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Posted by Zoso on Jan-08-2007 20:37:

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Originally posted by grooviebeats
with your history with him.. if it was me and i moved in with you no doubt id try to hit it again. that is about all you have to watch out for.

Sleep sex FTMFW?

Posted by Xenocreator_PG_ on Jan-08-2007 20:40:

quote:
Originally posted by every man in the history of humanity
doodle controls me

Posted by Halcyon+On+On on Jan-08-2007 20:41:

quote:
Originally posted by Slylee
but that's not anything i would ever tell any guy i'm with. i learned my lesson with an ex. he had a major problem with me talking to this guy and there is no way i'm going to let that happen again. i would seriously die for this kid. our families are super close, we just go way back and what happened between us was so silly and meaningless, i would rather just forget about it myself. why bring it up? "oh honey, this is my best friend...we hooked up 6 years ago, but it was nothing"

i would rather not know if a guy i was dating had a similar situation.

Yeah, I know what you mean - I would simply rather not know about it either, if I were dating you. But secrets come back to bite you in the ass, in my experience. The little complications have a way of becoming even more complex with every fact you neglect to mention, despite you knowing the complete truth of the matter. I'm not saying that it's a really bad idea, because really, he is *just* a friend and any guy who wouldn't want you to be happy and spending time with/maintaining a good relationship with your friends is probably not a guy you want hanging around too long. I'm just saying that with this decision, you should be aware of all the possible risks - that's all.

Posted by jdat on Jan-08-2007 20:43:

Posted by Slylee on Jan-08-2007 20:50:

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Originally posted by jdat
I realize all of us here are outside of the situation but if you bring up this fact it still means something to you.
How so?
That is not for me to say but somehow it isn't something you've completely forgotten.

um of course it's not completely forgotten. have you completely forgotten about someone you hooked up with? especially someone who is still in your life? doubt it. he's still a huge part of my life and to be perfectly honest with you, it's not something that crosses my mind very often at all. this thread made me think of it though obviously...

Posted by jdat on Jan-08-2007 20:52:

quote:
Originally posted by Slylee
um of course it's not completely forgotten. have you completely forgotten about someone you hooked up with? especially someone who is still in your life? doubt it. he's still a huge part of my life and to be perfectly honest with you, it's not something that crosses my mind very often at all. this thread made me think of it though obviously...

well if you move in either you:
1. try to completely forget it and never bring it up ever again
2. discuss it with him.

Not that 2. is easy but it could save you against a potential situation at a later time, in a sense clear the air.

Ps: I am willing to bet it will come back up one day so you might be better off try to think ahead

Posted by jonSun on Jan-08-2007 20:56:

I dont think it should matter who u live with. It would prolly be good cause if u meet a guy & he is turned off or makes a fuss, it will be a good thing cause you wouldnt wanna be involved with that BS anyways.

Posted by Slylee on Jan-08-2007 20:59:

It�s been 6 years, and I can honestly say I don�t recall either one of us bringing it up. If we did, I don�t remember.

And if we ever were to bring it up again, I guarantee it would be during a weed smoking session and we would both go in tears from laughing about it so hard. It was a rather awkward hook up. I think we didn�t even finish and I just left. haha

Posted by Zoso on Jan-08-2007 21:01:

quote:
Originally posted by Slylee
I think we didn�t even finish and I just left. haha

But did you leave a tip?!

Posted by Xenocreator_PG_ on Jan-08-2007 21:01:

You should do it. But be warned: THIS WILL END BADLY UNLESS YOU FOLLOW THE FOLLOWING RULES:
1) Always fart in his company.
2) Never, I repeat, NEVER discuss doodles after midnight.
3) Expect him to bring you breakfast in bed every sunday. If he doesn't then hide a poop in the peanut butter & giggle when he eats it.
4) Eat your vegetables! They are apparently good for you, but be weary of oysters hiding in the cabbages! (he may catch you offguard & plant oysters in other food groups)

Posted by Frenchie on Jan-08-2007 21:01:

And if it so happens to come up , you both should be mature enough to talk about it.

Do it sly, It won't do damage to your game.

unless you have weak game

Posted by Lebezniatnikov on Jan-08-2007 21:03:

It might present a threat to some guys at first, but once you explain the situation they should be able to take you at your word.

Posted by Moral Hazard on Jan-08-2007 21:05:

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Originally posted by Frenchie
unless you have weak game

She doesn't need game... when you look like Jamie others bring the game to you (you should know this).

Posted by XaNaX on Jan-08-2007 21:09:

As long as this guy does not still want to fuck you then you should be good to go. Either way its not gonna hurt your game but if he is secretly in love with you or some shit like that it could become weird.

Posted by Slylee on Jan-08-2007 21:11:

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Originally posted by XaNaX
As long as this guy does not still want to fuck you then you should be good to go. Either way its not gonna hurt your game but if he is secretly in love with you or some shit like that it could become weird.

my mom thinks he is, but i don't really think so. and if he is, i think he's pretty much accepted that i'm not and has moved on from that thought. i think he was in love with me when we were kids...but not any more.

