stamped out as "USED TRASH", we needed to get married. She really wanted this, however I didn't. Can you imagine getting married when you're 20 years old? No matter how good the girl is, I'd give it serious doubts. Now, why am I writing this at all? I guess if someone cared to answer to this, I'd be grateful: Would you have dumped her? It doesn't matter, I just did, but anyways, here I go...

arent you from norway? was this a cyber love?

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Originally posted by diffusion Damn this sucks so hard. She was so insanely in love for me. I was addicted to her as well... then why did I? She, my latino princess, lives in Ecuador. Mixing her culture and mine resulted in a major clash. You see in order for her to be accepted as having a boyfriend, without being stamped out as "USED TRASH", we needed to get married. She really wanted this, however I didn't. Can you imagine getting married when you're 20 years old? No matter how good the girl is, I'd give it serious doubts. Now, why am I writing this at all? I guess if someone cared to answer to this, I'd be grateful: Would you have dumped her? It doesn't matter, I just did, but anyways, here I go...

arent you from norway? was this a cyber love?

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Originally posted by 'mju:zik arent you from norway? was this a cyber love?

Yes, we met through ICQ-meet-a-friend.
I never ACTUALLY touched her...

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Originally posted by diffusion Yes, we met through ICQ-meet-a-friend. I never ACTUALLY touched her...

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It's a small world No seriously I hanged out with some latino people in my town when I met her. She was an exchange student here... And stupid me fell in love for her.

So you never were actually together? There's the info that was missing!

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Originally posted by anuneventrade So you never were actually together? There's the info that was missing!

true... internet relationships can be very different than in person.

I'm a girl.. but if I were you.. I wouldn't have dumped her.

Like you said yourself, you are young. I would continue to be with her and cherish every moment you are together, and when the time comes that she finally says either marry me or we won't be together, then that is the sign that the relationship is over.

You always wanna try your best until the very end(but not to a point where it hurts both of you so much)because at leaset you know you gave it your 100%, instead of just bailing out. Because then sometimes you'll always ask yourself "what if..." and "what if"s always suck!

*And just out of curiousity, maybe her parents wanted you to marry her for citizenship reasons? Hey its a possibility.

interacial! about the citizenship, iff you see a young asian girl married to an old white guy its to get an american visa
lol

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Originally posted by butterfly true... internet relationships can be very different than in person.

COME ON!!! SERIOUSLY!!!
I was being ironic against mr muzik(who loves to play around and make people angry in these forums) here... OF COURSE I was together with her... We were inseparable (until I had to leave because of that damn fucking culture getting suspicious about why I was staying in her house when we weren't married)...
ICQ-meet-a-friend, lol, I thought everyone got that.
No!No!No!


*And just out of curiousity, maybe her parents wanted you to marry her for citizenship reasons? Hey its a possibility

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Originally posted by KarenLuvs2Party I'm a girl.. but if I were you.. I wouldn't have dumped her. Like you said yourself, you are young. I would continue to be with her and cherish every moment you are together, and when the time comes that she finally says either marry me or we won't be together, then that is the sign that the relationship is over.

The point is that we're not, because she's in Ecuador and I'm here (Norway )... So I would have to travel back and forth using 2000$ planetickets each trip. Can you imagine that?

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Originally posted by KarenLuvs2Party *And just out of curiousity, maybe her parents wanted you to marry her for citizenship reasons? Hey its a possibility.

I never really wanted to think that thought. Of course it makes
perfect sense, however I choose to think that I wasn't being abused...

This story reminds me of a thread here on TA where a Norwegian TA wrote about how he met an American exchange student in Norway, fell in love with her and finally moved to NYC to live with her.

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Originally posted by vmc This story reminds me of a thread here on TA where a Norwegian TA wrote about how he met an American exchange student in Norway, fell in love with her and finally moved to NYC to live with her.

That was me
But as it turned out, I had to marry her, I had no idea of that I had to do that then (she didn't tell me until later) when I posted it...


So here I am. In the blistering cold (yesterday we had -15C i my city).
She's over there, and it didn't turn out so great, just as someone predicted then, in that thread ...


This really sucks, and I guess I should be happy it's all over...

don't send the letter *says in unemotional voice*

come up with a more plausable romance next time...

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Originally posted by igottaknow don't send the letter *says in unemotional voice* come up with a more plausable romance next time...

yeah, something that we can get at least 4 or 5 pages of entertainment out of.

go to goodvibes.com

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