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Originally posted by -=M=- we need pictars of j00

go search for them i had tones of them on here.. back in the day...


k flirting.. fine.. but
whats too much... and whats too little... diffrent opinions again plzz i like to see what diffrent ppl have to say

If he's:

1) Single.
2) Heterosexual.
3) Not a fuckass.

Then as a female you're already 95% of the way there. Girls don't need to "woo" guys with smooth talk like guys do with girls so don't worry about saying the right things. Just hold down a semi-normal conversation and - given that he'll understand your keen by the simple fact that you've approached him in such a way - you're there. We guys are incredibly simple creatures, so don't worry about it too much. We're easier than you think.

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Originally posted by Renegade If he's: 1) Single. 2) Heterosexual. 3) Not a fuckass. Then as a female you're already 95% of the way there. Girls don't need to "woo" guys with smooth talk like guys do with girls so don't worry about saying the right things. Just hold down a semi-normal conversation and - given that he'll understand your keen by the simple fact that you've approached him in such a way - you're there. We guys are incredibly simple creatures, so don't worry about it too much. We're easier than you think.

simple??? speak for yourself, squire

Listen
Give a shit= if hes talking about cars, ask what the terms mean, and put your info on the subject in there, no matter how limited/extensive.

if he says something mean, give little punches. Guys dont really get physical contact these days. Friends shake hands, but hugs and pokes and stuff are sadly missed. Be playful, go for arms, chest, and back of head. Stay away from legs (unless charlie horsing), nuts, and face.

thats about the extent. Hugs are for later when youre leaving. no caressing, unless it reaches that point haha.

shit, I dont know, hard to define this stuff.

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Originally posted by Orbax shit, I dont know, hard to define this stuff.

see thats why i'm confused bc i just totaly go blank...

Hey Spyder you wanna go out? I know it would be a long distance relationship but it can work. You can fly out to see me every weekend... i have no problem with that. Hey come down tomorrow...well go to Monster Massive together!

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Originally posted by Orbax Listen Give a shit= if hes talking about cars, ask what the terms mean, and put your info on the subject in there, no matter how limited/extensive. if he says something mean, give little punches. Guys dont really get physical contact these days. Friends shake hands, but hugs and pokes and stuff are sadly missed. Be playful, go for arms, chest, and back of head. Stay away from legs (unless charlie horsing), nuts, and face. thats about the extent. Hugs are for later when youre leaving. no caressing, unless it reaches that point haha. shit, I dont know, hard to define this stuff.

pickup advice coming from a virgin

Spydey, men are simple:

1) Start a conversation and look/be interested (50% effective)
2) Compliment him (90% effective)
3.a) If you're looking for nothing serious, say something like "Shut up and kiss me, you bastard" (99,99% effective)
3.b) If you're looking for a serious relationship, keep talking and giving OBVIOUS tips (blokes tend to be oblivious). If this doesn't work, say you like him.

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Originally posted by Lira Spydey, men are simple: 1) Start a conversation and look/be interested (50% effective) 2) Compliment him (90% effective) 3.a) If you're looking for nothing serious, say something like "Shut up and kiss me, you bastard" (99,99% effective) 3.b) If you're looking for a serious relationship, keep talking and giving OBVIOUS tips (blokes tend to be oblivious). If this doesn't work, say you like him.

I think we have a winner!

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Originally posted by -=M=- simple??? speak for yourself, squire

Sorry, all of us except -=M=- are simple. He has many hidden layers of mystery and intrigue.

Apparently.

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Originally posted by Lira 3.a) If you're looking for nothing serious, say something like "Shut up and kiss me, you bastard" (99,99% effective)

Where's the one guy in 10,000 who's said no to that and what the fuck is wrong with him?

for me when I click with people its usually just pretty natural. Somehow we always end up wrestling, then going to bed lol.

Drinking helps. A lot

Its never a put a relationship into 1 night thing.

I usually just hang out for 3-4 night over the course of two weeks, take them rock climbing, watch a movie, go grab a dinner. Just random stuff. Then one night I just take a small step kiss em on the cheek as they leave and say good night, thanks for coming out.

Then wait till they reciprocate.

Then...well...its pretty easy after that.

I hate trying to hook up and connect all in one night. Ill get a good convo in, make em laugh and then jet. Say I had a good time, offer my number to them and joke that if they give me their number im just going to call them and ask them out.

then I get their number. and I call them 2 nights later and tell em I warned em then set up a date for 3 days or so later and dont talk in mean time.

