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let me try to give you some advice tyby. i know what you're talking about dude. i've felt the same way about certain people. and certain people have felt the same way about me (although i can't figure out why ). sorry i'm always trying to be a comedian. but in all seriousness this is what someone told me once and it made a lot of sense cuz she was speaking from the bottom of her soul. in instances such as yours you feel a lot of pain because you cannot have what you want. but you choose to ignore this pain by replacing it with feelings of hope or longing. now we all know that you are not going to get the girl this time. sorry to be bluntly honest but it's just not going to happen. yet you let yourself believe that there is a possibility of it happening. and this hope overrides the pain. you still feel the pain of loss but yet it is not great enough pain to make you forget because the hope is there to blunt it. so what you have to do is stop hoping and let the pain wash over you. and only until you are fully immersed in it and you understand that she is gone forever will you be able to move on. sounds kind of cheesy or corny perhaps but it's true. otherwise you're in for a long masochistic cycle cuz there's nothing anyone can do to change this situation except for yourself. so that's it tyby. take it or leave it but that's the best advice you'll get from me. peace and stop this harassment business cuz how can you say you love someone by making them feel totally uncomfortable. doesn't equate in my book.

lost

hmmmmmmm..
i really wonder how u can find love thru the net...

im with u abt.

I'd better see you dead, little girl, than to be with another man.
You'd better keep your head, little girl, or you won't know where I end.
You'd better Run for Your Life, little girl.
I know that I'm a wicked guy and I was born with a jealous mind.
And I can spend my whole time trying just to make you tow the line.
You'd better Run for Your Life, little girl.

Trance Remix of the Beatles, anyone?

Just like that...

Stop trying so HARD to forget her.

See tta always viewed this as life. Life is never easy. Hey what has happened to you has happened to almost 99.9% of guys at one time and you know what, either get an available girl or wait till she dumps her boyfriend. I would do the first example but what the hell do i know about relationships.

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Originally posted by penguin ah girl problems...ive got one...someone please try and explain to me. theres this girl im really good friends with...ive known her for about 6 months...we talk on the phone alot hang out a lot nearly everyday. were pretty much best friends...i guess u can already tell what the problem is. i tell her i like her and at first she says im not ready for a boyfriend yet cuz i just broke up and asks if she can go out with me later when shes ready. so im like ok...but i can tell she doesnt wanna really go out with me...so i talk to her and shes like i just like u as friend...i like u more than any other guy, u are special, i really really like u etc is what she says...but she cant go out with me. what the fuck. oh and she told my friend like if she went out with me nothing would change because its liek we are already going out...she said she knows me too well. so im guessing like i waited too long to ask her out huh...sigh...

i was in the same situation as you about a year ago sorry to say but id say 98% chance you waited to long to ask her out.

who knows though thats just from my personal experience

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Originally posted by Miss Proximus Would you like it if a girl harassed you all the time?

yes! seriously though, you should probably leave her alone. In my mind i think of the guy in the movies who steals the girls away and ruins a good relationship hehe.

2 issues

there are two things that I have passed over in this thread.

1st:-Y does ppl think guys don't get hurt? I know that so many girls do that, as if we would be some kind of walking dicks (excuse the language but I've been thru this and I know it! - btw there are enough girls that want only cock-a-doodle-doo!).
We are human beings too. I must admit there are many guys that do that. U must admit there are also girls that do that. Why judge every single one like it will be like the one before? (I hope I am making sense) give everyone a chance.

(I am not taking TyBy's side now, I just say it as a general observation)

2nd (and even more important to me now): How can U anyone fall in love so easy? I'm not saying U can't (though for who might recall this was my opinion for a long time), but don't jump into conclusions like "U will loe again" or "well, I guess U love her more then U loved the other one.." crap like this! I hate seeing people that can fool themselves so easily!

I guess I am pretty agressive on this point. Well, I am! Love is rare. So rare, it's almost hazarduos to believe in it. I know am with this girl, she simply got me. She shattered my beliefs, she shattered my world... and I have told her "I love U". I really mean it. Because what I have achieved with her, it is almost beyond my emotional capabilities, and far beyond my rational understanding.

I don't want to be rational with her.

Try 2 love. But don't fool Urself before time! (sorry TyBY)

yeah guys are sensitive too! i cried seriously i did =P like twice...it really hurt cuz i really thought she would say yes...i dont ask many girls out...im too shy...she was only 2nd girl i asked out...first one said yes. i really like her...maybe even love...i dont get attached to girls so easy but this one god i really care for her...oh well life sucks! i gotta go get ready to go out with her right now...as friends that is...i wanna ask her why she doesnt wanna go out with me...i wanna know the total straight up truth tho i think it is cuz were too good friends...

