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very fake because i'm talking about what the card says and what i felt like doing? please, she herself would know that its not, i have given her links to ta before so maybe she can stumble upon this thread but she would know that i'm sorry and that all i'm looking for are opinions. AND that i mean what i say because i'm always strait up with her

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Originally posted by BxNemo very fake because i'm talking about what the card says and what i felt like doing? please, she herself would know that its not, i have given her links to ta before so maybe she can stumble upon this thread but she would know that i'm sorry and that all i'm looking for are opinions. AND that i mean what i say because i'm always strait up with her

Title of thread : Need ladies opinion?


If my girl read that she would be like ok this guy doesn't know me thats why he is asking other people what they think.


ps. I feel for you I know how things can get fucked up in relationships. Try and take it with strides b/c there will be other valleys you will have to climb out of brotha.

anyways hope everything goes well mang

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Originally posted by pyro264jb Title of thread : Need ladies opinion? If my girl read that she would be like ok this guy doesn't know me thats why he is asking other people what they think. ps. I feel for you I know how things can get fucked up in relationships. Try and take it with strides b/c there will be other valleys you will have to climb out of brotha.

Opinion, not suggestions. dont wanna sound like a smartass but opinions are personal thoughts, its what i'm asking for it doesn't mean that i'm gonna change what imma do based on what they have to say. also, i put this thread up as i was leaving to give her everything and by the time i got back it already had 9 posts

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Originally posted by Vlad Sergio, just a bit of advice. NEVER, use the words "I think", because that shows doubt. Write... 'It was me, Im sorry'.

I second this. Take full resposibility.

Great effort and make sure you go through with it!

Sergio. Bro, that was an awesome thing to do!!!!! Like Indy said, much respect for admitting that you are wrong. That's a major step that most of us guys have a problem doing. The next step is for you to learn from your mistake and try to avoid letting it happen again. The flowers & the bear are a nice choice! But, like Josy said, you don't want to be overwhelming and overpowering by constantly calling her. She did ask for some space, so you should def show her that you respect her feelings and the fact that she needs some time to herself to weigh out her feelings and such. Doing this does not guarentee anything, but it shows that you are way above the maturity level of most men in the same age group & above, and that you have many of the admirible qualities that most men lack to have a meaningful relationship. I wouldn't worry about it Sergio. She'd be crazy not to forgive you. You showed a great deal of maturity here bro. Thanks for giving us men a good name. There are too many men out there that give good men like you a bad rep. Bro, you got my cell#. If you need anything, give me a call.

Thats is a great selection of gifts you picked out. I am sure she will love them, as long as you approach her with respect (and sober this time) I am sure things will be fine Good luck hun.....BTW if you are giving her a vinyl, I hope she has turntables, otherwise how would she listen to it.

Alright I'll try to shed some positive light on your dilemma. First off, forget anything anyone has said negative towards you about your situation. The thought you put into those gifts and the card can reflect a few things. Keep in mind in desperate times people do anything especially in a relationship where they felt they've wronged and will try and win back the other person. 1 it looks desperate 2 its an effort. Alot of people mistake these two and most fail to see the 2nd. You are trying! It's obvious you've made your mistake and you are willing to try and fix it.

The whole second chance notion I believe is smoke and mirrors. Forget what anyone says about not deserving a second chance. In life if you never had a second chance at anything you'd never be where you were today. (how many times did your parents try to have you...1st time babies were you a mistake then if the same notion is applied)

I think you're off to a good start and respecting her space is pretty important at this point. The way I see it, she'll definitely take you back. You have to look at the things people have done to each other and I'm not justifying your right to do wrong to her but alot of other situations "could be" worse and people still get back together. It may damage the relationship/trust that you both have but thats something you both have to be willing to work on. If you come clean with your faults and admit them it's better then ignoring them and having it haunt you again.

You left her with a sweet tooth with those gifts...you can't flood her right now with pressure to talk to you. keep in mind girls like to daydream/wonder about a guy. You should too...although right now you must feel like you constantly think about her. The concept of time refers to many things...I need time...time to think about what i want, time to think about you, time to make my decisions. I think you are in a good position to make up with her. If you push it, then you'll end up damaging that time factor. Refrain from thinking that you are on the losing side of her decision making. If you go in with that notion you'll only feel the pressure of being more desperate to invade the space she needs...

I hope I helped..oh yea in the mean time you DO have something to look forward to....MAKE UP SEX...thats where you can let out all that steam...and usually that makes fourletterword switch in their head snap to on. Good luck man...

seems like you really dig her.. hope everything works out. what youre doing seems very pure & genuine and if shes a good girl, im sure things will be ok

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Originally posted by nerve I second this. Take full resposibility. Great effort and make sure you go through with it!

ok, please please please, if you read what vlad wrote, also try and read that ITS PART OF THE CARD, i didn't write that.

Also, she evetually started talking to me. I went for about 4 days without saying a word to her, didn't im her, didn't text her, didn't call her... i did ask about her and how her family was doin but i asked my cousin who is her bet friend.

