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Originally posted by Floorfiller well i know...i'm that way too hehehe. i guess i don't know what to tell you because i struggle with my own methods of self control. you could always resort to other methods of making your boyfriend smile of course....ass/boob massages once a week!! hahaha

I know that I, for one, would much rather have some sexual exploration then a new shirt

lol well yea he gets those very spontaneously pretty much every time i'm with him....

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Originally posted by Slylee lol@eyesofextacy that post made me laugh cuz it's so true. floorfiller, maybe that's it but i can't really say because i don't have that feeling that no one will like me if i don't spend money on them. i know people like me because i'm cool lol but i'm sure that has something to do with it...like i'm trying to impress or something. but honestly, if you knew me very well, you would know that i'm the type of person who will give you the shirt off my back or walk over hot coals for you if i really like you, so i think a lot of it is also just cuz i love to make people smile and laugh. it brings me pleasure

Its called generosity. You dont have to make excuses to be a generous person. That is a good charateristic in a person that is quite rare nowadays, but remember to put yourself and your responsibilities first.

i've read all the posts and i have come to the conclusion that you're an idiot with no self control / disipline.

it's something you can only learn to control on your own, and if you can't, then tuff, it's your money at the end of the day and no-one cares what you do with it.

unfortunately, americans seem to think therapy is the answer to everything... it's not. you'll end up spending even more money on someone who says exactly what everyone in this thread says. get a grip, set some goals, stick to them.

yea i think now that i'm looking for a roomate situation, and now that i have a car payment...it's teaching me to be wiser about spending. i'm starting to be more aware of what's in my account, instead of just blindly spending money and thinking, "oh screw it".

i think a lot of it has to do with how i was brought up too...i had a stepdad in my life for like 6 years when i was in elementary school and middle school and he was really big on gifts...our christmas tree was ridiculously full of presents every year. that's how he showed his love...lol pretty lame, but i think some of that mentality rubbed off on me.

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Originally posted by Nell i've read all the posts and i have come to the conclusion that you're an idiot with no self control / disipline. it's something you can only learn to control on your own, and if you can't, then tuff, it's your money at the end of the day and no-one cares what you do with it. unfortunately, americans seem to think therapy is the answer to everything... it's not. you'll end up spending even more money on someone who says exactly what everyone in this thread says. get a grip, set some goals, stick to them.

Just because she has spending issues does not give you the right to call her an idiot. Intelligence has nothing to do with desire.

I think it's a combination of your thirst for instant gratification and materialism. You say it makes you happy to see other's happy because you were thoughtful and gave them a gift. That's nice and all at the moment you give the gift but at the end of the day, you will not be remembered for that. When you think about an ex, you don't think about how you miss receiving clothes during your relationship. You miss the laughs, giggles and little things. Those memories are much more enduring than any $50 item.

If you really want to set your finances straight buy a book about personal finance. I heard the Dummy's Guide to Personal Finance is very good.

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Originally posted by Slylee yea i think now that i'm looking for a roomate situation, and now that i have a car payment...it's teaching me to be wiser about spending. i'm starting to be more aware of what's in my account, instead of just blindly spending money and thinking, "oh screw it". i think a lot of it has to do with how i was brought up too...i had a stepdad in my life for like 6 years when i was in elementary school and middle school and he was really big on gifts...our christmas tree was ridiculously full of presents every year. that's how he showed his love...lol pretty lame, but i think some of that mentality rubbed off on me.

It does have alot to do with the way you were raised. When my parents were together things were pretty good financially with is before his drug habits got out of control and he eventually left us alone. That is when we just didnt have it to spend and times were tough. Now that I am on my own and not struggling together with my mom again I have my own cash etc I feel the need to spend again simply cuz i have it and I know I cant take it to the grave with me.

yea that would add to my collection of "For dummies.." books...lol i think i have like 5 of those. i'll check it out thanks and i dunno about remembering giggles and cute stuff when i think of my ex's...hahaha that's another story.



and nell, don't call me an idiot. you're the one who can't even spell "tough" ... and quit bringing up the American issue. that has nothing to do with it.

