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Originally posted by milos heh.. emasculation, thats a good way to describe it. i agree with you too. as far as the topic goes, i say the same things all the time with regards to the original point of making time for your friends if you're in a relationship. HOWEVER, if i was in your friends place and "madly in love", i wouldn't be able to say for sure how that would affect my friendships. ideally i wouldn't want it to affect them at all, but you never know when you're head over heels. on top of that, i've never been in that position to speak from experience either. how many of you that commented have?

even if you are madly in love, you cant possibly spend every waking moment with that person. If you do thats very unhealthy. Sure u will have a little bit less time for your friends. But the ideal relationship means that there are 3 parts to your life..

1) time for just you and her
2) time for just you
3) time for you, her, her friends or your friends

a good realtionship means your girlfriend is also your best friend which means that shes comfortable doing most things you like to do and vice versa.

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Originally posted by zokissima How can you say that? Your own refusal to accept their choices in life does no more to show what kind of a friend you are, than their choices do to you, if you chose the stance you have. ANd who are we to say someone else is whipped? Maybe they are, but love/lust/infatuation has that effect on people. Maybe they'll see the truth of the matter on their own, but you do them no favours by claiming to see the truth for them.

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100% life reversal on the turn of a dime is nothing more than whipped. especially when given the impression that "id love to come out but my girlfriend wants to go to such and such place" pretty much every single time.

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Originally posted by Jayx1 a good realtionship means your girlfriend is also your best friend which means that shes comfortable doing most things you like to do and vice versa.

EXACTLY!! if your relationship isn't like this....than you shouldn't be in that relationship at all.....because ultimately, you are going to hit a brick wall sooner or later.

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Originally posted by mindspin EXACTLY!! if your relationship isn't like this....than you shouldn't be in that relationship at all.....because ultimately, you are going to hit a brick wall sooner or later.

yeah but most guys around here are too whipped to accept this as being normal.

it's really quite pathetic.

there has to be a balance.

liking and doing things always together leads to problems too.

you must balance in four ways.

time alone/time together/time together with friends/time apart with friends.

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Originally posted by StereoPrincess there has to be a balance. liking and doing things always together leads to problems too. you must balance in four ways. time alone/time together/time together with friends/time apart with friends.

Wise words

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Originally posted by StereoPrincess there has to be a balance. liking and doing things always together leads to problems too. you must balance in four ways. time alone/time together/time together with friends/time apart with friends.

Best thing I've heard in a while.
Also I agree w mr furious. It's cool if you're in love with the person etc but why do certain people feel they have the need to constantly rag on about it? Man...

very wise words....margs knows what's up.

didnt i just say pretty much the same thing before her?

i think everyones been saying the same thing, just wording it differently.

what we really need are longer days, that would solve a lot of these issues.

Bros before hoes.

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Originally posted by DigiNut Bros before hoes.

*waiting for a female to jump in with the 'chicks before dicks' line*

But yeah, jay and margs all have the right idea. For a relationship to work in the long run you shouldn't have to make any sacrifices of the things that make you happy. If in the long run, it means your search for that someone is longer....so be it.

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Originally posted by Sly_Guy *waiting for a female to jump in with the 'chicks before dicks' line*

I'm all in favour of women having their own version of our clever catch phrase, but that particular one is just lame. "Bros" specifically means close friends; "chicks" just refers to any other girl.

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Originally posted by DigiNut I'm all in favour of women having their own version of our clever catch phrase, but that particular one is just lame. "Bros" specifically means close friends; "chicks" just refers to any other girl.

oh yeah? you try and rhyme another part of the exclusively male anatomy to a reference of a close female friend. [as if you were a female]

Jesus let em enjoy it while it lasts. The "In Love" phase only lasts what, a year or so before the human brain stops producing those euphoric hormones, and then theyll be closer to normal.

sis's before kisses?

how is that aaron?

Re: My friend are all whipped!

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Originally posted by Mr. Furious One Chris is dating this girl named Lindsay, who is 18 (he's 25). If that's not bad enough,

"IF THAT'S NOT BAD ENOUGH" WTF! She's 18 and he's 25... where's the problem... I dont see the issue... why the fuck is age being an negative factor here... nothing inappropriate or illegal or even questionable or strange is happening here.

So you're friend likes an 18 year old girl and she likes a guy who happens to be 25... and....


-jem-

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Originally posted by Playa24_7 In a relationship, you need time with your friends, and she needs time with her friends. You guys gotta trust eachother, then theres no fuckin problem. If you dont trust eachother, then why the FRIG are you together!??? I DONT GET IT!!1 Obviously times together are wicked to, but you gotta balance stuff out people! If the two of you start trying to control all these parts of eachotheres lifes, then you have to rethink some stuff or your done.

Very true Dan. Trust is paramount - and that's that!

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Originally posted by Tordan ^^ that relationship isn't going to last long. if you can't trust the other person then what's the point? about guys being whipped... yes, lots of them are. but what if the guy would rather spend time with his gf in this situation? maybe what his friends are doing doesn't interest him this time around. you gotta take that into consideration as well.

There's another good point too... why dont ppl usually consider this one ever before just figuring 'nope, they MUST be pussywhipped!'

