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Originally posted by C-naptik I'm in a long distance relationship that works very very well, it's been 1 year and a half now I live in France and her in Detroit (i think i beat the distance record of 800 mille ) So for those who say LD relationships can't work...just say that they don't or migft not work for you, don't generalize because that can work perfectly fine My girlfriend and I are so much in love, i've been one month over her house last summer in the US, and she came to France this year and stayed 2 months and a half...it was so wonderful.. And she just left today....it's so hard...i feel so bad...but we know it's so much worth it, because we intend to marry next year and i'll move to the US So LD relationships are always possible, only your love and your devotion for this other person count, and it's so rewarding... I precise that we met online too, but LD relationships that start online are also possible, see ?

dawwwwww how sweet my congratz man hope u will always be happy

my side of da story, well 2 me i never had 1, but i guess everything is possible, ATBsportsline is very tru, it all depends, its about love, nothing else 2 me, otherwise i dont see a long distance, da gurl most a da same mutial feeling as me, etc.

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Originally posted by caroline When its love, distance isn't an issue. No obstacle is.

OMG i love you.. i live in holland.. we can make things work right?

Well i have this girl.. who is really great.. and doesnt live around the corner.. Guess ill have to find out if itll work..

Ya can always have @ least the weekend for the 2 of you.. you could go out partying.. even bring your friends (friends are probably even more important than having a girl)

ANd the time when you are together is more special than when you see each other every day..

ya can do great trips.. etc.. way cool..

I've been in 2 long distance relationships, still in my 2nd, she's only 3 hours drive away.....It's alright.....it really tests ur feelings for one another when u think about it......ur far away from each other if u really love her, then it'll all work out as we have seen from some posts in this thread.....if there is a will there is a way!

but I also agree with other opinions, it is pretyt painful that u can't see ur girl anytime u like....but u get used to dealing with it for a while....just keep ur mind on other things.......and I agree that if u r in a long distance relationship u shouldn't make it public.....personally if i find a close enough girl to the one i got here, I'd start thinkin!!

Thats about it!!.....and congrats on the marriage thing!!!

Thank you very much for your nice words Blue Neon and Abbas, that cheers me up and i need that especially today, very kind

And i wanted to say that when you're deeply in love with someone in a LD relationship, well, to make it public allows people to see that it's possible, because it's so annoying to hear all the time "it's not possible, it can't work, you should focus on someone closer than you"

I heard that so often, but i've been fully determined and i don't regret it now

Will you guys help a poor french man become an american starting next year ? hehe
And how about promoting trance a bit more in the US? My fiancee likes trance a lot too, that's very nice

i have been in a long distance relationship for a while now. the thing is that its not always long distance and we are apart pnly for the summer. But some awful things can happen in four months and they have. we lived together, now he doesn't wanna love with me. there is always the mistrust is one person happens to be less then truthful. its so hard to get over things because when you are eight hours away, you can't just talk everything through on the phone. there are coversations that have to be done face to face. i hate being away!!! the biggest mistake i ever made was coming to my home town for the summer!!! Fuck!!!! why did i have to do that??? for money. i don't ever wanna worry about money again because that's what causes all the problems in the world.

i've been going out with my boyfriend for a year, and then he moved to New Jersey and lived there for a year. we visited each other every 3-4 weeks or so, but only for a couple of days every time. it was absolutely horrible ! if i knew from the beginning how hard it would be i wouldn't have done it, cause it sooooooooooooo hard and depresing. but now we live together and are probably getting married next summer

N1 lolly, btw dont forget me, I could be ur bestman at the wedding

Crusader

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Originally posted by ABTsportsline ...in the end, i'd say they really don't work (they can only work for so long....) they always start out strong, because of the absence makes the heart grow fonder thing (all you think about are the good times and good traits...).. but after awhile, it gets expensive, and causes more heartaches than anything else... it just gets expensive with the long distance phone calls, plane tickets and/or gas for car travel, lots of time, etc.... at first you are keeping in contact all the time, so it feels great and such, but towards the end, the communication gets less and less, then suspicions arise ...

yep, that sums it up. I once was in a LDR (LongDistanceRelationship) and I experienced all of that. I guess its hard to either make a commitment (move to be together) or just say good bye (best in the long run).

