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..it's always a good idea to re-evaluate your habits and how you spend your time.

it takes lots of balls to do something like this, anonymous or not. because "man can convince anyone he's somebody else, but never himself".

cheers man, i wish you all the best in life !!

i'd also like to add another thing, if you dont mind. and by adding this i swear to god im not trying to start another heated discussion or another flame war or anything. simply, i've been trying to find means to get this message to all partygores nowadays and this is great opportunity. if you can understand what im trying to say, GREAT, if not... just try to save your quirky comments for another occasion.

if you wanna party then go out and do it. have THE BEST motherfucking time of your life, and do it smart. but please, keep your shit for yourself. there's always time and place for stuff but some thing are best left unsaid.

one love !!

alot of people i know didnt need to wake up (including myself) but just start realizing that going to a club 2-3 times a week every week wasnt really neccessary...its money, its braincells, its strain on ur body. Several people i know go to parties regardless of who the dj is saying they are going "for the dj"...but really....how many djs really play something different from the other? ive seen my fair share of big names and i just dont have the anxiety to see them again...going out nowadays to me is a little treat every once in a while and i dont regret missing out on parties should that happen...i have a blast going with friends to a tiny lounge and listen to some tunes over a fun conversation rather than get my ears (that i have to spare due to diminishing hearing) hurt more and more because the only way of talking at a club is by yelling to each other..

i'd say its not just the toxins that people should think about but also rememberting that theres more to life than just clubbing...

i met an acquaintance of my sister's a short while back and he prides himself on going out 5 nights a week and "picking up women" as an added bonus. the guy is 29....i feel its sad that he actually chose to debate that his lifestyle is better than mine...

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Originally posted by nomore This will likely be deleted but I hope that it reaches some of you and at least starts a bit of a debate among some of you. I'm a former tranceaddict with a new name... I frequented Guv, CZ and other spots depending on which DJ's were playing where. The recent CZ raid made me think of my former (and fairly recent) life as a "partier" and thought MAYBE I could get through to even ONE of you out there. I'm mainly talking to you older partiers that just can't let go, grow up as a person (I don't mean that in an insulting way AT ALL), and accept your life beyond "the scene".

I think you're confusing Nightlife with substance abuse dood. I'm 23. Like El K Dee just said, some people get to a point where they realise they're going a bit over board and readjust their life style. A few years ago I used to drink from friday at 6 right after work until sunday at 6pm being awake all weekend. Goood times were had, but it was getting tiresome. So that only happens once in a while now. hahaha.

Good for you that you cleaned up your act, but don't blame clubs on your drug and alchohol abuse. My father ruined his life from substance abuse...like wife, kids, job, friends, type of lost his life. He even never frequentd bars, never mind stepped foot in a EDM club.

I'll most definatly be going to clubs and concerts well into my 30's...probably 40's, 50's and 60's. I'm sure my taste in music might change, but I'll be there.

Some people enjoy golf or motor sports or theater plays. I enjoy music...preferably in a louder enviroment and with more people than my house will accomodate.

My drug and alcohol consumption will have little to do with how many shows I attend in a week.

If you were doing that much drugs, you must have been hanging aroudn the wrong crowd. Especially if you were talking about the next time Tiesto is in town....frinds don't let friends listen to Tiesto

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Originally posted by Aleks_B ..it's always a good idea to re-evaluate your habits and how you spend your time.

"Originally posted by Aleks_B
..it's always a good idea to re-evaluate your habits and how you spend your time."

x 10 all the time...

what about the 40 yrolds, and 50 yrolds.. i see them at guv all the time???? are they wasting their lives???

I am 26,, so that means I only have 4 years left!!! wow, i better start partying hard!!! well I'm glad miami is less than a week away!!!

edit***.. ppl do drugs to become happy.. ppl that don't are happy with alcohol.. EVERYONE ABUSES SOMETHING>...and if u pride yourself being sober,, than even better!... what impresses me is someone who can dance without drugs or alcohol and manage to get ppl in a good mood by getting people to dance!.. GO ON THE DANCEFLOOR WHEN NOBODY IS HARDLY DANCING AND START TO DANCE ... its better sober!

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Originally posted by Jayx1

Jayx1 - cant figure out how to cut and paste your aswers to Nomore questions, but;


Stop making excuses and burying your head in the sand. Surely you can't be that naive.

Nomore makes some VERY good points and I think that by arguing against what she / he says, you are denying that this could happen to you.

If you think you are invincable to the effects of partying, then you need to have a word with yourself.

The truth is that the scene is addictive whether you take drugs or not, especially if all your friends are in the scene. Like Nomore says, I know people who are incapable of talking about anything but the next party. It's frightening.

Thank you nomore for your thread. I see what you have been through and understand the negative experiences on one's life when drugs take the best of someone.

