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Posted by Jem_hadar on Jan-05-2006 19:33:

quote:
Originally posted by Moral Hazard
people claim to want honesty but the truth is that they only want an honest answer if it is comfortable for them to hear. Many times telling someone the truth about a situation or giving them an honest answer can be the worst harm you can do to them.

hmm, i just got plopped into a situation like that last night.

not sure if i should pass on whut i learned. not sure if it'll make the person feel worse for knowing, or if they'll be interested to know, want to know that its happening.

jem

Posted by Porky on Jan-05-2006 19:37:

being tactless and completely honest may hurt and be a bit abrasive in the short term, but in the end is probably the best policy. if a person can't deal with the truth, then it's a matter of how strong they are. i dunno monkey, maybe telling your friend the truth about the marriage is the best way to go!

i'd rather have close friends cut the bullshit and tell me straight up.

Pork

Posted by Killah Monkey on Jan-05-2006 19:44:

Which is the point I am trying to get across...

If you are having a converstation with a person and you are excited and happy about something in your life and then the other person will put it down...then say, I am just being honest...

Why do people make comments like this? Cause they are just being honest???

Posted by Killah Monkey on Jan-05-2006 19:48:

quote:
Originally posted by Porky
being tactless and completely honest may hurt and be a bit abrasive in the short term, but in the end is probably the best policy. if a person can't deal with the truth, then it's a matter of how strong they are. i dunno monkey, maybe telling your friend the truth about the marriage is the best way to go!

i'd rather have close friends cut the bullshit and tell me straight up.

Pork

Thanks Pork, but I don't actually have a friend that is getting married, I am just using it as an example to see how other people think negative comments are taken as honesty.

Received many negative comments over the course of 2005 and trying to deal with them in appropriate manors in the year to come. Not to let things get to me and see positive in people. I tend to be a fairly happy person at times and alot of people like to burst my bubble and tear down my walls...

Posted by Porky on Jan-05-2006 19:54:

quote:
Originally posted by Killah Monkey
Thanks Pork, but I don't actually have a friend that is getting married, I am just using it as an example to see how other people think negative comments are taken as honesty.

Received many negative comments over the course of 2005 and trying to deal with them in appropriate manors in the year to come. Not to let things get to me and see positive in people. I tend to be a fairly happy person at times and alot of people like to burst my bubble and tear down my walls...

What doesn't kill me only makes me stronger - Frederick Nietzsche

there's a difference between negative comments and honesty. if someone is actually being honest with one of your flaws, you just have to accept it and move on. if they're just being an ass, take the high road and just move on.

be strong monkey!

Posted by Killah Monkey on Jan-05-2006 19:56:

I think I do tend to do that...

Then climb a tree and throw bananas at em... woot...woot!!!

Posted by joinT on Jan-05-2006 20:11:

Honesty is my only policy.. In your example if they ask they get the truth, if they don't ask I don't say anything..

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