Dating someone who has different tastes in music

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Posted by Skipper on Oct-21-2008 18:36:

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Originally posted by elFreak
skipper, nail, head.

likewise!

Posted by elFreak on Oct-21-2008 18:38:

I went to see Jack Johnson...i hate "douchebags with a guitar" emo rock, but i still made sure i had a great time because i was with her. I sure as hell did not pay for it though

Posted by FunkyCrew on Oct-21-2008 18:38:

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Originally posted by elFreak
I went to see Jack Johnson...i hate "douchebags with a guitar" emo rock, but i still made sure i had a great time because i was with her. I sure as hell did not pay for it though

lol bastard

Posted by Intangible on Oct-21-2008 18:40:

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Originally posted by exstasie

What if it was an all access night and you wanted to listen to House, but she wants you to listen to trance ( )...that could ruin your night!

Sorry Jeff but thats the WORST thought process ever.

You were at Guv 12.... I was in KH most the night, Michael was in the main room. Both of us had the time of our lives.

Posted by FunkyCrew on Oct-21-2008 18:41:

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Originally posted by Intangible
Sorry Jeff but thats WORST thought process ever.

lol Tara, that's a better way of putting it

Posted by exstasie on Oct-21-2008 18:45:

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Originally posted by FunkyCrew
lol Jeff you're so silly!
a. why can't the girl take care of herself?
b. she wants to leave early - she can cab it home! I do! what's wrong with leaving/arriving separately?
c. house vs. trance lol! so you go and listen to your own music then.. at LoL I was planning to be at the main room for house, but then Armin took over and it was trance all night.. but that was just because I was having so much fun, not because I couldn't venture on my own to listen to house!
d. expensive? how about splitting up costs? do you seriously feel obliged to pay for everything?

a. The girl can take care of herself, but majority of the time the guy pays for most things. That's just how it works.

b. I'm not going to let her take a cab home alone. That is i) irresponsible ii) she could have had too much to drink, or isn't feeling well so the right thing to do would be to take her home c) it's expensive to take a cab everywhere lol You might be making the big $$ but i'm not making that much.

c. All i'm trying to say is that she may want to hangout with at the club which could cause a conflict if you don't want to hangout with others.

d. it's the same as point a.

I know a lot of people out there (not going to name any names) who end up having to take care of their for most of the night, or end up getting into fights over stupid things, etc.

I wouldn't want to have to deal with that when i'm out.

Not to mention the fact that usually when you're both into the scene, if you were ever to break up, odds are you will run into your ex quite often. I know enough people who end up hiding from people when they are out lol

Posted by exstasie on Oct-21-2008 18:46:

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Originally posted by Intangible
Sorry Jeff but thats the WORST thought process ever.

You were at Guv 12.... I was in KH most the night, Michael was in the main room. Both of us had the time of our lives.

I'm not say for everyone or every situation. I'm just saying that it could be a possible issue.

Obviously there are alot of compatible couples that can party together.

You & Mikey, and Stefan & Sarah as we've seen from this example. But there are lots of others out there who aren't. I see it and hear it everytime I go.

It's not that often i'll here "thank god my gf isn't coming tonight...I don't have to worry about her".

What about guys. Guys get jealous quite often. Don't tell me that random boys have never hit on you girls lol.

Not all boys would be able to handle that in a calmly matter.

Posted by FunkyCrew on Oct-21-2008 18:49:

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Originally posted by exstasie
a. The girl can take care of herself, but majority of the time the guy pays for most things. That's just how it works.

a. not true! sorry

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b. I'm not going to let her take a cab home alone. That is i) irresponsible ii) she could have had too much to drink, or isn't feeling well so the right thing to do would be to take her home c) it's expensive to take a cab everywhere lol You might be making the big $$ but i'm not making that much.

lol what does it have to do with how much I make? I moved downtown so I can afford cabbing I guess you both live in Sauga? that's a dif story

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c. All i'm trying to say is that she may want to hangout with at the club which could cause a conflict if you don't want to hangout with others.

not sure what you mean here?

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d. it's the same as point a.

once again - not true, but whatever rocks your boat!

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I know a lot of people out there (not going to name any names) who end up having to take care of their for most of the night, or end up getting into fights over stupid things, etc.

I wouldn't want to have to deal with that when i'm out.

Not to mention the fact that usually when you're both into the scene, if you were ever to break up, odds are you will run into your ex quite often. I know enough people who end up hiding from people when they are out lol

well THAT is just a load of useless drama, IMO!

Posted by elFreak on Oct-21-2008 18:50:

life with blinders is funny.

There is so much more to life then the "scene".

LOLPLUR

Posted by Yohan on Oct-21-2008 18:51:

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Originally posted by exstasie
a. The girl can take care of herself, but majority of the time the guy pays for most things. That's just how it works.

I disagree. Seems to me in NA culture, dates are more or less split 50/50 for paying, if not the guy pays one time, the girl pays other.
certainly when I invite someone out, I will pay for everything because the person is out on my invitation, but I don't feel obligated to pay for everything all the time

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Not to mention the fact that usually when you're both into the scene, if you were ever to break up, odds are you will run into your ex quite often. I know enough people who end up hiding from people when they are out lol

that's just silly. you are allowed to ignore a person. i'm not going to let someone ruin me from having a good time at an event

Posted by FunkyCrew on Oct-21-2008 18:51:

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Originally posted by elFreak
life with blinders is funny.

There is so much more to life then the "scene".

LOLPLUR

lol noone is arguing against that
right now we're talking specifically about the whole clubbing part
so shush!