It's kinda reminds me that its easy not to be truthful. How many times have you said "I'll call you sometime" with no intention of doing so. Why do it today when you can wait until tomorrow. Anyways that my 2cents

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Originally posted by igottaknow How many times have you said "I'll call you sometime" with no intention of doing so.

Well this pretty much goes with your signature:
"Don't let your mouth get your ass in trouble"

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Originally posted by Cru5ad3r N1 lolly, btw dont forget me, I could be ur bestman at the wedding Crusader

you wanna be my best man? well then, fill out the application form , attach your references, and i'll get back to you on that one

don't forget to attach your foto, cause only beautiful people are allowed on my wedding!!! hehehehee

C-naptik,
you said will anyone help you become an american? i can help: just buy yourself a gun, get fucked up on alcohol/drugs, watch some beavis and butthead, and some rap videos, then go around and start cursin' and shooting people. WELCOME TO AMERICA..... haha, lol...

seriously, if i were you, i would just be "A FRENCHMAN IN AMERICA"..
enjoy your move, and congratulations on the long distancer... Good luck my friend!

-der ABT-

man dont even need to do all that. Just be ignorant

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Originally posted by C-naptik Thank you very much for your nice words Blue Neon and Abbas, that cheers me up and i need that especially today, very kind And i wanted to say that when you're deeply in love with someone in a LD relationship, well, to make it public allows people to see that it's possible, because it's so annoying to hear all the time "it's not possible, it can't work, you should focus on someone closer than you" I heard that so often, but i've been fully determined and i don't regret it now Will you guys help a poor french man become an american starting next year ? hehe And how about promoting trance a bit more in the US? My fiancee likes trance a lot too, that's very nice

No problem man!!! You give me hope!!!!.....Even though you know it can happen if you really want it to.....when you don't see it happening to anybody else, its kinda discouraging....but seeing people succedd in long distance relationships is something else and gives great hope!!!

People don't know whats between you and your girl, so you just gotta not really listen when people tell u its not gonna work out!!! Obviously you have done that!!!!

I'd rather be Canadian than American let me tell u that!
Trance is growing there as it was and still is here....so I dont think you have to worry about not having trance!!!

You know ABT, it's already a bit like that here in France except for guns. So many people here are at my age are already fucked up on alcohol and drugs, and try to hurt as many people as possible so...oh and rap is so popular here...blah..
About ignorance, it's the same deal here, most french think France is the only country in the world and don't think that much and talk not knowing anything
Maybe it's not great to be american...but i hate so much being french and being in France, that almost anything else would be better

Right now i'm gathering stuff together, stories, about how France is one of the worst countries in Europe...anyway

Well, i'll just regret techno, but even from here, it's very expensive to go to the Netherlands, Germany or the UK to go to a very good party. North-Americans tend to think travelling within Europe must be cheap, but it's not, it's fucking expensive as well

Anyway, thanks for wishing me good luck !

Abbas, i'm glad that my story gives you some hope ! It's very nice to hear, i wish something similar can happen to you !
About being Canadian or American..yeah, i'll see that, it's just that for now, i'll become American through my wedding so it's easier to be American first (sicne my fiancee is american)
But then...yeah, why not moving to Canada, Toronto sounds great, lots of Trance apparently now, growing more and more

I'll try to make some good european DJs to move along with me, hehe

Anyway, thanks, you're all nice !

Life is tough, surprisingly (yea right)

Thanks for all the replies TA's, judging from all the stories here, I guess LDRs can go both ways, good and bad. It truly is tough to make a very strong committment to someone that far away though. Time passes, you miss having your girl/boy more and more. And the visiting thing does get expensive no doubt, spent a ton of cash on gas for my car, antifreeze, and on tolls when I drove up to see her.

Stereoprincess: I totally agree with you that it sucks not being able to talk to the person face to face, there are just some conversations that need to be done in person. For me, phone is just a tease and a way to have "small-talk" with her.

Oh well, I'll hope for the best but prepare for the worst. She's coming down next week (she better :P) so hopefully we have all the time we need to talk things through and spend time with each other... ARGH this sucks cuz I really want to see her, especially on weekends when I go out clubbing, sucks not having her there with me... Anyways thanks again TAs!

