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Ali, gimme some time while I read your post

Well, I agree with what Delay Llama said, although his points betray a bit hippieish attitude

Now ali, have you tried installing icq and searching by keywords for someone with your interests?

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Originally posted by DrUg_Tit0 Now ali, have you tried installing icq and searching by keywords for someone with your interests?

lol, you can't be serious, can you?

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Originally posted by ali92 Seriously, where can I get this at? I'm interested...

anywhere that carries more beer than the average swill

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Originally posted by ali92 Regarding organisation: I tend to take things in all aspects of my life to huge extremes. It's something I really can't control. There's almost no such thing as balance in my life. If I do something, I do it unnecessarily well or fail it badly.

That's something you should work on. Remember that thing about the sitar and the string: if the string is too loose or too tight, you won't be able to play it. Also look to your avatar: it's perfectly balanced.

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Originally posted by ali92 The same goes for my music. I MUST have everything in the highest quality on my PC. I encode everything in FLAC (flac.sourceforge.net) and MP3-LAME at 320 kbps (for my portable). I never care about how big the file is, just that I'm getting the best quality. Whenever I buy things, I only go for the best and never want to waste my time on the rest.

There'snothing wrong in wanting your things neat, just don't expect other people to be the exact same way

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Originally posted by ali92 I see what you mean by "too much of the same can be bad". In my case of "taking things to the extreme", only those who think similarly end up understanding what I mean.

Not necessarily. I know what you mean, but I'll be damned if I encode all my files to 320 kbps. Also, I'm very busy, I wouldn't have the time to rename every file I've got. Would I do it if I had the time? Probably yes, but it's not an emergency anyway.

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Originally posted by ali92 I also understand what you are saying about hobbies, etc. I just want to be fully accepted for who and what I am. That's it. I want to be appreciated. I appreciate other people so, why not the opposite?

Yeah, why not? If you want to be fully accepted for who and what you are, accept people fully for who and what they are too. Sincerely, if you behaved this way, you wouldn't have written that first post asking for someone exactly like you Hope I'm not being harsh.

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Originally posted by ali92 Now, about planning, did I give a date out? It's also very true that for my age, I tend to know WAY more than the average 18-year-old: Especially when it comes to factual information, national & international conventions, finances, scams, budgets, etc. (I'm going by what others have told me in the recent past). It turns out to be that while many people my age are online chatting, I'm online reading about international standards; upcoming electronics and how they work, specifications, etc.; how different societies treat certain issues; how cultures', countries', and languages' conventions can conflict should they be tested on international grounds.

So you're a cult person. Props to you I can't see any problem here. By the way, chatting sometimes is good because you won't be wasting your time, you'll be just working on other fields of knowledge (social skills in this case).

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Originally posted by ali92 Has anyone on here ever been to http://www.geocities.com/jusjih/ ? Has anyone on here ever punch up "ISO 8601" in Google, and later wonder why don't we all use this as our standard date & time format? (...)

Easy there buddy or we're gonna go completely off-topic You need to know when to say things. If I had asked you about what an ipod is, then there's no problem to give me SOME of that info (then if I asked for more info, you could say everything). If you throw everything you know at people's faces they won't understand a word you're saying and they won't be able to follow you. It's not their fault. How can you work on this? Chatting. If you started saying half of that stuff chatting to someone, the person would either complain or ignore you (unless you are on topic). Just imagine...

Girl: The sunset is so beautiful, how can the sky be so red?
You: That's because of the frequency of the lights that come across the atmosphere and react with sparktrons of light modifying the range of the brightness in our eyes so our brain can process this information
*the girl is puzzled by now*
because the neurons receive the information with the help of hormones which are called carrotonine and tiestopholine and you can have more of these hormones if you eat eggs and chickens specially if the chickens come from Wisconsin
*girl leaves*
because in Wisconsin the atmosphere is rich in caroblodein and... where is she gone?

You could've just said "It's perfect, isn't it?"

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Originally posted by Delay Llama You: That's because of the frequency of the lights that come across the atmosphere and react with sparktrons of light modifying the range of the brightness in our eyes so our brain can process this information

actually, it's because sunlight gets refracted by the atmosphere and also because we on earth are moving away from the sunlight, so it gets redshifted and its wavelengths get stretched (and that's why sunrise looks blueish - it gets blueshifted), but who really cares, it's perfect, isn't it?

Peace and Love

hehe, hippies with their "carpe diem" philosophy are overated It's all about the middle way

(this post will look too weird if Drug_tito's post keep disappearing )

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Originally posted by DrUg_Tit0 Well, I agree with what Delay Llama said, although his points betray a bit hippieish attitude Now ali, have you tried installing icq and searching by keywords for someone with your interests?

