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| Originally posted by eXeTik So what do you expect to happen? do you actually think some girl will run on to you just for smiling at her...?! Talking is al good, I just hate those morons with the stupid pickup lines or the rude one's. |
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| Originally posted by junis Girls: Do you actually like it when guy's act like this???????? I realy would like to know that! Opinions highly apreciated!! |
its just my preference ive had some real trouble with guys thinking that they can grab u, touch u and try things on u...
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| Originally posted by smcmulli well, that was a lot of reading, and i must throw in, ah piss on it my opinion doesn't matter. HI JULIE! |
Interesting topic. I hope you guys can help me out as well.
It always pisses me off when I start thinking that when I'm not around my g/f, other guys might want to get to know her, ask for her phone number, etc., etc., I just can't help it, I go mad at the thought!
The other day my girlfriend and I went to Atlantic City. She's a very beautiful girl, like a model, and every single guy on the street had to stare at her, or complement her on how beautiful she is, or flirt with her. That was really pissing me off! My mood dropped to an absolute zero. It just SUCKS, when you know that every other guy will hit on her! 
About clubs... no offense but you're not very smart if you take your significant other to a club. I mean think about it, clubs are such a "meat-market" atmosphere, everyone is there to have a little fun, and the assumption is that everyone's single -- or at least wouldn't mind some grinding with a stranger Girls, if you're offended by this or don't want all the attention, then don't go there at all, because you're bound to draw the attention of some desperate guys wanting a "cheap thrill."
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| Originally posted by eXeTik So what do you expect to happen? do you actually think some girl will run on to you just for smiling at her...?! Talking is al good, I just hate those morons with the stupid pickup lines or the rude one's. |
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| Originally posted by Eugene The other day my girlfriend and I went to Atlantic City. She's a very beautiful girl, like a model, and every single guy on the street had to stare at her, or complement her on how beautiful she is, or flirt with her. That was really pissing me off! My mood dropped to an absolute zero. It just SUCKS, when you know that every other guy will hit on her! |
Just as bad are women who don't come up and talk to good guys, then end up going out with an outgoing asshole, then complain about how there arn't any good guys out there!
good topic. guys like this are kinda a pet peeve of mine.
i think i have a warped perception on this, but i HATE meeting guys in a club (unless it is in a asexual way). i go to clubs to dance and hear music, not to pick up guys. i can meet men elsewhere. i don't mind if someone starts talking to me; a good conversation means a lot more to me than physical attraction - but they'd better do it when i am in the chillout room and not when i am trying to listen to a set! i admit that it is flattering to have a guy come up to up and start dancing because that is some indication that i am attractive to him. but i DO NOT like my space invaded when i am dancing and i can get hostile if that is not respected.
nice thread, i'm kinda shy when it comes to walking up to girls i do not know even if i have eye-contact!! she must be standing alone or else i won't have the balls to walk up to her!
what annoys me even more is when i'm with a couple of friends (girls) and were dancing and other guys are starting to push you away to dance very close to my friends!!! and then they just turn around and start dancing with me again but they don't know rejection if you shouted it in their ears!!
what was really funny: at Addiction (Ta party) proxi was sitting down and the side of the dancing area and she gets this beer- ??(mmmm carton to put your beer on??) from the bartender who says it is from this guy sitting at the bar. written on the thingy (
) was: don't i know you from some where, i'm horny!"
that guy was such an idiot he tried hitting on proxi earlier when antiphus was dancing right next to her!! 
Two Things....
This doesn't necessarily work for me, but this is how I feel the general concensus on guys walking up to chicks....
1. In general eye contact and smiling is good 1st. BUT you should lead it up and talk to her within a minute or so after she's reciprocated them. Girls (not all mind you) generally like guys that are not "afraid", in other words they like to see some self-confidence etc. NOT ARROGANCE which is what they normally get from these assholes going up. So yes it's important to not waste your time with just looks, but don't go overboard and just stride up and say "hey baby, you-me, NOW"....
2. I get (or think...) the same problem with my g/f cos she does modelling and is pretty sweet+hot looking. SO she looks an easy target (she's 17 too). When we're out together we get chicks and guys telling her she's hot (like discounts in clothes stores or whatever) and if this happens when I'm with her and can't bear to think about what it's like when she's alone, cos she does like some attention (she's not self-obssessed mind you, she's modest about her loks, but EVERYONE likes flattery/compliments....
the other thing which slightly annoys me about this is that I trust her, and she knows that, and says that I can trust her (we've been togehter for about 7 months) but the problem is..... when I met her, she was kind of with another guy.......that ended (it didn't really start, but he got a bit annoyed at her). So if I "stole" or whatevered her from another guy.....is it gonna happen to me???????
I still trust her, but it's annoying that I got that nag at the back of my mind when I know she's out.....grrrrr
hope this helped 
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| Originally posted by butterfly i admit that it is flattering to have a guy come up to up and start dancing because that is some indication that i am attractive to him. |
For all you guys w/model gf, boy that must be terrible to have a gf who is so sexy that every guy wants to bump her. Life just isnt fair! I wish I had your "problems" hehehe
My take on the overly aggressive ginos, they come with the territory, you just got to deal with them. Obviously, knowing your club scene can really help, some venues and nights of the week lend themselves to more of a pick-up scene. I myself like places that attract ppl who are into dancing and the music.
Sometimes i think women are a little overly sensative to being picked-up and dont want to dance with you. My advice is relax its just dancing, were not asking you to have sex with us or go out on a date.
I got to laugh when i see a group of girls dancing in a protective circle. It might make you feel safe but good luck try to meet a guy. Anyways i digress, what was the subject of this thread? ;-)
Re: Two Things....
