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Posted by Mebot on Mar-31-2004 04:42:

what are you going to name your daughter (or son if you're wrong)?

Do you have any names lined up

Skyhigh Jr sounds kinda nice

Posted by trancEyes22 on Mar-31-2004 04:42:

I'M THE IDIOT? uh, no. and idiot is one word pal.

Posted by Arbiter on Mar-31-2004 04:43:

Next week you can create your suicide thread.

I do have a piece of advice for you though, even though you're probably not going to like it. It starts with "a" and ends with "bortion." You may think that you're ready for parenthood, but after reading your posts I have serious doubts about it myself (no offense).

Posted by Orbax on Mar-31-2004 04:44:

quote:
Originally posted by mto
You're an ass.

i dont think ive ever seen you here before.

Posted by SkyHigh on Mar-31-2004 04:44:

quote:
Originally posted by Mebot
what are you going to name your daughter (or son if you're wrong)?

Do you have any names lined up

Skyhigh Jr sounds kinda nice
N

No IM sorry we got nothing ...i sugested SCARLET...she said no...SO we got nothing

Posted by Orbax on Mar-31-2004 04:44:

and guys...technically no one is ready for parenting. Its messed up and kids are crazier than hell. Id be SCARED if someone was ready to be a parent.

Posted by CynepMeH on Mar-31-2004 04:46:

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Originally posted by SkyHigh
thank you (igottknow)...(IM happy 9kind of)but im freaked out cause i think IM still a kid .I have a job and everyithing ,but I dont see myself as a DAD ......

My wife and I have the same age difference as you two and she got pregnant at 23 (I was 25 at the time) - I had the same reaction. Now we got a 2.5 year boy and it was the best thing that ever happened to me. Don't sweat it - it will all work out and you'll be fine.

Even though we got a kid, we still go out with our friends, go to clubs (tho not as often) and still live our normal lives, just with more responsibility on our hands.

Here's my monster:

Posted by Mebot on Mar-31-2004 04:47:

quote:
Originally posted by SkyHigh
N

No IM sorry we got nothing ...i sugested SCARLET...she said no...SO we got nothing

Well you should start a new thread on suggestions of the babys name.

Scarlet sounds fine to me

Posted by SkyHigh on Mar-31-2004 04:51:

quote:
Originally posted by CynepMeH
My wife and I have the same age difference as you two and she got pregnant at 23 (I was 25 at the time) - I had the same reaction. We got a 2.5 year boy and it was the best thing that ever happened to me. Don't sweat it - it will all work out and you'll be fine.

Even though we got a kid, we still go out with our friends, go to clubs (tho not as often) and still live our normal lives, just with more responsibility on our hands.

Here's my monster:

WOW ..thank you ..Im still kind of scared..But I hope it goes awayy
but its less worrisome ..that somoone else had the same experience

Posted by Dmatrox on Mar-31-2004 04:52:

Posted by SkyHigh on Mar-31-2004 04:54:

quote:
Originally posted by CynepMeH
My wife and I have the same age difference as you two and she got pregnant at 23 (I was 25 at the time) - I had the same reaction. We got a 2.5 year boy and it was the best thing that ever happened to me. Don't sweat it - it will all work out and you'll be fine.

Even though we got a kid, we still go out with our friends, go to clubs (tho not as often) and still live our normal lives, just with more responsibility on our hands.

Here's my monster:

Such cute KID u got ..i just wish mine wasnt a high risk situation

Posted by DjDarling on Mar-31-2004 05:02:

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Originally posted by mto
By anti-abortion, i meant that i do not approve abortion. I see what you mean though.. i dont know what to tell you man. Stay strong, pray.. doctors.. be there for her..

Wow. This is pretty serious shit man but it sounds like you two are old enough to handle it accordingly? I think you guys are very smart to not get another abortion, it's such a serious matter and something that is so hard to live with. I can't imagine it....All I can say but I know you probably already know is be there for her, be there for her. Good luck with absolutely everything And if the kid looks anything like CynepMeH's kid, you're laughin' cuz that kid is ADORABLE!

Posted by LinX on Mar-31-2004 05:12:

and dont forget to treat the kid right, feed him, change him, give him baths, and get him a little pair of headphones so he can discover trance early and maybe grow up to be the next #1 dj....

Posted by SkyHigh on Mar-31-2004 05:14:

Thank you all..For not flaming me ..I hope my daughter is ok .No I dea still how to make my g/g feel better . Every 2nd day sick sick sick.

And anti-abortion people are not soo smart

Posted by trancEyes22 on Mar-31-2004 05:15:

cutest little guy ever, cynep!!!!

Posted by ShadoWolf on Mar-31-2004 05:37:

quote:
Originally posted by moncster

moncster, did you have sex with a Japanese girl (ninja-style even)??

Posted by h0tsweetbabyd0l on Mar-31-2004 05:39:

hi skyhigh ....

i don't think as people already said that anyone is ready for having a child ....but if u feel u want this baby keep it ....nothing worse than having a kid when u really don't want ....in this case i think abortion is better because once u have a kid u gotta love the kid take care of him and behave like a parent

but i wish u good luck with everything and u got all my support !

