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sothis, you seem caught up trying to get everyone to conform to your point of view. IMHO the forum is a place to share ideas and feelings, not a place to convert others to your beliefs.

This may sound gay, but ocassionally I like to bestow some unexpected kindness on a stranger or a friend (like buying them a drink). It sometimes starts a domino effect, where that person is inspired by your actions to do someone else a favor or it puts them into a good mood. Its neat when you catch someone of guard and bring out a smile. Its kinda of funny but giving can sometimes be more fun than taking...

I think Sothis takes those views because like she said before, she doesn't get offered drinks very often. Now think about the type of women who get offered drinks ALL THE TIME at bars. If I was to go up to her and said "hey, can I buy you a drink?" HOW THE FUCK does that separate me from the dozens of other guys that offer her drinks? I feel that the whole "buying a drink" cliche does more harm for us guys than good. When you meet people, its all about the FIRST IMPRESSIONS you get. By using a cliche to meet a woman, I doubt her first impression of me would be as positive.

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Originally posted by ExcelonGT Now think about the type of women who get offered drinks ALL THE TIME at bars. If I was to go up to her and said "hey, can I buy you a drink?" HOW THE FUCK does that separate me from the dozens of other guys that offer her drinks? I feel that the whole "buying a drink" cliche does more harm for us guys than good. When you meet people, its all about the FIRST IMPRESSIONS you get. By using a cliche to meet a woman, I doubt her first impression of me would be as positive.

Exactly, that's just why I was saying not to do it too often, I love doing random acts of generosity, like IGottaKnow, that's cool. But not as an opener, or even mid-conversation, unless it's understood that it's just being nice an nothing else.

And the reason why "all the guys in here think that A) girls will think you want to fuck them if you buy them a drink" is because 90% of guys who buy girls drinks as an opener ARE just tying to get into their pants!!! that's why the cliche's so bad!

That's why you should be yourself, create interest in conversation, not your skill in saying words to a bartender and putting money on a counter. A monkey could do that, hell a monkey could pickup chicks like that!!! And the girl's would think we was trying to get with them!!!!

I'm not trying to change anyone's views, just trying to clarify what I meant.


Enough...

Everytime I try to get hooked up with a girl at a club, her boyfriend pops up, or her friend pulls her away. But when I don't try and just say hi and talk about how good the music is being played, I end up talking to her for the rest of the night, only to either lose her in the crowd or forget to get her number. LOL!!! It's a lose-lose situation for me.

a good proportion of the parties over here have free drinks for the ladies... so I end up asking my girl to go get me some drinks instead

as usual i'm late entering the topic!

mmm.. buying drinks for the ladies, sometimes (if i have the money, i'm not that rich! )..
getting free drinks, often! i get a lot of free drinks from friends of mine who are totally drunk and are giving drinks to everuone. and i get quite often drinks from friends (girls) who just like to buy me drinks!
and i even get more free drinks were i work (pub), free drinks all over the place! :

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Originally posted by DuMonde TrAnCeR of course not! *rubs hands evilly*

I like to think they want to be taken advantage of

I think most woman these days are just spoiled and annoying, and they explain every action you make in the wrong direction. They are not all like that, but it's a very pity to see it happen. Woman want men much older then themselves, so as guy you can start thinking of a relationship when you're 20, because then you'll have a chance that a girl who's 13 actually gonna like you. They take advantage of men, and it's a bad thing...why does it have to be so complicated? Even when a girl and a boy like eachother there's a whole shitload of 'rules' that could make the coming relationship end. I'm glad i always got the nice girls, but there aren't so much of them, so I hope there will be one among them wich i can have a relationsship with...

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Originally posted by Spad I like to think they want to be taken advantage of

thats a very good theory my friend!

all they wanted to do is lose their inhibitions, thats what ill tell the court!

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Originally posted by DjSuez Woman want men much older then themselves, so as guy you can start thinking of a relationship when you're 20, because then you'll have a chance that a girl who's 13 actually gonna like you.