Posted by Chris Allen on Oct-21-2008 18:52:

I highly doubt I could date a girl who absolutely dispised dance music, but at the same time she wouldn't have to be a fanatic about it either.

Posted by Mortyman on Oct-21-2008 18:53:

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Originally posted by FunkyCrew

b. she wants to leave early - she can cab it home! I do! what's wrong with leaving/arriving separately?

OMG, if he wants to have sex for the rest of the week he BETTER go home with her! lol

Posted by elFreak on Oct-21-2008 18:54:

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Originally posted by Yohan
I disagree. Seems to me in NA culture, dates are more or less split 50/50 for paying, if not the guy pays one time, the girl pays other.
certainly when I invite someone out, I will pay for everything because the person is out on my invitation, but I don't feel obligated to pay for everything all the time

THIS

you were well raised yohan. Love is not give give give, it is give and take.

Posted by FunkyCrew on Oct-21-2008 18:54:

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Originally posted by Mortyman
OMG, if he wants to have sex for the rest of the week he BETTER go home with her! lol

LOL Kris!
bwahahah
bwahahahhahah!!!!!!!

Posted by Intangible on Oct-21-2008 18:54:

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Originally posted by exstasie

What about guys. Guys get jealous quite often. Don't tell me that random boys have never hit on you girls lol.

Not all boys would be able to handle that in a calmly matter.

Depends on the maturity of your relationship I guess.

I dont understand why a guy should get jealous if a guy hits on his girlfriend. UNLESS she flirts back.

Posted by exstasie on Oct-21-2008 18:54:

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Originally posted by FunkyCrew
a. not true! sorry

lol what does it have to do with how much I make? I moved downtown so I can afford cabbing I guess you both live in Sauga? that's a dif story

not sure what you mean here?

once again - not true, but whatever rocks your boat!

well THAT is just a load of useless drama, IMO!

Well we just disagree on the money thing.

I've always grown up with the notion of paying for most things. I make decent amount of money and have the ability to afford to pay for most things. It's just different customs and upbringing.

I drive everywhere so its not bad, but I am moving downtown soon! When my condo is built. I'm going to be like a 10 minute from everywhere. That's going to cause some issues.

I don't have a clue what my second point is. I forget haha.

A lot of Girls are DRAMA. You guys might not be, but don't tell me you don't know a lot of girls who are. Girls like to create drama in their head. Don't tell me why, they just do.

All i'm trying to say is that I can see the benefits of not having your significant not have the same interests in music.

Posted by elFreak on Oct-21-2008 18:55:

while certainly a very gentlemanly thing to do, when everything is on an even keel you will find that relationships tend to be easier.

Posted by Yohan on Oct-21-2008 18:56:

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Originally posted by elFreak
THIS

you were well raised yohan. Love is not give give give, it is give and take.

do I get a pat on the head and a candy for being a good boy now?

my parents had nothing to do with this part. actually, they taught me very little about dating stuff, but did teach me a lot about hospitality (though that's more of a korean thing)

Posted by Yohan on Oct-21-2008 18:59:

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Originally posted by Intangible
Depends on the maturity of your relationship I guess.

I dont understand why a guy should get jealous if a guy hits on his girlfriend. UNLESS she flirts back.

heh. I'd feel mildly complimented that dudes find my gf hot enough to hit on her

if you can't trust, then you shouldn't be in a relationship. call me a sucker or not, but in a relationship, the girl has my trust until she has proven otherwise (and I'd break up with her once I can no longer trust her)

Posted by jsibilin on Oct-21-2008 18:59:

i like trance & house... soo to all you ladies out there: feel free to pm me !! ahhahahahhaha

I think i might stay single forever!!

Posted by elFreak on Oct-21-2008 19:00:

oddly enough in Korea women pay for nothing. They are also immature like 15 year olds in their 30's. Different cultural values completely, i would say very similar to the 1950's in north America. The society is based heavily on perception of wealth in males.

Posted by The Wiz on Oct-21-2008 19:02:

lol my boyfriend and I hate each others music

Posted by exstasie on Oct-21-2008 19:03:

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Originally posted by Yohan
heh. I'd feel mildly complimented that dudes find my gf hot enough to hit on her

if you can't trust, then you shouldn't be in a relationship. call me a sucker or not, but in a relationship, the girl has my trust until she has proven otherwise (and I'd break up with her once I can no longer trust her)

A lot of people have issues lol

They may have trust issues from prior relationships where they were cheated on in the past, or other things like that.

quote:
Originally posted by elFreak
oddly enough in Korea women pay for nothing. They are also immature like 15 year olds in their 30's. Different cultural values completely, i would say very similar to the 1950's in north America. The society is based heavily on perception of wealth in males.

I'll go with that as being my problem lol

quote:
Originally posted by Intangible
Depends on the maturity of your relationship I guess.

I dont understand why a guy should get jealous if a guy hits on his girlfriend. UNLESS she flirts back.

I don't either. I'm not the jealous type at all so I have no idea why. But like I said about Yohan's, it could come from issues in the past.

I know because I've been on the receiving end of it quite a few times lol (me being friends someone's gf).

Posted by Intangible on Oct-21-2008 19:05:

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Originally posted by exstasie
A lot of people have issues lol

They may have trust issues from prior relationships where they were cheated on in the past, or other things like that.

Simple solution: Don't get into a relationship with a person who has trust issues .... The relationship is only destined to fail.

And on the flip side... if you have trust issues (not you Jeff), then don't date till you are ready. Go see a therapist.

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