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Thing that sucks is, I was with her for 2 years, and she didn't like pot, and I was quite the pot head before I met her, and I quit smoking to be with her, it's like now, when I smoke with some friends, I don't even really get any enjoyment out of it anymore.

This really blows.

Not to mention, I lost my job like 3 weeks ago.

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Originally posted by eXo Yeah, it seemed pretty assinine (spelling?) but I know what he means, but it's easier said than done. Anyone got that calulator thing, where it's like, if your with someone "this long" then it will take "this long" to get over her, anyone find that to be true?

LOL, no way.

I never even ended up officially dating a certain girl, and our "togetherness" at any level was only like a few weeks TOPS (and again, not formally dating or anything). I still think about her everyday, a year later. It's weird.

So no, I don't believe in that. But I'm pretty sure I have a mental disorder, and I tend to be obsessive, so I'm probably not a good representative of the norm.

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Originally posted by eXo Anyone got that calulator thing, where it's like, if your with someone "this long" then it will take "this long" to get over her, anyone find that to be true?

don't be ridiculous...no calculator will tell you how long it will take you to get over someone, it's all up to you.

do you want her back? maybe you could get her back....

i usually find baring my boring soul to stangers on the net improves my state of mind no end.

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Originally posted by Turbonium LOL, no way. I never even ended up officially dating a certain girl, and our "togetherness" at any level was only like a few weeks TOPS (and again, not formally dating or anything). I still think about her everyday, a year later. It's weird. So no, I don't believe in that. But I'm pretty sure I have a mental disorder, and I tend to be obsessive, so I'm probably not a good representative of the norm.

Fuck the "norm" what is it anyway? I guess everything is always going to be different for every person depending on their emotional scale, and I guess loneliness scale.

I feel like most of my friends, aren't really friends anymore, and any new people I meet seem to be asses themselves. At what point, do you unfriend a friend who hasn't been much of a friend anymore?

Sorry to half-drunken ramble, but I think that's what the CoR is all about, answers, and many answers, and even those asshole answers from people who don't really give a fuck, because that's part of the comedy right?

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Originally posted by pkcRAISTLIN i usually find baring my boring soul to stangers on the net improves my state of mind no end.

Why do you think I'm posting right now?

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Originally posted by pkcRAISTLIN i usually find baring my boring soul to stangers on the net improves my state of mind no end.

maybe you missed the part where his friends aren't answering his calls? therefore he turns to the CoR for advice.
not what i would do but some people have no choice...

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Originally posted by Danny Ocean don't be ridiculous...no calculator will tell you how long it will take you to get over someone, it's all up to you. do you want her back? maybe you could get her back....

See that's the huge debate...pretty much she said if I wanted to get back with her, i'd have to quit drinking, quit parting, quit hanging out with my friends (because she hates them, but I'm starting to grow stale of them too) and pretty much be sober 24/7.

Which, she would be worth all of that and more, the problem is, I keep contemplating it, and just when I thought I've come up with a good decision, a friend hits me up on my cell and is like "hey man, I just got some good smoke man, you should come by" and I go back to square 1.

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Originally posted by Danny Ocean maybe you missed the part where his friends aren't answering his calls? therefore he turns to the CoR for advice. not what i would do but some people have no choice...

Yeah, no choice at this point.

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Originally posted by eXo See that's the huge debate...pretty much she said if I wanted to get back with her, i'd have to quit drinking, quit parting, quit hanging out with my friends (because she hates them, but I'm starting to grow stale of them too) and pretty much be sober 24/7. Which, she would be worth all of that and more, the problem is, I keep contemplating it, and just when I thought I've come up with a good decision, a friend hits me up on my cell and is like "hey man, I just got some good smoke man, you should come by" and I go back to square 1.

I think you need to re-assess what you want out of life.

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Originally posted by Turbonium I think you need to re-assess what you want out of life.

No shit. I think my problem is, I can't make up my mind right now. I'm 23 years old, haven't been legally allowed to drink for that long, and I think I just gotta get it out of my system, the problem is, she's 25, wants to settle down, have a home, and not party at all anymore. I don' t know if I'm ready for that, but I do miss being with her.

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Originally posted by eXo See that's the huge debate...pretty much she said if I wanted to get back with her, i'd have to quit drinking, quit parting, quit hanging out with my friends (because she hates them, but I'm starting to grow stale of them too) and pretty much be sober 24/7. Which, she would be worth all of that and more, the problem is, I keep contemplating it, and just when I thought I've come up with a good decision, a friend hits me up on my cell and is like "hey man, I just got some good smoke man, you should come by" and I go back to square 1.

i don't know about you, but i would take my gf over drugs and parties anytime.

edit: maybe make a compromise...party in moderation...