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| Originally posted by Hybrid Junkie the other thing which slightly annoys me about this is that I trust her, and she knows that, and says that I can trust her (we've been togehter for about 7 months) but the problem is..... when I met her, she was kind of with another guy.......that ended (it didn't really start, but he got a bit annoyed at her). So if I "stole" or whatevered her from another guy.....is it gonna happen to me??????? I still trust her, but it's annoying that I got that nag at the back of my mind when I know she's out.....grrrrr |
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| Originally posted by Eugene I know exactly what you mean, man. What you gotta remember is that the key to any relationship is trust. When you can take a deep breath and get rid of these obsessive doubts, that's when you know the relationship is healthy. |
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| Originally posted by Julie_Spyder OOOoooOOO can you be MY bf.. |
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| Originally posted by DJ CLUSTER LOL! Make sure your not wearing your school girl outfit when he tosses you on his shoulder! You may catch a draft with that short kilt! *winks at julie Cheers, Zigg's www.djcluster.com |
Well I don't really mind guys coming up and talking to me, but what I absolutely hate is when they feel like they can just go up to a girl and start grinding her, or when they want to get her attention by touching her. *shudder*
But if they were to give me a little smile first and I were to RETURN that smile then it would be okay to chat.
theres a difference between a confident guy, and a pushy guy.
if a guy smiles at me (some people are saying this is the way to go), im not going to go up to him because of that. odds are, i would think its a mistake, or just not something that proves to me the guy wants to talk to me. so that approach wouldnt get anywhere with me. if a guy is interested, he needs to come talk to me... when it gets too pushy, yes, that sucks. but i dont mind a guy making smalltalk, buying me a drink, whatever.
as far as them hitting on a girl you like when you are there, what, are all people supposed to be mind readers?
just because a girl is hanging out with a guy at a club, does not mean they are dating. i go to clubs with guy friends of mine all the time... but that doesnt mean we are together. im sure there are a lot of guys, and girls, who dont just give up on a person just because they are standing with someone of the opposite sex. if it was me, id try to talk to them anyways. if i found out it was indeed his g/f, id back off.i know ive made assumptions about people "dating", when it turns out it wasnt like that,. and i could have had a chance at something, which i didnt take. i dont have that attitude anymore.
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| About clubs... no offense but you're not very smart if you take your significant other to a club. I mean think about it, clubs are such a "meat-market" atmosphere, everyone is there to have a little fun, and the assumption is that everyone's single -- or at least wouldn't mind some grinding with a stranger |
totally agree with you sothis, i'm looking forward to meeting you at tiesto, you always have something interesting to say.
i might even buy you a drink, but, i'm engaged so it will just mean i think your cool. 
oh yeah, and one more thing, smiling can work fine.
i went to a rave this weekend, and there was this person smiling at me from across the room. so, i walked over and said, "hi, how's it going" the person said "hey", and smiled real big, and looked into my eyes. I said, "i noticed you smiling at me, i had to come over and say hi. then the person said "well, i couldn't help smiling" I said "Why's that?" they said "Cause you are so cute"
then i said, "Sorry pal, i'm not gay, but i don't mind that you are!"
then i proceeded to flirt with him a little just for fun.
i'm such an asshole.
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| Originally posted by JohnSmith oh yeah, and one more thing, smiling can work fine. i went to a rave this weekend, and there was this person smiling at me from across the room. so, i walked over and said, "hi, how's it going" the person said "hey", and smiled real big, and looked into my eyes. I said, "i noticed you smiling at me, i had to come over and say hi. then the person said "well, i couldn't help smiling" I said "Why's that?" they said "Cause you are so cute" then i said, "Sorry pal, i'm not gay, but i don't mind that you are!" then i proceeded to flirt with him a little just for fun. i'm such an asshole. |
lol.. that's not disgusting man, it's harmless.
there are two kinds of flirting. one is flirting for fun. everyone does it, don't deny it, even when you see a pretty girl at checkout cashier you suck in your tummy a bit.
the second is flirting with intent. your intent is to get the other person.
as long as you stick to the first one, everything is fine..
damn, you think that was disgusting? you should have seen what i did to the guy in the bathroom! :P
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| i might even buy you a drink, but, i'm engaged so it will just mean i think your cool. |
While we are on the subject, i think there is some unfairness here.
the other day, i went to the bar with this chick, and my girlfriend, and some other people. we were all getting quite drunk. me and this chick go up to the bar, i tell her i will buy her a drink for her birthday, she is like, thanks!
so, in the line up, some guy comes up to her, and is like "hey can i buy you a drink?" she says sure. he didn't even know it was her birthday!
then we get to the bar, i buy me a drink, and her one too. then she says to the bartender, it's my birthday! he says "hey, here's another one on the house!"
so, i say "hey it's my birthday too!" he says, "sorry buddy, buzz off"
so, final score, 3 free drinks for her, and i got to pay for two myself.
WTF! i hate when women complain about inequality while still reaping the benefits of it everyday.
although, i realize that free drinks does not make up for years of oppression, there is a time to cut of the retibution and just make it an even playing field.
unfortunately, i don't that will ever happen.
It depends on the situation, sometimes the opposite can be annoying too. At the big clubs in the UK (Godskitchen, Gatecrasher etc...) you get a very friendly atmosphere, where people mingle & talk without the annoyance of "oi, that's my my girlfriend you're talking too".
At the end of a day you can't blame somebody for talking to a girl. It's up to her to say she's not interested. If she doesn't like being spoken to she shouldn't go out in the first place
Fair enough if she's made it clear she's not interested though, then it's time for them to fuck off
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