Myself and ALL my older friends of the scene, have a second life as well, where we don't let these worlds collide. We have great careers (for me, 12+yrs at probably the largest IT company in the world, and promoted several times in that span), some have families, cottages, go to BBQs, company picnics, etc... with friends outside of the scene) This is perhaps what you personally would call age-appropriate.

Perhaps we know what goes on more because we's seen it before in others, and fortunately for ourselves, learn from that.

When I was in my early 20s, sure I liked to test my limits like anyone else at that age. By the time you're 30-something, it becomes fairly clear where one is, where they are going, and think more about the future. Perhaps this is where you are now. I spent many years building my career, and my future. It's not easy, it's work. We all have avenues to the way which we work to deal with stress. For some, going to a club is a little getaway. It's a getaway, not a substitute for reality.

So life is all about balance. Going to extremes in both positive and negative is never good. Cutting everything out is not the key. "All things are good in moderation". So I'm glad you realized it was time to focus on your outside life, and working to improve it, and share your experience with others.

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Originally posted by nomore Ask yourself these questions: I'm mainly targeting the "old partiers". [QUOTE]1. When I go out, am I one of the oldest people in the room?

Nope, the middle aged skasians have me beat by a decade or two.

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2. Am I over thirty and most of my friends are in their early to mid 20's?

Over 30, most of my friends are in the same ball park. I have more friends over 40 then in their early 20s; however, I fail to see the relavance of having younger friends.

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3. Are most of my friends that ARE my age unemployed, working crap jobs or have unrealistic goals (like "I want to be an actor... but have no training etc...)

Nope, nearly all of my friends are successful professionals or skilled trades persons.

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4. Am I slowly losing my "old friends"?

Many of my friends have been friends since highschool.

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5. Am I having a difficult time making ends meet?

I've paid off almost half my home in 3 years... I'd say I'm doing okay

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6. Am I REALLY happy?

Yes.

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7. Are my friends REALLY my friends (can I have a conversation about anything other than when the next time Tiesto comes to town)?

Yes, sometimes we even have real conversations at parties.

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8. Am I periodically DEPRESSED? The reason you're depressed is because that's what ecstacy withdrawl does to you... especially 3-4 days after your last dose...

No.

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9. Do I need drugs to have fun? (or can I party "sober"). If you can't party sober, then it isn't "actually" fun...

I can party sober, I prefer not to.


So, am I okay... do I have your permission to keep going out or do you, the self-appointed age appropriate party watch-dog deem me unfit to party?

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Originally posted by Abercrombie Thank you nomore for your thread. I see what you have been through and understand the negative experiences on one's life when drugs take the best of someone. Myself and ALL my older friends of the scene, have a second life as well, where we don't let these worlds collide. We have great careers (for me, 12+yrs at probably the largest IT company in the world, and promoted several times in that span), some have families, cottages, go to BBQs, company picnics, etc... with friends outside of the scene) This is perhaps what you personally would call age-appropriate. Perhaps we know what goes on more because we's seen it before in others, and fortunately for ourselves, learn from that. When I was in my early 20s, sure I liked to test my limits like anyone else at that age. By the time you're 30-something, it becomes fairly clear where one is, where they are going, and think more about the future. Perhaps this is where you are now. I spent many years building my career, and my future. It's not easy, it's work. We all have avenues to the way which we work to deal with stress. For some, going to a club is a little getaway. It's a getaway, not a substitute for reality. So life is all about balance. Going to extremes in both positive and negative is never good. Cutting everything out is not the key. "All things are good in moderation". So I'm glad you realized it was time to focus on your outside life, and working to improve it, and share your experience with others.

Great post.

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Originally posted by DiskoBiskit Jayx1 - cant figure out how to cut and paste your aswers to Nomore questions, but; Stop making excuses and burying your head in the sand. Surely you can't be that naive. Nomore makes some VERY good points and I think that by arguing against what she / he says, you are denying that this could happen to you. If you think you are invincable to the effects of partying, then you need to have a word with yourself. The truth is that the scene is addictive whether you take drugs or not, especially if all your friends are in the scene. Like Nomore says, I know people who are incapable of talking about anything but the next party. It's frightening.

Making excuses for what? I was addressing his condescending post about age and lifestyle. You dont know me and dont know my lifestyle. You dont know the lifestyle of many other older people outside a club.You dont know if i party every weekend or not. I can tell you that i know a lot of successful businessmen and even a doctor who hits the town hardcore almost every weekend. And in Europe its the norm, not the exception!


Either way, im not going to let someone talk down to people and lecture them on how to live their life based soley on their age and his opinion. I happen to be 32 and im sick of the canadian mentality that everyone is too old for everything by the time they hit 25... well these days i even hear 21 year olds saying it. Its sad.

So again i say, do what you want at any age as long as you dont hurt anyone and as long as you are happy doing it.