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Originally posted by Slylee yea that would add to my collection of "For dummies.." books...lol i think i have like 5 of those. i'll check it out thanks and i dunno about remembering giggles and cute stuff when i think of my ex's...hahaha that's another story.

Check it out of the library instead of buying it (You've already the bought the book with tax dollars). That way, when you find that this thread encompasses most of the book, you wont be pissed you spent money on it

Yeah. I have the same problem. I am majorly impulsive and love to spend money. I don't think there would be anything wrong with going to therapy for it. I used to be really good about saving, but now I'm terrible. It's like a disease.

oh yea, good point. i was all ready to go drop $30 on a book. i'm hopeless...

i think that this problem is really a problem of our generation...i think most young people these days have trouble allocating and saving money. i dunno why, but we just do...

hey....

well getting some help / advice from a professional is nothing to be ashamed about. you want to be rich - and that's great! people dont get rich spending money though. unless they invest and get a ride from a thing called luck.

good way to start is whenever you feel the urge to spend, immediately think of other things that make you happy other than spending, and think of how you want to keep that money for a future use on something more productive...

oh another hand, how are you and your boyfriend doing? i see you sent him balloons... are you trying to make it up to him for doing something stupid ? hmm.... sounds like you have another thing there to worry about and repair as well.



i'm messing with you.

good luck!

>JM<

hahah no, I�m not in the dog house (any more). we�re pretty solid now...I wouldn�t bore all of you with that crap. besides, everyone would get the wrong impression because it's easy to make assumptions.

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Originally posted by Slylee I wouldn�t bore all of you with that crap.

yeah thank you

no problem!

*edit* another thing i spend WAY too much money on is food every day at work...for lunch. i should just grocery shop and make my lunch every day, but i don't. that stuff adds up!

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Originally posted by Slylee besides, everyone would get the wrong impression because it's easy to make assumptions.

That you're a gold-digging money-spending coke-loving woman?




I keeed!

lol jerk.

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Originally posted by UWM That you're a gold-digging money-spending coke-loving woman? I keeed!

but she is only gold-digging so that she can give to others...kinda like robin hood!!

Quick, where's Little John and Friar Tuck?

i am materialistic, but i'm not a narcissitic piece of crap like most really materialistic people.

Re: Another gay advice thread...but mine's a little different

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Originally posted by Slylee no relationship advice needed. ok, so i think i have a problem with managing money...no that's a lie, i DO have a MAJOR problem managing money. it's an addiction and i can't stop spending. i'm sure it has to do with impulsiveness. anyway, is it gay to go to therapy about it? lol it really worries me because i plan on being extremely successful and rich, but you have to be smart about money to be those two things. Do you guys have any tips to help me stop spending? I don�t know what to do. Even though I know I have a few bills to pay, I still HAVE to have that pair of shoes or those jeans. Yesterday I sent my boyfriend balloons (flowers would have been gay) and it was like $40! I definitely don�t have $40 right now, but I still did it. I was like oh who cares. that�s bad.

haha the funny part at this thread is the excessive use of the word gay and the fact u think ur gonna be rich. theres alot of dicks to suck out there till u get financially secure.

here let me help u out a bit



*zip*

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Originally posted by Vivid Boy haha the funny part at this thread is the excessive use of the word gay and the fact u think ur gonna be rich. theres alot of dicks to suck out there till u get financially secure. here let me help u out a bit *zip*

why not think of becoming rich? inorder to become it, you need to think it...ambitious doesnt hurt anybody..

Re: Re: Re: Another gay advice thread...but mine's a little different

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Originally posted by tranceaholic why not think of becoming rich? inorder to become it, you need to think it...ambitious doesnt hurt anybody..

but its not ambition its youthful wishful thinking. I WANT TO BE RICH YAY GO ME!!!!


*does a line of coke*


FORGET WORKING ON IT NOW ILL WORRRY ABT GETTING RICH TOMM!!! YAYYY MEEEE!!!!

but this isnt a direct attack on jamie..this is an attack on every singlke person out there who claims or expects they're going to be rich













you want to know what it takes to be rich? get someone to drown you and right before u pass out they take ur head up above water. U got to want it more then that breath of air. thats what makes people rich. thats what ambition is.

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