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Posted by yankeeBaby on Sep-10-2011 03:19:

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Originally posted by Neonbeats
thank god my gf likes the same music as me and can hang with me. I'd go solo tho and then you eventually meet cool people to rage with. Solo can be fun though.

I feel the total opposite. Thank god he DOESNT like the music. Now I can choose my fun nights with him, or have a good reason to go sans Boyfriend and with my friends if I want to with out the ol ball and chain!

haha! (With all due respect of course, I love the guy!) <3 <3 <3

Posted by PaulCky411 on Sep-11-2011 13:37:

Not to say that I don't like partying with people/friends, but I just need to let it be known that I've had some of the greatest times of my life when I happened to be alone... Ibiza solo ftw!

Posted by AY STAR on Sep-11-2011 22:44:

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Originally posted by yankeeBaby
I feel the total opposite. Thank god he DOESNT like the music. Now I can choose my fun nights with him, or have a good reason to go sans Boyfriend and with my friends if I want to with out the ol ball and chain!

haha! (With all due respect of course, I love the guy!) <3 <3 <3

it's really good you found someone like that who you can relate to beyond musicial styles
but me personally i need to be with someone who is somewhat edm driven
i dont wanna be at a club with a girl who has no groove and just stands there lookin misserable

Posted by yankeeBaby on Sep-12-2011 00:26:

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Originally posted by AY STAR

i dont wanna be at a club with a girl who has no groove and just stands there lookin misserable

haha thats why I leave his ass home!! (or send him off with his own friends). I actually prefer it this way. We have tons of things we can do together and still have fun, but this gives us a chance to be with our friends and go solo sometimes. Its much healthier, IMO, to have your own life, separate interests, and not be with each other 24/7. Makes the times you are around each other that much more enjoyable

btw, he doesnt HATE the music per se, but he does hate clubs.....with a passion.

Posted by amberella06 on Sep-12-2011 00:34:

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Originally posted by AY STAR
but me personally i need to be with someone who is somewhat edm driven

I agree---I've been down the road of dating someone who wasn't into the music---it's such a big part of my life and my guy needs to understand that. Most guys (if not into the music/clubbing) would think I was going to a club for other reasons than to see a DJ play...and I'm sure they wouldn't understand why I travel to see them...

Posted by yankeeBaby on Sep-12-2011 03:28:

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Originally posted by amberella06
would think I was going to a club for other reasons than to see a DJ play...and I'm sure they wouldn't understand why I travel to see them...

Ok, sorry this thread is going in a totally different direction, but this I have to respond to. I completey respect your opinion, however, this part of your post is exactly the reason why I have the opposite thoughts on the subject.

Who gives a crap if a guy thinks you are "going for other reasons?" That just sounds like the guy has major issues, and really has nothing to do with actually enjoying the music together.

I am ALL FOR relationships that can enjoy each others hobbies, and I would never put down that you or AY Star would like compatible partners in that sense. That is totally awesome if you can find someone like that.

But, that being said, I happen to be very lucky in the fact that my "partner" not only is accepting of my choices/hobbies, but encourages me to enjoy them. I have gone all over the world (often by myself) and he has been nothing but encouraging, happy and trusthworthy. Aside from the sincere, lame jokes about me leaving him for Ferry (LOL right right!), not once has he been anything but supportive and positive. I wouldnt have it any other way I think that is a sign of a healthy relationship, and I would take a healthy relationship with a guy who doesnt love EDM over an unhealthy, untrustworthy relationship with a guy who loves EDM.

Maybe I am just reading too far into your post, but I think that the part I highlighted is the exact reason why music is important to me, but not THAT important in the grand scheme of things. Im able to enjoy the music just as much now as I did before I met him, and that is really, really important to me.

Posted by Disturbed10890 on Sep-12-2011 04:08:

I like doing both. Going out with friends is fun, but not when they want to leave early, start to not like the music, ect. If they want to leave, I will see them the next day. I like to do my own thing, and meet a bunch of people doing so. Usually know some people that are at the club anyway that I can rely on to be their till close. But going out with friends is also good too. Making memories can only happen for so long, and why not make the best out of the time you can spend with some people.

Posted by AY STAR on Sep-12-2011 12:50:

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Originally posted by amberella06
I agree---I've been down the road of dating someone who wasn't into the music---it's such a big part of my life and my guy needs to understand that. Most guys (if not into the music/clubbing) would think I was going to a club for other reasons than to see a DJ play...and I'm sure they wouldn't understand why I travel to see them...

i understand what you mean for sure, but the traveling some people do atleast once a month to see the same dj play in a different city is def a lil strange imo and if i was in a relationship i would find that a lil disrespectfull and suspect

Posted by PaulCky411 on Sep-12-2011 16:26:

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Originally posted by AY STAR
i understand what you mean for sure, but the traveling some people do atleast once a month to see the same dj play in a different city is def a lil strange imo and if i was in a relationship i would find that a lil disrespectfull and suspect

That's why you'd need to make the person understand so it doesn't come off as disrespectful... I don't think anyone besides us (legitimate EDM fans) understand what being a true fan of EDM / seeing DJs perform is really like... so if we happen to have a significant other that isn't into it like we are, we just have to ensure them that it's 100% fine if we're traveling to see a DJ / nothing out of the ordinary for us. If they're not okay with this, then obviously that person isn't worth keeping around for the long term.