I use ICQ via Trillian Pro 2.0 I don't think there is an "Intersts" section there though. I know what you are talking about with the ICQ Interests thing, though... Can I do it through a web interface?

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Originally posted by Delay Llama That's something you should work on. Remember that thing about the sitar and the string: if the string is too loose or too tight, you won't be able to play it. Also look to your avatar: it's perfectly balanced. There'snothing wrong in wanting your things neat, just don't expect other people to be the exact same way Not necessarily. I know what you mean, but I'll be damned if I encode all my files to 320 kbps. Also, I'm very busy, I wouldn't have the time to rename every file I've got. Would I do it if I had the time? Probably yes, but it's not an emergency anyway. Yeah, why not? If you want to be fully accepted for who and what you are, accept people fully for who and what they are too. Sincerely, if you behaved this way, you wouldn't have written that first post asking for someone exactly like you Hope I'm not being harsh. So you're a cult person. Props to you I can't see any problem here. By the way, chatting sometimes is good because you won't be wasting your time, you'll be just working on other fields of knowledge (social skills in this case). Easy there buddy or we're gonna go completely off-topic You need to know when to say things. If I had asked you about what an ipod is, then there's no problem to give me SOME of that info (then if I asked for more info, you could say everything). If you throw everything you know at people's faces they won't understand a word you're saying and they won't be able to follow you. It's not their fault. How can you work on this? Chatting. If you started saying half of that stuff chatting to someone, the person would either complain or ignore you (unless you are on topic). Just imagine... Girl: The sunset is so beautiful, how can the sky be so red? You: That's because of the frequency of the lights that come across the atmosphere and react with sparktrons of light modifying the range of the brightness in our eyes so our brain can process this information *the girl is puzzled by now* because the neurons receive the information with the help of hormones which are called carrotonine and tiestopholine and you can have more of these hormones if you eat eggs and chickens specially if the chickens come from Wisconsin *girl leaves* because in Wisconsin the atmosphere is rich in caroblodein and... where is she gone? You could've just said "It's perfect, isn't it?"

I accept everyone for who they are... I just want a 100% balanced relationship and no "head games" and lies...

Yeah, me saying loads of random stuff at any given time is a big issue with me, as I love displaying my knowledge everywhere.

About chatting, I don't chat much because what I have to say is either not on topic or it's something that the room can't or don't want to understand. If no-one wants to speak to me because of what I have to say or that "it's too boring" or "why should anyone care about that?", etc., I just leave, because I've gotten responses that show that no-one's interested and they are annoyed by the behaviour. It's a waste of time saying stuff in a chatroom that no-one wants to hear, isn't it? I have much troubles striking up and retaining a "casual conversation" so, I replace it with many sentences starting with "Did you know...[?]"...

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Originally posted by butterfly too bad you didnt meet me 7 years ago. though i never lived in japan...

7 years ago I acted completely different... You might mean if you were in the current timeframe 7 years ago... What's the average age on here? I'm only 18... I all of a sudden got this knowledge, passion for Electronica, interest in such obsure things practically overnight (really, it was over a period of about 4 years: the amount of time I've been on the Internet))! You wouldn't have wanted to know me over about 3 years ago...

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Originally posted by ali92 I'm only 18... I all of a sudden got this knowledge, passion for Electronica, interest in such obsure things practically overnight (really, it was over a period of about 4 years: the amount of time I've been on the Internet))!

it's called adolescence, that's when you discover the most things about yourself and the world around you


besides, a relationship at 11? lol!


those old sayings, they exist for a reason, and things like "live and learn" are really true.

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Originally posted by ali92 I accept everyone for who they are... I just want a 100% balanced relationship and no "head games" and lies...

Most of us do, but if you start a relationship being that cautious, don't expect it to be this way

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Originally posted by ali92 Yeah, me saying loads of random stuff at any given time is a big issue with me, as I love displaying my knowledge everywhere.

Then don't You know you're intelligent and after some time people will notice it too. There's no need for you to make sure they know it.

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Originally posted by ali92 About chatting, I don't chat much because what I have to say is either not on topic or it's something that the room can't or don't want to understand.

Then try to move to private conversations first

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Originally posted by ali92 If no-one wants to speak to me because of what I have to say or that "it's too boring" or "why should anyone care about that?", etc., I just leave, because I've gotten responses that show that no-one's interested and they are annoyed by the behaviour. It's a waste of time saying stuff in a chatroom that no-one wants to hear, isn't it?

That's because you need to stay on topic, you need to know what other people find interesting. Work on it. Read a couple of non-sense threads here in the Chill-out room. By the time you finish your reading, you'll have learned nothing, but you probably had fun reading those whacky posts.

