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hehe.. i think your avatar is cute 
tho i think strange things are cute... yay to scary and evil!
heh tho im pretty sure he meant me because he said "sothis" right before it. and i wasnt giving commands either, i was being assertive.
Must I at first say that I wish to say I feel for U 2 (like so many said they do), Laun19, and that for sure we've all been through tuff times like this one.
Also, as I must admit I have not read all the posts, excuse me if I will be repetitive...
To begin with, I must say Ur ex-girlfriends attitude is rather foolish.. not only she broke up with U (and I believe she realises U aren't exactly thrilled about it), but the right next day she's dating Ur best friend. This is an attitude that should make U consider very well what type of person she is... whether a re-start of the relationship will benefit U (spiritually) or it would make it even worse for the easily-to-be-foreseen final breakup.
I hear the word love too often these days... I'm not saying U don't know what U R talking about, just that... judging by it's meaning, love is something eternal. Which is for sure not our case. Not for her.
Involving Urself in a one-sided relationship will not do U any good, that is a fact. I know for us it is easier to say then for U, but moving on is the best choice U've got. But don't give up without a fight... there should be one friendly meeting between U and the girl (alone, and just once.. so "gather" all Ur ideas straight!) where U should clear up things... being persistent over that line I find might be considered pathetic... of course, the matter of love is much more important then that of "reputation", but...
And so... I am not trying to diminish Ur hopes of a comeback... I know from experience things might change when U least expect it and then U will regret U never spoke to her about it... I'm just saying U have to try and be rational about it... it's like U should stop Ur heart from deciding for U, and let the brain take his part.
The friend? Not a friend. Forget him... it's the most intelligent approach U can take towards him... ignore and forget.
I hope for better days for U, fellow TA!
hyp
Re: Just a thought ...
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| Originally posted by Vesa You also need to be seen by her with extreme knockout model babes. There's some trouble in arranging those situations, but your friends will help you if they are real friends. |
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| Originally posted by AnotherWay83 lol no offense but thats the funniest shit i've heard all day!!! wish i had such friends.. peace |
ofcourse Eugene is talking right now about his friends in the russian mob...
hyp
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| Originally posted by Eugene this can be arranged |
Guys, I guess it is not I that ust say the discussion has gone WAY of-topic... those that have been through such problems should realize that these are not things U'd need to hear... not even to make U feel better.
So please... although Laun19 didn't post recently w/ an update to the problem, I still think U should post whatever ideas U have that could actually help him...
sorry to be a bitch
hyp
I will post the update when i have had a chance to work things out in my self, i think that my main prb is that i have a lot of things that have happened to me in the past 19 years in my life that i need to come to grips with before i can go on and find out what i need currently in my life. the reason that this one event has brought me down so much is that so many things that i have bottled up inside of my self are comming out with this one event and i don't know who i can talk to about it because whenever something in the past has hurt me or bothered me i have turned to her and sought her support in the issue and i think that i need to seek it now, but i don't know the best way to do that. i don't care about the loosing of a girlfriend, but it is just that she has always known how to help me through the shit times in my life and i need her now to help me through this shit time. i will be fine in time, infact i have gotten over the loss of my girlfriend, but not my emotional counlser as i see her now, that is what is bothering me, thankx for helping me through this guys, and if you all would keep helping me i would be greatful you all have helped so much and i don't know how to thank you guys except with this:
THANKX BUNCHES I LOVE YOU ALL!!!
