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i've done it.


I "dated" 3 girls at once back in Puerto Rico during one of my summer's from college.

No big deal. They knew i was going to leave in a matter of a few months. One girl knew about both and just dealt with it. Another knew about nothing, and the 3rd girl only knew about one of the girls.


total minipulation.


would i do it again? naaaaaaaaaaaaa....i was stupid and tryin to be a pimp

isnt that what dating is though? even if your seeing one person you stop seeing them if you dont like it anymore...

Wisconsin represent!

anyway i wouldnt get in the situation of dating more than one person at a time. even if you make it completely clear to both people that you're dating more than one person, someone will most likely still get hurt. its the same concept as friends with benefits. at some point one person is going to get attached while the other isnt.

Right, like you've never "played the field" before.

Please, you wanna act all sappy and self righteous about being faithful and caring about the other person's feelings, get out of this thread.

Variation is the spice of life. If he hasnt told any of the 2 girls that hes going out with them "EXCLUSIVELY" then I dont really see a problem.

What makes u think girls dont go out with more than 1 guy at a time?

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Originally posted by trewqy What makes u think girls dont go out with more than 1 guy at a time?

i've seen girls do it more than guys, actually.

i definitely agree with lucid here. guys definitely have the stereotype of being un emotional dogs that will fuck anything that crosses their path but the girls can hide behind sweetness and innocence very easily.

To be honest, Ive never hung out with the kind of person who dates a whole bunch of people. Its called throwing shit against the wall and seeing what sticks. If you keep dropping a girl to one up and date because you dont know if you really like this person...what happens when youre married and you meet a really awesome babe? Oh its just a formalized date is what marriage is? lets cancel?

The mentality that allows you to actively date more than 1 girl for more than a date or two implies:

lack of judgment on issues of character recognizance\

lack of morals. Social Morals. Call me old fashioned but have you noticed the trend between number of partners and rise in disease? Im sure its just coincidence though...

and realize that girls are fucking nuts. They want to be with you. Their shitty self esteem will allow them to date a guy dating two girls but if a girl tells you on the phone "hey, im just douching out from sex 5 minutes ago, but ill be right over sweetie, get ready for love. Oh remind me to brush my teeth when I get there, you dont want none of that teehee!" let me guess what your reaction is. and if its anything but disgust youre a low on the totem male wholl accept sharing a woman.

Ah, the word that describes it all just came to me. Pathetic. Dating multiple people is pathetic.

AHh. Catharsis.

Also, please dont be childish enough to use the "well...they did it too" excuse. Take some responsibility.

i strongly agree with you about the diseases and it is definitely an obvious sign to do something different. what would you think of dating two people if it is not sexual though? more than hanging out with a friend because you both have romantic feelings for each other but you arent sexually active?

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Originally posted by Orbax lack of morals. Social Morals.

oh c'mon.

if you're going to get into social morals, then you also have to take into consideration the other side of the spectrum.

there are cultures that allow more than one wife, etc...

im not saying *I* would do it, but who are you to say that is downright WRONG?

The Golden Rule, as cheesy as it is sometimes, helps. Even if its not sexual...Think of calling up a girl and shes gonna go on a date with Bobby tonight. Say youve thought of something really fun and awesome to do and she says sorry, I already am going on the date.

Doesnt make you feel very special does it? Doesnt make you feel like this person is ready to make an effort and put some energy into the relationship and see if it works out.

You reap what you sow.

and I can guarantee a relationship where 1 of the partners doesnt feel special is a doomed one. As much as guys hate to admit it, it feels good to be needed and to know that out of everyone else, youre the guy who gets to be with this girl.

Takes all the magic out of a relationship to juggle them like they are types of desserts.

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Originally posted by Mr. Pink oh c'mon. if you're going to get into social morals, then you also have to take into consideration the other side of the spectrum. there are cultures that allow more than one wife, etc... im not saying *I* would do it, but who are you to say that is downright WRONG?

lol mr philosophy here. Im a fan of Kant so

Im using this in our societal context. We are an increasingly interconnected, driven, social network with vast amounts of information. We also have record levels of STDs, birth defects, and abortions.

If this was some island where they had 10 kids to help pick food and survive and 1 woman couldnt bear that...it would make sense to have multiple wives.

In America, with 150 MILLION women I dont think its too much to ask to have a little social awareness in all this

Exactly...

And research has shown that humans as a species arent monogomous in nature.