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Originally posted by ali92 I have much troubles striking up and retaining a "casual conversation" so, I replace it with many sentences starting with "Did you know...[?]"...

That's because not everything in life needs to be a source of useful information, which is why there's pointless humour, random conversations and BTG's drunken threads

Rent "American Pie", "Dude, where's my car?" and all the stupid movies you can get. Watch them. Understand the essence.

Finally, don't send the letter (I've always wanted to say it, sorry)

I'm also sorry if this post doesn't sound too bright, but I do need some sleep

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Originally posted by Delay Llama That's because you need to stay on topic, you need to know what other people find interesting. Work on it. Read a couple of non-sense threads here in the Chill-out room. By the time you finish your reading, you'll have learned nothing, but you probably had fun reading those whacky posts. That's because not everything in life needs to be a source of useful information, which is why there's pointless humour, random conversations and BTG's drunken threads Rent "American Pie", "Dude, where's my car?" and all the stupid movies you can get. Watch them. Understand the essence. Finally, don't send the letter (I've always wanted to say it, sorry) I'm also sorry if this post doesn't sound too bright, but I do need some sleep

exactly. that's why always spam around and joke around because it's just a message board and you can't really goof off like that IRL. practice online lol. just like the GU series say on the back of the booklet, DON'T TAKE LIFE TOO SERIOUSLY!

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Originally posted by Delay Llama Most of us do, but if you start a relationship being that cautious, don't expect it to be this way Then don't You know you're intelligent and after some time people will notice it too. There's no need for you to make sure they know it. Then try to move to private conversations first That's because you need to stay on topic, you need to know what other people find interesting. Work on it. Read a couple of non-sense threads here in the Chill-out room. By the time you finish your reading, you'll have learned nothing, but you probably had fun reading those whacky posts. That's because not everything in life needs to be a source of useful information, which is why there's pointless humour, random conversations and BTG's drunken threads Rent "American Pie", "Dude, where's my car?" and all the stupid movies you can get. Watch them. Understand the essence. Finally, don't send the letter (I've always wanted to say it, sorry) I'm also sorry if this post doesn't sound too bright, but I do need some sleep

It's not that I want to "make sure they know it", it's just that I don't have much else TO say and I get bored if I'm in a chatroom and no-one wants to hear what I have to say. After all, what's a chat room for? To chat, right? However, if I'm in one and I'm being more of a nussence (sp?) (either rightly or wrongly) than someone who can keep the conversation lively, I don't belong there... Bottom line?

for starters, you said youre on your computer "all the time" and the likelihood of you finding a girl is very slim if you spend all day in front of a computer screen. the kind of girl your looking for isnt just gonna show up on your doorstep. however, if you go out more, your chances of meeting someone with similar interests will drastically increase.

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Originally posted by fuct4less for starters, you said youre on your computer "all the time" and the likelihood of you finding a girl is very slim if you spend all day in front of a computer screen. the kind of girl your looking for isnt just gonna show up on your doorstep. however, if you go out more, your chances of meeting someone with similar interests will drastically increase.

OK, time for some more words (paragraph)... I tend to be a bit paranoid of just walking up to someone and speaking to them, for fear they might be "taken" and who they're with may wonder why am I talking to her, etc. Plus, I have no idea how how to start and carry on a regular conversation without getting very technical. I could never defend myself come a day I may end up in a physical fight. Plus, when I am out, I pretty much walk around like a robot with my iRiver iMP-550 in a Case Logic CD player case tied around my waist on my belt, headphones blasting, etc. so, people would have a hard time getting it off me, should they try to just "pull it". I can't see just holding a 180 USD CD player in my hand whilst walking around outside. You probably figured that I was paranoid anyway and that's why I'm asking on here anyway...

Oh, am I the only one on TA who's 18 & never clubbed a single day in his life but absolutely LOVES Electronica?

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Originally posted by ali92 Oh, am I the only one on TA who's 18 & never clubbed a single day in his life but absolutely LOVES Electronica?

nope. but i was to a hybrid 'concert' 2 months ago if that counts

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Originally posted by ali92 OK, time for some more words (paragraph)... I tend to be a bit paranoid of just walking up to someone and speaking to them, for fear they might be "taken" and who they're with may wonder why am I talking to her, etc. Plus, I have no idea how how to start and carry on a regular conversation without getting very technical. I could never defend myself come a day I may end up in a physical fight. Plus, when I am out, I pretty much walk around like a robot with my iRiver iMP-550 in a Case Logic CD player case tied around my waist on my belt, headphones blasting, etc. so, people would have a hard time getting it off me, should they try to just "pull it". I can't see just holding a 180 USD CD player in my hand whilst walking around outside. You probably figured that I was paranoid anyway and that's why I'm asking on here anyway...