Canfused TA,
Johnny :-)
oh man.. ive been through that 
it really sucks.. im going to pm you
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| Originally posted by Laun19 heres the story, my gf broke up with me last week after a 14 month relationship that everything was going great in, the next day my best friend, takes her out to get coffee. i ask him not to date her because i still care and she still really means a lot to me, which it true now still. i still love her and i am pretty sure that she still loves me, but he then goes off and tells me that i am being irrational that he can do whatever the fuck that he wants. and for the whole week the only times that i have seen or talked him is when i call him, or make a point to see him. it seems to me that he is more conserned with getting in my ex-gf's pants, he calls her all the time and takes her out every day since we broke up, than trying to help me, his friend of over 6 years. what am i supost to think, or do for that matter. i am really lost and i don't know where i can find the answers, and i think that i still want to get back with my ex-gf, what do i do, and if going to get back, how do i go about it? i want them both as friends and her maybe more than a friend but how do i go about doing that without looking like an ass? any help would be greatly appriceated. thanks alot guys. confused TA, Johnny :-) |
? your friend is fake, if he was your REAL friend he wouldn't really do this, he wouldn't be hitting on her or watever he is doing right after you broke up with...that isn't respekt from his side sure if he's friends with her, then yes he can communicate with her and maybe since i suppose he may know what's going on with you guys, try to help her, see what the problem is...then yes that's a true friend, not friend that those it only just to get her...more and more often this kind of issue happens...the gf who you were dating a long time end's up being with your best-friend, fucken annoying, more couples end up like 
man, i feel for you i hope that it doesn't end up like that...my bro i know him about 5 years now as well, when i broke up with my ex, he didn't do anything, although he did want to, he told me, but coz were REAL good friends, he respekt's me, he didn't do anything and my ex was trying to get it on with me having real true friends is something that we should treasure, not some fake one's...i see fake face's everyday in my life 
if your friend tells you that your being irrational, then obviously he doesn't gave a fuck man 
maybe he doesn't know what is like when you broke up with someone that u've been 14 months, i bet he doesn't...i dont wanna sound smart-ass or anything, but if he's like that, bro you lost a friend 
i just hope really it doesn't end up like that...as for your ex, i dont see anything wrong with her, i think that she isn't really going for him as well, well only if she's a biatch..sorry ...maybe things will turn out different, i really dont know your situation with your ex so i can say much more...
we need a TA girl to volunteer and help our fellow TA in giving him some TLC!
I feel with ya
Dude i know how it feels... for some reason last 4 relationships i had ended up the same way... mo fo is not ur friend. F*CK NO!!!!
there's something called respect.. in that case it don't exist.. so the hell with ur gf and ur "friend".. well that's wut i did... they're not worth a sec of ur time...
that's just wut i think dude..
anyways hope it works out best for u
later peeps
Well guys i think that i have shit in my life figured out, took me three weeks but i have found out what was wrong and what the fuck was up all in all i still care for my ex, but i have figured out that i don't need a gf to be happy, i am happy being my self and bull shitting around with my fiends and haveing a good time and if i find a gf in that period then great, but that is not what i need, i have too much to look at right now i don't need that extra shit cluttering up my plate. and their is an other girl that i like but i am going to do the friend thing for a while, and not rush into a new relationship with her. but thankx for the help it really ment a lot to me, and i don't know if things between me and my friend will be the same, but me and my ex have worked out the shit. once again, thankx alot I love you guys,
peace and love,
no longer confused TA,
Johnny :-)
Now, dude, I am glad things are getting better... but don't turn gay cuz U had a bad experience.
What U had there was FAR from love... but I guess U should know better now what love should feel.. cuz it's more then that, muych more then that.
don't start bullshitting me abvout I am not old enuff to talk about these things
hyp
oh shit...
well guys in that last post i did sound kinda like a flower child didn't i? well that is in no way what i ment you all have nothing to worry about me being gay or what not, actually i have kept you guys posted through all of this so here is yet an other erintry in the fucked up soap opera drama that is my "stupid little life." well since i have found out what the fuck is up with my god damn life i have decided that i like this chick named jennifer she is a cute little cheerleader and she is seventeen soon to be 18, so that is all good. i talk to her on the phone untill late at night, have something else to obssess about instead of how shitty things are going for me with my ex and friend, so what ever. but i think that things are starting to look up in my life now. and with this new girl jennifer i have a quest, to get her addicted to trance, haha the mind works in misterious ways well that is all the shit that has gone down, so if you guys have any thing else to say then please feel free to tell me. i promise that i will keep you all posted on what happens and shit. and now i do know where i can come if i do have a problem. thankx alot guys,
one fu*king greatful trancEaddict,
Johnny
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