Posted by Moral Hazard on Jan-08-2007 21:13:

quote:
Originally posted by XaNaX
As long as this guy does not still want to fuck you

probability of this is lower then winning the lotto

Posted by Slylee on Jan-08-2007 21:16:

i just wanted to get guys' perspective on it because i know that most men are dogs and i'm sure a lot of men wouldn't throw me out of bed, so that's what i would imagine would run through a guy's mind if i was dating him and brought him to my place and introduced him to my male roommate whom i'm very close with. he might think, "ha, bullshit your roommate doesn't want to secretly fuck you". but like a lot of you said, if a guy has a problem with it, then he's probably controlling and jealous and that's a turn off for me.

Posted by XaNaX on Jan-08-2007 21:37:

quote:
Originally posted by Slylee
i just wanted to get guys' perspective on it because i know that most men are dogs and i'm sure a lot of men wouldn't throw me out of bed, so that's what i would imagine would run through a guy's mind if i was dating him and brought him to my place and introduced him to my male roommate whom i'm very close with. he might think, "ha, bullshit your roommate doesn't want to secretly fuck you". but like a lot of you said, if a guy has a problem with it, then he's probably controlling and jealous and that's a turn off for me.

If you were ugly or this guy was gay you would be set. But some guys will have a problem with the situation because as a guy they know that if a guy says he is "friends" with a hot girl what friends really means is "I want to fuck this girl but I haven't hooked it up yet".

Posted by Slylee on Jan-08-2007 21:45:

quote:
Originally posted by XaNaX
If you were ugly or this guy was gay you would be set. But some guys will have a problem with the situation because as a guy they know that if a guy says he is "friends" with a hot girl what friends really means is "I want to fuck this girl but I haven't hooked it up yet".

lol exactly

Posted by Lilith on Jan-08-2007 21:49:

quote:
Originally posted by Slylee
i just wanted to get guys' perspective on it because i know that most men are dogs and i'm sure a lot of men wouldn't throw me out of bed, so that's what i would imagine would run through a guy's mind if i was dating him and brought him to my place and introduced him to my male roommate whom i'm very close with. he might think, "ha, bullshit your roommate doesn't want to secretly fuck you". but like a lot of you said, if a guy has a problem with it, then he's probably controlling and jealous and that's a turn off for me.

lol!

But to be serious about your question, people can think all the hell the want as long as it doesnt involve anything on some kind of level you're uncomfortable with and heck, unless it's blatantly obvious or you can somehow read minds, then its more than likely your own imagination at work.
It's sounds like you've known him for long enough anyway that any little fantasies he's ever entertained are probably long gone and would have tried something anyway in the past, hardly think 4th grade puppy love counts either for anything!
As for potentials, if they can't handle the fact you have friends, (of either sex) you're sharing a house with then, thats just a sign theyve got some serious inferiority, or lack of trust issues in the first place and stay the hell away from them. They've got some growing up to do

Posted by Lebezniatnikov on Jan-08-2007 21:54:

quote:
Originally posted by Slylee
my mom thinks he is, but i don't really think so. and if he is, i think he's pretty much accepted that i'm not and has moved on from that thought. i think he was in love with me when we were kids...but not any more.

lol @ concept of just falling out of love.

An old flame is easily rekindled.

Posted by idoru on Jan-08-2007 22:22:

I wouldn't mind at all, really. I'd trust the person I was going out with to be open/honest about pretty much everything, and I'd trust that she's not letting her roommate poke her.

Go for it. Nothing wrong with it.

Posted by Halcyon+On+On on Jan-09-2007 02:28:

quote:
Originally posted by Lebezniatnikov
lol @ concept of just falling out of love.

An old flame is easily rekindled.

Exactly. Those feelings don't just go away.

Not that your friend is necessarily 'just working on having sex with you' or has a hidden agenda, but if there's any feelings there whatsoever...

Like, imagine if things seem to work out for a while and he hears you having sex with somebody in the next room? I don't know if you've had to deal much with girlfriends of his, but have you considered how it would make you feel hearing the same thing come from his bedroom? Obviously none of us are really familiar with the entire situation, but maybe you should talk to him about this? (probably much easier said than done, I know )

Posted by tubularbills on Jan-09-2007 02:55:

When I lived with my friend Dawn back in college, her b/f at the time was *always* over. it annoyed me somewhat, cause the guy was a douche [glad she ended upbreaking it off with her]. so from my standpoint, i wouldn't mind it....but her roommate might if the other guy is over constantly.

Posted by Enigmatic XTC on Jan-09-2007 03:19:

I think it should be fine if you allowed any male prospect to meet said roommate and allowed him to make it VERY clear to your roommate that if he EVER comes within 15 feet of even THINKING about touching you that he will be given a bullet through the skull absolutely free of charge. That should clear up any problems.

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