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Originally posted by Vector A Actually, I am hyper-conscious of my non-verbal communication. My problem is in figuring out what "vibes" another person is trying to send, not in projecting my own. At least, it seems that way. Maybe I am just self-absorbed.

Or maybe the problem isn't your interpretation, but that - again - people just aren't personally aware?

For example, I was talking to this dude the other night and he asked how old I was. I told him, and in return asked his age. He told me he was 34, but looked downwards and away from me when he said it - indicating to me that he was ashamed of how old he was. So I called him on it and he was all like "NUH UH I DON'T CARE ABOUT MY AGE!" But then I pointed out what his non-verbal communication said and he was like "Well ok, maybe a little."

I'm generally an optimist about people, but really so many people have no congruence between what they say and what they project...and they truly have no idea.

I dunno, when shit doesn't add up I just call people on it, lol. I'm not usually wrong.

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Originally posted by zyklon-jay you guys are really that oblivious to subtle sexual signals? maybe it is because I'm horny all of the time, but it isn't rocket science. do you guys just wait for "let's fuck"? seems to me that body language gives it away every time when a woman wants her pipes clean. don't paint "all blokes" with the same brush lira. if you have enough experience in social situations with the opposite sex, you can usually tell within a few seconds if they are attracted and interested by body language and how they listen or communicate.

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Originally posted by zyklon-jay you guys are really that oblivious to subtle sexual signals?

Yeah, pretty much. Women are inscrutable to me! Then again, maybe I have little practice reading those signals because they are not sent very often. I am not very attractive.

BUNCH OF SOCIAL LEPERS. FUCK ALL OF YOU.

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Originally posted by Lira That's precisely what I'm trying to avoid. I can now spot the hints myself, and I don't doubt for a second that you're probably better than me at it, but from my experience there's a bit of a difference between the genders with "body-illiterate" girls being way less common than "body-illiterate" guys (in the sense that they can't read body language).

it isn't a skill, just pay attention. I look like a paki, chicks just dig me because I'm tall

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Originally posted by Miss Pie BUNCH OF SOCIAL LEPERS. FUCK ALL OF YOU.

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Originally posted by Miss Pie BUNCH OF SOCIAL LEPERS. FUCK ALL OF YOU.

You're this astoundingly clairvoyant sexual psychic! The cross between Dr. Ruth and John Edward. I'm sensing a consonant with an eee sound, like P, D, C, or V.

Laboratory reasoning. People are an amalgam of different faces that they project to different people in different circumstances. You cannot empathize with mere verbal cues (which can obviously be telling, don't get me wrong) and then surmise such a powerful emotion of self-esteem; that's incongruent.

So-called "sexual intelligence" is a powerful tool of confirmation bias; You expect confirmation, and this runs laterally with the correlation between confidence and sexual promiscuity/prowess.

Did you read a psychology book?

What the fuck, where in any of my posts did I indicate it was a special skill or had anything to do with psychic intuition? It's all stuff that is right in front of your fucking face, that ANY moron can and should be able to pick up on. All you need is your five fucking senses for fuck's sake.

YOU SAID IT RIGHT FUCKING HERE:

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Originally posted by Miss Pie Tuning into people isn't some special trick.

SEE HOW YOU USED THE WORDS "SPECIAL TRICK". FUCK, PAY ATTENTION!

You're an idiot Hal. Really.

My general misogyny leads me to disbelieve any claims of intuition from women. Most often, I am correct as fuck, but only because I want to see it as such.

By the way I had sex 14 hours ago. I came twice - the second time was on her bumpy nipples. Ka-pow.

I have to agree with Jenny and Jay here. It isn't very difficult to pick up on the cues if you know what to look for... micro expressions, body language (angle, positioning, phisiological reactions), behaviours (preening, mimicry, etc), intonation, etc. Granted, I'm a trained investigator but really just being observant of others during interactions rather than being a conversational narcissist and you should be able to pick this shit up with ease.


Jenny, Jay... we should make-out










call me

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Originally posted by Miss Pie You're an idiot Hal. Really.

Oh dread! My greatest secret has been revealed by the intuitive acuity of Miss Pie! She must be right because she feels it!

I like that, in your small mind, you assumed that because I was talking about sexual vibes I must have been talking about vibes put out (or not) by members of the opposite sex - when in fact, the people i have suspected of being asexual are mostly women.

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Originally posted by Halcyon+On+On Oh dread! My greatest secret has been revealed by the intuitive acuity of Miss Pie! She must be right because she feels it!

Please, highlight the parts of my posts that indicate I was talking about intuition. Because I used the words "pick up on"?

Stupid.

Did you assume I assumed that by the body language I am putting off right now? Be honest.

No, I assumed it because you're stupid.

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Originally posted by Miss Pie I like that, in your small mind, you assumed that because I was talking about sexual vibes I must have been talking about vibes put out (or not) by members of the opposite sex - when in fact, the people i have suspected of being asexual are mostly women.

I wasn't aware you knew Mrs. Hazard.








a joke btw... Hi honey!

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Originally posted by zyklon-jay it isn't a skill, just pay attention. I look like a paki, chicks just dig me because I'm tall

But paying attention is a skill you have to develop!

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Originally posted by Moral Hazard I have to agree with Jenny and Jay here. It isn't very difficult to pick up on the cues if you know what to look for...

This is precisely what I'm trying to say: You need to know what to look for... if you don't, and I defend that men more often than women do not in fact know what to look for, then you're illiterate and miss most hints.

It's no coincidence that Brian says he's like that and that I'm claiming I used to be the same way. Women are more social, to my knowledge, so they pick these things up faster... but that doesn't mean guys are all self-absorbed egotists that live like hermits in isolation from the outer world.

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Originally posted by Miss Pie I'm generally an optimist about people, but really so many people have no congruence between what they say and what they project...and they truly have no idea.

Funny timing of this thread though, cause my hairdresser and I just had this conversation about a mutual friend when I was getting my hurrr done last week, lol. She was like "Do you think that Xxxxx is a lesbian??" and I had actually always thought she was just really asexual. I mean, this girl has been in relationships and fucked people, but it seems like she did it just cause that's what people are supposed to do, not because she was actually into it. Lulz.

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Originally posted by Lira

We watched Four Rooms last night. I would have sex with Tim Roth.

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Originally posted by Miss Pie We watched Four Rooms last night. I would have sex with Tim Roth.

Is it the accent? I heard a Saffa twist makes it even more sexy!

Hm mebbe.

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Originally posted by zyklon-jay I had sex last night, which is weird because we usually are asexual on Monday's.

On Monday's what? Washing machine?

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