Im a fan of doing sports with girls because it gets em all pumped up and frisky hehe...


anywho. i guess my point is that I hate dating, and I like to have new friendships blossom into more at an early stage. Figure out something fun and active to do, if nothing more than going to a museum of science and messing around with the bubble maker heehe.

Then set up a night time activity. Either for that day or later in the week. It just kind of naturally goes...

Like meet up, coffee for an hour or so, zoo for a few hours, then hit up a nice dinner. Get a few drinks, go back to your place and watch a movie.

can either sit with them if you want more to happen, or sit away if not.

Fuck, one time I just watched super troopers and sat in the recliner and laughed. Next time I ended up in her bed. because I sat with her and stuff just kind of connected...

As a guy I know its thought out stuff sometimes. Like just taking her hand and holding it and smiling at her...but thats later...


a first night is pretty basic, nothing much happens unless you are the players looking for a good F...


/ramble for now

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Originally posted by Lira Spydey, men are simple: 1) Start a conversation and look/be interested (50% effective) 2) Compliment him (90% effective) 3.a) If you're looking for nothing serious, say something like "Shut up and kiss me, you bastard" (99,99% effective) 3.b) If you're looking for a serious relationship, keep talking and giving OBVIOUS tips (blokes tend to be oblivious). If this doesn't work, say you like him.

i'm kinda confussed about what she's interested in, because "pick up" implies being only interested in sex. If she wants a relationship, its better to get to know the person before you pick them up.

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Originally posted by igottaknow pickup advice coming from a virgin

uhm....my engaged friend still hasnt had sex...theyve been dating for 5 years.

Sex isnt really that important.

I'm guessing you've never really tried, because if you had you'd realize how easy it was and that asking us is pointless.

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Originally posted by igottaknow i'm kinda confussed about what she's interested in, because "pick up" implies your just interested in sex. If she interested in a relationship, its better to get to know the person before you pick them up.

now i'm really confused
theres a diffrence... between picking up a guy for a one night thing and a serious relationship thing?

A lot of people keep thinking that there is a guaranteed equation to this...it mainly putting the proverbial nuts on the table and seeing what happens.

it's better to just be straightforward. no games, no hidden messages or subtle gestures, because most guys are stupid and cannot see things that girls do when they are interested.

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Originally posted by Renegade Where's the one guy in 10,000 who's said no to that and what the fuck is wrong with him?

I had my reasons

one time a girl I didnt like that much was sleeping ...with...me...ok so I kind of liked her.

anyway. just laying there, I want to go to bed, no real plans to do anything and she just sit up, lays on my chest and says that she wants me to kiss her...


like its been said, its simple

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Originally posted by Arbiter I'm guessing you've never really tried, because if you had you'd realize how easy it was and that asking us is pointless.

yes it is... and yes it may be pointless that i'm asking you ppl
BUT i rather have a more open mind in seeing what others have to say.. so that i dont have to be shocked, feel stupid, dissapointed or feel like i'm rejected or whatever...

i must agree with whoever posted that "got a light" most of the chicks who came after me used that line...and it works. so start smoking...or pretend you do

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Originally posted by Spyder now i'm really confused theres a diffrence... between picking up a guy for a one night thing and a serious relationship thing?

yes there's a big difference, picking up someone let's say at a bar rarely leads to a serious relationship because its based on sex from the get go. A realationship is something that you can't just "pick up". It would be like asking where can I pick up a best friend. Relationships are formed over time and are based on many things other than momentary physical attraction.

Time for bed got early start for tomorrow.

Its basically when you are doing something blatant and they dont respond, just back off, and stop.

I was hangin out with this girl at her house and she got a phone call. While on the phone she started tickling my feet with hers.

I just smiled and kept watching TV. Honestly only wanted to be friends with her.

Ended up in not being friends because she couldnt accept that. Which, I understand.

That plaid skirt of yours would also get things more interesting

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Originally posted by Spyder yes it is... and yes it may be pointless that i'm asking you ppl BUT i rather have a more open mind in seeing what others have to say.. so that i dont have to be shocked, feel stupid, dissapointed or feel like i'm rejected or whatever...

Well try to think about it this way:

Either a guy finds you attractive at first glance or he doesn't. If he does, you can say basically anything to him, and the more obvious you are about what you want the more likely he's going to realize it and respond positively. If he doesn't, there really isn't anything you can say to change that.

Don't be afraid of rejection, it's really nothing personal and everyone has their own taste. Just because someone doesn't happen to be attracted to you doesn't make you ugly, so don't feel like getting rejected is a big deal.

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