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my Mom is a music teacher of 22 years, whereas my dad is a seaman, I'm an economist lol

then again seems like all females from my Mom's side chose an entirely different career then their parents pursued - my grandfather was in the KGB (no kidding!), and wanted my Mom to become a lawyer

My dad's a Computer engineer and i choose Marketing.

Sister's are in Pre-Medical,Criminology and Psychology.

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Originally posted by Cribby My parents also have a lack of impact on my life. I'm pretty much a rebel and will usually do the opposite of what they ask me to do. It's gotten to the point where I enjoy not living up to their expectations, because it really irritates me when they brag about me to friends/family. Old fashioned porkchop parents value their reputations and egos way too highly...and they love to talk crap. Kind of off-topic but yea...my choices are my own.

hahah I feel the same way sometimes.

My parents are really old fashioned and are buggin that I dont have kids yet! KIDS!! ffs I dont even wanna get married. ewwww


Every phone call I get from them I have to justify going out even for a drink because "I am too old for that and should be settling down." lol guess I shouldnt tell em about the rest of the shit I do.

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Originally posted by yankeeBaby buggin that I dont have kids yet! KIDS!! ffs I dont even wanna get married. ewwww

That can be arranged

I was the closest to being a doctor like my dad and grandfather. My mom was an artist, and I ended up in the IT field.

I am following in my parents footsteps, but as I said in the other thread, it's not like I'm doing it to appease them or anything - I like it, and it just so happens they do the same stuff.

P.S. Both of my parents and me are doing the same thing - software dev, although my mom is more on the database/AS400 side.

My father is a forensic scientist and police officer.

My mother was a nurse in nerve damage and spinal injury for years before switching gears and is now the 3M Medical Rep. for Canada.

So no, I am not following in my parents footsteps. I'm actually a disappointment of sorts because I'm interested in the arts.

My father is a fourth generation doctor (3 of them even have the same name) and part of me always felt a little 'guilty' that my sisters and I wouldn't be going into medicine in our chosen careers (he has never given us the impression this disappoints him or anything though).
I guess the closest I have come so far to following in his footsteps is emigrating to another country at around the same age!

My whole life was heavily influenced by what my Dad wanted rather than what i want. He picked the schools i went to. The college i went to. The courses i took. The sports i played and everything in between. Being the youngest of 5 brothers i always felt very pressuerd that i must do just as good as my dad and my brothers. My dad made me take Electronics Eng. in University because thats was the only way i could get help from him in regards to paying for the Uni. I had a partial scholarship for playing football so that helped out but to this day i have never used anything i learned in school to a practical use. I felt like it all went to a waste. I have forgotten 90% of what i learned in the Eng. courses i took. Since high school i have been in sales and media marketing and thats where i will be for the remainder of me life My dad is obviously not very happy about the choices i made regarding my career and what not and its part of the reason he hasn't seen me in over 5 years.

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Originally posted by yankeeBaby hahah I feel the same way sometimes. My parents are really old fashioned and are buggin that I dont have kids yet! KIDS!! ffs I dont even wanna get married. ewwww Every phone call I get from them I have to justify going out even for a drink because "I am too old for that and should be settling down." lol guess I shouldnt tell em about the rest of the shit I do.

My mom already had 3 kids by the time she was 23. 23!! I can't fathom having even ONE kid before 30. I don't even see a point in getting married unless I want to have a family.

My parents had a heavy (or is that heavy-handed) influence on everything I did, at least academically and professionaly. Both of them are mechanical engineers by profession, but my mother switched to IT, and I went in that general direction as well, although more on the development side. Truth be told, in a way I'm glad. THey pushed me to do at least get an education that has some value. Although, I dislike my profession more and more as the years have passed. I can definitely see my self switching into something totaly different, and I know for a fact they would not really approve. At least in this way I'll get a chance to try both spectrums of professional life.

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Originally posted by TranceGrooves My dad is obviously not very happy about the choices i made regarding my career and what not and its part of the reason he hasn't seen me in over 5 years.

thats a fucking brutal shame and makes me really sad to her, Tyler.

My mom works in the finance industry which isn't something that I want to do.

My dad has his own business as a plumber/welder/electrician/whatever, and although I know a lot about that stuff (lol, I knew how to fix broken faucets when I was ten :| ), I don't want to do that either.

I have been extremely interested in medicine since I was eight, and I really want my career to be related to that.

