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tholius, grow some nuts or move to new zealand.

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Originally posted by astroboy I never needed to rationalise it. I was raised with the understanding that it is good to have sexual experience before you get involved in a serious relationship. Those were my moral standards and I could accept sex for pure physical enjoyment and experience as a valid reason. There was no rationalisation or "kidding myself" involved. SO it depends on the individual, though in principle I agree that if there is one rule it is not to kid yourself and stay true to yourself.

I guess your moral standards were much easier to deal with. Unfortunately for some (me included), we are raised believing that sex has a "higher purpose" or nature. Just makes life more difficult, given the age we live in especially.

Basically, many of us are sitting at home horny as fuck and going insane over it, while our peers are out there having a good fuck every now and again and not giving it much thought, all the while maintaining their sanity and inner peace, or w/e (can't think of a better word).

Ok bro, Im gonna be honest...

That fro you got going on, although its nice and big and people envy it... is not gonna help you score some ass. Its not the most attractive thing,l haviing a big fro isnt gonna make your dick anybigger so just cut it off and stop trying to be different.

Cut that shit off, get a buzz cut or something and youll find some honies.

/durnk

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Originally posted by Yan You're also of the group that believes that you should wait, correct? Do you think this was a result of influence from your family, your friends, or something that arose entirely independently?

Are you implying after marriage? Not at all...

In fact, it's a bit late for 'waiting' altogether.

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Originally posted by Vlad Ok bro, Im gonna be honest... That fro you got going on, although its nice and big and people envy it... is not gonna help you score some ass. Its not the most attractive thing,l haviing a big fro isnt gonna make your dick anybigger so just cut it off and stop trying to be different. Cut that shit off, get a buzz cut or something and youll find some honies. /durnk

I'm not looking for honies.

I got a haircut, by the way. I haven't posted any pics yet but... yeah. It's like a Pushkin look.

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Originally posted by Tholius Are you implying after marriage? Not at all... In fact, it's a bit late for 'waiting' altogether.

Nah. I meant, how is it that you picked up on getting close to a person and only then sharing a sexual encounter?

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Originally posted by Yan I'm not looking for honies. I got a haircut, by the way. I haven't posted any pics yet but... yeah. It's like a Pushkin look. Nah. I meant, how is it that you picked up on getting close to a person and only then sharing a sexual encounter?

CLICK (NSFW)

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Originally posted by astroboy I've had sex with more people that I haven't had deep feelings for than vice versa. I have never lied to any of them with regard to my intentions, or lead them on. These days one night stands are so common, it's quite easy to do without really hurting anyone. That's fine, I'm all for one night stands... My only thing in this is that no-one should be misled, etc. In my opinion if both parties are consenting, have sex all you want, it's fine. However I've spoken to a few females w/ this concept, and whatever their stance, I've basically had a lot of them say there's ALWAYS some level of attachment, which leads to feelings of hurt. Now ideally... if that weren't the case, it'd be great. If we acknowledge their opinion, then we might have a problem. Actually I found I got to a stage where it was no longer satisfying to me, and it was harmful for me psychologically and I decided I needed to be more selective about who I sleep with. I don't have regrets because it was a phase I needed to go through, and I still much prefer to have racked up the experience I have. That's fine also... I have no quams about that. For me, I've always been selective w/ who I sleep w/ because if I find I'm not satisfied w/ myself for accepting anything less. And the notion is a bit sketchy to me, I don't really do it get 'experience'... I mean, all girls are different, so when you get into a relationship w/ them, although your experience counts a little, it's moreso you communicate w/ them what they like. I guess we have what the investment industry would call differing risk profiles. You are more risk averse than me. In the past I've chosen to have casual sex despite the risks (though I have ALWAYS used protection), I've chosen to drink alcohol and smoke despite the risks, I've chosen to recreationally take drugs despite the risks. I've had a great time doing all those things and regret nothing. Now I have calmed down, I only rarely get drunk, never take drugs any more and am not promiscuous like I used to be. But I think all my experiences have not only given me some fun memories of crazy times, but also a much more rounded and worldly personality. More risk averse? Yes, I'd agree w/ that. Sometimes it's detrimental in the fact that it sometimes hinders my spontaneity, and I over analyse things... but thta's my character, although I choose at times to dim it down, I find it more beneficial in not only relationship wise, but in my day to day life... in comparison w/ any potential hindrance it brings about. But make sure you acknowledge thta just because I selectively choose who I sleep w/ doesn't make me less likely to 'crazy times' lol... and again, a "much more rounded and worldly personality"... tht's quite subjective... I never needed to rationalise it. I was raised with the understanding that it is good to have sexual experience before you get involved in a serious relationship. Those were my moral standards and I could accept sex for pure physical enjoyment and experience as a valid reason. There was no rationalisation or "kidding myself" involved. SO it depends on the individual, though in principle I agree that if there is one rule it is not to kid yourself and stay true to yourself.

Tht's fine as well...

That's just out differences in "risk aversiveness" as you put it...

Personally I think we have the same notion, just go about things differently for whatever reason

Virginity is overrated.