I'm not saying go around and try to spread your seed as much as you can, but saying that it is "wrong" to go out with more than 1 girl at a time is just taking it too far.

Just open your options, if ur not happy; leave. Ur not being selfish. You didnt waste the other persons time. It goes vice versa. Once you find that special someone and that special someone feels the same about you, then you go one step ahead in the relationship and try to be faithful or whatever.

Simple as that, I dont see any morality issues here. Keep an open mind about it cause theres bound to be a better person out there.

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Originally posted by Orbax lack of morals. Social Morals. Call me old fashioned but have you noticed the trend between number of partners and rise in disease? Im sure its just coincidence though...

i think it's possible to date more than one person while still keeping your morals in tact. i think as a general rule of thumb, most people who decide to date multiple people don't go about it in a moral and/or respectful way... which is why the concept of dating multiple people is so heavily looked down upon and scrutinized. most of us think of "dating multiple partners" as playing games or screwing around, and it's not always like that.

also, i would hope that anyone who isn't in a serious relationship, whether they're dating or sleeping with one person or ten, takes every step to protect themselves and their partner against diseases.

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Originally posted by trewqy Exactly... And research has shown that humans as a species arent monogomous in nature. I'm not saying go around and try to spread your seed as much as you can, but saying that it is "wrong" to go out with more than 1 girl at a time is just taking it too far. Just open your options, if ur not happy; leave. Ur not being selfish. You didnt waste the other persons time. It goes vice versa. Once you find that special someone and that special someone feels the same about you, then you go one step ahead in the relationship and try to be faithful or whatever. Simple as that, I dont see any morality issues here. Keep an open mind about it cause theres bound to be a better person out there.

What I was saying earlier is there is a fairly brief window...like 1-2 dates where its ok to see other people. But there is definitely a point where you are obligated to either cut it off or continue. To wait for both horses to cross the finish line is selfish and immature and youre taking advantage of someone.

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Originally posted by trewqy Right, like you've never "played the field" before. Please, you wanna act all sappy and self righteous about being faithful and caring about the other person's feelings, get out of this thread. Variation is the spice of life. If he hasnt told any of the 2 girls that hes going out with them "EXCLUSIVELY" then I dont really see a problem. What makes u think girls dont go out with more than 1 guy at a time?

theres nothing wrong with "playing the field" but i think there are limitations. variation is important but i think dating more than one person at once, regardless if you tell them about it or not, is kind of a dick move. someone will get attached and ive hurt enough feelings in the past to not want to have to do it again. maybe i'm just a casually nice guy but i think if you're interested in "playing the field" you should keep things real casual. i dont think anyone should go as far as to literally date multiple people at once because you just end up pissing people off. i dont like to feel like shit and i dont like making other feel like shit either

all this said, i dated 4 girls at one time, fuck, years ago...and that was such a headache. and yeah, dated.

banging 4 different girls, that's a different story. but dating? too much stress.

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Originally posted by l�cid also, i would hope that anyone who isn't in a serious relationship, whether they're dating or sleeping with one person or ten, takes every step to protect themselves and their partner against diseases.

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Originally posted by l�cid RJT gave me AIDS

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Originally posted by DJ RJT

first thought: what is RJT doing in a relationship thread?
second thought: guess that's what i get for trying to date you while i still had a boyfriend!

what a bunch of fooken drivel. did your vagina finally come in while you were away?

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Originally posted by Orbax The Golden Rule, as cheesy as it is sometimes, helps. Even if its not sexual...Think of calling up a girl and shes gonna go on a date with Bobby tonight. Say youve thought of something really fun and awesome to do and she says sorry, I already am going on the date. Doesnt make you feel very special does it? Doesnt make you feel like this person is ready to make an effort and put some energy into the relationship and see if it works out. You reap what you sow. and I can guarantee a relationship where 1 of the partners doesnt feel special is a doomed one. As much as guys hate to admit it, it feels good to be needed and to know that out of everyone else, youre the guy who gets to be with this girl. Takes all the magic out of a relationship to juggle them like they are types of desserts.

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Originally posted by Spacey Orange what a bunch of fooken drivel. did your vagina finally come in while you were away?

Edited.

Dont worry though SO. We all still respect you.

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Originally posted by l�cid first thought: what is RJT doing in a relationship thread? second thought: guess that's what i get for trying to date you while i still had a boyfriend!

Lawl... I needed some comic relief to take me away from the trainwreck marathon I'm running on my decks right now trying to record another demo...

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