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Originally posted by jennypie I can't fathom having even ONE kid before 30.

That's not necessarily a good thing, because then we get 56 year-old hags finally deciding that they want a kid, which is a breeding ground for all sorts of complications for the mother and the child. I'm sorry, but at that age, your kid-having train has long gone by.

I'm not saying 30 is too old to have a healthy baby, but the longer you trade off having a career for having a child, the higher is the risk of the baby having birth defects.

I'd personally want to have a kid before I turn 30. I'm almost 22 now, so I still have lots of time for that goal. I figure if I'm going to bring another life into this world, it's better not to play dice with these things and try to make sure my kid will be perfectly healthy, even if it means my career taking a bit of a dive in its early stages. A big part of being a parent is learning to sacrifice things for your kid, and your perfect career will probably be one of the first things taking a hit. Plus, raising children is both a mentally and a physically demanding task, one that pretty much lasts for 20 years, and I know I'll be able to handle it better when I'm younger than older.

My father attemped to become a doctor but that didnt work out(although doctors run in my family). He basically went onto health care management and later into consulting where he has now run his own business for years. Its basically there for me to take over if I chose to , but really im much to young to do what he does. He deals with high end health care positions(doctors, presidents, ceo's etc) and really you gotta be a certain age to get some respect from most of those guys(who are all older anyways).
Plus I dont think im cut out for doing consulting(head hunter to some of you). Just not my thing. It takes a certain kind of person to do that kind of work.

My mom got a degree in geography or something and did some social work for a while but then became a stay at home mom.


I have an interest in biology and the medical field but opted to take a different route. Engineering.
Both my parents are university graduates(so im following ) them that way.
probably shouldve tried to become a doctor lol money.

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Originally posted by Cosmic Fur That's not necessarily a good thing, because then we get 56 year-old hags finally deciding that they want a kid, which is a breeding ground for all sorts of complications for the mother and the child. I'm sorry, but at that age, your kid-having train has long gone by. I'm not saying 30 is too old to have a healthy baby, but the longer you trade off having a career for having a child, the higher is the risk of the baby having birth defects.

I'm aware of the risks. I may not want to have kids at all. And my reason for not having any isn't because of my career.

My mom had me when she was 33.

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Originally posted by me@t k@tie I have been extremely interested in medicine since I was eight, and I really want my career to be related to that.

Try nursing!

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Originally posted by jennypie My mom had me when she was 33.

And a finer cunt on these boards I do not know! lol

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Originally posted by Jem_hadar And a finer cunt on these boards I do not know! lol

LMFAO! D'awwwwwwwww!

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Originally posted by jennypie I may not want to have kids at all.

I've met a few girls in Canada who feel the same way, and while I don't understand that decision at all, I'm not going to push this any further cause I know it doesn't lead to good places, lol.

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Originally posted by jennypie And my reason for not having any isn't because of my career.

The career thing I only mentioned cause I remember reading in newspaper or TIME that the women's equality movement meant that more and more women are focusing on their careers more and more, which is pushing the age at which they have kids further and further back.

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Originally posted by Cosmic Fur I've met a few girls in Canada who feel the same way, and while I don't understand that decision at all, I'm not going to push this any further cause I know it doesn't lead to good places, lol.

Well it's not your life or decision to understand anyways.

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Originally posted by Vivid Boy no that was the rub n tug girl i visited last week same face and reaction i got after i asked if she thought i was big

HAHHAHAHAAHA

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Originally posted by Cosmic Fur The career thing I only mentioned cause I remember reading in newspaper or TIME that the women's equality movement meant that more and more women are focusing on their careers more and more, which is pushing the age at which they have kids further and further back.

Ugh. I just read back what I wrote, fuck I'm unimaginative. Damn mornings.

Neither of my parents have a university education, so they have influenced me in the sense that they were very supportive of every aspiration I had as a teenager, and even now as I consider going back to school for either law or MBA. I'm very grateful for their support and understanding of how important education is.

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Originally posted by Cosmic Fur I'm not saying 30 is too old to have a healthy baby, but the longer you trade off having a career for having a child, the higher is the risk of the baby having birth defects.

The risk doesn't noticeably increase until after age 35. It's not like the risk goes up an equal amount for every year after 30.

My mother had her second child in her second marriage at age 38. She had recently re-married. Sometimes you just can't have them any earlier than that, as was the case with her.

...very much influenced.

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