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Originally posted by penguin yeah guys are sensitive too! i cried seriously i did =P like twice...it really hurt cuz i really thought she would say yes...i dont ask many girls out...im too shy...she was only 2nd girl i asked out...first one said yes. i really like her...maybe even love...i dont get attached to girls so easy but this one god i really care for her...oh well life sucks! i gotta go get ready to go out with her right now...as friends that is...i wanna ask her why she doesnt wanna go out with me...i wanna know the total straight up truth tho i think it is cuz were too good friends...

I'm kinda shy too... I was so close to loose my present gf because of this, and i sometimes hate myself so much bevause... but this is how we are made!

about Ur problem, I must say this is maybe only an aparent reason. she might not like U (don't be upset cuz I'm sayin' this; hell, I don't even know U guys, so I might be wrong as hell!!), or she indeed cares for Ur friendship too much.
but there is this belief I have ran over couple of times: "Boys and girls cannot be friends!" Period. I had this incredible friend, and she was a girl, yet things were okay. But I actually think it is true. So U are not friends with her, bc U like her, and she tries to hide herself in this reason..

but my advice is to talk. maybe she is confused, maybe she thinks it wouldn't work.

have luck!

sum of the stories im reading here...u ******s are lame! lol...get ur friggin balls reattached or sumthing!

sorry to be this way....but i just think its sorry for any1 to get so hung up over another person!

no offence! just my .00000000000002 cents...

peace

the boy/girl thing does work. i think it does.

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Originally posted by AnotherWay83 sum of the stories im reading here...u ******s are lame! lol...get ur friggin balls reattached or sumthing! sorry to be this way....but i just think its sorry for any1 to get so hung up over another person! no offence! just my .00000000000002 cents... peace

Well, some people go through intense emotional difficulties. From what you're saying I'm guessing that yours have never gone beyond the reattachment of balls which probably hurt.

All I can say is that when you're in a situation like this (and I've had it happen to me a few times, like everybody else!), just realize that whatever happens in life happens for the best. And if it didn't work out it wasn't meant to be.

Re: Why Does It Hurt So Bad???

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Originally posted by TyBy7996 I don't understand, I need advices PLEASE [/B]

Need advice?? ok here's one...
would you stop it already??? get a life JOSH... stop making youself look like you are the victim.

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Originally posted by TyBy7996 , what would you do if you fell for someone that had a boyfriend?[/B]

I WOULD MOVE ONNNNNNNNNN!!!!!! to someone who's actually S I N G L E !

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Originally posted by TyBy7996 the worse thing is, her boyfriend is out of town and i have the chance to try something with her now that he is gone, but i saw her once with her friends and she almost ran over me,I ran after her car, all because i like this chik.[/B]

now wait a minute...I cant believe im even reading this.. Ok you are right about my boyfriend being out of town..but you are wrong about having this so-called-chance to try something with me.
Oh how could I forget the car part.. as I recall,I didnt run over you...
YOU JUMPED ON MY CAR TRYING TO STOP ME FROM DRIVING OFF. why? because you like me?? Dude, I'd run away from boyfriend too if he ever tried to brake my car window and grabbed me.

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Originally posted by TyBy7996 I just can't stop thinking about her[/B]

Ok can someone handle him a tissue??? here we go again ..

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Originally posted by TyBy7996 I want to forget about her, but why can't I?[/B]

YOU CANT BECAUSE you don't want to....maybe if you stopped sending me Pms.. emails.. icq messages..stoped telling extravaganza to talk to me about you... and making this a soap opera.. you would be able to concentrate more in yourself or other girls.

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Originally posted by TyBy7996 Fuck, what is wrong with everything?[/B]

nothing is wrong with anything...but something is definately wrong with you.


Ok... this is probably going to be kinda long for some ppl in here.. but I would like to apologize to those who have absolutely nothing to do with this.. still having to put up with this.. although some of you called this "girl" a bitch.. or a psycho...I guess I could understand since some didnt know who tyby was talking about...
the thing is.. to make a story short..

this has been going on for a LONG TIME.. and im really tired..afraid.. scared.. terrified....of someone who claims he is in love with me.. when we've only seen each other like 3 times.. and spoken maybe once or twice.....and then he comes around playing the victim role when all he has caused is trouble..

I dont want to ever be in any sort of contact with you,theres a lot of things you have done that scares me...and I dont want to be around people like you. It is just not gonna happen.. just understand.. it is as simple as that!!!...

let me make this clear again.. I love my boyfriend.. I love him so much that i run away from you...i respect our relationship...and nothing can change that.. everyone else here respects that.. and to everyother couple in here... you should do the same.

stop making this a soap opera.. people don't know what u've done... and i dont want anyone calling me the psycho.. when the truth is im only afraid of you and your past actions.
just stop it....

Miss P... Lost.. and my lil brother FasTdJ(TAHA).. and to all the other who's been so nice and understand what this story has caused...and the truth behind it..

thank you.. and sorry again...now my wish is for this thread to be closed.

xoxo Ur Dream Grl

hes talking about you?!?!?!?!? WTF?!?!