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Originally posted by Moral Hazard So, am I okay... do I have your permission to keep going out or do you, the self-appointed age appropriate party watch-dog deem me unfit to party?

I think the bigger question is do you have Mrs. Hazard's permission to keep going out.

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Originally posted by ChemEnhanced I think the bigger question is do you have Mrs. Hazard's permission to keep going out.

Until the developing hazard arrives; yes, afterward is anybody's guess.

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Originally posted by Abercrombie Thank you nomore for your thread. I see what you have been through and understand the negative experiences on one's life when drugs take the best of someone. Myself and ALL my older friends of the scene, have a second life as well, where we don't let these worlds collide. We have great careers (for me, 12+yrs at probably the largest IT company in the world, and promoted several times in that span), some have families, cottages, go to BBQs, company picnics, etc... with friends outside of the scene) This is perhaps what you personally would call age-appropriate. Perhaps we know what goes on more because we's seen it before in others, and fortunately for ourselves, learn from that. When I was in my early 20s, sure I liked to test my limits like anyone else at that age. By the time you're 30-something, it becomes fairly clear where one is, where they are going, and think more about the future. Perhaps this is where you are now. I spent many years building my career, and my future. It's not easy, it's work. We all have avenues to the way which we work to deal with stress. For some, going to a club is a little getaway. It's a getaway, not a substitute for reality. So life is all about balance. Going to extremes in both positive and negative is never good. Cutting everything out is not the key. "All things are good in moderation". So I'm glad you realized it was time to focus on your outside life, and working to improve it, and share your experience with others.

yes yes yes yes yes

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Originally posted by Moral Hazard Nope, the middle aged skasians have me beat by a decade or two. Over 30, most of my friends are in the same ball park. I have more friends over 40 then in their early 20s; however, I fail to see the relavance of having younger friends. Nope, nearly all of my friends are successful professionals or skilled trades persons. Many of my friends have been friends since highschool. I've paid off almost half my home in 3 years... I'd say I'm doing okay Yes. Yes, sometimes we even have real conversations at parties. No. I can party sober, I prefer not to. So, am I okay... do I have your permission to keep going out or do you, the self-appointed age appropriate party watch-dog deem me unfit to party?

yes yes yes yes yes

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Originally posted by Jayx1 do what you want at any age as long as you dont hurt anyone and as long as you are happy doing it.

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Originally posted by Abercrombie Thank you nomore for your thread. I see what you have been through and understand the negative experiences on one's life when drugs take the best of someone. Myself and ALL my older friends of the scene, have a second life as well, where we don't let these worlds collide. We have great careers (for me, 12+yrs at probably the largest IT company in the world, and promoted several times in that span), some have families, cottages, go to BBQs, company picnics, etc... with friends outside of the scene) This is perhaps what you personally would call age-appropriate. Perhaps we know what goes on more because we's seen it before in others, and fortunately for ourselves, learn from that. When I was in my early 20s, sure I liked to test my limits like anyone else at that age. By the time you're 30-something, it becomes fairly clear where one is, where they are going, and think more about the future. Perhaps this is where you are now. I spent many years building my career, and my future. It's not easy, it's work. We all have avenues to the way which we work to deal with stress. For some, going to a club is a little getaway. It's a getaway, not a substitute for reality. So life is all about balance. Going to extremes in both positive and negative is never good. Cutting everything out is not the key. "All things are good in moderation". So I'm glad you realized it was time to focus on your outside life, and working to improve it, and share your experience with others.

+1

Says it all.

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Originally posted by Moral Hazard Nope, the middle aged skasians have me beat by a decade or two

hahahaha

To the poster...

Age is a state of mind man.
I'm still in the scene and I'm WIDE AWAKE, and happier than ever!
It sounds like YOU needed a wake up call. I'm glad you got one.

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Originally posted by activate

I agree with everything you've said in this thread so far.



Everyone eventually gets a 'wake-up' call at some point and time, and realizes the direction their lives are heading, and where they'd like to be. Some, quicker than others. Some, unfortunately, have to hit rock bottom to realize this.

Bop till I drop!

Hey there, nomore. I just turned thirty.

/retires


NOT!!!!!!!!

I've never been one to react positively to preaching. People just need to come to decisions on their own. Friendly advice is one thing, but you are just spewing the choir and most people who do have a "problem" in your eyes will just scoff at your suggestions.

Me? I'm 26 and still love to party. While I might feel a little "older" at a bar or club these days, I make sure I frequent places that have older crowds (such as the Barking Frog in London, Revolution on a Saturday night in Waterloo, etc). Partying does not interfere with my life because I keep it to the weekends and refrain from partying when other things are due (such as my recent Defence Department application exam, Masters Thesis, term paper, exams to mark, etc). That said, I rarely touch drugs these days and rarely go to the big "events" these days anyway.

Basically, do what you want people. If you have a problem, sooner or later you will realise it and take actions to correct it.

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