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| Originally posted by KiNeTiC ENeRgY seriously, how can u say I know jack shit about cars? You have no clue what I have done. I screw with more peoples heads than u will ever know. I grew up in exotic car shops my Father owns. I worked for 10 years at auto body and mechanical shops...actually 4 different shops since I was 15, and put myself through college busting my ass covered in bondo dust, grease and paint. I have done more with cars than u can imagine. I raced and built Yamaha karts, Shifter Karts when I was 12, re-built the engines for them, built small and big block Fords from empty blocks to complete long blocks, welded roll cages and tubs for drag cars, installed suspensions, brakes, drag raced an 89 steeda Mustang for 3 years while in school, with nitrous systems and went supercharged for a while. I laughed when u went searching for glass headlight assemblies for a late model Mustang, which demonstrated your knowledge but I'm not going to sit here and gloat anymore about my experience. *steps off soap box*  |
It makes people respect you less for your knowledge, or lack thereof when you act like a cocky jackass and then leave without proving what you know. I am one that calls it the way I see it, and that's the way everyone in that thread, saw your actions.
Negative: I don't love talking about myself.
Positive: I don't bore other people with it.
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| Originally posted by jennypie My brutal, almost tactless, honesty. I've worked on that a lot though, so it's not anywhere near the double edge for me that it used to be. I've always been a pretty introspective/reflective person and for the most part I apply the same level of honesty with myself, so I've always been good at identifying and dealing with negative aspects of my personality. The reflective practice I do in nursing has helped me to be even more objective about it and really be able to accept criticism/negative feedback from my peers. That's more on the professional tip...but still, it helps keep my ego in check. |
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| Originally posted by gehzumteufel Well then don't go into a car thread, make a comment, someone tells you to backup your knowledge and tell them they know fuck all. It makes people respect you less for your knowledge, or lack thereof when you act like a cocky jackass and then leave without proving what you know. I am one that calls it the way I see it, and that's the way everyone in that thread, saw your actions.Oh another flaw of mine, I can be "too" blunt and honest at times. Fuck have I gotten myself in hot water for this. |
I'm on a bunch of car sites, mainly Mustang ones, and since this isn't a car site I just left it at that. We all bash each other on here...goes back and forth, so no worries. Cars are just a hobby for me now since I got out of that work when I graduated...though I do miss doing custom paintwork. Last car I did was a 69 Camaro and it was owned by this 16 year old who just got access to a trust fund. He ended up dropping 25k on the paintwork alone, and that car came out so freaking nice!
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| Originally posted by KiNeTiC ENeRgY lol na man its the interweb its all good. I do come off cocky a lot irl and thats my personality trait I need to work on I'm on a bunch of car sites, mainly Mustang ones, and since this isn't a car site I just left it at that. We all bash each other on here...goes back and forth, so no worries. Cars are just a hobby for me now since I got out of that work when I graduated...though I do miss doing custom paintwork. Last car I did was a 69 Camaro and it was owned by this 16 year old who just got access to a trust fund. He ended up dropping 25k on the paintwork alone, and that car came out so freaking nice! |
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| Originally posted by jdat very much with you on most counts. This past weekend there was some church weekend thingy my parents wanted me to go to. Most of the people there were pissing me off asking me ignorant questions just trying to make conversion and I just hate that. Tonight my father was asking me about the weekend and saying I appeared distant. I went on explaining that I can't stand doubt the whole chatty thing. If there isn't something of interest there you can right bugger off. Friends are an investement in time and I don't want to waste my time on people who are worthless to me. Feel free to read into this as pseudo-seflish behavior, but if not being alone at times means being with people that you have zero interest in I prefer the former. |
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| Originally posted by l�cid yeah. i have little tolerance for small talk and shallow facades. i hate when i'm forced into a situation where i have to partake in such behavior, and i always go along with it because i don't want to seem completely uninterested or bitchy... but honestly, i think a lot of people just love the sound of their voice and they just can't help it. me on the other hand, i love comfortable silences. it's also a shame that being selfish is almost always considered a negative personality trait. obviously there's a big difference between being selfish in order to achieve happiness and being selfish because you're just a self-centered prick. i have no problem admitting that i can be very selfish sometimes, because it allows me to live my life the way i want to. i can't be happy if i'm living life by someone else's standards. |
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| Originally posted by l�cid yeah. i have little tolerance for small talk and shallow facades. i hate when i'm forced into a situation where i have to partake in such behavior, and i always go along with it because i don't want to seem completely uninterested or bitchy... but honestly, i think a lot of people just love the sound of their voice and they just can't help it. me on the other hand, i love comfortable silences. it's also a shame that being selfish is almost always considered a negative personality trait. obviously there's a big difference between being selfish in order to achieve happiness and being selfish because you're just a self-centered prick. i have no problem admitting that i can be very selfish sometimes, because it allows me to live my life the way i want to. i can't be happy if i'm living life by someone else's standards. |
also, even though i don't necessarily believe in horoscopes all that new-agey shit, i think it would be interesting to compare some of the traits you all mentioned to the associated traits that are normally seen in our respective astrological signs. personally, i know i display a lot of the associatied traits for Scorpio... and it's almost scary how true some of them are for me.
i mean, look at Jenny... she's a Scorpio too and she's DEFINITELY a back-stabbing whore. 
