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lol she called you a knob

well, at least she's honest.

As a cold bastard myself, I fully support you.

I don't believe in being obligated to call people because of some bullshit bloodline connection or anything of the sort. If you care for someone, you call them. I believe it makes your friendship more valuable when you don't give it so freely to anyone for no good reason.

Fuck that.

I hate my moms husband. If his whole family died... it would be ages before I even knew, and even then, I might tell my mom to tell him that I sent my condolences, but I would never talk to him in person.

Meh, I don't think there is a need to be fake with people. If you don't like each other, and that is obvious and understood between the two of you, then there should be no expectations of any kind from the other.

Since you HAVE to stay in contact simply because there is a common connection, the only thing you should be expected to do is show some common courtesy. The same kind of courtesy you would show an acquantaince.

At least that is MO.

So I guess it's a resounding "Fuck that ho"

put anthrax in your sympathy card.

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Originally posted by Slylee I have never in my life met such a fucking drama-queen/spaz as this chick. She drains me talking about drama. WHAT THE FUCK. Shut up. I don�t fucking care. I can�t stand people like this. /rant

sorry jenny

In my opinion, you did more than was called for. I mean, it seems that you're somewhat less than close with this woman, so why you would even care if her brother died, much less bother to call her or get her a card, is totally beyond me.

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Originally posted by Slylee sorry jenny

Phew!...I'm glad you know I'm busting balls.



Anyway, no you're not a piece of shit. People deal with stuff in their own way...and it's especially difficult when you have no positive feelings for someone. There's really only so far you can go before you're being fake...and personally, the last thing I'd want at a time like this is fake sympathy and condolences. Unless your Dad's wife is into that sort of shit.

For them to have expectations on how/when people should share their sympathy is pretty fucking whack, imo.

i don't care that her brother died. isn't that bad? lol

anyway, this is more about my dad than anything. not her, or her brother.

It's not about your relationship with her, it's about supporting the one he loves in her time of need, due to your relationship with him.

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Originally posted by DigitalMP It's not about your relationship with her, it's about supporting the one he loves in her time of need, due to your relationship with him.

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Originally posted by DigitalMP It's not about your relationship with her, it's about supporting the one he loves in her time of need, due to your relationship with him.

exactly.

and jenny i agree 100% about the fake sympathy. that's what it's about for me. i can't stand fake people or having to be fake. it's often confused with rudeness, but really, i just have a hard time pretending i give a shit about something i really don't. the fact that her favorite brother died at a very young age is sad, and i'm definitely like, "oh wow, that sucks" but i'm just not tempted to call her up and be like, "OMG! i'm sooo sorry, you know i'm here for you, bla bla bla".

my sister is doing that, calling her every day and i think that's a fucking joke because my sister doesn't like her either.

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Originally posted by Slylee exactly. and jenny i agree 100% about the fake sympathy. that's what it's about for me. i can't stand fake people or having to be fake. it's often confused with rudeness, but really, i just have a hard time pretending i give a shit about something i really don't. the fact that her favorite brother died at a very young age is sad, and i'm definitely like, "oh wow, that sucks" but i'm just not tempted to call her up and be like, "OMG! i'm sooo sorry, you know i'm here for you, bla bla bla". my sister is doing that, calling her every day and i think that's a fucking joke because my sister doesn't like her either.

Reading this thread just makes me angry that your family is treating you so ridiculously.

Honestly, my response at this point would be to just stop listening and completely remove yourself from the situation. Fuck it, there's no reason for you to feel bad about any of this.

Even if your dad and sister are pissed, they'll get over it - and if they don't, I think that's a whole new level of ridiculousness I don't even really want to address.

Some token sympathy show is pretty much all that's required for the situation, and as far as you've said here it looks like you've shown that, not sure what your dad is wound up about.

you should always respect the dead and send condolences to the people who have been affected by the tragedy. It does no harm. You should not let your ego get into the way in these sort of things.

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Originally posted by RJT Reading this thread just makes me angry that your family is treating you so ridiculously. Honestly, my response at this point would be to just stop listening and completely remove yourself from the situation. Fuck it, there's no reason for you to feel bad about any of this. Even if your dad and sister are pissed, they'll get over it - and if they don't, I think that's a whole new level of ridiculousness I don't even really want to address.

U know what�s even more fucked up? When my sister first called me, she specifically said that my dad was upset with me for not calling, and then she talked my head off for like 5 minutes until finally I interrupted her and I was like, �but I DID call her, on Saturday� and then she was like, �Well yea, he said he�s upset that you waited so long, bla bla bla� I was just like, sooo you just told me that he said I DIDN�T call, and now you�re saying that he�s mad that I waited to call. lol

My sister is just a typical ignorant, uneducated, busybody�always up in everyone�s business and stirring shit up. I've learned to just tune her out and not share ANYthing with her.

Anyway, I already made things good with my dad. I'm not calling the wife again though. her card is in the mail and I've left her 2 voicemails. I'm done.

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