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Originally posted by lMIlk hes talking about you?!?!?!?!? WTF?!?!

YUP milk, he is talkign about Faye (ur dream grl)..
wath a loser...and he needs to stop with that.

hey milk you got a new avatar! cool

cyaaaa
Ybeee

so let me get this story straight.

tyby is a psycho who met ur dream grl on trance addict, saw her 3 times , spoken to her twice, jumps on her car to make her stop, grabbs her, and consider this being in love??

LOLOL.. this is too much for me
Hey my brother, it sounds to me like you need therapy, this girl should definately be scared of you, i would be too if a girl acted like that to me, dawm... you scary boy.
Just move on,

oh by the way, not all girls are mean or evil, 90% of them are, but not all of them. so watch what you say too.

bye

damn thats pretty funny. Stop going for someone who 1.doesn't like you and 2. is taken.
and yes i love my new avatar. in case you havent' noticed, his name i betard fooser.

I don''t know what to say Faye


tyby

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Originally posted by TyBy7996 I don''t know what to say Faye tyby

Please just don't say nothing ... thanks

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Originally posted by hypronix there is this belief I have ran over couple of times: "Boys and girls cannot be friends!" Period.

heh...i've always said this to many people too and they think i'm some crazy bastard or something. always picking up some lame examples and saying that "see i'm a guy and she's a girl but we're only friends" and so on but they don't even understand the real concept behind that quote. glad there's someone out there that agrees with me completely on this one and feels the the same truth from that statement.

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Originally posted by TurboGS-R heh...i've always said this to many people too and they think i'm some crazy bastard or something. always picking up some lame examples and saying that "see i'm a guy and she's a girl but we're only friends" and so on but they don't even understand the real concept behind that quote. glad there's someone out there that agrees with me completely on this one and feels the the same truth from that statement.

hehe, I dont agree with that concept.
I mean i msure it doesnt owrk with some of you guys, but before I went out with my boyfriend we were best friends for almos 8 years before that. fortunaly we saw that there was somethign more and we started going out.
but the thing is, boy and girl friendship can go on great, it is nice to have a special guy to talk to and tells things that you dont tell the girls.hehehe

Oh Anyways going back a lil into the subject.."TYBY IS A LOSER"

Josh i can't believe you even waste your time trying to bring this stuff in public, you need to get a life, faye wont ever want you because you got the worse qualities in a guy, plus you are mean, rude and ignorant, and you think you are all that.
you are the kind of guy that will hit a girl,maybe that is why you dont have one right now, you need to chill and go to some therapy or something.


ok, I think I've said enough for tonight,
Cyaaaaa
Ybeee

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Originally posted by TurboGS-R heh...i've always said this to many people too and they think i'm some crazy bastard or something. always picking up some lame examples and saying that "see i'm a guy and she's a girl but we're only friends" and so on but they don't even understand the real concept behind that quote. glad there's someone out there that agrees with me completely on this one and feels the the same truth from that statement.

i too do not agree with that concept either. why? because i literally grew up with more girls than guys. i have like a ratio of 10:1 girl friends. scary...yes...(whooo, that pms...it's a bitch, hehe) but YB is right.

having a guy/girl friendship is one of the best kinds of relationships you can have imo. generally, most guys my age (17ish) ain't very fun to talk to. sure they can be, but 80% of the time they ain't. all they got to say are perverted remarks and who's hot and who's not..blah blah...notice how i said generally. girls i find to be a much better conversation. hehe. personal experience and opinion i guess...dunno. like sugahbean and meself, we click like brother and sista, mannn she's awesome. where she at??? miss da bean.

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Originally posted by TyBy7996 I don''t know what to say Faye tyby

Don't speak
I know just what U're saying
So please stop explaining
Don't tell me cause it hurts!


About the fact that girls and boys cannot be friends... well YBee has told herself that she is goin' out with the guy after being friends for 8 years...
but not that, I had too some great friends that were girls... the point is that relationships that start/end as "friends"... well, let's just say I stopped believing they would work... but, YBEE, maybe there are exceptions, right?

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Originally posted by TyBy7996 I don''t know what to say Faye tyby

say:
"im sorry for acting like a weirdo."
"im sorry for stalking you."
"im sorry for making you uncomfortable and scared."
"im sorry for making this issue viewable to the whole world."
"i will stop this nonsense immediately."


and then, dont say anything else...find a new girl that likes you.

if you truely care for her that much, then respect her wishes and leave her and abt alone. (easier said than done, but its necessary)


ps ur dream grl: wasn't there some other dude from the net harrassing you before, or is this the same one? hmmmm.

pps imilk: whats bertad foser? ive been wondering what the hell that meant...heheh...explain.

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