You need to change basically anything and everything that you mentioned in that paragraph. Not even for the girls you meet, but for yourself!

As for being taken... haha. Believe it or not, the taken ones are the easiest to talk to. Why do girls flirt with me when they're with their boyfriends but not when they're alone... arrrrrgh.

Anyway... you're a geek. And there's nothing wrong with being a geek, but you have to learn how to be non-geeky when it's required of you. Learn to small talk, get some hobbies, leave the CD player at home and make eye contact with the people you see...

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Originally posted by DigiNut You need to change basically anything and everything that you mentioned in that paragraph. Not even for the girls you meet, but for yourself! As for being taken... haha. Believe it or not, the taken ones are the easiest to talk to. Why do girls flirt with me when they're with their boyfriends but not when they're alone... arrrrrgh. Anyway... you're a geek. And there's nothing wrong with being a geek, but you have to learn how to be non-geeky when it's required of you. Learn to small talk, get some hobbies, leave the CD player at home and make eye contact with the people you see...

About the CD player, I only have it because I'm addicted to electronica to the extreme and can't stand walking around or waiting for a bus in silence for hours on end with nothing to do or hear or no-one to speak to or whatever. I don't have many friends to visit, etc. Everyone I know's busy with their life, etc. One or two of my friends have actually stopped talking to me because they found a girl-friend and they find me an uninteresting person to be around, unless they have questions for me (which they almost never do). And I only go anywhere when I have a purpose or need to be somewhere for something. I don't think I've went anywhere for leisure within the past 3 years! Everywhere I went, it was for a purpose... Yeah, I have hobbies but, they all have to do with computers & music (well, downloading it)!

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Originally posted by DigiNut You need to change basically anything and everything that you mentioned in that paragraph. Not even for the girls you meet, but for yourself! As for being taken... haha. Believe it or not, the taken ones are the easiest to talk to. Why do girls flirt with me when they're with their boyfriends but not when they're alone... arrrrrgh. Anyway... you're a geek. And there's nothing wrong with being a geek, but you have to learn how to be non-geeky when it's required of you. Learn to small talk, get some hobbies, leave the CD player at home and make eye contact with the people you see...

Plus, I tend to act very literal as well. If someone told me to speak to every girl you think looks nice and you are interested in that you believe is around your age, I probably would do it if I was fearless and had no paranoia. But, then again, isn't it rude to just talk to everyone who falls into that category one after another, when you are showing signs that you are (perhaps desperately) looking for a g-f? I've often gotten told this exact sentence: "Get a life..."

You're going about this the wrong way:

Why look for a woman who has male interests? It be simplier to find a man who meets your criteria. Then become gay or pay him to have a sex change.

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Originally posted by whiskers it's called adolescence, that's when you discover the most things about yourself and the world around you

wahahahaha
thought it said 'abstinance', not 'adolescence'
ehehehe

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Originally posted by whiskers nope. but i was to a hybrid 'concert' 2 months ago if that counts

Counts enough for me, as I never was at a concert either...

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Originally posted by igottaknow You're going about this the wrong way: Why look for a woman who has male interests? It be simplier to find a man who meets your criteria. Then become gay or pay him to have a sex change.

You don't just "become gay". I'm not gay. The problem is that I don't have much in common with the majority of females. I have much of nothing to speak to them about. They don't want to hear my BS, no matter how interesting it is at first, because later on, they discover that that's how I always act and what they thought was interesting the first time they heard something similar, is NOT what they wish to hear too much. They aren't looking for "Did you know...?" sentences almost hourly or daily... I've never met a girl who wanted to bother with me for more than about 25 contiguous days...

Here's what I mean:

Did you know that Japan's sinking by 3 cm per year?
Did you know that the total area of the earth is about 40'000 km?
Did you know that a CD spins at about 500 RPM at the beginning but, 200 RPM near the end when playing in a regular CD player?
Did you know that the CD's original maximum length of 74 minutes was based off of Ludwig van Beethoven - Symphony No. 9?
Did you know that Vatican City is the smallest nation in the world?
Did you know that Japan has about half of the US total population in a land area less than the size of California?
Did you know that the tropical year is exactly 365.24219 days long and getting longer, as of 2000-01-01?
Did you know that the sun rises in the east & sets in the west only TWICE per year?
Did you know that our athmosphere is about 8'000 km thick? Did you know our land on this planet is made up of about fifteen tectonic plate, like a jigsaw puzzle? When an earthquake occurs, it's two plates rubbing against each other.
Did you know that there are 88 visable constellations in the night sky?
Did you know that the Middle East's week works slightly different?: They work from Saturday to Thursday at noon and am off from noon Thursdays to Saturday. Our Monday is already their 3rd workday.

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