ID

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Originally posted by SmackdowN man dont even need to do all that. Just be ignorant

LoL SmackdowN, that's a harsh way to put it but I totally agree with you. Me being from Europe, I really notice the majority of Americans are very close-minded, and it's very tough to meet the few exceptions. It would help alot of Americans to travel to other countries, get cultured a bit and realize that Planet Earth is not the United States...

ID

Damn...french already believe they're the center of the world...if it's the same in the US, it's not gonna be funny at all

Its funny that you guys mention that.... I'm an american (unfortunately), but i've lived and travelled the world....

whats funny is that whenever i go somewhere, i tell people i'm canadian (b/c most of the countries i've been to don't completely like americans for the most part), LOL..... its just a funny travel thing i do.

but i have travelled (and lived) around the world.. and i guess that is why i pretty much like everywhere BUT the USA... but thats me

take care,

-der ABT-

You're right about people not liking the USA...in France, the majority really hate the US and americans, many people in my class last year were ready to kill them and they laugh whenever americans are hurt or other things
Once again, France is one of the only places where americans are so much hated

Anyway, i guess it's a common pattern that whenever you live somewhere since you were born, you don't like the country you're in...It's either that or you become a crazy nationalist who'd kill all of the people on earth for your country...

Well...no..i hope there are many people in between, that would be awful if there weren't

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Originally posted by ABTsportsline Its funny that you guys mention that.... I'm an american (unfortunately), but i've lived and travelled the world.... whats funny is that whenever i go somewhere, i tell people i'm canadian (b/c most of the countries i've been to don't completely like americans for the most part), LOL..... its just a funny travel thing i do. but i have travelled (and lived) around the world.. and i guess that is why i pretty much like everywhere BUT the USA... but thats me take care, -der ABT-

Pretty sad to see you dissing your own country that you live in. If you don't like it here so much why don't you leave? You have to take the good with the bad that comes with every country.

Best/Worst part of America is the freedom to do what you want and the opportunity to do it. As far as music is concerned, 99% of the world's great music comes from America or it's mother the UK. If being an American makes you Ignorant, so be it. BTW, i can't think of any good music that comes from france.

Long live America!

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Originally posted by ABTsportsline Its funny that you guys mention that.... I'm an american (unfortunately), but i've lived and travelled the world.... whats funny is that whenever i go somewhere, i tell people i'm canadian (b/c most of the countries i've been to don't completely like americans for the most part), LOL..... its just a funny travel thing i do. but i have travelled (and lived) around the world.. and i guess that is why i pretty much like everywhere BUT the USA... but thats me take care, -der ABT-

Actually thats quite funny that you say you are canadian. Like you I have traveled the world and I have met americans that also say they are canadians because of the hassles people give them. Whenever we would go anywhere people would automatically assume we were american and act like asses but then when we would say we are canadian they would be the most friendly people! Kind of funny too that americans put canadian flags on their backpacks when they travel hehe.

I have no problem with Americans, dont get me wrong, I do see the US as the land of opportunity therefore that is why I have chosen to move down there at the end of August. Can't wait!

I have a romantic relationship with a girl in my head...it's so great, everything is perfect, it's like we're both in heaven

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Originally posted by Palivar I have a romantic relationship with a girl in my head...it's so great, everything is perfect, it's like we're both in heaven

A girl in your head huh? Hmm... interesting... I guess.

its hurts me to say. I just begun to go out with this girl for the past 2 weeks. Problem is its the summer and everyone knows how funt hat is. Big problem right. Well when summer ends I must go back to school and she must also. she pretty much summed it up as saying this would be a summer thing. I hate hearing that but that it the truth. 3 months without seeing her does hurt a relationship. Anyone got any advice where you think it would make her feel more close to actually say I care for you so much I would try my hardest to stay together no matter what. I don't mind a lonmg distance thing as its all based on trust. It is true we just met. My opnion is I have to gain her trust so she would care even more. Any opinions to somewhat change her mind about this just being a summer thing and when school starts thats it??
I would rather not know the future instead of knowing something good will end.

Laters..

My g/f lives 2 hours away, and we've been together for 2 yrs. It depends on the people, and situation. For me, I appreciate the time we do spend together, which is only the weekends. One thing is, you both have to be on the same page. The timing has to be right, and everything will work out if it's meant to be. Good luck bro... enjoy it while you have it. Sometimes you don't know what you have, until it's gone.

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