Seems like things are on alright terms right now because we're talking to eachother the way that we used to which i LOVE because for the past 4 days its been hell not being able to say a single word to her. I'm just not sure when were going to get back on the terms that we used to have... i miss that more then anything. thanks everyone for your opinions and suggestions

I believe you should stop asking questions on the net. And be more confident in yourself and just do it. What other people think should have no direction on what you do. If a girl doesn't like you for being your self and doing things you normaly would do, then you shouldn't be with her.

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Originally posted by fr0st I believe you should stop asking questions on the net. And be more confident in yourself and just do it. What other people think should have no direction on what you do. If a girl doesn't like you for being your self and doing things you normaly would do, then you shouldn't be with her.

good point

i hope it works out for you serg

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Originally posted by BxNemo ok, please please please, if you read what vlad wrote, also try and read that ITS PART OF THE CARD, i didn't write that. Also, she evetually started talking to me. I went for about 4 days without saying a word to her, didn't im her, didn't text her, didn't call her... i did ask about her and how her family was doin but i asked my cousin who is her bet friend. Seems like things are on alright terms right now because we're talking to eachother the way that we used to which i LOVE because for the past 4 days its been hell not being able to say a single word to her. I'm just not sure when were going to get back on the terms that we used to have... i miss that more then anything. thanks everyone for your opinions and suggestions

Sorry, I did read that later. =(

ok so.. here is my personal take on this.

Personally at one point in our lives, some and usually most of us have had situations with someone we were or are with. At one point, 2 years ago I broke up with my gf of 3 years. This killed me, we didn't speak for a bit and she kept telling me she needed space. She told me she needed space, etc etc. I ended up calling her like every week or so and just aasking questions and what not. I harassed everyone for their opinions and what they thought was going to happen.
Truth is, everyone failed and everyone was right. Honestly, no one can give you the answers, and I know you'll be asking around and doing what you need to do just to feed that desire of yours to know.

Sadly, when someone needs their space, you need to give to them. Honestly, the ball is in their court at this point. You need to go offf and do things that are self-focused. As much as we all tell you what we believe you should or shouldn't do, or we tell you that you're doing the right thing... that may not be the case. Secondly, I know you won't listen to anyone telling you what to do, like "Don't ask or read these answers". Its human desire to do so, no matter how hard you try. Love is Pain and Pain is Love. So I won't tell you what to do or what not to do. I and many others are simply just stating what they did or WOULD do, try to take it as that, decide on your own, follow your heart.

Confidence is key, I agree. Doing your own thing and showing that you're busy and taking care of things in your own life and letting her do her thing will only provide the answer. If you let it go and it comes back, its meant to be. If you let it go and it doesn't, well it wasn't meant to be. Secondly, do not judge things by time, you can't do this. I realized this. It took me 6 months to finally have the will power to cut off everything and every desire to cut myself from my ex. Later I met a new girl who I have been with, and sure enough my ex came back a year later crying and wanting to work things out, and I can't say I went back to her, but many of my feelings were still the way they were when we brokeup or prior to it. Life is strange, for some it works and for some it doesn't.

Just do what you feel is right for yourself, and what you believe will make you or her happy or whatever. Just use everyone advice as just people venting their experiences.

yes. def give her the space she needs but you should say hi once in awhile to see wassup. if you dont give her the space she mite end up resenting it and pulling further away but then again if she sees ur genuine and that u love her, mebbe this will be resolved sooner than later. hoepfully sooner.

moloko and vellocet this fine evening? right right right! beware the vonny cal the erupts from the gobs of your enemies, dear boy for you might find yourself in a bit of a row!...but viddy their devotchkas with one eye as well.

i understand that and its what i'm doing, ok, you guys need to stop saying all these things and realize that i'm asking for opinions and nothing more, i want to see what other people think and if they have different views it doesn't mean that imma change what i wanna do.

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Originally posted by BxNemo i understand that and its what i'm doing, ok, you guys need to stop saying all these things and realize that i'm asking for opinions and nothing more, i want to see what other people think and if they have different views it doesn't mean that imma change what i wanna do.

Dude, and you should do what you think is right, despite what we are all telling you. Here's a quick little bit of advice that I usually make my decisions by: Follow your hearts lead, for it will always lead you in the right direction. Trust me, it works bro.

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Originally posted by BitchBoyNYC Dude, and you should do what you think is right, despite what we are all telling you. Here's a quick little bit of advice that I usually make my decisions by: Follow your hearts lead, for it will always lead you in the right direction. Trust me, it works bro.

i would, but my hearts always broken and i never get a good read from it.

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Originally posted by BitchBoyNYC Dude, and you should do what you think is right, despite what we are all telling you. Here's a quick little bit of advice that I usually make my decisions by: Follow your hearts lead, for it will always lead you in the right direction. Trust me, it works bro.

before you decide on anything, just think of all the long term implications

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