It's true. I've been hitting on 13 yr old girls all my life but it was only when I turned 20 I started getting any action

Seriously though, any advice on women is bad coming from me since I'm in a state of constant perpetual singleness; but the secret is....there isn't one. Funnily enough girls are just people, some like older guys, some younger. Some like to be treated like shit, some like princesses. Just like us blokes

Instead of treating every girl you talk to like a potential shag, treat the conversation as a tester. It's not a test you have to pass by imressing her, girls don't get together and make a list of secret rules you have to try and figure out. Instead of trying to impress her you're just checking out whether or not you want to try take it any further. You do this by asking about her (and the golden rule is, there's nothing a person likes talking about more than themselves).

Now I gotta start following my own advice It's a bit like mixing...I know the theory in my head, I know exactly how it's done, it just all goes to pot when I try doing it.

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Originally posted by Spad It's true. I've been hitting on 13 yr old girls all my life but it was only when I turned 20 I started getting any action

i heard you can get a lot of action by crusing the Junior High parkin lot. ;p j/k
*pulls out a lolly pop*

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Now I gotta start following my own advice It's a bit like mixing...I know the theory in my head, I know exactly how it's done, it just all goes to pot when I try doing it.

true that. its like trying to pulling off a good joke you heard from a comedian. delivery is everything. if u aint got then dont do it.

I guess we can agree that the buy u drink thing is cliche. I suggest trying the line your shirt would look good crumpled up on my bedroom floor. this line is guaronteeeeeeeed to work. ;-)

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Originally posted by igottaknow I suggest trying the line your shirt would look good crumpled up on my bedroom floor. this line is guaronteeeeeeeed to work. ;-)

On 13 year olds

i'm a VERY odd girl... lets start at that..

i get very nervous when anyone buyz me stuff even my own rents.. i freak out.. and i start to worrry
i dont know why but i doo i feel guilty and small
nothing works for me to get out of this feeling..

so serioiusly if a guy bought me a drink.. i would not drink it unless i talked a HOLE lot and got realy thursty..

i know it would be rude.. but on my side.. i just couldn't doo it...

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i get very nervous when anyone buyz me stuff even my own rents.. i freak out.. and i start to worrry i dont know why but i doo i feel guilty and small nothing works for me to get out of this feeling..

I like you already!!

But it's of course not that there ARE actually rules, it sometimes seemes to be...

And like I said(well i didn't SAY it, i ment it... ), I've always had older women, and it workes the best, i don't even KNOW a girl my age, all are older. but it's true that there are girls who think of it a bit like fashion, to have an older boyfriend, or what i see quite often in my hometown, have a black boyfriend. that will happen a lot more often then girls want to date younger man. And the 'oooh, i'm mentally older than guys my age' thing is bullcrap, for as far I'm concerned...

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Originally posted by Julie_Spyder i'm a VERY odd girl... lets start at that.. i get very nervous when anyone buyz me stuff even my own rents.. i freak out.. and i start to worrry i dont know why but i doo i feel guilty and small nothing works for me to get out of this feeling.. so serioiusly if a guy bought me a drink.. i would not drink it unless i talked a HOLE lot and got realy thursty.. i know it would be rude.. but on my side.. i just couldn't doo it...

When you come to the UK I'm buying you a drink, and you better bloody well finish it

I promise not to put any GHB in (unless you ask really nicely).

I think It's very nice to buy a drink to a lady in a club, but be sure before that she is interested in you!

Who would like to buy me a drink? I would like a Baileys please!!!!

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Originally posted by trancegirl79 Who would like to buy me a drink? I would like a Baileys please!!!!

sure..how bout baileys mixed with banana liquor and bols blue (Bazooka Joe)???

(Pushes DJ El Kay Dee out of the way)

(looks at trancegirl)

You like fast bikes? Great....

lemme start you and your friends a tab.....

When you're all done, you let me know.

You ladies have a good night.

(walks off with a Rum in Coke)

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