Anyway, that's just my .02.

Posted by euphoria on Sep-12-2011 16:34:

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Originally posted by yankeeBaby
haha thats why I leave his ass home!! (or send him off with his own friends). I actually prefer it this way. We have tons of things we can do together and still have fun, but this gives us a chance to be with our friends and go solo sometimes. Its much healthier, IMO, to have your own life, separate interests, and not be with each other 24/7. Makes the times you are around each other that much more enjoyable

btw, he doesnt HATE the music per se, but he does hate clubs.....with a passion.

kinda the same... mine loves the music but feels that he can listen to the music anywhere and doesn't need to go to a club to enjoy it. He has had his fair share of party days but he is just done with it. He would much rather chill and home but he doesn't stop me from going out and enjoying myself. He doesn't give two shits about any dj's or who even wrote or produced the track for that matter. What matters to him is the track itself.

Posted by SebG on Sep-12-2011 16:45:

A lot of people (non edm) do not understand the concept of going to a club/festival/whatever for the music/DJ.

Majority of people think clubs = instant hook ups, debauchery, orgies....

Posted by PaulCky411 on Sep-12-2011 17:29:

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Originally posted by SebG
A lot of people (non edm) do not understand the concept of going to a club/festival/whatever for the music/DJ.

Majority of people think clubs = instant hook ups, debauchery, orgies....

Exactly...

Posted by Lufelia on Sep-12-2011 18:11:

My first "date" with the BF (Rich) was at an Armin show, so...

I've done the solo thing and it was very bad news. It's just not for me. I'm glad I have Rich around so I can be irresponsible and get annoyingly hammered with only a bad hangover to show for it the next day. I've lost 75% fewer phones and 100% fewer credit cards since being with him. I couldn't lose any more dignity, so no change there.

Posted by yankeeBaby on Sep-12-2011 19:35:

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Originally posted by euphoria
kinda the same... mine loves the music but feels that he can listen to the music anywhere and doesn't need to go to a club to enjoy it. He has had his fair share of party days but he is just done with it. He would much rather chill and home but he doesn't stop me from going out and enjoying myself. He doesn't give two shits about any dj's or who even wrote or produced the track for that matter. What matters to him is the track itself.

yeah my BF actually jams with me to the music. He has learned well! But I would have to pay him a large sum of money for him to get in a club, tru story.

quote:
Originally posted by PaulCky411
That's why you'd need to make the person understand so it doesn't come off as disrespectful... I don't think anyone besides us (legitimate EDM fans) understand what being a true fan of EDM / seeing DJs perform is really like... so if we happen to have a significant other that isn't into it like we are, we just have to ensure them that it's 100% fine if we're traveling to see a DJ / nothing out of the ordinary for us. If they're not okay with this, then obviously that person isn't worth keeping around for the long term.

Anyway, that's just my .02.

Thats all I'm saying. What ever happen to trust being an important part of the relationship. I would LOVE if my man told me not to go see Ferry, #fuckouttahea!!

Andrew: thats crazy talk bc you know I've been with my man for 9 years and you know I go on these trips and its not shady whatsoever. You gotta step your trust game up, babes....either that, or find yourself a woman worthy of your trust

Posted by SebG on Sep-12-2011 19:44:

Posted by acetate212 on Sep-12-2011 23:33:

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Originally posted by AY STAR
if you cant change the people around you...then CHANGE the people around you

back in the day like 98-01 i used to have some friends who i used to go out with but they were stricly house heads, once i started to explore more genre's i was pretty much going out by myself later on in 03 i started goin out with an old friend who liked trance so i was always with him but anytime he couldnt make it i was always solo or met up with people from ta
i met alot of great people over the years from nyta and wouldnt wanna party with anyone else

You've been going out for a while man, I started on the scene about the same time. did you go to twilo at all? 99-01, pretty unforgettable there..