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Originally posted by ChemEnhanced Typically, if one of my friends gets into a new relationship I will give them about a three month period where I don't expect I will see them very often. If you are just getting into a relationship then you need time to get to know each other. After the three months I will see if my friend wants to get together. If he/she doesn't want to hang out or if everytime we hang out the significant other is around then I will just stop talking to them. People have to make their decision as to what is more important friends of some relationship that may not last. True friends will always make time for each other.

This is what I do. You gotta learn to accept and get used to when a relationship is starting out, you spend alot of timing getting to know one another, esp. since its new and fresh and ur often usually really enamoured with each other. I usually give it a month or two... before Ill start getting upset at all... you just gotta except a few months as a given and give your friends that grace!


-jem-

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Originally posted by zokissima I think that if you're a true friend, you'll allow and understand, and support your friends through their choices in life, and those choices include their relationships with others. Being selfish because now you have less time to hang out with someone doesn't show how much you value their friendship. Be supportive, be happy for them, and be there for them when they need it. If they're good friends, eventually they'll come around, otherwise, well...what can I say, things happen in life, friends come and go. Ultimately, if that's what you're looking for at some point in your life, you'll probably find someone that will end up occupying your time, and will restrict the amount you have left for your friends. Geez, with the replies on the borad, one would think most of you have never been trully in love. And I'm just curious, what does it matter that he's 25 and she's 18? Why are you imposing your own moral boundaries on someone else? What a friend...

YOU SAID IT! Be supportive and happy for them. If eventually (a month or two or three) they dont come around, then maybe they got an issue, they just cant sweep you aside forever just bc a new girl/boy is in their lives. But at the same time, respect them, and give them sometime to realize this... new relationships always have that stage... it just doesnt bother me anymore, its a fact of things... the universe is all unfolding as it usually does, no problems...


and your last point, im glad someone else agrees w/ me too!! Who the fuck cares about a 7 year difference... honestly!


-jem-

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Originally posted by Sly_Guy relationships don't have to change your friendships. I know several couples which I am completely happy to see endure because the people involved fit so well with each other it makes me happy to see them. One couple in particular, is of a girl who I became good friends with on my floor in first year. She's dating another guy whom I didn't know beforehand, but they meshed so well together her boyfriend has now become one of my good friends. It's at the point where they can come out as a couple, fit in with any group, and not alienate anyone. Furthermore, they are so relaxed with all of their [now mutual] friends, that I or any of them could sit down in their house, just the three of us, and not at all feel out of place. And if they wanted me or any other person to scram so that they could have sex, the method they'd probably use to get rid of us is to get us drunk. To me, that right there is the ideal relationship. Where you feel equally comfortable with your friends with or without your partner, and sacrifice nothing with reguards to your friends while maintaining a great relationship. I do know couples on the other end of the spectrum tho, and those guys need to grow some friggin balls too.

AMEN! _+1

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Originally posted by dance2dabeat yeah a good relationship is when u can also get away and do your own thing with your friends. that is very important to me as I cannot stand couples that cant let each other do that. It is so unhealthy.

Aye Kellbear, very true... i dont like it when i see couples like that either.... though that being said, often when ur into the longterm phase or your relationship, 5, 6, 7 years, couples often just dont tend to do stuff apart, why? bc they dont want to. they've become so much apart of eachother's life, they share common friends, common interests and a general desire to be around eachother when out... but its never at the sacrifice of their friends though... so nothings really changed except they tend to come as a package now. i have no problem with us (unless of course he or she is a really jerk/bitch and you cant stand them... then it just sucks to be you! )


-jem-

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Originally posted by mindspin my buddy has been acting like a sissy for this 18 year old girl as well lately. so what me and all of my friends did was start a rumour that he was getting married and we set up a stag and doe date and location as well. we all changed our msn names to show this info and each of us got loads of messages inquiring about it. so, do to his sissy-ness, he's going to be getting ppl asking him about the wedding for the next two months because there were about 10 of us that seriously played along with it for a couple days. you can't just bail out on all of your buddies like that and fall off the face of the planet for a girl....it is in no way a healthy thing to do.

you're a little more hardcore than i am on this issue ryan

im willing to throw my buddy a month or two to realize his priorities and that we as friends still exist to him and that we're the ones he'll liklely still be talking w/ in 3 years!

lol... its all good though, you guys are jokse! thats fucking hilarious. you crack me up ryan! thats butter on toast! way to do it BIG!!!!!!!

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Originally posted by mindspin EXACTLY!! if your relationship isn't like this....than you shouldn't be in that relationship at all.....[because ultimately, you are going to hit a brick wall sooner or later.

LOLOL



I dunno why, but the mental image from the way you phrased that made me wanna laugh my ass off!

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Originally posted by Jayx1 More like, respect your friend if he is being his own man. But let him have it if he;s truely whipped as per the examples above. Please don't confuse whipped with considerate. They are 2 very different things.

Well said Jay.

with more threads like this, I am ditching tbe and coming to TA!
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funnnnyyy stuff.

"I have to see if it's ok" LMAO! Tell your friend that the moment a better guy comes around, he's getting DUMPED! Spineless guys have NO value in women's eyes.

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