LOL! Backstabbing no...but vindictive/vengeful, yes. Not all the time, for the most part I control that behavior, but if someone REALLY fucks me off...look out. It honestly takes a lot for me to turn on someone, but once I have, that's it forever.
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| Originally posted by jennypie It honestly takes a lot for me to turn on someone, but once I have, that's it forever. |
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| Originally posted by l�cid i mean, look at Jenny... she's a Scorpio too and she's DEFINITELY a back-stabbing whore. |
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| Originally posted by Lilith Oh that's not fair, sometimes us nice little Scorpios stab you in the face as well. |
(-)Don't give a fuck!!!!!
(+)I'm Tupac!
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| Originally posted by Lilith Oh that's not fair, sometimes us nice little Scorpios stab you in the face as well. |
But we're the nicest of people
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| Originally posted by Lilith But we're the nicest of people |
Can't leave things unfinished. Pros and cons are obvious.
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| Originally posted by Gauss Can't leave things unfinished. Pros and cons are obvious. |
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| Originally posted by UWM Being a perfectionist is both a blessing and a curse. Your work is always good but you're never truly satisfied. |
My mouth.
I talk myself into some sticky situations.. but then again I can usually talk myself out of them.. hmm
Re: Aspects of your personality that have a double edge.
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| Originally posted by RJT I had something happen today that has made me think about aspects of my life that are both beneficial as well as detrimental to me - namely that I'm competitive. This has served me well quite often, like today - I had handed in a second exam for one of my courses after receiving the first one back weeks earlier with a comment that read "I think you are capable of much better." The exam grade was a B-, but the fact that the professor thought I could do better stuck with and really bothered me. I got my second exam back today, got an A+ on it, and not only did the professor write on my exam that he thought I had a real talent for this kind of writing and that he was proud of me, but he also held me after class to let me know for sure how well he thought I did, and to try and offer some advice as far as getting into grad school. It felt great, but being challenged/competing also has a real ugly side for me, one which the majority of you are all too familiar with - I engage in arguments that are often times pointless and that would be better left alone than perpetuated. It doesn't just happen on the internets, it happens with some of my closest friends too. I don't like it when I see myself engaging in these kinds of activities, yet sometimes I find myself doing it without even thinking about what's going on. It is easily the one area of my personality in which I feel like I have the most improvement to do, and I guess just realizing how this kind of thing can be both good and bad for me was kind of an "epiphany" of sorts. So I put the question to you guys, do you have anything like this that you see in your own life (something that can both help and hurt you)? If so, is the negative aspect something you do reflexively, but the positive seem like something you really have to work at? Does it bother you that there are times when it seems like the negative aspects of the trait are reflexive, rather than rationally deliberated upon and chosen?  This has been todays "Self Help" thread brought to you by RJT and Stewart Smalley - because I'm good enough, I'm smart enough, and gosh darn it, people like me.  |
A lot of my friends have commented that they were initially drawn to me because I'm a "nice" guy - but that isn't necessarily always a positive, and today has been a perfect example of that for me. I'm the kind of person who rarely puts myself first, and when I'm asked to do something for someone I rarely say no. Luckily I haven't really been taken advantage on that account yet, but I definitely have put myself in situations where I don't stand to gain from helping. Today I loaned my friend a pretty substantial sum of money, and to be frank, I don't really have anything to loan. I put myself in a pretty tight spot on the assumption that his spot is tighter. I trust him to the extent that I didn't even ask any questions as to why he needed it, just one to make sure I will be repaid sometime soon.
I also am slow to stand up for myself when I know I've been wronged. Some of my close friends have observed that I put up with a lot, especially from girls sometimes, and that I can be taken advantage of. In fact, the last girl that I dated used that as a reason for our breakup - that I'm too "nice" and she can never live up to that. Whether true or not, it's been a pretty consistent problem for me actually - falling into the friend zone. The positive is that I have a large number of girls that I am close to and consider very good friends... the negative of course being that many of the girls I fall for see me as just a nice guy they can talk to. Epitome of double-edge I would say.
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| Originally posted by Lebezniatnikov A lot of my friends have commented that they were initially drawn to me because I'm a "nice" guy - but that isn't necessarily always a positive, and today has been a perfect example of that for me. I'm the kind of person who rarely puts myself first, and when I'm asked to do something for someone I rarely say no. Luckily I haven't really been taken advantage on that account yet, but I definitely have put myself in situations where I don't stand to gain from helping. Today I loaned my friend a pretty substantial sum of money, and to be frank, I don't really have anything to loan. I put myself in a pretty tight spot on the assumption that his spot is tighter. I trust him to the extent that I didn't even ask any questions as to why he needed it, just one to make sure I will be repaid sometime soon. I also am slow to stand up for myself when I know I've been wronged. Some of my close friends have observed that I put up with a lot, especially from girls sometimes, and that I can be taken advantage of. In fact, the last girl that I dated used that as a reason for our breakup - that I'm too "nice" and she can never live up to that. Whether true or not, it's been a pretty consistent problem for me actually - falling into the friend zone. The positive is that I have a large number of girls that I am close to and consider very good friends... the negative of course being that many of the girls I fall for see me as just a nice guy they can talk to. Epitome of double-edge I would say. |
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