Posted by acetate212 on Sep-12-2011 23:42:

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Originally posted by PaulCky411
Not to say that I don't like partying with people/friends, but I just need to let it be known that I've had some of the greatest times of my life when I happened to be alone... Ibiza solo ftw!

respect to you man..I do a lot of stuff on my own but I've never went to europe by myself. I spoke to mykonos boy on here who went to greece by himself too. I've always been in a group (study abroad, escorted tour), well a group of strangers with whom I naturally became life-long friends in the first few days in some bar haha. but I am planning to go back to ibiza soon and doing it solo..so I'm glad to see your post : )

I've also had some of the best times of my life alone..no one I know can get 10% of the euphoria I naturally get from my music, so it's not something I can share (or want to, hehe).

Posted by yankeeBaby on Sep-13-2011 00:13:

I went to Amsterdam/Rotterdam for Full on Ferry by myself and it was one of the best times I have ever had. I met so many amazing people and had an entire vacation to do whatever I wanted to do!

(Oh, and my boyfriend was totally fine with me going, no quesitons asked)

Posted by acetate212 on Sep-13-2011 00:28:

quote:
Originally posted by yankeeBaby
I went to Amsterdam/Rotterdam for Full on Ferry by myself and it was one of the best times I have ever had. I met so many amazing people and had an entire vacation to do whatever I wanted to do!

(Oh, and my boyfriend was totally fine with me going, no quesitons asked)

sounds like a trusting & understanding bf, not many guys would be like that. but then 9 yrs is a long time, trust should be a given by then lol. I personally would never last that long in a relationship-there are just too many other things that mean much more to me..one of the things that makes vacations so great is making new friends along the way like you did, experiencing things together with them in a foreign land. much better I think than just going with a friend of your own.

kudos to you though, it's risky stuff for a girl to travel on her own.

Posted by yankeeBaby on Sep-13-2011 06:00:

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Originally posted by acetate212
sounds like a trusting & understanding bf, not many guys would be like that. but then 9 yrs is a long time, trust should be a given by then lol. I personally would never last that long in a relationship-there are just too many other things that mean much more to me..one of the things that makes vacations so great is making new friends along the way like you did, experiencing things together with them in a foreign land. much better I think than just going with a friend of your own.

kudos to you though, it's risky stuff for a girl to travel on her own.

Thanks Personally, I dont miss out on anything being in a relationship, I still live my life the way I want it, and I have him as a supplement.

I am not here to judge how others run their own relationships, its just how I run MINE. Relaionships should add to your individual life, not hinder it And thanks, I have had a great time travelling solo, with my man, and with my man AND my friends. Those are the best

quote:
Originally posted by SebG
He can't fully trust Burak when he's out by himself.

I wouldnt trust him either. Tyas has been creepin on him lately.

Posted by AY STAR on Sep-13-2011 13:00:

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Originally posted by yankeeBaby

Andrew: thats crazy talk bc you know I've been with my man for 9 years and you know I go on these trips and its not shady whatsoever. You gotta step your trust game up, babes....either that, or find yourself a woman worthy of your trust

aye aye aye...iam not talkin about YOU!!!
iam talking about like the stalker/groupie people (sort of like the girls we know from up north)
who i would say book atleast one weekend a month that revolves around travling to see SAME dj ha ha
what you and other people do like travel here and there to see shows and go to festivals is cool
my friends ex girlfriend loved jay-z everytime he was in ny,nj,philly etc she would go and my friend didnt have a problem...now if the girl was to travel every weekend to see him at different cities is where i find it disrespectful to the relationship and very stalkerish ha ha

seb: go comb your hair

Posted by SebG on Sep-13-2011 13:48:

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Originally posted by AY STAR
aye aye aye...iam not talkin about YOU!!!
iam talking about like the stalker/groupie people (sort of like the girls we know from up north)
who i would say book atleast one weekend a month that revolves around travling to see SAME dj ha ha
what you and other people do like travel here and there to see shows and go to festivals is cool
my friends ex girlfriend loved jay-z everytime he was in ny,nj,philly etc she would go and my friend didnt have a problem...now if the girl was to travel every weekend to see him at different cities is where i find it disrespectful to the relationship and very stalkerish ha ha

seb: go comb your hair

hahahaha

i prefer this

Posted by yankeeBaby on Sep-14-2011 06:16:

Posted by vtec junkie on Sep-15-2011 05:54:

Although nothing is better than going out with friends and everybody is on the same page and you all have a blast, some of my most memorable nights out have been when I rolled out solo....... Oh wait "memorable" only because I stayed sober enough to get myself home. LOL. Going out solo was never an issue...... I remember one night I went to Bunker in BK for Gui Boratto and I didn't know a single person there....... It was a great night!!

Posted by chimera66 on Sep-15-2011 17:36:

solo is fun times especially if you are open to meeting people. what i loved about living in nyc is i could just go to a party and i'd run into a couple people i knew. there weren't any obligations to run on someone else's schedule.

as for fanaticism, most of us travel by car, train or plane to experience the music although only a select few take it to the next level...i say once you get a tattoo or convince yourself you are "friends" that's too far .

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