Posted by CynepMeH on Mar-31-2004 05:41:

quote:
Originally posted by SkyHigh
WOW ..thank you ..Im still kind of scared..But I hope it goes awayy
but its less worrisome ..that somoone else had the same experience

If you need a fellow TA-dad support, pm me . My wife said she was pregnant and I had the same friggin reaction - "I'm a kid myself, I'm not ready, what the hell am I going to do" bla bla bla... but the truth is that once you face the facts and get over the initial fear, it actually is a great experience. I mean it's more responsibility than we (men) would ever wanna have but if it was up to us, the world would die out after the first few generations...

I swear tho, my kid is a born ta. He dances his ass off when he hears trance and man - the most hilarious thing is he has one finger up in the air, pumping his little fist - it's to die for.
Besides, think of all the great possibilities for abuse of the power: "Why? Because I'm your dad and I said so!"

I'm glad we had a kid this "early" - this way I can actually associate with him easier. My dad had 42 years on me and we often did not see eye to eye. Just when I started to appreciate his advise he passed away...

Anyway, if u think this is early - most people in countries like Russia, Ukraine, Eastern europe and so on have families by the time they are 20 or so. My sister became a mother at the age of 18, many of the students I had from former Soviet republics were in their early 20's with 2 kids or so.

I think in US people just don't mature as quickly which leads to the whole "scared" thing. Just chill out, relax - if she's comfortable and you are comfortable with each other the kid will only bring you closer. All this BS about life being over when you have kids is comming from people who are too chicken shit to take on additional responsibility. The key though, you can't force her to make any decision she'd regret later and blame you for it. If you care about her and don'w want to loose her, don't shove your opinions down her throat. If you think you're scared - think of how she feels. She needs someone to back her up 100% no matter what.

Also, I'm not pro-life or pro-abortion... but I will tell you this - there are literally millions of women who'd give everything to have a child but they can't... Our friends have been trying for the last 5 years and have sank close to 100K for various treatments and BS to get pregnant - and no results. just something to keep in mind... you may not get another chance... your call, though, no matter what anyone tells you here.

Posted by CynepMeH on Mar-31-2004 05:45:

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Originally posted by trancEyes22
cutest little guy ever, cynep!!!!

Thank you but he's a load and a half. kid has a spring in his ass, I swear - doesn't sit still for 5 seconds... I get peace only when he's watching "Finding Nemo"

Posted by SkyHigh on Mar-31-2004 05:49:

WOW Thank you CynepMeH..!!

Im freaked out ..but happy at the same time...IM just worried about my g/f ...not taking this too good...(she)
I wish theis was over so she can be cool again...my kiddo will br the greatest female DJ ever

Posted by CynepMeH on Mar-31-2004 05:50:

quote:
Originally posted by moncster

That jumper is classic! LOL BTW, I had a Twilo bib for my son - and judging by the date on when doctor estimated conception, I swear PvD in Twilo probably had something to do with it

Posted by trancEyes22 on Mar-31-2004 05:53:

monster, is that your baby too!!! *tear* all these cute babies are making my maternal instinct kick in and i'm not yet even a mommy!

Posted by Boomer187 on Mar-31-2004 06:16:

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Originally posted by Nou
Like is she physically sick?

If she is definitly want to keep the doctors on her for a while to make sure that it doesnt complicate anything later on!

If she isnt ready for this in her head, just calm her and comfort her and be there for her every need man.

Best wishes and good luck, and its only the first day (that its in your mind), so calm yourself too!

its usually morning sickness when girls are first pregnent. Plus the extra stress and anxiety of knowing your life is gonna be difficult.

and isn';t abortion illegal now??

Posted by ShadoWolf on Mar-31-2004 06:22:

quote:
Originally posted by trancEyes22
monster, is that your baby too!!! *tear* all these cute babies are making my maternal instinct kick in and i'm not yet even a mommy!

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Posted by montie on Mar-31-2004 06:32:

as to your g/f being sick....
being sick is normal. be sure to reguarly check in with the doctor. and if you ever think something is really wrong theres nothing wrong with bringing her into the hospital and seeing the doctor. better safe than sorry.
she's prolly so sick more due to emotional reasons than physical. your freaking out, but think about her. she has another person growing in side of her and which she has to shit out. not ot mention the whole responsibility of it for pretty much the rest of her life.

from what i've heard i'd definatly not advise an abortion (i'm neither fully pro or anti either way, altho i think abortion is an incredibly depressing and horrible thing). you both are about of a good age to have kids (my mom was 24 when she had me, my dad 26). people hype having kids up today like its a bad thing, but baby's/having a kid and raising one is a wonderful experience. i'm looking forward to it in my future.
be sure you are able to provide for the kid financially. you said you had a stable job i think. so make sure you stay with it, and hopefully will be able to rise up the chain in the future.

the best thing you can do is be very supportive of your g/f. right now she's freaking out more than you are. be strong for her and don't force her to do anything she doesn't want. do whatever you can to make her comfertable. and assure her that you will stay with her. i'm not saying get married or anything, but be there for that kid no matter what happens between the two of you.

best of luck

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