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Accept the pain and don't try to ignore it, that's my advice. It's hard to calm yourself down, but upsetting yourself is so easy. Maybe you could be a bit masochistic about it? Feeling sadness can be enjoyable.
When my last girlfriend (of nearly 2 years, yeah not so much but still very meaningful) talks to me, I always come out of the conversation a bit depressed, but 5 minutes later I remember that I'm free to do whatever I want. It's a great feeling afterwards.
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| Originally posted by PartyHarlequin The whole being friends thing is totally stupid. Don't get depressed, go out and party. Celebrate your singleness and ability to hook up with whomever you please. Until you're married all bets are off! |
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| Originally posted by Stilez ......welcome 2 my world.  |
but not mine 
i couldnt give a fuck abt a bitch im a motherfuckin G!
if u having girl problems i feel bad for u son
i got 99 problems and a bitch aint one
HIT MEH!
Hah Eric you crazy bastid!
I agree w a lot of the stuff said here, just be happy you're single, it may be hard as of now to think like that but moving on shouldn't be that hard considering the summer is here, going out will be a lot easier in that respect.
Must be difficult to have an ex around/in the same group of friends...
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| Originally posted by Vivid Boy i got 99 problems and a bitch aint one HIT MEH! |
Just be careful of the "rebound" effect, take a little "me, myself and I" time.
It is really a good thing that you ended this before you took this to the next level. Just imagine the real pain if you would have gotten married, only to find you couldn't get along. That's where the REALLY big hurts happen.
listen to a little Gloria Gaynor "I Will Survive" 
LOL
You'll come out on top!
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| Originally posted by zookeeper take a little "me, myself and I" time. |
My advice would be to get yourself a cute plush animal toy 
Go to toys'r'us and just let it flow, a one that needs a new home will call your name! Or just get a puppy.
Just have fun, forget about it. It's hard but it's all you can do. Move on hang out more with your friends or whatever to keep you occupied and eventually the hurt will go away.
Or just get jiggy with everyone you meet... I don't know if it's constructive but it will take your mind off the whole situation at least j/k
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| Originally posted by Ziggy Or just get a puppy. |
My niece is breaking up with her boyfriend of four years, and is finding it hard, too!
Always remember you have friends to talk to, and that you'll have good days and bad days. Keep busy, and do positive things like exercising. Remember why you're not together when you're lonely, as it will be hard to not call! A temporary separation is best, as feelings always come up when you talk/see someone you've been close to.
Hope you're feeling better!
Come here sunshine and I will give you a great big Andie Hug now mind you it won't take all your pain away but it will make you feel good for a few minutes. Keep your head up kiddo and remember to put you first. Take care of you!!!!
Andie
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| Originally posted by muzzybear My niece is breaking up with her boyfriend of four years, and is finding it hard, too! Always remember you have friends to talk to, and that you'll have good days and bad days. Keep busy, and do positive things like exercising. Remember why you're not together when you're lonely, as it will be hard to not call! A temporary separation is best, as feelings always come up when you talk/see someone you've been close to. Hope you're feeling better! |
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| Originally posted by ChemEnhanced If all else fails turn to Drugs and Alcohol....it worked wonders for me. |
http://www.dealer-training.com/
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| Originally posted by VERTiG0 The best thing to do after a long loving relationship, that I've found, is to sever all connections with the person. Anything reminding you of them should be disposed of. Don't talk to them. Don't try to be friends. 99 times out of 100 it just doesn't work. |
Re: how do you deal...
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| Originally posted by AdReNaLiNa with all those emotions overcoming you after a break-up?? This weekend marked an end of a relationship I have been in for quite a long time with someone I care about deeply.. but yet we've decided that there is no future. At this point, I can't remember the last time I was this miserable.. maybe you can offer some tips for getting over this rough time.. |
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Thanks to everyone.. there's some really good advice in this thread and I appreciate you sharing your experiences as well.
There will certainly highs and lows but today I am starting to feel better
And I can't wait for the next big party so I can get all crazy and release all these emotions..
I'm even thinking of making a shirt for the Tiesto event that says "Hi Tiesto, I'm single now"
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| Originally posted by fayraree Nucca youza badass mofo...(hehehe I like the way you spell it--stole it off yo ass) Seriously, though, Adrenalina...my dear fellow Tiesto lover...I find that just cranking up your favorite trance beats really soothes when you feel like shit...I'm sure you've already done that (unless Tiesto reminds you of him...that would really suck then) Music/movies/sports anything that keeps you occupied so you can get him out of your mind. I hope you had closure, though, because that was the one thing that hovered over me for the longest time after my terrible break up. I mailed her everything she had ever bought me, all our pictures, ANYTHING that reminded me of her. Just purolated that box of nightmares to her WORKPLACE to try and embarass her just the way she totally made me look like a loser dumbass the way she dumped me...but despite my trying to be aggressive about it, she haunted my thoughts for so long because we never really had a "rational" closure, of her acknowledging how I felt and vice-versa. Hope yours ended in the best way it possibly could. |
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| Originally posted by AdReNaLiNa And I can't wait for the next big party so I can get all crazy and release all these emotions.. I'm even thinking of making a shirt for the Tiesto event that says "Hi Tiesto, I'm single now" |
I've got such a good story for you...
So yesterday I get this e-mail from my ex (ex of 3+ years) with an up date of his life and pictures of him and his new girlfriend..
It's so awesome to see him smile and be incredibly happy and his new g/f is absolutely gorgeous!
It took me YEARS to get over him, but what I've realized is, we're two totally different people and want very different things out of life. He taught me so much and I'll never forget him. I have memories and that's really all I need.
I think at the end of the day you have to remember there are simply millions of other fish in the sea and probably another 40 years to sample them
Keep yourself very busy with FUN things (Drowning yourself in work, chores, school, etc, can sometimes make thigns more depressing.)
Take some time each day to grieve...if you ignore it completely, you won't give yourself time to heal. And then, the rest of the time surround yourself with your biggest party friends....the one's who will refuse to talk about the breakup, your ex, the memories, etc....That will give you a healthy balance to becoming whole and happy. What a good time for Tiesto to come to town! See you there!
Fahad: I wanna wear a cool t-shirt!!!
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| Originally posted by yankeeBaby Fahad: I wanna wear a cool t-shirt!!! |
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