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Originally posted by pkcRAISTLIN tholius, grow some nuts or move to new zealand.

Oh, and relating back to you, I really don't believe in incest either.

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Nah. I meant, how is it that you picked up on getting close to a person and only then sharing a sexual encounter?

Rephrase?

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Originally posted by astroboy CLICK (NSFW)

I've never seen that.

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Originally posted by Tholius Rephrase?

The opinion that you put forth in your original post. Where did that develop from? Had you sat down with you folks when you were younger and then followed their advice since then? Or was it your friends experiences that influenced you?

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The opinion that you put forth in your original post. Where did that develop from? Had you sat down with you folks when you were younger and then followed their advice since then? Or was it your friends experiences that influenced you?

Interesting question...

Well my mother is Hindu, my father Christian... although there are 'sex after marriage' notions in these relgions amongst other things, I didn't find them to be in tune w/ some of my core beliefs, and I took what I found of benefit of these religions, kind of like the underlying ideals they try to profess and made my own opinion. I'm not religious, although I do believe there's a higher meaning to life.

In addition, I've read a lot of random philosophical books, a lot of spiritual books which my parents are into, and again my opinions are just a cumulation of insights I believe to be relevant...

Wow Yan, I kinda thought you might be one of those 'tech guys' (for lack of inoffensive alterior) - who got some pussy. You mentioned you had a girlfriend on a couple occasions, she was cute in the pic you posted.



Put the psp away and get on it!

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Originally posted by Allied Nations Wow Yan, I kinda thought you might be one of those 'tech guys' (for lack of inoffensive alterior) - who got some pussy. You mentioned you had a girlfriend on a couple occasions, she was cute in the pic you posted.

I've done just about everything except sex. I guess it's just the girls that I end up going out with. They aren't looking for sex.

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Originally posted by Allied Nations Put the psp away and get on it!

Still a bit too pricey for my Jew self.

IMO, I prefer having sex with someone I care about rather than some randomer. It's a lot more satisfying both physically and mentally.

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Originally posted by Yan I've done just about everything except sex. I guess it's just the girls that I end up going out with. They aren't looking for sex.

No no no... they are all subconciously somewhere looking for sex, you just need to bring that out of them. That is, unless they are stupid 'waiting til marriage' prudes. Even then, they still want sex, they are usually just too insecure. If you aren't having sex, you are what's stopping you. if you want it enough, it's ALWAYS out there (and no I don't mean paying for it.)

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Still a bit too pricey for my Jew self.

PSP, game cube, xbox, laptops, whatever the fuck. You know what I meant

The reason for your virginity might be easily explained by your sig

Get out of the house and put a sock in your pants.

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Originally posted by Allied Nations No no no... they are all subconciously somewhere looking for sex, you just need to bring that out of them. That is, unless they are stupid 'waiting til marriage' prudes. Even then, they still want sex, they are usually just too insecure. If you aren't having sex, you are what's stopping you. if you want it enough, it's ALWAYS out there (and no I don't mean paying for it.)

Oh I know it's out there and readily available. I guess I'm just too busy studying for MCATs and looking towards Med School that I don't have the time to go out and search for someone that interests me. I'm fairly sure I'll meet someone along the way. And yeah... I'm one of those that sorta care to know a bit about the girl before I pumph4x her.

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Originally posted by all-nite-freak The reason for your virginity might be easily explained by your sig Get out of the house and put a sock in your pants.

Thought you were ygrene for a moment there.

I live in the library and in my house. And in class, I guess. Life is suckage when you're taking nothing but science classes and the occasional language class.

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Originally posted by Yan Oh I know it's out there and readily available. I guess I'm just too busy studying for MCATs and looking towards Med School that I don't have the time to go out and search for someone that interests me. I'm fairly sure I'll meet someone along the way. And yeah... I'm one of those that sorta care to know a bit about the girl before I pumph4x her.

Then quit fucking whining!

Re: Re: I'm halfway and a bit to becoming a 40 year old virgin.

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Originally posted by astroboy you'll have learnt dick control and will take longer than 30 seconds to bust a nut.

Is it even possible to bust a nut in 30 seconds if your not experience? Is that a common problem among virgins?

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Originally posted by Allied Nations Then quit fucking whining!

I wasn't whining... was I?

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Originally posted by Yan I wasn't whining... was I?

WTF is this thread then?

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Originally posted by Allied Nations WTF is this thread then?

A joke.

Turbonium posted the title of this thread as part of a reply in another thread (the surgery one - complaining that his life is suckage). I thought it was amusing and posted.

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Originally posted by Yan A joke. Turbonium posted the title of this thread as part of a reply in another thread (the surgery one - complaining that his life is suckage). I thought it was amusing and posted.

I just can't tell what you were going for with this thread. Do you want us to mock you, give you advice, feel sorry for you? TELL ME AND ILL DO IT!

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Originally posted by Allied Nations I just can't tell what you were going for with this thread. Do you want us to mock you, give you advice, feel sorry for you? TELL ME AND ILL DO IT!

Since when has a thread in the COR had to have a direction to head in?

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