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Originally posted by Danny Ocean i don't know about you, but i would take my gf over drugs and parties anytime. edit: maybe make a compromise...party in moderation...

How old are you?

If I offended you, I'm sorry.

I'm not being assinine about it. I've been through bad breakups, in the past, trying to get over them for months (not weeks). However, I never sit around, looking at the past, like it going to make the pain go away. Instead, it worsens your issues. Do anything you can to occupy your time, for as long as it doesn't make matters worse.

Constructive planning is key. Good luck.

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Originally posted by eXo How old are you?

23, but my ex-gf would party with me all the time...i didn't have that problem.

i've been partying for most of my teens and i still party nowdays, so it's nothing new for me.

Wow, I'm 21, never partied once in my life. I think it's mostly because I lack the social skills or something. I'm sorta inept in that way. But once I did go to a pub and I really thought it was brainless (no offense to anyone, but I just didn't "get it"). I went to a party too, and an hour into it, was so boring, like the pub was from the start almost.

And I obviously don't drink (you can tell by that last statement).

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Originally posted by EXTREMUM If I offended you, I'm sorry. I'm not being assinine about it. I've been through bad breakups, in the past, trying to get over them for months (not weeks). However, I never sit around, looking at the past, like it going to make the pain go away. Instead, it worsens your issues. Do anything you can to occupy your time, for as long as it doesn't make matters worse. Constructive planning is key. Good luck.

Naw man, you didn't offend me, it takes a lot to offend me, and if you did offend me, you'd have known by now.

I'm just ranting cus it does suck, and I know time heals all wounds, but when you're chillin at your house, and all your friends are not pickin up the celly, and you have time to just sit there and ponder, that's one of the first thing my mind floats to man. I never asked for it, and I wish it would go away, but as for now, my mind is in a low place, and I need to jump it back up.

Positive thinkin'... appreciation of what you experienced I think might help you...

"Better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all."

I think that's a pretty profound quote, and if you could think about that, relate it to your experience and relate it back to the things I aforementioned, I think it might bring some satisfaction and acceptance.

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Originally posted by Turbonium Wow, I'm 21, never partied once in my life. I think it's mostly because I lack the social skills or something. I'm sorta inept in that way. But once I did go to a pub and I really thought it was brainless (no offense to anyone, but I just didn't "get it"). I went to a party too, and an hour into it, was so boring, like the pub was from the start almost. And I obviously don't drink (you can tell by that last statement).

Bars/pubs are brainless, a bunch of brainless drunks who are just looking for their place in the world, or enjoying their place in the world.

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Originally posted by Tholius Positive thinkin'... appreciation of what you experienced I think might help you... "Better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all."

I think that's just one strategy. I mean, I've grown pretty agnostic lately. These are all coping mechanisms. Fact is, life sucks, and has no meaning. Any meaning we do find in it is pretty much perceived; a construct of our own mind and need to make sense of the chaos around us.

Kinda like art... trying to make sense of all the chaos by putting some order to it, just like that quote.

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Originally posted by Tholius Positive thinkin'... appreciation of what you experienced I think might help you... "Better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all." I think that's a pretty profound quote, and if you could think about that, relate it to your experience and relate it back to the things I aforementioned, I think it might bring some satisfaction and acceptance.

You lack the beginning of your profound quote:

"I hold it true, whate'er befall;
I feel it, when I sorrow most;"

I'm feeling it, as I am currently sorrowing most.

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Originally posted by Turbonium I think that's just one strategy. I mean, I've grown pretty agnostic lately. These are all coping mechanisms. Fact is, life sucks, and has no meaning. Any meaning we do find in it is pretty much perceived; a construct of our own mind and need to make sense of the chaos around us. Kinda like art... trying to make sense of all the chaos by putting some order to it, just like that quote.

Kind of like the bible, a guide book on how to be moral, when morality is lost.

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Originally posted by eXo Kind of like the bible, a guide book on how to be moral, when morality is lost.

So what are you saying, please clarify.

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Originally posted by Turbonium So what are you saying, please clarify.

Well, you said as in art, trying to make sense of all the chaos by putting some order to it.

Such as the bible, trying to make sense of all the chaos by putting some order to it...the commandments, the proverbs, many of the books of teachings.

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Originally posted by eXo Well, you said as in art, trying to make sense of all the chaos by putting some order to it. Such as the bible, trying to make sense of all the chaos by putting some order to it...the commandments, the proverbs, many of the books of teachings.

What I'm trying to say is... do you believe in God? Any religions? That's what I was trying to get at.

I don't wanna thread hijack though.

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